Reflections of Evelyn

This week's episode was some thoughts and belief systems that I hold that I needed to run down with my therapist to better understand why there are some hurdles, no matter how long it took, no matter how many sessions, could not seem to jump through on my own.

I was on a drive one day and all these thoughts came rushing into my brain and I felt as though I needed to process why these challenges are so large for me and why having patience for who I am alone, was not enough. I...

Sometimes you just gotta just put your foot down and adjust your life to accommodate what is actually important to you. Sometimes that looks like saying no when you know you need something more. You are not asking too much. Asking “too much” often means you are with the wrong person or the wrong situation. When it flows, you will know.

It hurts deeply when you love someone or something who comes up with 10 million excuses why they can’t show up for you but this is your reminder that sometimes what leads you to the values you ac...

I ended up going back to SLO for work and got to enjoy another trip to The Madonna Inn. That $60 actually included an appetizer I forgot about so I feel like I came out ahead. Shout out to my bartender, she makes the entire experience. I met some fun characters at the bar and was reminded that you are never alone if you choose to surround yourself with good company and the relationship you hold with yourself.

In case anyone wanted that Twin Peak experience I talked about in this episode, it is called “Old Cayucos Tavern”. I ho...

I had to screenshot these concepts “one million times" on my phone to make sure it was fully implanted in my brain and please save this episode for your records so that you may too feel some relief. These concepts are beyond fascinating to me and really are helping me get through my own frustrations. How fascinating is it that no matter how much you may wish you could go back and change circumstances, you could NOT have regardless and even more fascinating is it, that where you ended up is apparently where you were supposed to be all al...

I have figured something out in the “Game Of Life” I have going on with the universe & how they operate with me. I don’t understand why it needs to be this way but it is the relationship I have with the world around me.

Maybe if I was bleeding out on the floor & couldn’t walk, maybe he would send someone along. Yesterday I was doing my oil change & it took me close to 4 hours to get it done because my tool wasn’t working & I didn’t want to give up. I had a moment in my head w...

Less than one month after my car accident and my bumper was “replaced”, it is now starting to come off again. You would think $1500 would be enough to fix the problem. Just goes to show you an important lesson. You want something to get done right, you gotta do it yourself! I should have stuck to my guns of who I wanted to take my car to, not who State Farm recommended as a premium choice.

This here episode is about not giving up and advocating for yourself. This guy who I met at my old dealership woul...

I love my friends so much, and this guy in particular has a special place in my heart because I have known him for almost a decade now. We lived together as roommates during a big transition in our lives, and we even met working together. He and I are cut from similar cloths, both crazy and both trying to figure out this thing called “life” together. Coincidently we are going to a gallery opening in downtown Los Angeles together in a few hours. He made a joke to come be gay and joyous and maybe I would meet the...

I love my friends so much, and this guy in particular has a special place in my heart because I have known him for almost a decade now. We lived together as roommates during a big transition in our lives, and we even met working together. He and I are cut from similar cloths, both crazy and both trying to figure out this thing called “life” together. Coincidently we are going to a gallery opening in downtown Los Angeles together in a few hours. He made a joke to come be gay and joyous and maybe I would meet the...

My pops and I headed up to Northern California for my cousin's wedding and this is what we do. We talk about everything. Two different generations talking here. The only times I get to really sit down and talk to my dad is our road trips up north for Thanksgiving, special events, and fathers day. Like father, like daughter I guess you can say. I know where it comes from at least… We even have my mom chiming in as she calls about “ten times” on our way up keeping the conversation lively.

We begin our conversation with m...

In October of my birthday month, two years after recovering from my first home invasion, I spent a long time afterwards reaching out to the State Assembly, my cities Prosecutors Office, on record with a judge & two attorneys, consumer affairs, BBB…and the one thing they all had in common was, complacency. No follow ups, no returned emails or phone calls, and I was left to take matters into my own hands.

I was then left with a few different options that I contemplated in my head. “Well Evelyn, you can move into your family house who are...

I want to send a special shout out to a dear friend and loved one who I recently connected with from high school and share some of the love and support she has given me since we have reconnected. It is so lovely to have her as my gal pal from Chicago and wanted to pass along her instagram page if you are interested in any life coaching, spiritual readings, or personal guidance you may be seeking. Tell her that Evelyn sent you and you are interested in a $25 session with her. She is exceptional and genuine. Here is...

In this week's episode we will talk about what projection sounds like, trauma responses, stress, and mental recovery for some. We are ranging from topics of cyber abuse, corruption in hospitals, and even writing checks to the FBI! This episode has it all. I hope this episode gives you some peace and clarity in your own situations as you recover from whatever you have dealt with in the past or even possibly still chugging through currently.

This episode is a taste of that and a reminder not to take your trauma with you and leave it out...

Nuff said honestly.

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It took him two weeks to hop back on the apps and start “dating” again, distracting him from his mission but that is a part of his journey. He had to gain confidence in himself that can’t be taught from another person. He could never trust that I wasn’t talking to other guys.

For me, dating is intentional. And you shouldn’t be saying you are looking for a long term partnership with someone on a dating app when you are looking for something casual. It would take a lot of awareness on someone's part to know th...

This week's episode will be a part of a two week series on relationships & the many forms it takes in our hearts, brain & stomach.

For the last almost six years, I have been what you kids like to call, “No Contact”. He is not dead, he can reach out to me any time, but he is on his own journey and for whatever reason, [God] intended us to stay apart. I held on for a very long time. As hard as I could. I am the most driven, determined, loving, and fearless people I know, & I will and...

This week's episode concludes the first season of Reflections Of Evelyn! Whoohoo!

I am beyond grateful to each & every one of you who engaged and listened from all over the world. It truly is an honor to be a part of this journey with you. Like most of you, we have no idea where our lives will end up or how. For better & for worse. My friend told me yesterday when I was stressing out about a flat tire, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it." and I was also reminded of wh...

You really don’t know anything until you travel and see/experience it for yourself. Just know, you take all your issues and baggage with you too. I was very envious for many years of some of my family members who got to travel to many countries with my favorite cousins and I was always left out. This time, a dream came true and I got to experience an unforgettable trip with them as we rented a car and drove all around the touristy areas.

I was very skeptical about visiting cities like Playa Del Ca...

I had some pre-flight and travel jitters when trying to prepare for my flight to Cancún, Mexico with a connecting flight from Leon. Wherever that was. My last big trip out of the country was in 2019 when I went to Egypt and a lot has changed since then for me. I had to trust a neighbor with my keys, pay him and an old friend to feed my cat and take me to the airport, and truly learn how to let go. It was really hard for me to leave everything behind and allow myself to have fun w...

…you know, all the stuff you “shouldn’t talk about”

insert grinch gif

Movie mentioned in this episode “Lord Of War”

⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AXgyoER0aRc⁠

^Because who doesn’t love Nicolas Cage right? I swear a version of this movie is completely true.

…The word I could not remember when describing how wonderful love making could be was…SEROTONIN!

I don’t know about your friends and family network, but there are some topics you just don’t want to bring up around a dinner table o...

We are finishing up our Road Trip to Fresno. If you didn’t catch the last episode, “What Is A Predator?” make sure to check that one out before continuing with this one.

This morning, the dude I recently started dating, bought me a breakfast burrito because I bought him a special meal last night for all of his hard work and efforts he has been putting into his new career lately. He said, “What was I gonna do? Get myself something and not you”? All I could process out of my mouth was a whimper and I said, “...

When I was in junior high, I had a best friend at the time who gave me my very first girl kiss in the jacuzzi of her hot tub and later she broke it off as friends because I guess she thought I was too religious and wouldn’t understand or accept her, but hey, I was there for it. And one day, her dad treated us to a getaway at some fancy Westin resort near Palm Springs and it was just me, my best friend, her dad and her brother. Her brother was some sort of “special”. I don’t...

Recently, I received a very big gift, or one I thought was very big as it was consuming my mind a little bit and making me anxious. My sliding glass door and screen was a bit old school and would not lock or shut properly allowing flies to come in and with Long Beach, you never know who wants to jump onto your balcony and I wanted to make sure my door would lock so I could feel safe. I had one general contractor come over and tell me it was a $250 job to align the doors and lock...

I went to prom the other day, fine, okay, I was working one and I could not get over how much older I felt and so ‘mom’ like when I saw all these girls dressed up and ready to have some fun and all I wanted to do was make sure they were safe and well taken care of.

My friend made a comment to me, “When did you become such a momma bear” when I kept trying to find the most appropriate way to console and assist this young band performer who was sweating like a dog, cha...

Here are some of my new favorite quotes I recently discovered to help you get through your day. Read 'em and weep! Which one shakes you to your core? Does it change/help your life? Read these very slowly. In your head once, and out loud once. Boom. You are welcome.

You can also commit injustice by doing nothing. -Marcus Aurelius

(...because I ran out of characters on Episode 19…I was clearly passionate about that topic…)

To be happy, you must eliminate two things: the fear of a ba...

Recently, a guy bought two Airtags off me, replaced the batteries, and said, "You just have to unpair them.” Insert spiral.

I told him they were probably paired to a device that had been stolen years ago. Whoever still has that stolen phone controls the tags forever because Apple refuses to help me recover the account tied to them.

Meanwhile, some people spend hundreds every month storing boxes of junk in garages & storage units they never even visit. Stuff collecting dust, rotting away, getting eaten by bugs & rodents. People hoard objects they don’t even cher...

Say condoms one more time in this episode Evelyn and this will become a drinking game. Ha!

The girls at the front desk kept saying, “You know you can go to free health clinics to find free condoms right?” And I said, "I ain't trying to attract no small penises in my life anymore”. And what am I going to do? Grab the whole container? No one size fits small, for me!

Shout out to my mom and dad who bought me condoms! I was too frugal to get the good kinds. If my childhood tv sho...

Until you reach your goal of a secure and confident attachment style, if that is your goal, you still feel the crushing pain of break-ups, situationships, and the all knowing and famous, “it’s complicated”. It does not matter if you break up with them or them you, it is still agonizing in different ways. Pain is pain. This episode is a special guest episode with my dear friend Joseph who was trying to support me as a friend and give me some dating advice as he has seen me go through the wringer of liking the real “winners”. When I lik...

Today I went on a road trip and journey, LITERALLY!

Life will always have never ending struggles and challenges along your journey, but how you approach them and react to them gets easier over time by putting in the HARD work. Whatever that looks like for you. No one said it would be fun and easy. It is all in the perspective… An older man falling asleep at the wheel at a traffic stop while braving the West LA traffic could be seen as “That poor old man who is struggling” and you feel bad for him. Anothe...

Everyone has a bad day. Or two. Or three. It’s “fun” when you can get to a point where the pain only lasts a couple of hours because of your growth and you are able to hold on much easier. Whether it is music, a therapist, your favorite sport, treating yourself to a yummy sausage breakfast burrito from Pepe’s Finest, spending time with a loved one, a pet or a cozy movie, hold on to that, take a deep breath in and let it alllllll out, out loud. Over and over again until it works. Slow, easy breaths...

If “words” are too much right now, just look below for some very helpful and inspiring quotes that very eloquently describe this episode, perfectly.

I must say, I am particularly proud of this episode. The more you know, the more at peace you feel with your decisions. Knowledge is in your power and the scope of what you are able to see and understand. The plot of this episode is to challenge everything you see and hear. Especially in today's world with AI and corrupted/powerful forces at hand, it is of vital importance to find understanding for...

Life can be full of wonderful surprises when you least expect it if you are open to it. How else can life bring joy into your life unless you make room for it? I mean, I guess you can get hit by a car or be smacked in the face, if you want. Or, you can receive a gentle nudge/guidance to remind you of life's little pleasures. I like to believe if your car breaks down, maybe you needed to have a much needed break from work, if there is no work at all, maybe you need to...

Each generation comes with its own set of societal rules and trends and all come with their own struggles. You know what you know at the time you are experiencing it and change can come on an individual level if you choose to think and act differently for yourself. When generations start to mix and people get older, situations can look convoluted and difficult to adjust to when it is all you have ever known but you can be the change you wish to see in the world. You are your own person.

Thoughts to...

Watch Law Abiding Citizen and Seven Psychopaths if you are looking for good films to watch as they are a great depiction of bits I talk about in this episode when I had to miss work to attend Jury Duty. Nuff said. Enjoy!

"It's not what you know. It's what you can prove in court". -Law Abiding Citizen

Movie clip: https://youtu.be/fZdvuM9sI3M?si=kLonE3fFhpctKg3L

“You're the one who thought psychopaths were so interesting, but they're kinda tiresome after a while, don't yo...

I had an online, psychic reader yesterday tell me that for $475 and a team of 7 working round the clock for 7-10 days, can break my cursed roots from my Egyptian past life and be with my soul partner now. She said we freed so many slaves that dark energies were so enraged that they kept us apart for life times to come as punishment. Life always separated us and we spent thousands of years trying to get back together as that was always fate but something always kept us apart. Mainly the dark attachment energy that she said surrounded...

I had an online, psychic reader yesterday tell me that for $475 and a team of 7 working round the clock for 7-10 days, can break my cursed roots from my Egyptian past life and be with my soul partner now. She said we freed so many slaves that dark energies were so enraged that they kept us apart for life times to come as punishment. Life always separated us and we spent thousands of years trying to get back together as that was always fate but something always kept us apart. Mainly the dark attachment energy that she said surrounded...

For any of you folks who are paying attention, congratulations, you smart person you, this is not the heart break episode, I made a boo boo, and that will be #10. This episode is some beautiful life reflections on a great drive in San Clemente, California off Ortega Hwy. I highly recommend it if you are in town to check out this highway and its lush greenery and rolling hills. It is a little gem I do not hear a lot of people talk about. You are welcome. This episode helps us appreciate the moment we are in and given...

I know some of you thrill seekers and goblin chasers out there celebrate year round and this episode is for you. And for you nasties out there, I don’t know who Miguel is, (Coas) or however you would say that artists name; I can only make educated guesses; all I know is that he had a billboard floating around recently advertising his new album somewhere near West LA, and when I saw that poster while driving for work one day, I tripped balls sockets because it was a great depiction of the penthouse scene I speak about in th...

Self respect comes in many forms, not limited at all, and can be very individualized, person to person, situation to situation. In my case, it’s strange to think about. If I want to find love or be loved fully, the way it is in my heart, apparently, life doesn’t want to show me what love is, but what it isn’t, first. Why exactly? Why does it need to be that way? Not for everyone, I’m sure, we all have different lessons. I don’t think I have blinders on and at ‘x’ amount of time I will magical...

Welcome back to Part 2! Here are some notes I have taken from some of my favorite philosophers on indirect communication and ironist theory. Their words transcend time and hold relevant truth even today. Meditate on these if it resonates with you during the episode. Relatable?

Søren Kierkegaard, philosopher, speaks on subjective truth: If a person does not become what he understands, he does not understand it either. Socrates, If you knew what he was actually thinking…all he was doing was teasing out of the inconsistency of what others were saying. The truths that are most imp...

Hello? McFly? Anyone there? Am I talking to a wall here? Just calling it out the way I see it. One of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite artists, Rufus Wainwright “Do you really think you go to hell for having loved?”. In this episode I will show you a real life conversation, verbatim, of what grief can sound and look like, in all of its layers and forms. Bargaining: Can we make this work? What needs to change to turn back time and make things anew. Can we? Does the world really come back full circle? Can...