Shameless Sex

What if you're kinky and your partner isn't? Former dominatrix Amanda Dames on mismatched desire and sharing fantasies without pressure.

Amanda, known as The Kink Consultant, is a board-certified sexologist and Somatica®-certified sex and relationship coach who hosts The Kink Consultant Podcast. She tells Amy and April what a typical day as a professional dominatrix looked like and what that job taught her about relationships. She also explains how she ended up with a spanking fetish at age 5. (Yes, 5.)

Then we get into something that shows up in a lot of long-term relationships: one p...

What if the secret to a better sex life has less to do with performance—and more to do with your overall health?

This week, we're joined by Dr. Rena Malik, board-certified urologist, pelvic surgeon, and globally recognized sexual health expert whose educational videos have reached more than half a billion views and earned the trust of over 3 million subscribers.

In this candid, science-backed conversation, Dr. Malik tackles the questions many men think about but are often too embarrassed to ask: Does size really matter? What should you know about testosterone, semen, and prostate health? Wh...

What if being the “easygoing” one, always saying yes, and putting everyone else’s needs first is actually keeping you from knowing your own worth?

In this episode, we sit down with Thais Gibson, counselor, speaker, Ph.D., and founder of The Personal Development School, to explore the hidden connection between people-pleasing, attachment styles, and self-worth. With expertise in over 13 therapeutic modalities, Thais shares her insights into why we develop these patterns, how they show up in our relationships, and what it takes to break free from them.

We dive into why people-pleasing is so common...

In this episode, we sit down with Justin Adams, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore dominance as something far deeper than bedroom technique, power, or performance. A Brooklyn-based practitioner and educator, Justin approaches dominance as a discipline of character rooted in self-authored ethics, ritual, self-awareness, and the responsibility that comes with being trusted by another person.

Drawing on Taoism, Stoicism, and Jungian shadow integration, Justin offers a thoughtful alternative to both Manosphere masculinity and the often-sanitized conversations surrounding mainstream kink culture. We get into the psychology of power, the difference between healthy authority and pathological control...

This episode is with repeat guests Alicia and Erwan Davon and is all about upping your blowjobs skills. #258 was all about using hands and mouths for oral pleasure. Now let’s get more advanced! We discuss:

*The common issues/fears people have around giving blowjobs

*The common issues penis owners have around receiving

*Basics/1.0 level skills people should know about

*How Tantra can it take oral sex even deeper/to the advanced level

*Advanced oral sex tips for the giver

*Advanced oral sex tips for the receiver

Let’s Talk About Kissing! 💋

In this episode, we’re joined by repeat guest Ashley Randall (aka Irreverent Femme) for a deep dive into one of the most underrated parts of intimacy: kissing.

We’re talking all things making out—from different kissing styles and techniques to neck kissing, full-body kissing, and how to figure out what your partner actually likes. We also explore why kissing and making out can so often disappear from long-term relationships, what you can do to bring it back, and why kissing can be such an important part of intimacy and connect...

In this episode, we’re joined by Andre Lazarus, Somatic Intimacy Guide, sex and intimacy coach, and one of the professional surrogate partners featured on the UK series Virgin Island.

Andre takes us behind the scenes of his unconventional work, including what it’s actually like to help people navigate intimacy challenges — and whether being a surrogate partner means, well… what you might think it means.

We then get into the big questions around men and sex: what Andre wishes more men knew, what he wishes they’d do less of, and what he wishes more women...

This week, we’re joined by Dr. Shannon Chavez, a leading voice in modern sexual wellness and one of the incredible experts teaching at our next Shameless Sex Couples Retreat!

Dr. Chavez is a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, professional sex coach, and founder of SHAPE Psychology. Her work brings a holistic, culturally inclusive approach to sex, relationships, and pleasure—and helps make conversations about sexuality feel more accessible, meaningful, and shame-free.

In this episode, we’re getting into one of the sexiest—and sometimes most awkward—topics: dirty talk! How do you make it feel au...

In this episode, we’re joined by our marketing director Paigge Gilbert for a deeply curious conversation about sex, pleasure, intimacy, and desire. We talk about what it’s actually like to train as a sex and relationship coach through Somatica—and dive into some big questions about how we experience and explore our erotic selves. We explore:

Why do so many men struggle to last as long as they want—and why do so many women struggle with arousal and sensation?

In this episode, we sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness company focused on helping people improve intimacy, confidence, and sexual health.

Jeff shares the story behind Promescent, from discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert to building the company into a full-spectrum sexual wellness brand with more than 5 million bottles sold and thousands of healthcare professionals recommending its products.

In this episode, I’m joined by repeat guests Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., founders of the Somatica® Institute and creators of the Somatica® Method of sex and relationship coaching.

Danielle and Celeste are thought leaders in the world of sex and relationships and have trained more than 1,000 coaches in their groundbreaking approach, which helps people get out of their heads and into their bodies so they can build confidence, feel empowered to be themselves, and go after what they truly want in dating, sex, and relationships. They’re also the lead sexologists on the...

In this episode, we’re joined by Regena Thomashauer—better known as Mama Gena—to explore the transformative power of surrender, pleasure, and living fully on your own terms.

Regena is the founder of the School of Womanly Arts and the author of the New York Times bestseller Pussy: A Reclamation. For more than 25 years, she has taught hundreds of thousands of women around the world to reclaim pleasure, desire, and sovereign power as the foundation of a fully lived life. Her newest book, On Our Knees, invites us to reconsider surrender—not as submission or giving away our p...

We talk a lot about long-term couples growing together emotionally—but what happens when their physical selves begin to change, too?

As we age, our bodies change, and those changes can have a real impact on intimacy, confidence, sexual function, and relationships. In this episode, we take an honest and often lighthearted look at what happens to both women and men as they grow older—and why these changes are something couples should face together, rather than allowing them to create insecurity, doubt, or blame.

We’re joined by Dr. Castillo, a fellowship-trained Female Pelvic Medici...

What happens when we stop accepting the stories we’ve been taught about sex, gender, bodies, desire, and pleasure—and start questioning who those stories actually serve?

In this episode, we’re joined by Ericka Hart, M.Ed. (she/they), a trauma-informed, consent- and pleasure-based sex educator who has spent the past 15 years teaching comprehensive sex education at the elementary, high school, undergraduate, and graduate levels. Ericka is the founder of Sex Ed as Resistance, author of Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire and Liberate Yourself, and co-host, alongside her partner Ebony, of the critically acclaimed podcast Hoodra...

Happy Anal August! Anal sex is one of the most talked-about—and most misunderstood—sexual experiences. Some people absolutely love it, while for others it's a firm no. So what makes the difference? Is it preference, preparation, anatomy, or simply misinformation?

In this episode, we're joined by Alex Hall, co-founder and host of The Bottom's Digest, sexual health educator, and body autonomy advocate, to answer the questions people are often too embarrassed to ask.

We explore why anal sex feels pleasurable for some people, why it isn't for everyone, and how to approach it in a wa...

This bonus episode was recorded during a fabulous female-led (meaning women make the first move) hedonism meets glamour cruise in the gorgeous Mediterranean put on by Killing Kittens. For six days and nights Amy and her parter taught workshops such as How to Pamper Your Partner, Oral Sex 101, Dirty Talk Murder Mystery, and more - all while visiting stunning locations such as Mallorca, Monte Carlo, Florence and Portofino.

This episode includes an interview with an adventurous couple who share their experiences on their first sexy cruise. From explorations in the dungeon to working with a professional Domme...

Why are some people so against eating pussy? In this episode, we dive into the conversation happening around masculinity, pleasure, and what’s really behind people’s attitudes toward giving and receiving oral sex.

Amy and Shaun Galanos, love coach, The Love Drive podcast host, and writer, explore the “ROI” of being a generous, attentive lover — and why learning how to create pleasure can transform confidence, intimacy, and connection. Because great sex isn’t just about technique; it starts with how you show up, your willingness to communicate, and your ability to stay curious about your partner’s experience.<...

If you're curious about kink and BDSM but aren't sure where to begin, this episode is for you. Returning guest Ashley Randall (Irreverent Femme), a certified Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach and professional Dominatrix, joins us to explore what healthy, consensual kink really looks like—and why it can be a powerful path to deeper intimacy, trust, emotional connection, and personal healing.

Together, we unpack common myths about BDSM, discuss how to move beyond shame and stigma, and share practical advice for anyone interested in exploring kink safely and confidently. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or lo...

What if alcohol isn't making you more confident... it's just making you care less? What is life like when you cultivate the confidence without altering yourself?

In this refreshingly honest (and often hilarious) episode, we're joined by Helen Masters, founder of Sober AF Dating, sober coach, speaker, and self-confessed recovering people-pleaser, to unpack everything we thought we knew about dating, confidence, sex, and sobriety.

Helen opens up about the experience that led her into coaching after surviving sexual assault and spending years believing alcohol was the secret ingredient to confidence, connection, and a good night...

Wait...I Can Transform My Relationship in Just 42 Days?

Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we give away all of the prime tips from the game-changing Intimacy Rewired course with the masterminds behind it, Ian Stratton and Amy Baldwin. You'll get the inside scoop on their 6-week program that has already changed the lives of many, and we're giving away the top takeaways so you can start applying the life-changing tools right now.

Here's what you'll learn:

* The pillars of Intimacy Rewired and how they can help you break free...

Can monogamous people really find what they're looking for at a sex party?

Tune in as we chat with Michael Hollice, the Founder and Creative Director of The Play, a revolutionary sex party community that's been breaking boundaries for over 8 years. You might be wondering what happens at one of these parties, or if they're even for you - especially if you're monogamous. The answer might surprise you.

Here's what you'll learn from this episode:

* The real meaning behind "sex parties" and what sets The Play apart from the rest

* Why...

What's happening to your brain and body as you age, particularly during perimenopause? 

And why is it a complete landmine when you also have ADHD?

Ever felt like you're losing your grip on life, and nobody warned you that perimenopause and ADHD could be a double whammy? Join us on this week's Shameless Sex podcast as we dive into the uncharted territory of Ugly Perimenopause with Mandi Dixon, a Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD Executive Function Coach who's got the tea on what's really going on.

In this episode, you'll get the lowdown o...

Are You in a "Healthy Relationship"… or Just Really Good at Ignoring Red Flags? 🚩

Why do we keep falling into the same relationship patterns, even when we know better? Why do some people chase connection while others seem to run from it? And how do you build a relationship that actually lasts without losing yourself in the process?

In this candid and eye-opening episode, we sit down with Breann Starr, somatic relational and intimacy mentor and founder of Embodied Liberation.love, to unpack the psychology, nervous system patterns, and relationship habits that shape the way we lo...

Ready to Break Free from the Sex Rules and Unleash Your True Desire?

Get ready for a sizzling conversation with hosts Amy and April as they dive into the juicy details of their new book, Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You’ve Been Waiting For. On this episode of the Shameless Sex podcast, they'll be exploring what it means to have shameless sex, sharing their philosophy, and serving up some seriously sexy insights to help you level up your love life.

Here's a sneak peek at what you'll le...

This week we're joined by bestselling author, social researcher, and cultural provocateur Wednesday Martin, PhD for a wide-ranging conversation about modern womanhood, relationships, power, and what happens when life refuses to follow the script.

From Manhattan moms to stepfamilies, sexuality to social science, Wednesday has spent decades exploring the hidden rules that shape our lives. The best-selling author of Primates of Park Avenue, Stepmonster, Marlene Dietrich, and Untrue brings her trademark blend of sharp research, wit, and fearless honesty to the mic.

We dive into her latest project, A Year Without Men, and explore why...

Are You Ready to Unlock the Secrets to a Sexually Satisfied and Confident You?

Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the world of sex life makeovers with the incredible Courtney Fae Long, MSW, LC, CHt. With over 25 years of experience in teaching and guiding individuals towards a more fulfilling sex life, Courtney brings a refreshing and joyful approach to the conversation.

In this episode, you'll learn:

* The surprising reasons why women feel frustrated and unfulfilled in their sex lives, even in loving relationships

* The concept...

What is ritual pornography — and what happens when pornography stops being performance and becomes ritual?

In this provocative and deeply philosophical episode, we sit down with Haus Of Ko to explore the intersection of erotic cinema, psychedelics, intimacy, altered states, and conscious sexuality. From building an erotic film studio to redefining pleasure beyond mainstream porn culture, this conversation challenges conventional ideas about sex, art, power, and human connection.

Can you actually "give" an orgasm to someone or "make them cum"?

Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the world of self-love, partnered play, and the pursuit of ultimate pleasure with the legendary Nina Hartley. As we celebrate Masturbation May, Nina shares her insights on the importance of self-exploration and how it can transform your relationships and overall satisfaction.

Here's what you can expect to learn from this juicy conversation:

* The surprising truth behind the phrase "giving someone an orgasm" and why Nina prefers "trading" orgasms instead<...

Ready to take your sex life beyond the basics? In this episode of Shameless Sex, we’re joined by renowned relationship coaches and Tantra teachers Erwan Davon and Alicia Davon, creators of the Davon Method. With over 20,000 students worldwide, they’ve become global leaders in intimacy, sensuality, and relationship transformation.

We’re diving into “sex positions 2.0”—what it really means to explore more advanced or intermediate techniques in the bedroom. How do you know when you’re ready to level up? What actually makes a sex position “advanced”—and do you need to be super flexible or yoga-trained to enjo...

Can You Really Hack Your Way to Juicier Clits, Bigger Dicks and Better Sex?

Did you know that your genitals shrink as you age? Learn more as we revisit the conversation with the inimitable Susan Bratton, one of the world's most prolific sex educators, who has spent over two decades championing pleasure-based sex education. In our previous episode (#322 Big Clits and Dicks), Susan shared her expertise on all things related to bigger clits and dicks, from enhanced pleasure to optimized health. You read that correctly - enhancing your genitals not only leads to more pleasure, but it...

Are You Speaking the Language of Love (and Desire) in the Bedroom?

Get ready to revolutionize your relationships and intimacy with the latest episode of Shameless Sex! We're diving into two exclusive clips from Intimacy Rewired, a 6-week online bootcamp that's all about mastering the skills that make relationships easy. Joining us are expert educators Charlie Glickman and Sarah Tomchesson, who share their expertise on communication and pleasure literacy.

Here's what you'll learn:

* The secrets to communicating your needs and boundaries like a pro (without being a demanding diva or a silent sufferer)<...

Get ready to geek out on some seriously sexy science with Dr. Suelyn Hall, M.D., a trailblazing urologist who's breaking down barriers and pushing the boundaries of what's possible when it comes to male sexual pleasure. With her new book, How To Get A-HEAD: Secrets to Male Sexual Pleasure from a Female Urologist, Dr. Hall is on a mission to empower men (and their partners) to take control of their sexual health and pleasure.

Here's what you'll learn from this episode:

* The surprising ways that cultural and social taboos impact men's sexual health, and...

Ready to Set Sail on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Unbridled Desire? 

Join Emma Sayle, the fearless founder of Killing Kittens, as we dive into the world of sex parties, cruises, and retreats, and explore what makes these experiences so alluring to those seeking a more liberated expression of themselves.

In this episode, you'll discover:

* The secrets behind Killing Kittens' sold-out parties, cruises, and retreats, and what attendees can expect from these immersive experiences

* The differences between sex parties, cruises, and retreats, and how each caters to distinct desires and needs

Is Your Hand the Best Tool in Your Pleasure Toolbox?

Get ready to get hands-on (literally!) as we dive into the world of hand sex with somatic relational and intimacy mentor, Breann Starr. In this episode, we get real about self-pleasure, giving and receiving handjobs, and the magic of erotic massage. Here's what you'll learn:

* The art of masturbation: tips and tricks for pussy owners, and how to use your practice to expand your sexuality with yourself and partners

* How to turn handjobs into a sensual experience (for both giver and receiver) with...

Can You Give a Mind-Blowing Blowjob? Or can you receive one?

Let's get real, folks - blowjobs can be a total game-changer in the bedroom, but they can also be, well, a bit of a mystery. In this episode, we're diving headfirst (pun intended) into the world of sucking cock, sharing our own stories, and spilling the tea on what really makes a blowjob unforgettable. 

Here's what you'll learn:

* The top tools and techniques for givers (yes, even if you're not a fan of giving blowjobs - we've got tips to help you d...

Ready to Get WET and Unlock a Life of Unbridled Pleasure?

We're revisiting one of our most popular episodes with Alexis Ware, L.Ac., a sex, desire, and intimacy coach who's on a mission to help you tap into your true sensual potential. In this juicy conversation, we dive into the world of genital "wetness" and explore what it means to be truly connected to your body.

Here's what you'll discover in this episode:

* The importance of reconnecting with your genitals and how it can transform your sex life and overall well-being

Get Ready to Talk Dirty: Unleashing Your Authentic Voice in the Bedroom!

Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the sultry world of dirty talk with the dynamic duo, Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., founders of the Somatica Institute and creators of the Somatica Method. As thought leaders in the field of sex and relationship coaching, they've trained over 1000 coaches and have even been featured on UK's award-winning TV show, Virgin Island.

In this episode, we'll be exploring the art of dirty talk and how to...

This clip comes from one of our favorite past conversations: Episode #133 – How Core Desires Lead to Hot Sex with Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, MA.

What are your Core Desires, and how can understanding them lead to hotter, more fulfilling sex? In this episode, Danielle and Celeste—co-creators of the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching—share how exploring your deepest erotic desires can transform your sex life and deepen intimacy in your relationships.

Using their experiential Somatica approach, they explain how shifting our internal patterns around sex and connection can open the doo...

What's the Wildest Thing You've Done for Love (or Sex)?

Join us as we dive into the unapologetic world of Courtney Kocak, writer, podcaster, and comedian extraordinaire, who's just released her scorching hot memoir, Girl Gone Wild! In this episode, we get the tea on Courtney's journey from selling T-shirts on the infamous Girls Gone Wild tour (for the uninitiated, it was a series of spring break party videos that, ahem, "celebrated" youthful abandon) to becoming a respected voice in the world of sexuality and feminism.

Here's what you'll get out of this episode:

Are You Letting Shame Quietly Run the Show in Your Intimate Life?

Join us as we dive back into the powerful conversation from the launch of Intimacy Rewired, Amy and co-facilitator Ian Stratton's six-week online program that helps you break free from disconnection and cultivate deeper, more playful intimacy. This episode feels as if you are a part of the workshop, so consider sitting down with a pen and paper to get the full classroom experience. Packed with expert insights from returning guests Dr. Nazanin Moali and Keeley Rankin, MA, as they share their wisdom on building...