Iron & Grace

What if comparison is quietly hurting your marriage?

In this extremely personal episode, I asked my wife Emily to have an honest conversation with me about comparison, expectations, and the ways we can make our spouse feel like they’re never quite enough. And maybe that’s the heart of it: learning to see, cherish, and love the person God entrusted to us; not the person we imagined they’d be.

We need to talk about men’s mental health.

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Darren Zancan to have a raw, unfiltered conversation about mental health. We discuss reasons behind why men struggle to open up to each other, and how learning to talk about what’s happening inside of us is part of becoming healthier men who are willing to be honest, ask for help, and walk through life with others instead of carrying everything alone.

What do you do when God calls you into the unknown? In this conversation, my friend Caleb shares his journey of leaving behind certainty, learning to trust God’s leading, and discovering that faithfulness often comes before clarity. If you’re a man standing at a crossroads in your life today, this episode is an encouragement to stop waiting for all the answers and simply take the next faithful step.

This week, I sit down with my friend Michael Grice, lead vocalist of Christian metalcore band The Light Superior to discuss what it really means for a man to be the spiritual leader of his home. In this episode, we challenge cultural and Christian assumptions about biblical manhood; and we explore why true spiritual leadership looks more like servanthood, sacrifice, and following Jesus than holding a title.

Join me this week, as I sit down to have a conversation with my friend Cam Marks about the importance of emotional intelligence in men and how learning to understand, and process, the things we feel can actually help transform the way we lead, love, and live for God.

Note: Please excuse the brief technical difficulties around the 45 minute mark. 😅

Ten episodes. Ten years of becoming.

This week, I’m doing something I’ve never done before: writing a letter to my younger self. A decade ago, I couldn’t have imagined where life would take me. Through heartbreak, hard lessons, unexpected grace, and the faithfulness of God, this episode is a reminder that becoming the man you’re meant to be is often slower, harder, and more beautiful than you ever imagined.

This week, I’m joined by Derek Morris for an honest conversation about PTSD; what it is, how it affects someone, and why so many people suffer in silence. Together, we challenge common misconceptions and explore how faith, community, and compassionate support can become part of the healing journey. Whether PTSD has touched your own life or someone you love, this conversation offers hope and a reminder that no one has to walk through it alone.

In this special episode, I sit down with my little girl for an honest, unfiltered conversation about what it’s like to have me as her daddy. Her simple, heartfelt answers made me laugh, humbled me, and reminded me what really matters. If you’re a father who’s ever wondered what kind of legacy you’re leaving, you don’t want to miss this one.

This week, we’re joined by our friend Drew Goodrich from Lost Sheep Co for our first ever collaboration! Join us as we talk through self-control, freedom in Christ, and what our approach to alcohol reveals about a man’s heart.

This weeks’ episode is a conversation exploring five of the most important questions we believe men are quietly asking about faith, mental health, and life beneath the surface.

No one taught us these rules, yet somehow every man knows them - the ‘head nod’, carrying every grocery bag in one trip, helping a friend move, and keeping a drawer full of random screws “just in case.”

In this lighter episode, we laugh at some of the “unwritten” rules of men while exploring the truth beneath them and the deeper need we all have for brotherhood and community.

We don’t become men overnight. Growth happens gradually, shaped by the way we carry ourselves every day. It comes from the habits we build, the responsibilities we accept, and the decisions we make when nobody is watching. Who we become is built in the small decisions of everyday life. Each choice leaves its mark, steadily shaping your character and direction.

So maybe the most important question isn’t what you’re trying to get out of life. Maybe it’s this: When the dust settles and the years pass, what kind of man will your daily decision...

This weeks’ episode explores a quiet unraveling that many men experience.

Outwardly, life looks fine. Responsibilities are handled, routines continue, and everything seems steady. But underneath, something begins to fade. Presence weakens. Joy dulls. Connection slips away. A man can keep functioning while slowly disappearing into exhaustion, distraction, and survival. Over time, numbness feels normal, and emotional distance feels safe.

This episode asks a difficult question:

What if what you’ve called strength was actually the slow loss of yourself?

The people closest to you can sharpen your purpose, or slowly drain it. Who has access to you…and who is shaping you because of it? In this episode, we explore discernment, emotional boundaries, and the quiet importance of choosing carefully who gets access to your inner world. Looking at the example Jesus set throughout Scripture, we look at the men closest to Jesus - their failures, fears, pride, growth, and transformation; and what their lives reveal about the power of proximity.

Because letting the right One in isn’t about distance; it’s about surrender.

In this pilot episode, we set the foundation for what this podcast is really about: the quiet weight many men carry but rarely speak on. In identity, in responsibility, in emotion, and in the spaces where they’ve been taught to stay quiet. We explore pressure, emotional exhaustion, and the unspoken expectations tied to being “strong.”

No answers. No performance. Just honesty, and the start of something real.

Welcome to the beginning of the weight.