It Ends With You

In this solo episode, I share something I’ve noticed with almost every guest on this podcast. When I ask about their childhood, they begin with the good: the vacations, the sacrifices, the love. And then, slowly, the other stories come out. The things that happened in between. I talk about why we protect the stories we tell about our childhood, what a quiet moment in one of my Healing Roots Circles taught me, and how gratitude and grief can live side by side. I close with two questions to sit with this week, because you don’t have to s...

Rocky Lind grew up in what looked like a normal, loving home: a former Marine dad, two older sisters, and sports, his safe place to quietly hide. It took a breaking point in his marriage, a spirituality workshop he never expected to attend, and years of inner work to see what had been quietly shaping him. In this conversation, Rocky names the pattern he inherited, hiding and fawning to keep the peace, and shares how inner child work helped him stop blaming his ten-year-old self for not being "man enough." We talk about comparative suffering, redefining masculinity and courage...

Yasmine Beydoun returns for part two of her story. This time as a mother navigating her son's years-long battle with juvenile arthritis, from a wheelchair in Lisbon to a doctor who dismissed her instincts. Yasmine shares how she learned to trust her own inner knowing over medical authority and community pressure, how she held boundaries even her own mother struggled with, and how creating safety for her son to speak his fear out loud changed them both. The episode closes with a moment neither of them saw coming: three generations of women in her family carried trauma at age...

Yasmine Beydoun grew up Lebanese, "of the world" ,  five schools in five years, a childhood shaped by displacement, war, and a body that learned to brace before it learned to rest. To survive it, she built what she calls "the Charmer": funny, agreeable, always ready to say yes. It followed her into corporate life, into addiction, into motherhood , until a stillbirth and her son's illness broke something open.

In this conversation, Yasmine names the pattern she inherited in three words,  Crazy, Control, Criticism, and traces how compassionate inquiry, not shame, became her way back to herself. We ta...

At fourteen, Brian survived a brain tumor, emergency surgery, and a fifty-fifty chance of waking up. What he carried afterward wasn't just gratitude, it was a shield: an unspoken decision to never add more pain to a family already breaking under what had happened.

In this episode, Brian shares how that shield quietly became a lifelong pattern of defensiveness and "type A-ness," one he couldn't fully see until it started showing up in his own children. From a competitive childhood to letting go of the identity he'd built around his career title, Brian opens up about ego...

Have you ever found yourself caught in the middle of someone else's conflict? Or perhaps you've reached out to someone else before having the difficult conversation you knew you needed to have?

In this short solo episode, I explore the often-overlooked family dynamic of triangulation. What it is, why so many of us unconsciously fall into it, and how it quietly keeps relationships stuck. I share why I believe we often seek relief instead of resolution, why direct conversations can feel so difficult, and how choosing curiosity over alliances can become a powerful act of healing.

Hazel Swayne grew up in a home filled with love, and unpredictability. As a child, she learned to protect others, keep the peace, and make sure everyone around her was okay. Those patterns followed her into adulthood, shaping how she parented, led, and showed up in relationships.

In this conversation, Hazel shares how learning to set healthier boundaries has transformed her parenting and the legacy she’s leaving behind. Together, we explore people-pleasing, parentification, fear-based parenting, presence, and why breaking cycles isn't about becoming perfect, but about choosing differently, one moment at a time.

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We often believe healing happens the moment we understand our past. But awareness is only the beginning.
 
In this conversation, I sit down with Genoveva La Placa to explore what happens after we recognize the patterns we've inherited. Together we discuss how true transformation comes through practice, presence, and the courage to respond differently, even when old patterns still feel familiar.

Geno shares her journey from chronic striving, suppressed emotions, and perfectionism to a life grounded in authenticity, compassion, and deeper connection with herself, her husband, and her three daughters. Together we explore why emotions a...

As a child, Sophie learned that being responsible, high-achieving, and easy was the safest way to earn love and attention. Beneath her success lived inherited beliefs about worth, security, independence, and what it meant to be a woman.

In this conversation, Sophie shares how the loss of her father, the influence of two very different female role models, and her struggle to decide whether to have children forced her to question what truly belonged to her and what she had been carrying for others. Together, we explore performance, self-compassion, intuition, and the freedom that comes from choosing...

In this episode, I sit down with physician, executive coach, and lifelong learner Aparna Ananth to explore what happens when the identities we've built our lives around begin to fall away.

From a childhood marked by emotional self-reliance to a successful career in medicine and leadership, Aparna shares how a fiercely independent protector helped her survive, achieve, and thrive. But when a sabbatical, an unexpected divorce, and the loss of long-held identities arrived almost simultaneously, she found herself facing a question she could no longer ignore: "Is this all there is?"

This is a deeply...

What if healing isn’t becoming someone new… but remembering who you’ve always been?

Chelsea grew up feeling loved and supported. And yet, somewhere along the way, she learned to stay small, avoid conflict, and earn belonging through being “good.” In this episode, Chelsea shares how motherhood, illness, and deep self-reflection helped her recognize inherited patterns and begin choosing herself differently. 

A conversation about authenticity, reclaiming your voice, and giving the next generation permission to be fully themselves.

This episode is part of the Restoring phase of cycle-breaking.

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As a child, Leslie sensed something wasn’t right long before she had words for it. After being taken from her home, growing up across countries, navigating instability, and later experiencing abuse, she developed one powerful strategy to survive: control.

In this deeply honest conversation, Leslie shares how that protector showed up throughout her life through perfectionism, bulimia, achievement, work, relationships, and eventually parenting. But what changed everything wasn’t forcing herself to be different. It was learning to see the pattern, understand what it was protecting, and give it a name.

Together, we explore what...

It Ends With You is a space for courageous conversations about interrupting inherited patterns, reclaiming your truth, and freeing future generations. Hosted by Patricia Díaz-Kismarton, this podcast features real, everyday people sharing honest stories of the subtle family dynamics that often go unnamed. 

At the end of each episode, Patricia offers reflections and insights drawn from her work with clients, bringing a grounded perspective to what it takes to break cycles and choose something different. New episodes are released one to two times a month, inviting listeners to notice what has been quietly repeating an...

In this episode of It Ends With You, we explore the first phase of cycle-breaking: Awakening; the moment you begin to notice that something doesn’t feel right anymore, even if you can’t fully explain why.

Melanie shares her deeply personal journey of growing up with loss, loneliness, and the impact it had on how she showed up in relationships. From intense jealousy and fear of abandonment to overgiving and losing herself in the need to be loved, she reflects on the patterns she carried for years without fully understanding them.

Together, we e...