Something Needs To Change

Has something really, really important ever been postponed on you, right when you'd been waiting for it? That's today's pod shot: Mercury retrograde, Friday the 13th and a call I personally wasn't ready for.

In this episode I tell you about a call I really needed, the form that came up blank an hour before, the website that locked me out for thirty minutes, and the reset code I asked for three times that never came. Then the phone rang at quarter past nine, and it wasn't who I was expecting.

I share what the...

Why do I pause on Remembrance Day? Because I joined the Army at seventeen, so yes, I'm a veteran, and the people I met back then are still family to me.

This is a short pod shot for the eleventh of November, from somebody who was serving while Northern Ireland and the Falklands were going on. It's me, at eleven o'clock, stopping for the people who went and didn't return, and for the loved ones waiting today to hear if theirs will come home.

In this episode I share what I take from my time...

Do you think, surely, they must see that I need help? But they don't seem to notice. If you're doing so much at home or at work, and hoping against hope that somebody will spot you're struggling, this pod shot is for you.

In this episode I look at what happens when we wait for somebody to notice, and why it's actually leaving both of you guessing. I'm a Transformation Mentor for women over 40, and this is the silent situation I see over and over, women choosing others over themselves without realising it.

I'll share...

Fireworks season means some of us stay in. We don't go out in the evening at this time of year unless we can take Buster with us, and I know thousands of people make the same choice for their animals and for the people they love.

In this episode I carry on Wednesday's conversation about Bonfire Night and how it affects people, and I talk about what we actually do with those evenings, instead of sitting there hating the noise.

I share how we plan for it every year, what we tell our visitors, what's...

Bonfire Night isn't just one night any more, is it? Round here the fireworks started a week last Monday, the night after the clocks went back, and they're far louder than they ever were when I was young.

In this episode I tell you why I have a foot in both camps. I love a good celebration myself, and I'll happily stand and watch a display. But I've lived with the other side of it too, and I share some personal reasons, to do with a dog and my sister's birthday, that explain why I can't come...

Who decided that was your job? The job of remembering, arranging and sorting everything out for everybody, at home and at work. And when was that decided? Was it ever actually decided at all?

In this episode I look at the jobs that have become ours through habit. You stepped in once, you kept on doing it, and now everybody expects you to carry on. Nobody stops to ask whether the arrangement still works, and most of us don't ask ourselves either.

I talk about being honest about what that job takes from you, how...

Do you need a reason to enjoy yourself? When did doing something because you enjoy it stop being a good enough reason?

In this pod shot I'm talking about the things you love doing just for you, whether that's music, a walk in the countryside, making something or seeing a friend, and why they keep slipping behind the jobs you've got to do and everybody else's plans. I've had to do this one myself, because I'm going to college at the moment to do something I love.

I'll ask you to notice what you automatically...

When is the right time, to do something you keep putting off? You keep saying you'll do it when the time is right, but what does that actually look like? When do we know? In this pod shot I ask you to name one thing. A conversation, a new hobby, a decision you've been sitting on. Then we look honestly at what you're waiting for, because some of those reasons are very real, and others have become a way of putting things off in our life. I share the small steps I'd take, one bite at a time, the...

Can you take a compliment? Think about the last time somebody paid you one. Did you say thank you, or did you straight away react? In this pod shot I share a true story from a call on a Thursday morning, when a lovely lady told me I don't look sixty-five. I'll tell you exactly what came out of my mouth, and it wasn't thank you very much. Then we look at why we do that, whether it's about our age, a jumper or something we've done, and what it says about the person who paid the compliment in...

Did you say yes before you'd even thought about it? We can all do that, and we've all done it. Then you're left wondering why you said yes, when you didn't have the time, or didn't want to do it in the first place.

In this episode of Something Needs To Change I share one idea to try before you say yes again, and we go through it one bite at a time. I'm a Transformation Mentor for Women over 40, and this is something I see again and again in the women I work with: a situation...

Hello and welcome to my next episode. And today it's what do you want now? And that now is really important because you can probably tell me what you want less of, but what would you like in its place? Knowing what you'd like less of is a great starting point, but what do you want - now Interesting one. So what would you like less of?, that's easy. It's what most of us can just tell you what you want less of. It's what you want more of or what you want now, which we find harder. What...

Hello and welcome to our next episode of Something Needs to Change. We are actually talking about change today, love it or hate it, change is part of our lives. And in the last podshot we spoke about choices which leads us to the changes. So change can be massive or it can be understated, but it must never be underestimated because change can take us into so many different directions and into so many other situations. But some changes are just small tweaks, so they don't actually change our lives on a bigger level. Changes are made from...

Welcome to today's episode on Choices.

Choices come in many shapes and sizes, and some are easier than others. So an easy choice is you go to the shop, your local supermarket, and you buy a tin of beans, but they're not your usual beans. You've decided to buy a lower value tin of beans. Now the thing is that if you take this home and you don't like them, next week can just go back to your normal beans. So this is a choice that is easily rectified. Now some choices are harder., let's, , take your...

Welcome to Something Needs to Change. And here's our next episode. And today

we're going to talk about clarity. And clarity is so important that half the time we don't

even think about it as clarity. So, what the heck is clarity and why do we need it?

So, we talk about wanting it, but what are we actually looking for? Clarity assists us

to understand and find out what is behind something or in a task we're asked to

perform. Clarity helps us understand rather than guess. I...

Still Looping?

That conversation happened days or even weeks ago, but it keeps coming back into your head. Was it something you said, something they said, or something that wasn’t said at all? Before you tell yourself to “just let it go”, it may be worth asking what you’re feeling and whether your thoughts about it are true. Let’s take a few minutes to look at what’s behind the loop.

In this Pod Shot, we talk about:

Did you say yes when you wanted to say no? Or leave a conversation wishing you’d said what you really meant?

Something Needs to Change is for women over 40 who recognise moments like these but aren’t sure how to start changing them. I’m Liz Oakley, a Transformation Mentor, and I’ll talk with you about the everyday situations that affect how you feel, speak and make choices.

These are short, honest Pod Shots. I’ll bring you one situation, another way to look at it and a question that helps you hear what you t...