Love Life With Matthew Hussey

What do people who are naturally good at flirting do differently?

It’s easy to assume they’re more confident, more attractive, or simply better at knowing what to say. But after nearly 20 years of studying attraction and watching hundreds of first dates, I’ve noticed something else going on.

In this week’s episode, I break down three great flirting scenes from movies that look completely different on the surface but all have one surprising thing in common.

And it’s something most flirting advice completely misses.

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What if the reason your heartbreak isn’t getting better isn’t because you haven’t tried hard enough to move on, but because there’s a part of it you still haven’t allowed yourself to feel?

I recently sat down with David Kessler, one of the world’s leading experts on grief, and something he said stopped me in my tracks: “You don’t have a broken mind. You have a broken heart.”

We spend so much time trying to think our way out of heartbreak. We compare our pain to other people’s. We...

Have you ever noticed that the moment someone starts pulling away, you suddenly want them more?

Maybe they’re taking longer to reply. Their texts are getting shorter. Or they haven’t made plans to see you again. Nothing has actually happened, but you can feel that something has changed.

And suddenly, someone you were still figuring out becomes the person you can’t stop thinking about.

Before you know it, the question has changed from “Do I actually want this person?” to “How do I get them to want me again?”<...

Have you ever realized that you’re the one keeping a relationship alive?

You’re the one who reaches out. The one who checks in. The one who remembers, helps, gives, and shows up. And after a while, instead of feeling generous, you start feeling resentful.

We often think the answer is to get the other person to give more. But what happens when they don’t?

In this episode, I talk about why sometimes the only way to stop the resentment is to start giving less—and why doing that can...

There are small things we do in the early stages of dating that can have a surprisingly big impact on how someone sees us, and on the kind of relationship we end up creating with them.

Sometimes we’re so focused on whether someone likes us that we don’t stop to think about the tone we’re setting. Are we showing them what we value? Are we making it too easy for the relationship to exist entirely on their terms? Are we communicating what we want without even realizing it?

In this episod...

Why can someone who treated you terribly still be so hard to get over?

You know they lied. You remember the manipulation, the gaslighting, and all the ways they made you question yourself. And yet, even after you leave, you can still find yourself replaying what happened, searching for answers, or wondering whether somehow you were the problem.

That’s because getting a narcissist out of your life and getting free from their effects are two very different things.

In this week’s episode, I break down three of the bigges...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with a guy thinking, “Wait... what did he actually mean by that?”

Maybe he says he “isn’t ready for a relationship right now” but continues acting like your boyfriend. Or he tells you he “doesn’t want to hurt you” while still pursuing you. Suddenly, you’re analyzing every word, wondering whether you should give him a chance or take what he’s saying as a warning.

In this episode, I’m breaking down 9 of the most confusing things men say in dating, based on real examples you se...

Have you ever wondered why you can feel so much chemistry with someone who's inconsistent, unavailable, or clearly wrong for you... yet struggle to feel the same spark with someone who actually treats you well?

You may genuinely want a healthy, stable relationship. But when you've become accustomed to the emotional highs and lows of unpredictable relationships, healthy attention can feel strangely unfamiliar—and sometimes even boring.

So does that mean you have to choose between chemistry and a healthy relationship? Absolutely not.

In this episode, I'll show you three ways...

Two years ago, I met Ann at one of my Retreats. She stood up in tears and told me something I’ll never forget:

“I feel like I’m not worthy.”

Life had given her plenty of reasons to believe it. She had spent years feeling unseen, making herself smaller, and slowly losing touch with the person she used to be.

Two years later, I sat down with Ann again to find out what happened next.

And even knowing parts of her story, I wasn’t prepared for everyt...

Sex can bring up some of the biggest questions in dating: When is the right time to sleep with someone? Should you talk about what it means beforehand? And what if you have sex and they suddenly pull away?

If you've ever worried that sleeping with someone too soon could make them lose interest—or felt like having sex somehow meant giving away your power—this episode is for you.

I'm answering some of the questions people come to me with in full SOS mode, including:

It starts off feeling like the relationship you've been waiting for.

The connection is instant. They can't get enough of you. Every text makes you smile. They talk about the future, make you feel chosen, and leave you wondering how you got so lucky.

Then everything changes.

The messages slow down. The excitement disappears. You're left replaying every conversation, trying to figure out what happened and whether any of it was real.

The hardest part? Love bombing doesn't always look like manipulation. Sometimes it looks exactly like...

After so many requests, Audrey's finally back!

In this week's episode, she's answering some of your biggest relationship questions. We talk about rebuilding trust after heartbreak, jealousy over a partner's past, feeling "behind" in dating, keeping a marriage strong, and what really makes someone attractive.

Whether you're single, dating, or married, I think there's something in this conversation that will stay with you.

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"Where can I actually meet someone?"

It's one of the most common dating questions, and one that's become even more frustrating in the age of dating apps and endless swiping.

In this episode, we explore why so many people feel stuck meeting the same kinds of people, whether there's really a "best place" to meet someone great, and the simple shifts that can dramatically increase your chances of finding a meaningful relationship.

If you're tired of wondering where all the good men are, or feel like you've exhausted every dating...

Love bombing can feel exactly like the beginning of the relationship you've always wanted.

The chemistry is instant. They want to see you all the time. They talk about the future, make you feel special, and everything seems to move at lightning speed. Then, just as quickly, something changes. The messages become less frequent, they start pulling away, and you're left wondering whether any of it was real.

In this episode, Matthew breaks down three simple ways to tell the difference between genuine interest and love bombing. He explains why intensity isn't the...

Some people stay with us long after they're gone.

Not because they were the right person, but because we remember how they made us feel.

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who can't seem to let go of someone she met two years ago. Their chemistry felt effortless. Their connection felt rare. Yet the relationship never became what she hoped it would.

Together, they explore why certain people become impossible to forget, how nostalgia can distort the story we tell ourselves, and why chemistry alone is...

I still remember the worst heartbreak of my life.

I remember thinking I'd never feel okay again. I remember searching for answers. And I remember realizing that knowing what to do isn't the same as actually living through it.

Over time, I discovered a handful of things that genuinely changed the way I healed. Not because they made the pain disappear overnight, but because they helped me stop making an already painful experience even harder.

In this week's episode, I share the five things that got me through one of...

There's a particular kind of heartbreak that comes from seeing your ex move on before you have.

It can leave you wondering what they saw in someone else that they didn't see in you, or whether they were always meant to end up with someone else in the first place.

In this episode, Matthew answers a question from a live audience member who is trying to let go after the end of a five-year relationship. They talk about why it's so hard to move on when someone else seems to have done it...

Heartbreak has a way of changing everything. It can make the world feel unfamiliar, leave you questioning yourself, and convince you that no one could possibly understand the weight you're carrying.

In this special episode, I wanted to do something different. I'm reading an essay I wrote over the last ten days about heartbreak, what it really feels like, why it can be one of the most devastating experiences of our lives, and the hope that still exists even when you can't see it.

If you're in the middle of heartbreak right now...

Heartbreak has a way of convincing us that what we're feeling is unlike anything anyone else has ever experienced.

But not all heartbreak is the same.

The pain of losing someone you never really got to have isn't the same as the pain of losing a long-term relationship. And neither of those feels like the heartbreak of someone walking away without warning.

The truth is, different kinds of heartbreak keep us stuck for different reasons.

That's why, in this week's episode, I talk about the four kinds...

Worried that sleeping with someone will change the way they feel about you?

In this episode, I tackle one of the biggest sources of anxiety in dating: when to have sex, how to bring up the conversation beforehand, and what to do if you're afraid of being rejected or ghosted afterward.

I also share a simple script you can adapt to make that conversation feel more natural, along with the mindset that will help you stop feeling like your happiness depends on someone else's response.

My hope is that, by...

If you've ever felt like you're running out of time to find love, you're not alone.

It's easy to look around and feel like everyone else is moving forward while you're standing still. That pressure can make us settle for relationships that feel like progress, even when they're taking us further away from the love we actually want.

In this episode, Matthew shares seven mindset shifts to help you let go of the fear, comparison, and uncertainty that can come with being single. He explores why there is no universal timeline for love...

Have you ever convinced yourself that one dating mistake cost you someone who could have been really special?

Maybe you replayed the texts. The conversation. The moment you wish you could take back. And because genuine connection can feel so rare, you started believing you'd ruined your chance.

It's a painful place to be, but it's also where our minds tend to tell us stories that simply aren't true.

In this week's episode, I talk about why we obsess over early dating mistakes, how a scarcity mindset can make us...

One of the hardest things about people-pleasing is the fear of what might happen if you stop.

What if someone gets upset? What if they pull away? What if the relationship changes?

In this episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen explore why so many of us struggle to set boundaries, speak honestly about our needs, and tolerate conflict in our relationships. They discuss how people-pleasing often begins as a way of feeling safe, loved, and accepted, and why it can become such a difficult pattern to break.

The conversation explores the...

More and more people are saying the same thing: they're tired of the apps and want to meet someone in real life. The problem is that after years of outsourcing the earliest stages of dating to our phones, many of us have lost our flirting muscle.

We're worried about looking awkward. We overthink what to say. We wait for the perfect moment that never comes. And we've become so focused on avoiding rejection that we often miss opportunities right in front of us. That's why, in this week's episode, I share 5 principles that can make flirting...

One of the biggest misconceptions about family estrangement is that people do it lightly. They don't. And for many, the reality is far more painful…

The truth is, most people don't create distance because they stopped caring. They do it after years, sometimes decades or even an entire lifetime, of trying to make the relationship work.

The tragedy of estrangement is that it's often not a choice between connection and distance. It's a choice between preserving a relationship and preserving yourself.

In this episode, I talk about why the growing ba...

For years, when I signed copies of Get the Guy, I would write the same message: Never settle.

I still believe we should never settle for bad behavior, mistreatment, or a relationship that doesn't make us happy. But over time, I've come to see the idea of "settling" a little differently.

These days, we're surrounded by endless options. And while that sounds like a good thing, it can make us constantly wonder if there's someone better just around the corner. As a result, we end up overlooking genuinely great people because they don't me...

Most people spend years trying to change their lives by making dramatic, big moves. Yet even after those big moves, they find themselves facing the same frustrations, the same fears, and the same emotional patterns they thought they had left behind.

Why does this happen?

Well, there's something we all do that quietly keeps us trapped in the same experience of life, even when everything around us changes.

Over the last 18 years of coaching, I've become skeptical of any advice that promises instant transformation. Real change is rarely dramatic and overnight...

Red flags get all the attention in dating—but what about the warning signs that aren't dealbreakers?

In this episode, Matthew and Stephen break down the difference between red flags and "amber lights" (or yellow flags), and why knowing the difference can save you from making a costly mistake.

Some warning signs reveal a serious compatibility issue that shouldn't be ignored. Others may point to challenges that, when handled well, can actually strengthen a relationship.

Join Matthew and Stephen as they put common dating scenarios to the test and explore how to...

Have you ever wondered if you ended a relationship too soon?

In this week’s episode, I share the story of a woman who found herself trapped in a cycle that many of us know all too well. After a breakup, she couldn't shake the feeling that she might be walking away from something good. So when the door cracked open again, she stepped right back through it.

What happened next revealed a pattern I’ve seen repeatedly over two decades of coaching: a subtle dynamic that keeps people stuck in relationships long afte...

Sometimes attraction fades not because there wasn’t chemistry… but because we accidentally kill the tension too early.

In this episode, Matthew shares 3 common mistakes that can quietly hurt desire in dating and relationships—and how to avoid them before a connection fizzles out.

These are subtle patterns that are easy to miss in the moment, but once you see them, you’ll start spotting them everywhere.

If you’ve ever wondered why someone seemed interested at first and then slowly pulled away, this episode will help you understand what may have c...

Modern dating leads to burnout for a lot of people, especially those who use the apps. In my brand new video, I break down why so many people feel burnt out, disillusioned, and emotionally drained by today’s dating culture. From endless swiping to getting ghosted to dating defensively out of fear of rejection, it's tough out there. And unfortunately, many people are no longer dating to find connection, but simply trying to avoid getting hurt.

I explore why burnout has become so common, how heartbreak quietly follows people back into the dating pool, and the sub...

In this episode, Matthew and Stephen Hussey break down the real reasons this happens in dating and relationships—from emotional unavailability and low self-worth to the ways we may unintentionally push someone away ourselves.

They talk about:

If you’ve ever felt confused, rejected, or anxious when someone...

What if one tiny dating decision was secretly shaping how people see your value? 

In this week’s episode, I dive into one of the internet’s most heated modern dating debates: the coffee date. It's one that’s sparked arguments across TikTok, Reddit, and dating culture at large.

Some people say this common first-date move is practical and refreshing. Others claim it signals low standards, low effort, or even low self-worth. So…who’s right?

I unpack the surprising psychology behind why this topic triggers such strong reactions, how dating apps...

In this episode, we explore one of the biggest questions we face in love: is finding a meaningful relationship about meeting the right person… or about becoming truly ready for one?

I talk about why so many of us unknowingly sabotage relationships while searching for perfection, chasing instant chemistry, or simply trying to avoid loneliness. I share the subtle signs that someone is emotionally ready for commitment, the difference between real connection and projection, and why modern “fast-food dating” culture can leave us feeling more disconnected than ever.

We also dive into:

Have you ever stared at a text message for 20 minutes trying to decode it and then another 20 minutes trying to figure out how to respond to it? In this week’s episode, I dive into the obsession and overthinking that can happen in dating, when every text, silence, and tiny interaction suddenly feels loaded with meaning. (And yes, I act out the entire internal meltdown we’ve all had while trying to craft the “perfect” reply.)

More importantly, I share a powerful framework I teach to my coaching clients called the “CALM Method,” designed to help you stop spi...

What do you do when someone breaks your trust—but you still like them?

In this episode, Matthew and Audrey talk about how to handle trust issues in dating, including what to do when someone lies, cheats, or makes you feel unsafe in a relationship.

They explore whether “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true, how to rebuild trust after betrayal, and how to know if someone is right for you after they’ve hurt you.

If you’re struggling with trust, mixed signals, or deciding whether to stay or walk aw...

In a world of endless dating options, it’s never been harder to know if you’re choosing the right person.

If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking signals, questioning compatibility, or wondering whether early dating challenges are a red flag or normal speed bumps, then this episode is for you.

Instead of focusing on surface-level traits, we explore the deeper patterns that actually determine whether a relationship has real potential. These are the kinds of things you can feel but can’t always put into words.

In the early dating s...

Most of us have done this…

We start to question whether someone is actually right for us—but the chemistry is there, it feels good, and we push those doubts to the side.

In this Rewind episode, Matthew and his brother Stephen share four questions you can come back to when you’re trying to figure out if someone is truly a good fit.

If you’ve ever had that feeling of “I’m not sure about this”… but kept going anyway, this will help you slow down and think a little more cl...

A viewer recently asked me: Is there a way to spot an avoidant before you fall in love with them?

The truth is, early avoidant behavior can quietly trigger a sense of unworthiness, making us feel like we have to win someone over. Sometimes, what feels like “falling” for someone isn’t about how right they are for us, but how uncertain we’ve started to feel around them.

In this episode, I break down how to recognize avoidant patterns before you get too invested and why it’s not always as simple as...

What if your looks aren’t the real reason you’re struggling in dating?

In this episode, we unpack the belief that you’re “not attractive enough” and how that thought turns into a cycle of anxiety that keeps shifting from one insecurity to the next. We talk about why fixing your appearance won’t create lasting confidence, how to stop chasing validation, and what actually matters when it comes to finding love.

If you’ve ever felt overlooked or like you don’t get the same attention as others, this episode will help you rethink...