Father Finney’s The Best That Man Can Get
For the middle aged human who wants to change direction. They have a goal, a secret desire or hobby they never do. Maybe they feel it’s over, but is it? Join me for my guests of inspiration, their stories and comedy from the World of middle-aged humans on our journey to be The Best That Man Can Get.
68% of US Adults Believe 'Everything Happens For A Reason'
Subjects: fate, belief, destiny, personal crisis, free will, determinism, human connection, success, failure, coping mechanisms.
I explore the relationship between fate, belief, and personal agency. How is it that choices, no matter how different, keep leading back to the same place? Successful and learned people say no man is self-made. Is this an indication of fate or just a need for connection with others in order to flourish in life? I'm confused, I don't believe in it but for some reason my attention drifts towards the idea it maybe influencing my life. Maybe our subconscious plays the...
Is My Truth Worth Listening To?
Subjects: Podcasting, AI, quantum computing, listener engagement, societal issues, investment priorities, double standards, technology, human connection, existential concerns, mental health, technology, personal reflections, authenticity, rebellion, simplicity, Groundhog Day.
I express my feelings of disconnection despite increasing podcast numbers, questioning the authenticity of listener engagement. I cover another disconnection, the World of AI and quantum computing, highlighting the ethical concerns surrounding technological advancements. I question the disproportionate investment, gloated over by Main Stream Media, in AI compared to pressing global issues like hunger and education, emphasizing a troubling trend of double standards in societal priorities.
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Could We Skip The Dancing and Go Straight to Foreplay Please?
Subjects: dancing, psychology, self-expression, childhood, adulthood, personal experiences, social situations, movement, enjoyment, performance, DV8, Dead Dreams of Monochrome Men, the last dance.
I explore my personal aversion to dancing, contrasting it with his childhood enjoyment of the activity. I dig into the psychological aspects of dancing, discussing how self-consciousness and societal expectations can alter one's relationship with movement as they grow older. I also touch on the role of dance as a form of self-expression and the differences in motivations between children and adults. I share personal anecdotes and reflections on the nature of dance, ultimately concluding...
Two Casual Things That Will Get You Liked (Said I on my own at home on a Saturday night)
Subjects: likeability, relationships, communication, genuine connections, personal growth
I explore the concept of likeability and how genuine connections can be formed through effective communication. I discuss the importance of making others feel valued and appreciated, emphasizing that true likeability stems from curiosity about others and the ability to give sincere compliments. I also touch upon the challenges of interpersonal relationships and the significance of treating others well.
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From Processed Food Grammage to Brain Damage
Subjects: brain injury, ultra-processed foods, health risks, cognitive decline, nutrition, inflammation, dietary choices, stroke prevention, mental health, food safety.
I discuss the impact of ultra-processed foods (UPFs) on brain health, highlighting research that links high consumption of these foods to long-term silent brain injuries, cognitive decline, and increased risk of strokes. I emphasize the importance of understanding what constitutes UPFs, the specific foods that pose the highest risks, and practical steps to reduce intake for better health outcomes.
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A.I. Makes A Dogs Dinner of Menus
Keywords: AI fails, Just Eat, AI food images, AI-generated photos, AI in marketing, restaurant menus, AI backlash, AI helpers, opting out of AI, human photographers, robots, AI doom, social media ridicule, BBC News, podcast rant.
I talk about AI fails, like Just Eat's AI-generated food images: I also vent about AI helpers in online platforms, opting out of AI, human photographers, robots, and whether AI doom is real. It's my honest podcast take on artificial intelligence, which no doubt will be different due to the pace of change tomorrow.
Just Eat apologises for AI food...
Will That Desk Job Help Pay For Your Early Grave?
Keywords: Movement, Walking, Sport, V02Max, Boxlife, Health & Fitness, longevity.
My steps are down this month. Is there any harm in that? Should I not worry or not be bothered? Well there is a lot to be said for moving as opposed to staying still. You will live longer according to science. Which gives you more time to sit Infront of the TV or do more overtime at the office to pay for the kids inheritance.
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Christmas Trees Are For Life, Quite Literally
Keywords: Christmas trees, aquatic ecosystems, environmental science, biodiversity, Finland, ecological impact, sustainable practices, carbon emissions, habitat creation, marine life, recycling, sustainability, community action, holiday traditions, waste management, scientific inquiry.
I read an innovative experiment conducted in Finland where 1,500 Christmas trees were submerged in a lake to study their impact on aquatic ecosystems. The discussion highlights the significant increase in biodiversity resulting from the experiment, as well as the broader environmental implications of disposing of Christmas trees.
In 2021, scientists threw 1,500 Christmas trees into a lake; three years later, they had completely transformed the ecosystem - The...
How Do I Rebuild After Burnout?
Keywords: burnout, emotional exhaustion, mental health, self-care, identity, sadness, coping strategies, mindfulness, connection, rest, Jay Shetty, School of Greatness
I'm done, I'm fried, I'm flatter than a space rock that just collied with Earth.
But how can I fix this? How can I muster up the energy to come back? And the bigger question, how do I record an episode of this show without sounding like a reanimated corpse found in Datacentre's drainage ditch?
Well I guess you will have to listen to find out!
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Who Is Left after Burnout
Keywords: burnout, mental health, emotional depletion, psychological overload, coping strategies, American Psycho.
In this conversation, I explore the topic of burnout, sharing my personal experience and insight into its symptoms and psychological mechanisms. I discuss my feelings of emotional depletion, reduced sense of accomplishment, and the desire to withdraw, all of which are indicative of burnout. I highlight the importance of recognizing burnout as a state that can be addressed through rest and recovery.
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The Story of the Office Mug Attachment
Keywords: creativity, attachment, objects, psychology, workplace, identity, decision fatigue, personal items, human behaviour, emotional connection, The I.T. Crowd, burn after reading
In this momentary mental breakdown, I explore the themes of attachment to objects, and the psychological implications of these attachments. I highlight the cathartic process of deleting unworthy creations, the significance of personal items like mugs in the workplace, and how objects can serve as extensions of our identities. The discussion also touches on the emotional connections we form with everyday items, such as cars, and how these attachments reveal deeper aspects of human behaviour...
Ep44 Cheating or Competing With Mark Marshall
Subjects: cheating, sports, football, ethics, psychology, fairness, competition, hypocrisy, financial implications, everyday life, fairness, relationships, life lessons, morality, social norms, survival instincts, insider trading, trust, confessions, moral dilemmas, The Premier League, Manchester City, Oil Money, Aston Villa, Roman Abramovich, Qatar 2022.
In this conversation I ask my good friend Mark his opinion on the subject of cheating as it is not just a simple black and white subject. People have reasons for cheating, consciously or unconsciously decisions are made to win at all costs or with increased risk. But is it just a short term strategy or can...
Satisfaction, A Sign Post to Your Purpose
Subjects: purpose, satisfaction, flow, energy, resilience, behavioural signs, emotional regulation, alignment, contribution, personal growth, job satisfaction, engagement, fulfilment, contentment, income, demographics
I explore the profound relationship between purpose and satisfaction, emphasizing that true fulfilment comes from aligning one's efforts with a meaningful purpose. I discuss various behavioural signs that indicate when someone is on their purpose. I highlight the importance of recognizing these signs to enhance personal growth and overall well-being. Making this episode had it's challenges, see prior episode, which ironically underlines the point I am making here. Which is spooky and weird!
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The Fxcking Irony
Subjects: technology, dissatisfaction, recording, irony, satisfaction, AI, simplicity, local recording, Silicon Valley, frustration, hatred
If you are looking for philosophies from Plato or the writings of Chaucer and Tolkien then maybe this episode is not for you. If you like listening to white middle aged males rant about first world problems then maybe this is your cup of tea. Mind the volume! Hopefully normal service resumes tomorrow and this podcast brings you a better standard of living then.
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Why I Don't Push My Podcast on Friends & Family
Keywords: podcast, creativity, promotion, AI, audience, legacy, relationships, self-expression, creative process, personal growth, family support, Soundcloud, Jesus, George Soros
In this episode I explore the reasons behind my decision not to promote this podcast to friends and family. I discuss the importance of maintaining creative integrity, the role of AI in understanding human behaviour, and the apparent desire to create a legacy through my words. I go into the complexities of relationships and the impact of external opinions on creative confidence, ultimately emphasizing the need for authentic audience engagement.
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150 Episodes Done! So What?
Subjects: motivation, milestones, humour, minimalist, podcast, reflections, life insights, PayPal, angst.
To be fair this episode is not much use. It contains feelings of boredom, resentment and a lack of motivation, whilst I also contemplate the arbitrary nature of milestones like this 150th episode. So What? To me Milestones are meaningless even if deep within me my attention gravitates to such trinkets! I want to be of use even when I am not feeling useful and so I release this without deleting it so as to highlight that not every day is good or sugar coated like...
The Dawn of Soft Clubbing
Subjects: Gen Z, social habits, coffee raves, soft clubbing, daytime socializing, alcohol consumption, nightlife, connection, sober curious, social events, zig & zag.
In this conversation I look at the evolving social habits of Gen Z, particularly their shift away from traditional nightlife towards more sober and daytime socializing options like coffee raves and soft clubbing. I highlight the appeal of these new social formats, which prioritize connection over alcohol consumption and cater to a generation that values mental well-being and meaningful interactions. But they are not the only generation to embrace this change in our times, because there's...
Why Do I Forget To Write My Goals?
Keywords: nostalgia, goal setting, forgetfulness, emotional weight, systems for success, identity, self-discovery, humour, The Orb.
In this conversation, I reflect about forgetfulness and the challenges of setting and achieving goals. I explore the emotional weight of goals, the importance of creating systems to support success, and the journey of self-discovery. I also throw in a little humour, showing the lighter side of life's challenges.
Decision Jokes - 101 Hilarious Decision Jokes
https://youtu.be/8Ecdn5SGT1E?si=EaqZAUCklbJC9OLq The Orb Little Fluffy Clouds
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Where Did All The Comedians Go?
Subjects: US Comedy, UK Comedy, Bill Hicks, George Carlin, Richard Prior, Chris Rock, Jerry Seinfeld, Dave Chappelle, Joan Rivers, Billy Connolly, Ricky Gervais, Jimmy Carr, Frankie Boyle, Sean Locke, Les Dawson, Johnny Vegas, Lee Evans, Suzy Eddie Izzard. Ken Dodd, Dave Allen, Bill Burr.
Comedy has always been a mirror reflecting society, but what happens when that mirror becomes foggy or smaller? In this episode I delve into the changing landscape of comedy and the reasons behind the perception that humour isn't as sharp as it used to be.
Why modern ‘comedians’ like Romesh Ranganathan aren...
Why Do I Skip 'I' When Writing?
Subjects: Writing, Psychology, Self-awareness, The mind, Mental Health, Subconscious, habbits.
You join me today as I reflect on a rather curious habit that many of us might not even recognize — the tendency to skip the word "I" when writing.
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What Has Helped Save Me in 2026 So Far
Subjects: personal growth, health strategies, mental well-being, social connections, self-improvement, Coffee, Showers, Fasting, savouring, gratitude.
The beginning of this year was bleak for me and was building on top of an already abysmal 2025. I felt I was done for physically, mentally and spiritually. Now, I certainly have not fixed the spiritual side of things, but I had to get the basics in, and that was by getting my body and mind in a place of productive use and place of stability. I needed to increase my energy to push back against the years of accumulated mental loss a...
The Peltzman's Effect. Where Safety Fuels Risk
Subjects: Peltzman effect, risk compensation, safety measures, behavioral economics, medication, finance, betting, investments, overconfidence, safety nets
In this episode, I explores the Peltzman effect, a behavioural phenomenon where increased safety measures lead to riskier behaviour. I discuss various examples, including driving with seatbelts, medication reliance, and financial decisions, illustrating how perceived safety can reduce caution and lead to negative outcomes. I emphasize the importance of recognizing these patterns in everyday life and making informed choices to mitigate risks.
Sam Peltzman - Wikipedia
What gambling firms don’t want you to know – and how they...
What Happened to Our Childhood Excitement?
Subjects: Excitement, childhood, adulthood, adventure, psychology, sensory impact, mental health.
We often hear that with age comes wisdom, but what about the thrill of excitement? I take us on a journey through how excitement transforms from childhood to adulthood and how we could possibly reignite that spark.
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Be Grateful You Can Read
Subjects: reading, literacy, comprehension, gratitude, language, education, understanding, communication, evolution, copyright, Middle-east, Persia,
In this reflective conversation, I express my gratitude for the ability to read and explore the complexities of literacy. I discuss the different levels of literacy, the importance of comprehension beyond mere reading, and the evolution of language and copyright.
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Why Do I get Angry At Software?
Subjects: I.T issues, rage, computer rage, anatomy of frustration, software issues, cognitive load, loss aversion
Why do I get so vexed at this thing called software? Nothing else in this mad despotic and war based economy World makes me so angry than this? So why? Join me as I ask software why I fall out with it so often.
Here are Limp Bizkit dismantling Woodstock: "Who here likes NSYNC?"😄
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<...5 Tips for Happiness
In this episode, I reflect on the nature of happiness, discussing insights from Dr. Laurie Santos, a Yale expert on happiness. I explore the idea that happiness is not a natural state but a skill that can be developed. I delve into the mind's deceptions that lead us astray in our pursuit of happiness and presents five actionable steps to rewire our brains for a happier, or less miserable, life.
Yale expert shares 5 steps to rewire your brain for happiness with no weird tricks - Upworthy
Ken Dodd – Happiness Lyrics | Genius Lyrics
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Who Is My Podcast Audience?
In this episode, I give gratitude to listeners for reaching a significant milestone of 400,000 downloads. I share insights into listener demographics, highlighting the countries and regions where the podcast is most popular. I delve into the reasons behind the popularity of podcasts in the USA and UK, as well as the challenges faced in regions with lower podcast production.
AI suggested the following description about a tune I hummed:
'This conversation delves into the complexities of copyright issues, exploring various themes and insights related to the topic.' Erm...No I didn't but thanks anyway...
Arnold Says "Break Your Mirrors"
In this episode I reflect in part on my journey of self-improvement inspired by Arnold Schwarzenegger. I discuss the importance of giving back to others and the philosophical implications of focusing on others rather than oneself. The next bit of description comes courtesy of Sky-Net:
Through personal anecdotes and insights, James encourage listeners to break their mirrors—both literally and metaphorically—to foster a more altruistic mindset. The conversation culminates in a call to action for listeners to reflect on their contributions to the world and to hold themselves accountable for their intentions.
Keywords: Arnold Schw...
The Goal of a Happy Family
I normally write everything myself but in keeping with the doom and gloom of AI eradicating our species I will let AI describe this episode for me with a strong sense of irony that AI will never know the feeling of family. One-nil to the humans!
"In this conversation, James reflects on the concept of family and the societal perceptions surrounding it. He shares personal anecdotes about his experiences with family dynamics, the importance of building connections, and the often-overlooked goal of pursuing a family life. Through humour and introspection, he questions the value of family in...
Loud Exhausts Are a Mask For Feeling Small
What makes some car enthusiasts modify their vehicles to produce obnoxious noises? In this episode, I drive deep into the psychology behind noisy exhausts and the behaviours of those who drive them. And I find out something society should really know in order to better our future selves.
Subjects: Loud Exhausts, Pop and Bang Mapping, identity signalling, insecurity, satanic, Honda Civic, Metro, VW Polo, Baseball caps.
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Are You Addicted to Food?
Ever found yourself unable to resist that tub of Pringles? I dive into the world of addictive foods, mouth first, by sharing personal anecdotes and research findings that reveal what makes certain snacks so hard to put down.
Subjects: University of Michigan, food, dopamine, addiction, cravings, obesity, yale food addiction scale, corporate greed.
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I Don't Understand Tattoos
With tattoos having transcended their past associations, becoming a significant form of personal expression in modern culture. I delve into the complexities of tattoos, exploring why they have surged in popularity and what they signify for individuals today.
Subjects: Tattoos, Wallpaper, LA ink, Sleeves, rebellion, sailors, convicts, tribes, MRSA.
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Our Big Blue Organic Space Ship
After a stressful day of recording, I get a grip and share a reflection inspired by astronaut Ron Garan's experience aboard the International Space Station.
Ronald J. Garan Jr. - Wikipedia
Peaceful World — Peace Education for Everyone
Subjects: ISS, Earth, us versus them, stop dehumanisation, atmosphere, global trade, War
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The Difference Between the Spanish and the English in My Eyes
I see so many cultural differences between the English and the Spanish yet Geographically we are not that far apart. Also it seems to be many an Englishman's dream to move to the Mediterranean, but why? After a short visit to Spain, despite feeling a little isolated as I speak no Spanish and spoke to no English people for four days, I really liked and respected the Spanish people. In hindsight I don't regret the loneliness felt as I feel it opened a door to something else, in a direction a lot more fulfilling.
Subjects: Spain, England...
Am I Mentally ill For Not Being Able to Relax on Holiday?
I reflect on my recent trip to Spain, discussing my struggle with the concept of relaxation while on holiday. I question societal expectations around travel and relaxation, exploring psychological barriers that prevent some individuals from enjoying downtime. Am I broken for not wanting to or being able to do "relaxation"?
Subjects: Spain, relaxation, holiday, mental health, travel, personal experience, psychological barriers, rest, cultural differences, mindfulness
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If a Man Knows More Than Others, He Becomes Lonely
The more people I'm surrounded by and the more places I go, the more I find loneliness. I'm not looking for it, I want the opposite, so why is this happening? Dr Carl Jung was aware of this problem it seems, maybe he to felt it?
Subjects: Carl Jung, psychology, empty, the weight of awareness, emotional v physical isolation.
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The Lonely Life of Initiating, Future Experiment Part 2
My experiment of not originating contact is wearing me down a little bit. Is the origination of communication and ideas evenly spread across our species or is it just a special group who have to do it?
Subjects: Communication, fear of rejection, Low confidence in leadership, group dynamics, social permission, influence, inspiration, initiation.
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High Self-Esteem is Possible if You Reject These Three Common Habits
I came across an article online that I had to share about three habits that impact peoples self-esteem. And so I read a good part of the feature and share my insights and experience in connection to these habits. Could I change and end these habits I, and possibly you, have picked up in life?
People With Exceptionally High Self-Esteem Refuse To Engage In 3 Common Habits | YourTango
Keywords: Self-esteem, Coke, habits, worrying, dwelling, rumination, wants and needs, macaroni cheese, Publix
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Are Dying Wishes a Good Thing or Do They Suck for Survivors?
After hearing a relatives request that shocked me, I explore the concept of dying wishes, discussing various unusual requests people have made for their funerals. I reflect on the implications of these requests, both for the deceased and their loved ones, while also looking at what I might wish for at the end of life, leading to a light-hearted yet hopefully thought-provoking discussion about death and legacy.
Subjects: dying wishes, funeral requests, personal reflections, death, humour, life choices, legacy, memorials, unique funerals, end of life
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Have You Experienced Regret After Booking a Holiday?
I share my personal experience and insight regarding the psychological aspects of holiday planning, including feelings of regret and anxiety after booking a trip. What are the common emotional responses to spending money on vacations and are there any strategies to mitigate regret? Additionally, what is the psychological impact of spending on experiences versus material goods? I can't keep what I have just bought, only in memories.
Subjects: travel, holiday planning, vacation regret, mental health, travel tips, budgeting, Spain, Ibiza, Alicante, psychological insights, vacation planning, post-booking audit, the what if loop.
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