Creating Her Best Life

Sometimes overwhelm shows up in a life filled with things you actually want. People you love, opportunities you've worked for, goals you're excited about… and somehow, it all starts to feel like too much at once.

You can spend an entire day getting things done and still feel behind. Your mind is already three tasks ahead, and even the moments you want to enjoy become filled with thoughts about everything you still need to do.

In today's episode of Creating Her Best Life, we're talking about how to move through overwhelm without adding more pressure to...

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'll be happy when…"?

When life settles down. When someone treats you differently. When you lose the weight. When you finally reach that goal, meet that person, or have the thing you've been wanting.

But here's the tricky part: there's always another when.

In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when we keep putting our happiness somewhere in the future or in someone else's hands. And more importantly, how to start taking an active role in creating a life you actually enjoy.

Because being in...

Have you ever wanted to do something, say something, or ask for something—and before you even took the first step, you were already imagining how someone might respond?

Maybe they'll say no. Maybe they'll disagree. Maybe they won't choose you.

And before anything has even happened, you've already decided what their response will mean about you.

In this episode, we're talking about projection and the stories we create around other people's reactions. Because sometimes what keeps us stuck isn't actually rejection—it's what we're afraid rejection will confirm.

"They said no"...

What if quitting doesn't happen all at once?

When we think about quitting, we usually think about the big moments: leaving the job, ending the relationship, giving up on the goal, walking away from the thing we said we wanted.

But most quitting happens long before that.

It happens quietly, in the tiny moments when you stop doing the things that were helping you. You stop keeping promises to yourself. You tell yourself you'll do it tomorrow or next week. You stop showing up the same way. You stop believing something is possible...

Something happened last week that made me angry. And not the kind of angry that disappears after a few minutes. It stuck with me for days.

My instinct was to do what I think a lot of us do: get myself back to "fine" as quickly as possible.

It's fine. I'm fine. It'll be okay. Everything happens for a reason. Just let it go.

But what if you're not fine yet?

What if you're mad? Disappointed? Hurt? Frustrated? What if you know everything will eventually be okay, but right now… it is...

Sometimes we really do need more information, time, or perspective. But other times, "I don't know" becomes a place to hide when the answer we already have feels uncomfortable.

Because knowing what you want doesn't mean acting on it will be easy.

It might mean having a conversation you've been avoiding. Setting a boundary someone won't like. Making a change without knowing exactly how it will turn out. Or finally admitting that something you've been tolerating isn't working anymore.

And that's where it gets easy to confuse uncertainty with fear.

In...

What if you don't need more motivation, confidence, or courage before you begin?

Sometimes the thing keeping you stuck isn't that you don't know what to do. It's that you're waiting to feel different before you do it.

But you don't think your way into a different life. You move your way there.

And movement doesn't have to mean some massive leap. Most participation in your life is ordinary. Ten minutes. One phone call. One walk. One conversation. One decision.

Most of it won't look impressive. No one may even notice.<...

What if you stopped trying to make everyone understand you?

For the people-pleasers and over-explainers, being misunderstood can feel unbearable. We want to clarify, defend, explain our intentions, and make sure everyone knows why we made the decision we made.

But there's a difference between communicating and trying to control someone's opinion of you.

You can tell someone your truth. You cannot make them believe it. You can explain your decision. You cannot make them agree with it.

In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when you stop handing other...

What if some of the things you believe about yourself aren't actually facts?

They're just stories you've repeated so many times that they started to feel like the truth.

I've never been good with money. I always quit. I'm just not a confident person. I can't stick with anything. I'm too old to start over. I always choose the wrong people. I'm not good at relationships. I just don't have enough discipline. People always leave. This is just who I am.

The problem is, your brain doesn't just tell the story. It starts...

Transformation rarely happens in one big, life-changing moment.

It happens on an ordinary Tuesday.

It happens when you take the walk instead of choosing the couch. When you speak kindly to yourself after making a mistake. When you have the difficult conversation, go to bed on time, drink the water, set the boundary, or simply keep a promise you made to yourself.

None of those moments feel extraordinary—but together, they build an extraordinary life.

In this episode, I talk about what actually creates lasting transformation and why becoming the next ver...

There's a strange part of growth we don't talk about enough.

We talk a lot about becoming the next version of ourselves. About building confidence, changing habits, thinking differently, making better choices, and creating a life that feels more aligned with who we want to be.

But becoming her doesn't only mean gaining something.

Sometimes, it means letting something go.

In this episode, I share a simple moment from Pilates that reminded her how easily an old story can become a rule we live by. I had almost convinced myself not...

Have you ever caught yourself saying yes... when every part of you wanted to say no?

People-pleasing isn't always obvious. It doesn't just look like overcommitting or constantly saying yes. Sometimes it looks like staying quiet when you have something to say because you're afraid of being judged. Sometimes it looks like avoiding conflict, apologizing for things that were never your fault, or making yourself smaller just to keep everyone else comfortable.

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that keeping everyone else happy kept us safe. Maybe it kept the peace in your...

What if the way you've been reacting isn't who you are... it's simply what your nervous system has learned to do?

In this episode, I'm talking about the difference between your identity and your survival responses. Feeling anxious doesn't mean you're an anxious person. Feeling overwhelmed doesn't mean you're weak. So often, we mistake temporary nervous system states for permanent personality traits, and that belief quietly shapes the way we see ourselves.

You'll learn why your brain's primary job is to keep you safe, how your nervous system can confuse emotional discomfort with actual danger...

So many women believe confidence is something you're supposed to have before you take the leap.

Before you start the business.
Before you speak up.
Before you apply.
Before you set the boundary.
Before you change your life.

But that's not how confidence works.

In this episode, I'm talking about why confidence is never the starting point—it's the result of repeated action. It's built through evidence, through keeping promises to yourself, and through choosing courage long before you feel ready.

We'll unpack why waiting to "feel re...

The life you're living isn't shaped only by what has happened to you. It's shaped by the story you've been telling yourself about what happened.

Somewhere along the way, many of us turned difficult moments into lifelong identities.

I'm not confident.
I always quit.
I'm too old.
I'm terrible at relationships.
I never finish what I start.

The problem isn't just the thought, it's what happens when it becomes the lens through which you see yourself. Because every time you begin a sentence with "I am," your brain starts l...

So many women want different results, yet keep holding onto the same identity that's been shaping their choices for years.

If you've ever described yourself as a people pleaser, anxious, not confident, terrible with money, too busy, or simply "that's just who I am," this episode is for you.

The truth is, those labels aren't facts. They're stories you've repeated long enough to believe. Somewhere along the way, life taught you who you thought you had to become in order to survive—but survival was never meant to be your permanent identity.

In th...

Episode 319 | The Gift Hidden in the Waiting

What if the season you're trying so desperately to rush through is the very one changing you the most?

It's easy to look around and believe you should be farther along by now. Whether it's your health, your relationships, your finances, your confidence, your business, or your personal growth, it's tempting to believe that not being where you want to be means you've somehow failed.

But what if you're exactly where growth happens?

In this episode, Shannan shares why acceptance isn't giving up or...

Every time you say yes to something, you're also saying no to something else.

Yes to overworking may be saying no to rest. Yes to scrolling may be saying no to movement, connection, or growth. Yes to everyone else's needs may be saying no to your own.

This episode isn't about guilt. It's about awareness.

Because so many of us move through life on autopilot, saying yes to habits, obligations, and expectations without ever asking what they're costing us.

You're not just a wife, mother, employee, or caregiver. You're a person...

How many things in your life are sitting on a shelf waiting for the "right time"?

The nice dishes. The fancy lotion. The outfit you love. The bottle you've been saving. The trip you've been talking about. The photos you keep meaning to take. The fun you've been postponing.

The truth is, most women aren't just saving the nice things.

They're saving their lives.

They're waiting for things to calm down. Waiting until they lose the weight. Waiting until they have more money, more confidence, more time, more certainty.

Waitin...

Everyone talks about the excitement of growth.

The confidence.
The breakthroughs.
The next level.

But almost no one talks about the grief.

Because every new version of you requires an old version of you to be released.

And even when that version of you no longer serves you, she was still familiar.

Maybe she was the people-pleaser.
The over-giver.
The woman who always put everyone else first.
The one who stayed small, stayed safe, avoided conflict, or kept the peace at all costs.

Hot girl summer isn't about becoming a different person. It's about finally letting yourself fully live your life again.

In this episode, I talk about what happens when life becomes all responsibility, all productivity, all survival mode… and fun becomes something you keep pushing to "later." After the work is done. After the house is clean. After you finally feel good enough.

But life is happening right now.

We're redefining what "hot girl summer" actually means — not a body, not an aesthetic, but a woman who is fully participating in her own life agai...

There are moments where life genuinely feels overwhelming… and then there are moments where "overwhelm" is actually avoidance wearing a very responsible outfit.

In this episode, we're talking about the difference.

Because avoidance doesn't always look obvious. Sometimes it looks like overplanning, overthinking, researching for hours, cleaning the house, reorganizing your life, or staying "busy" while quietly avoiding the thing that actually needs your attention.

Not because you're lazy.
Not because you don't care.
But because your brain and nervous system are wired to keep you familiar, even when familiar is ke...

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned how to stay connected to everyone else while disconnecting from ourselves.

You become who everyone else needs you to be.
You say yes when you mean no.
You stay quiet to avoid conflict.
You overgive hoping people will finally see your value.

And little by little, you stop recognizing yourself.

The hard part is that this kind of self-abandonment is often praised. People call you dependable, selfless, strong, easygoing… while internally you feel exhausted, emotionally overwhelmed, disconnected, and unseen.

In th...

There comes a point where you realize you're technically living… but not really experiencing your life.

You wake up, go through the motions, take care of everyone else, cross things off the list, and before you know it another week, month, or year has passed. Not because you weren't alive… but because somewhere along the way, you stopped fully living.

In this episode, Coach Jenn talks about what it looks like to reconnect with yourself again. Not by creating an entirely new life, but by paying attention to the things that already bring you joy, peac...

So many of us say we want support, connection, ease, deeper relationships, more peace… but then unknowingly push away the very things that could help us experience them.

In this episode, Coach Jenn talks about the ways we block what we desire most, especially when it comes to accepting help. Because somewhere along the way, many of us learned that needing support meant we were weak, incapable, or failing. So we lead with pride. We over-function. We carry everything ourselves. And we quietly exhaust ourselves trying to prove we can.

But the truth is… accepting help...

In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on that sneaky little phrase: "I don't know." Because most of the time? You actually do know. You know what you want, you know what the next step is, but taking it would require you to feel something uncomfortable. Fear. Uncertainty. Rejection. Growth.

So instead… your brain offers you confusion.
Indecision. Overthinking.
A nice, cozy mental fog where nothing has to change.

Here's the truth: confusion isn't the problem, it's the cover.

When you stay in "I don't know," you stay in inaction. An...

Ever catch yourself saying, "Why do I keep doing this?" Same reaction. Same habits. Same emotional loops. Different day, different outfit.

Here's the truth: the pattern itself isn't the problem. Staying in it is. Repeating it unconsciously is. Letting it run your life on autopilot like a sketchy GPS with no destination is the real issue.

In this episode, we talk about how patterns are simply practiced behaviors, not permanent personality traits. They're learned, repeated, reinforced… and they can absolutely be changed.

We dive into the power of the pause. Because awareness alone wo...

You're not stuck because you don't know what to do.

You're stuck because you're waiting to feel ready to do it.

And that's the trap.

Because identity? It's not built in the moment you finally "figure it out."
It's built in the moment you take action—while you're still unsure, still overthinking, still not fully confident.

In this episode, we're cutting through the mental spiral.
The "maybe I need more time,"
the "I should probably think about this more,"
the "I'm just not there yet."

No...

There's a version of your life you keep telling yourself you'll step into…
when things calm down,
when you feel more ready,
when you finally have it all figured out.

But this episode is your reminder—there isn't a later version waiting for you.

This is it.

If you've been feeling in-between lately—like you've outgrown parts of your life but aren't fully clear on what's next—you're not doing it wrong. You're in the middle of becoming. And that space? It's uncomfortable for a reason. It's stretching you.

We ta...

Coach Jenn is back this week to talk about that sneaky kind of overwhelm that convinces you you're "busy"… but somehow your to-do list just keeps getting longer. You know the one, where you're waiting to feel motivated, but motivation never shows up, and now even the smallest task feels like climbing Everest in flip flops.

Because here's the truth no one really wants to say out loud:
you're probably not going to feel like it.

Not when it's the dishes.
Not when it's the errand.
Not when it's the phone call yo...

Coach Jenn is taking over the mic this week, and she's coming for that quiet habit of comparing your life to every version of "better" you've ever imagined.

If you've been living in your head thinking things used to be better… or will be better someday… this one's going to hit. Because while you're busy wishing for a different season, you're missing the one you're actually in.

Jenn walks through how comparison subtly convinces you that who you are right now isn't enough, and how glamorizing the past (or chasing the future) keeps you disconnected from...

You ever have that moment where you look at your life and think… "This doesn't feel like me anymore"?

Not in a dramatic, burn-it-all-down way. Just a quiet, honest realization that something doesn't fit like it used to.

In this episode, Coach Jenn and I talk about what it really looks like to start over, especially when you feel like you should have it all figured out by now. The pressure to not disappoint anyone, to keep being who you've always been, to not "rock the boat"… it keeps so many women stuck in lives that...

So many women are chasing a future version of themselves, believing that one day they'll finally arrive — more confident, more healed, more "together."

But becoming her doesn't happen through striving.
It happens through alignment.

In this episode, we talk about the shift from chasing who you think you should be to recognizing the woman who is already within you. The version of you that shows up in the boundaries you hold, the rest you allow, the courage it takes to say no, and the compassion you offer yourself when things aren't perfect.

Be...

For a lot of women, rest feels… uncomfortable.

You sit down, try to take a break, and within minutes your mind starts running.
You should be doing something.
You're wasting time.
You're falling behind.

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that our value comes from our output. The more we produce, the more responsible, successful, and worthy we feel. So when we're not producing, rest can feel like failure.

But rest isn't something you earn once you've done "enough."

Your worth was never meant to be co...

If you've ever caught yourself looping the same old stories — I always mess this up… I never follow through… this is just how I am — this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Creating Her Best Life, we're having a real conversation about the thoughts quietly running your life.

Because here's the thing most of us don't realize:

You don't become her by trying harder.
You become her by thinking differently.

We talk about why those thoughts feel so true (even when they're not), how your identity isn't fixed, an...

For so many women, control isn't about power — it's about feeling safe.

We cling to plans, checklists, timelines, and certainty like emotional life rafts. And listen… I get it. I love a good system as much as the next high-functioning human. But here's the truth nobody puts on a vision board:

Control is exhausting.

Because underneath it all, it's usually rooted in fear. It keeps you disconnected from trust, especially trust in yourself. It can look like stability, but inside your body? Your nervous system is on high alert, quietly bracing for impact.

Boundaries aren't about being mean, they're about being honest with yourself.

In this episode, I talk about how boundaries protect your energy, your growth, and your future. If you've spent your life people-pleasing, helping, or keeping the peace, setting boundaries can feel scary (and sometimes lonely). But every no creates space for the yes that actually matters.

You'll learn why boundaries lead to better relationships, how resentment quietly builds when you ignore your needs, and what it really looks like to stay in integrity with yourself.

If you're ready to stop tolerating what...

In this episode, Coach Jenn and I talk about the quiet grief that comes with becoming someone new, the part nobody warns you about. The mourning of old identities. The soft ache of outgrowing relationships. The strange in-between where who you were doesn't fit anymore… but who you're becoming hasn't fully landed yet.

You'll hear why everything you've lived through wasn't random, it was preparation. Preparation for this season. This version of you. This next chapter that requires a different nervous system, different boundaries, and a deeper level of self-trust.

We'll unpack:

Why le...

What if fun isn't a reward you earn… but fuel you run on?

In this episode, we're reframing fun entirely, not as a bonus at the end of productivity, not as a luxury you squeeze in when everything else is done, and not even as a "self-care strategy."

Fun is a nervous system reset.
A return to the present moment.
A soul-aligning, joy-raising, spirit-lifting necessity.

You can't create a joyful life if joy isn't part of your daily equation. And no, you don't have to earn it, justify it, or be pr...

What if movement wasn't about fixing your body…
but meeting yourself inside it?

This week's episode is a reframe you didn't know you needed.

Your emotions don't live in your brain — they live in your body.
In your muscles.
In your posture.
In the way you hold your breath without even realizing it.

Your body isn't just a vehicle for weight loss goals or aesthetics. It's a living record of your experiences, your stress, your joy, your grief, and your power.

In this episode, I talk about: