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PARALLEL PARENTING: WITHOUT THE DRAMA

What happens when two parents love their child but simply cannot get along?

In this episode of The Men's Lounge LA Fatherhood Series, Sir Frederick and Coach Chriss explore parallel parenting—a structured approach that can help reduce conflict, create clearer boundaries, and keep children from being caught in the middle.

This conversation looks at what parallel parenting can actually sound like and feel like in real life, including difficult text messages, stressful pickups, different household rules, and the importance of keeping children out of adult disagreements.

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"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." — Paul Boese

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When someone you love breaks your trust, something inside you goes quiet. You want to believe them when they say they're sorry. But your heart has its own memory, and it doesn't forget because the words were pretty. If your partner is truly trying to make things right, you may wonder: How do I let them back in without losing myself?

Here's the gentle truth: accepting their efforts doesn't mean pretending the hurt ne...

"Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time." — Maya Angelou

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Trust is like a favorite coffee mug. When it breaks, you can glue it back together — but it takes time, care, and gentle hands. If you've hurt the person you love, you may wonder if things will ever feel safe again. Here's the good news: they can. Not overnight, and not with pretty promises. Trust comes back the same way it left — through what we do, day after day.

Here's how to begin.

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Veterans/RSS

HONORING OUR VETERANS: Their Service. Their Sacrifice. Their Stories.

What happens when our veterans return home and face challenges with homelessness, mental health, and rebuilding their lives?

Sir Frederick and Coach Chriss welcome Leo Cuadrado, Executive Director of New Directions for Veterans and retired U.S. Marine Corps Captain.

In this conversation, we explore the organization's 34-year mission of helping veterans rebuild their lives, the importance of community support, and the upcoming 2026 Honoring Our Heroes Gala, recognizing veterans who have overcome adversity and found a pathway forward.

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"Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is let go of what you thought your life should look like and embrace what it actually is." – Unknown

You've spent years building something — a career, a business, an education path. But lately you wake up with a heavy feeling in your chest. This path doesn't fit anymore. And you've invested so much time, money, and energy.

How do you know when it's time to quit and start over? How do you know if you're being brave or just giving up?

This Decision Can Feel Terrifying. Star...

"Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it." – Dorothy Thompson

Your teenager wants purple hair. Your child refuses vegetables. Your partner lets the kids stay up late on weekends. Every day you face the same choice: fight or let it go. And you're exhausted from trying to figure out which battles actually matter.

When you're in the middle of parenting, every choice feels like it could make or break your child's future. Messy room — are you teaching them to be slobs? Video games — are you rotting their brain? Flexible bedtim...

"A strong relationship isn't about agreeing on everything. It's about handling disagreements with respect." – Unknown

You're at the grocery store. Your child asks for candy. You say no. Then your partner walks over and buys it anyway — right there, in front of your kid, completely undermining you.

In that moment you have a split-second decision: say something now, let it go, or smile and pretend you're not furious?

It feels impossible because no matter what you choose, something goes wrong. When you and your partner openly disagree about parenting in f...

THE TRUF BROS: ON MASCULINITY. The Men’s Lounge LA is on the road in Chicago — The Chi — with comedian D. Patrick and Ray “The StormBreaker” Gage for a raw, unscripted conversation about manhood, responsibility, strength, vulnerability, culture, and what masculinity looks like today. This is not a rehearsed panel. Comedian D.Patrick and Ray did not receive the questions in advance. We challenge the usual definitions of masculinity, ask whether men are becoming weaker or simply being challenged to grow, and confront the role of fathers, culture, Hollywood, emotional discipline, accountability, and purpose. We also ask the harder question...

SUCCESSFUL CHILD SUPPORT: WHAT DOES IT REALLY LOOK LIKE? We’ve talked about the frustration, the financial pressure, the court system, and the emotional weight many fathers experience with child support. But in this episode of The Men’s Lounge LA Fatherhood Series, Sir Frederick and Coach Chriss change the conversation. What does successful child support actually look like? Is it simply making a payment? Is it staying involved in your child’s life? Is it planning ahead, keeping good records, communicating effectively, and taking responsibility even when the other parent is difficult? In this fireside conversation, we break down w...

10 Rules Every Father Should Follow — Part 2 #childsupportdrama #selfgrowth #mentalhealth The Men’s Lounge LA* In Part 1, we focused on preparation. In Part 2, we focus on character. Because a father can understand the paperwork, know the court order, and document everything—and still hurt himself if he cannot manage his emotions, communicate effectively, and stay focused on what his children need. Sir Frederick and Coach Chriss complete the final five of 10 Rules Every Father Should Follow: 6. Separate child support from parenting time 7. Control your emotions 8. Communicate professionally 9. Know your rights and your responsibilities 10. Never stop being a father This fireside conver...

“You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.” – Unknown

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You missed the school play because you needed a mental health day.

You said no to volunteering in the classroom because you’re already overwhelmed.

You let your kids watch more TV than usual because you just couldn’t do another activity.

And now? You feel like the worst parent in the world.

That Guilt Is Real (And It’s Lying to You)

Let’s tal...

“In parenting partnerships, it’s not about who’s right. It’s about what’s right for the child you both love.” – Unknown

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You think kids should earn screen time. Your partner just hands them the iPad whenever they ask.

You believe in natural consequences. Your partner swoops in to rescue them from every mistake.

You want organic food and early bedtimes. Your partner says you’re being too uptight.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

Here’s what makes...

10 Rules Every Father Should Follow — Part 1 The Men’s Lounge LA** In Part 1, we focused on preparation. In Part 2, we focus on character. Because a father can understand the paperwork, know the court order, and document everything—and still hurt himself if he cannot manage his emotions, communicate effectively, and stay focused on what his children need. Sir Frederick and Coach Chriss complete the final five of 10 Rules Every Father Should Follow: 6. Separate child support from parenting time 7. Control your emotions 8. Communicate professionally 9. Know your rights and your responsibilities 10. Never stop being a father This fireside conversation goes deeper into t...

“Your child doesn’t need you to be their friend. They have plenty of friends. What they need is a parent who loves them enough to guide them.” – Dr. Shefali Tsabary

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Here’s a question that keeps so many parents stuck: Should you be strict or should you be cool?

You want your kids to talk to you about everything. You want to be the parent they run to, not run from. But you also know they need rules and structure.

So you’re...

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is choose peace over staying in a war zone—even when that war zone is your home.” – Unknown

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Hey friend, let’s talk about something heavy that’s been sitting on your heart.

You’re lying awake at night asking yourself the same question over and over: “Should I stay for the kids, or is leaving actually better for them?”

This decision feels impossible because you love your children more than anything. You don’t want to hurt them. You...

"If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done." — Thomas Jefferson

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You keep ending up in the same situation. Different person, same problems. Different relationship, same ending.

And you wonder: "Why does this keep happening to me?"

Here's the hard truth: If your relationships keep failing in the same way, the common factor is you. Specifically, your attitude.

What Pattern Do You Keep Repeating?

Maybe you keep choosing people who aren't available. Maybe yo...

IS MASCULINITY DEAD?!?!?! (Pt.3) #selfimprovement #lifelessons #manhood #selfgrowth The Men’s Lounge LA is on the road in Chicago — The Chi — with comedian D. Patrick and Ray “The StormBreaker” Gage for a raw, unscripted conversation about manhood, responsibility, strength, vulnerability, culture, and what masculinity looks like today. This is not a rehearsed panel. Comedian D.Patrick and Ray did not receive the questions in advance. We challenge the usual definitions of masculinity, ask whether men are becoming weaker or simply being challenged to grow, and confront the role of fathers, culture, Hollywood, emotional discipline, accountability, and purpose. We also ask the ha...

IS MASCULINITY DEAD?!?!?! (Pt.2) #selfimprovement #lifelessons #manhood #selfgrowth The Men’s Lounge LA is on the road in Chicago — The Chi — with comedian D. Patrick and Ray “The StormBreaker” Gage for a raw, unscripted conversation about manhood, responsibility, strength, vulnerability, culture, and what masculinity looks like today. This is not a rehearsed panel. Comedian D.Patrick and Ray did not receive the questions in advance. We challenge the usual definitions of masculinity, ask whether men are becoming weaker or simply being challenged to grow, and confront the role of fathers, culture, Hollywood, emotional discipline, accountability, and purpose. We also ask the ha...

IS MASCULINITY DEAD?!?!?! (Pt.1) #selfimprovement #lifelessons #manhood #selfgrowth The Men’s Lounge LA is on the road in Chicago — The Chi — with comedian D. Patrick and Ray “The StormBreaker” Gage for a raw, unscripted conversation about manhood, responsibility, strength, vulnerability, culture, and what masculinity looks like today. This is not a rehearsed panel. Comedian D.Patrick and Ray did not receive the questions in advance. We challenge the usual definitions of masculinity, ask whether men are becoming weaker or simply being challenged to grow, and confront the role of fathers, culture, Hollywood, emotional discipline, accountability, and purpose. We also ask the ha...

"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." — Malachy McCourt

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You love them. But you resent them too.

Maybe it's your partner. Your parent. Your sibling. Your friend. You care about them. But there's hurt between you that hasn't healed. And every time you see them, you feel it.

Resentment is slow poison. It doesn't kill the relationship all at once. It just makes everything harder. Conversations feel heavy. Kindness feels fake. Connection feels impossible.

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"Your mind is a garden. Your thoughts are the seeds. You can grow flowers, or you can grow weeds."— Unknown

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You wouldn't eat garbage every day and expect to feel healthy. But most people feed their minds garbage thoughts every single day—and wonder why life feels so hard.

Toxic thoughts poison everything. Your confidence. Your relationships. Your parenting. Your peace.

It's time for an attitude detox. Time to clean out the toxic thoughts and replace them with truth.

Toxi...

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""Be careful how you talk to yourself. You are listening." — Unknown

You talk to yourself all day long. And most of the time, you don't even notice.

But that internal dialogue—the constant conversation in your head—is shaping your entire life.

It's time for an attitude audit. Time to listen to what you're really saying to yourself. Because what you say on the inside always shows up on the outside.

Internal dialogue is the voice in your head. The commen...

"Sometimes you outgrow people who were only meant to walk with you for part of the journey."

– Unknown

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You changed. Maybe you got healthy. Maybe you started therapy. Maybe you stopped drinking, started praying, or finally decided you deserved better.

And the people who used to fit your life? They do not fit anymore.

The jokes are not funny. The conversations feel shallow. The energy feels heavy.

You are not mad at them. You are ju...

"The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us, but those who win battles we know nothing about." – Unknown

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You are the one everyone calls.

When things fall apart, they text you. When they need help, they knock on your door. When they are sad, scared, or stuck, you show up.

You listen. You fix. You hold it together.

But who checks on you?

Who asks if you ar...

10 Things Men Should Keep Private! 1. Your Next Move Not every plan needs an audience. Some people clap for you publicly while quietly hoping you fail. Move in silence. Let results make the noise. 2. Your Emotional Struggles Not everyone deserves access to your pain. Be honest—but be selective about who you open up to. Seek wisdom, not sympathy. 3. Your Self-Doubt Every man battles uncertainty. But constantly speaking doubt gives it power. Work through it privately and build confidence through action. 4. Your Good Deeds If you always announce your generosity, it becomes performance. Real character doesn’t need applause. Do good...

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

— Warren Buffett

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Some of the kindest people I know are also the most tired.

They say yes to everything. They show up for everybody. They answer every call. They fix every problem. They carry other people’s feelings like they’re getting paid to do it.

But behind that kindness is often a quiet fear: “If I say no, they...

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Here is a question worth sitting with today.

Where are you going?

Not in five minutes. Not tomorrow. But with your life. With your family. With the one shot you have been given to build something real and meaningful and lasting — where exactly are you headed?

If that question makes you uncomfortable it is because most people have never been taught to answer it. We are great at reacting to life. We are not always great at directing it...

10 Things Men Should Keep Private! 1. Your Next Move Not every plan needs an audience. Some people clap for you publicly while quietly hoping you fail. Move in silence. Let results make the noise. 2. Your Emotional Struggles Not everyone deserves access to your pain. Be honest—but be selective about who you open up to. Seek wisdom, not sympathy. 3. Your Self-Doubt Every man battles uncertainty. But constantly speaking doubt gives it power. Work through it privately and build confidence through action. 4. Your Good Deeds If you always announce your generosity, it becomes performance. Real character doesn’t need applause. Do good...

Full episode here: https://detroitbodymindsoul.com/meditations/november-21-2025

“Life is about balance. Be kind, but don’t let people abuse you. Trust, but don’t be deceived. Be content but never stop improving yourself.” — Zig Ziglar

Let me tell you something I see every single day: parents beating themselves up over screen time. You’re worried your kids are glued to their tablets. You’re concerned about TikTok and YouTube rabbit holes. And honestly? You’re probably reading this on your phone right now, feeling a little guilty about your own scrolling habits.

He...

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“Parenthood…It's about guiding the next generation, and forgiving the last.”

- Peter Krause

Hi there my friend! If you’re raising a strong-willed child, you already know the drill. Every day can feel like you’re negotiating peace treaties over everything from what shoes they’ll wear to whether broccoli counts as actual food. Exhausting, right? Let’s talk about something that’ll save your sanity: learning when to pick your battles.

Since not every hill is worth dying on...

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“The greatest legacy one can pass on to one's children and grandchildren is not money or other material things accumulated in one's life, but rather a legacy of character and faith.” - Billy Graham

Hello there! Let’s talk about something that might sound grand and far-off, but is actually happening right now, in this very moment - your legacy.

When most folks hear the word “legacy,” they think about what gets said at funerals or what’s written on tombstones. But here’s the actual tru...

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Our Tuesdays meditation is brought to you by Detroit body mind and soul. each meditation is tailored to enhancing your mind, body and spirit.

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Explicit content!! haha just raw opinions on: child support, because it is something that affects family across America. Being a father is tough, child support usually affects you the most rather than the dead beats.

so we ask at what standard is a dead beat dad?

to us is the man step down when their kids need them the most. in words of coach Chriss "a bum".

children are the ones who suffer the most, but having a father that supports his children helps a lot when it comes down to shaping the...

Title: Baby Tattoos?! Parenting or Exploitation? | The Men’s Lounge LA Description: A viral video shows a one-year-old child covered in full-body tattoos… but they’re washable. Still—does that make it okay? In this episode of The Men’s Lounge LA, Sir Frederick and Coach Chriss sit down with guests Rita Jarvis and Andrew to break down the deeper issue: Is this harmless content… or straight-up exploitation? The panel dives into the controversial case of a toddler (Tayen aka “Nugget World”) being styled with tattoos, designer outfits, and luxury sneakers—all for social media attention. Topics We Get Into: Are the tatt...

On The Spectrum | Special Needs Employees Making a Difference | Ep. 4 – The Men’s Lounge LA 📝 The Men’s Lounge LA goes on the road to Anaheim, California, to highlight an inspiring story of purpose, dignity, and opportunity. In this episode, Sir Frederick and Coach Chris visit Rodgers Christmas Tree Lot, owned by former NFL player Tyrone Rodgers — a business that’s changing lives. Tyrone intentionally employs special needs young men and second-chance employees, training them throughout the entire Christmas season in every aspect of running the tree lot, including: • Greeting and serving customers• Helping families choose the perfect Christmas tree• Tying and s...

In this heartfelt episode, Sir Frederick and Coach Chris sit down with Tyrone Rodgers — former NFL player, 1991 Washington Huskies national champion, and proud father of a 24-year-old son on the autism spectrum. Tyrone shares his powerful journey raising a low-verbal adult son, Jhai, and how fatherhood reshaped his view of strength, patience, and unconditional love. From the gridiron to giving back, Tyrone opens up about Snoop Special Stars, his Christmas Tree Lot for special needs youth, and the Conservatorship Battle every special-needs parent should know about. This episode is a reminder that autism is not a limitation — it’s an inv...

In this heartfelt episode, Sir Frederick and Coach Chris sit down with Tyrone Rodgers — former NFL player, 1991 Washington Huskies national champion, and proud father of a 24-year-old son on the autism spectrum. Tyrone shares his powerful journey raising a low-verbal adult son, Jhai, and how fatherhood reshaped his view of strength, patience, and unconditional love. From the gridiron to giving back, Tyrone opens up about Snoop Special Stars, his Christmas Tree Lot for special needs youth, and the Conservatorship Battle every special-needs parent should know about. This episode is a reminder that autism is not a limitation — it’s an inv...

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