We're Doing It! with Sofia & Albert
Welcome to We’re Doing It!Forget the polished, picture-perfect marriage advice. We’ve been married for 12 years; we have two kids, and we are officially using a podcast to have the honest, everyday arguments that keep a long-term relationship real.Every week, join Sofia and Albert for an unfiltered, funny, and fiercely real look at the everyday stuff we all go through in life, parenting, and marriage. No characters, no labels, just two equal partners airing out their daily grievances, roasting each other's worst habits, and blind-reacting to the wildest relationship stories Reddit has to offer. From the invisible ment...
As Long as You’re Breathing, It’s Not Too Late: Addiction, Human Trafficking, Second Chances, & the Importance of Following Your Dreams [Michelle's Story]
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Content note: This episode contains discussion of addiction, domestic violence, human trafficking, sexual exploitation, and trauma.
What happens when following your dreams isn't about taking a leap of faith from a comfortable life...but about rebuilding a life you nearly lost?
In the first episode of our Importance of Following Your Dreams series, Sofia sits down with someone incredibly close to her, Michelle Cruz Bridges, whose story is one of survival, redemption, faith, discipline, and refusing to believe that her past...
The Death of a Pastor's Wife 3: Stephanie’s Story, Purity Culture, & What Mica Miller’s Journey Teaches Us about Finding Your Voice
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What is it really like to walk away from a high-control marriage and face the heavy machinery of church divorce culture? In Part 3 of our series inspired by the Netflix documentary The Death of a Pastor's Wife, Sofia is joined by a very special guest, Stephanie (name changed for anonymity), who shares her own powerful, firsthand story of surviving spiritual control, purity culture, and institutional abandonment.
Before diving into the heart of the conversation, we keep it real about the nerves, vulnerability, and awkwardness of sitting behind a microphone trying to u...
The Death of a Pastor's Wife 2: The Stigma of Divorce in the Church, Spiritual Abuse, & What Mica Miller’s Story Teaches Us about the Importance of Breaking Free
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Why do high-control religious environments treat divorce as an unforgivable sin while quietly sweeping abuse under the rug? In Part 2 of our deep dive inspired by the Netflix documentary The Death of a Pastor's Wife, Sofia and Albert unpack the heavy emotional and spiritual toll of church divorce culture, institutional betrayal, and the painful reality of surviving high-control marriages.
Moving past surface-level judgments, we break down the critical definitions of emotional, mental, and spiritual abuse, look at how Scripture and forgiveness get weaponized to keep victims trapped, and share why leaving a...
The Death of a Pastor's Wife: Deconstructing Patriarchy, Control & What Mica Miller’s Story Teaches Us about One-Sided Submission
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Why do high-control religious environments and demands for absolute obedience lead to such devastating consequences? In this deeply personal episode of We're Doing It!, Sofia and Albert dive into the real-world dynamics behind the documentary The Death of a Pastor's Wife. Moving beyond the headlines, we explore how patriarchal church leadership, weaponized submission, and toxic control shape marriages behind closed doors.
Drawing from historical research on the Southern Baptist Convention, the 1984 backlash against female ordination, and our own journey of deconstructing out of high-control church systems, we look at the dangerous...
The Art of Letting Go: Marketplace Horror Stories, Sock Mysteries, Emotional Chaos, and Midlife Decluttering
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In this episode of We’re Doing It, Sofia and Albert dive into the cathartic (and sometimes chaotic) process of decluttering...not just physical items, but mental and emotional baggage too. Sofia shares the thrill of making sales online after losing her job, along with the hilarious realities of Facebook Marketplace: lowball offers, strange 10 PM meetup locations, and accidental harassment over Zelle transactions. Plus, things get spicy as they debate the "great sock mystery," Tasmanian devil tool piles in the barn, and reading wild Reddit threads about the worst Marketplace interactions.
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Turning 40, First-Time Makeup Mistakes, Midlife Clarity, and When He Asks to Come Back
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In this episode of We’re Doing It, Sofia and Albert dive into the reality of turning 40, shifting mindsets, and why "midlife clarity" feels so much better than a midlife crisis. Sofia shares the hilarious and intimidating experience of buying makeup for the very first time, while Albert reflects on financial maturity, emotional growth, and what getting older really looks like. Plus, they tackle a heavy Best of Redditor Updates story about a woman dealing with an unstable spouse and learning to set hard boundaries.
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I Almost Didn’t Post This: The Vulnerable Truth About Parenting, Kids Roasting Us, and Unfiltered Mom Guilt
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I almost didn’t post this episode.
For our 10th milestone episode, Albert and I decided to tackle a topic we’ve been avoiding: parenting. To keep things light, we brought our daughters on the show to play a quick game of "Who's Most Likely To" and roast us as parents. Well, they didn't hold back, and I’m not going to lie…hearing their honest perspectives hit my ego hard and left me feeling deeply embarrassed and completely exposed.
As a mom, you try so hard every si...
Shut Up & Act Normal: Public Fights, Car Farts, and Being Embarrassed by Our Spouse.
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What happens when "for better or for worse" means dealing with public scenes, bad posture, and cultural clashes?
This week on We're Doing It!, Sofia and Albert return for part two of their summer series on all the things married couples do that make each other cringe.
From Albert calling out Sofia's open-mouthed chewing to Sofia calling out Albert for slumping until he looks like a literal letter 'C', no bad habit is safe! Plus, we're answering listener fan mail about window-lock fart traps in the car...
Why Are You Like This? Public Embarrassments, Weird Wardrobe Choices and Husbands Who Misremember Everything
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Do you ever look at your spouse in public and think, "I love you, but please pretend you don't know me right now"?
This week on We're Doing It!, Sofia and Albert dive into the deeply relatable, slightly gross, and hilarious boundaries that collapse once you’ve been married long enough.
From accidentally spending 30 entire minutes dissecting the mechanics of passing gas (and why Albert thinks farts are an inherited genetic trait), to navigating the unwritten rules of marital body boundaries—we are layi...
Mildly Infuriating Annoyances: Part 2, Texting Read Receipts, Overstimulation Resentment, and the Reality of the "Man Flu,"
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Are we completely losing our minds, or are everyday irritations just hitting harder late at night? We are back with a brand-new episode of We’re Doing It, and this week, Sofia and Albert are coming to you live from the nostalgic depths of a bedroom closet!
We are officially diving into the mildly infuriating annoyances, part 2. First, Sofia breaks down the sheer anxiety of modern texting etiquette, confessing that she spent years thinking "left on read" meant something about the color red, and why she strictly keeps her read receipts tur...
Mildly Infuriating Habits of Everyday Life: Grocery Cart Procrastination, Missing Hygiene Habits, and the Stress of Everyday Logistics
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We’re back this week on We’re Doing It, and we are breaking down the mildly infuriating everyday pet peeves that drive us completely insane. Since Sofia has to make her own coffee at home now because we are broke, we are tackling the universal frustrations of public behavior and household logistics while running on pure brain fog.
First up, we give a massive shout-out to our isolated listeners tuning in overseas in Germany, the Netherlands, and the UK. Then, we dive right into the ultimate test of human character: peopl...
The Reality of AI Relationships: Chatbots Replacing Real Human Connections, and the Modern Loneliness Epidemic.
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Is your AI chatbot secretly a better friend than the real people in your life? This week, Sofia and Albert are back with a brand-new episode of We’re Doing It, and they brought along a very special guest: their long-time friend, 6th-grade classroom alum, and veteran, Victoria!
Following up on last week's massive wave of listener DMs confirming that absolutely nobody has adult friends right now, the crew tackles the modern loneliness epidemic and the terrifying rise of AI relationships. Sofia gets brutally honest about her own premium $20/month subscription br...
Are We the Problem? Really Shitty Friends (Friendship Audit Part 2)
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Are we the dream besties we think we are, or are we actually the problem? 🫣 In Part 2 of our adult friendship episodes, we are turning the mirror on ourselves! We dive into our own "sus" friendship habits, from Albert’s ADHD brain replies that never actually get sent to whether Sofia is secretly hogging the conversation in group settings.
Plus, we read an absolutely wild, unhinged Reddit story about a "friend" who accused someone of stealing her boyfriend... except the boyfriend had literally zero clue they were even dating. It’s giving...
Pure Drama of Adult Friendships: Friendship Breakups and the Hurtful Reality of Loneliness as Grown-Ups
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Welcome back to We're Doing It! Today we are tackling a topic we all thought we’d be done with by high school graduation: friendship breakups, adult drama, and the absolute minefield of making new connections as grown-ups.
From getting inexplicably ghosted by long-time couple friends to navigating boundary-crossing coworkers who wait in your room before the work day starts, Sofia and Albert lay it all out. If you’ve ever looked at your circle and realized you might actually have zero close friends to call when you’re sad, this episod...
Broke, Bitter, & Going Back to School to Make Less Money
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Every morning starts the exact same way: "Good morning, Sofia. Today you are poor, and that's okay."
This week, we are stripping away the filters and talking about the absolute reality of going through a financial crisis of poverty together. After Sofia's second corporate-bankruptcy layoff in a year (looking at you, Dr. Phil for the first time around) and Albert's career pivot resulting in a reverse-flex pay cut, we are officially in survival mode.
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Psyching Out Your Brain: Why we are currently rewashing o...Double Standards & The Things We Can't Stand About Each Other
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What happens when an intense, calendar-obsessed household manager is married to a chaotic, defensive ADHD creative? Welcome to the relaunch of We’re Doing It, where we air out 12 years of dirty laundry, bicker on mic, and blind-react to each other’s deepest marital grievances.
In this pilot episode, Sofia roasts Albert for "ADHD Confabulation" (vividly making up memories of conversations that only happened in his head), leaving his wire collections and half-folded laundry across the house, and running a non-stop excuse machine. Albert immediately retaliates by auditing Sophia's massive double stan...
