It's You. Oh F*ck. It's ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist.

In this episode, I’m joined by Sarah G.

Sarah is a university student working full time, with a strong interest in self improvement, introspection, and understanding herself beyond surface level thinking.

We sit inside intuition, overthinking, and inaction.

Not as concepts.
As lived experience.

We talk about the split most of us are taught early on.

Mind over body.
Logic over feeling.
Thinking over knowing.

Sarah speaks about growing up trusting thought above everything else. Over analysing. Interrogating every decision. Delaying action until ev...

In this episode, I’m joined by Di Black.

Di is a psychotherapist and someone who was also my therapist for a period of time. She brings depth, honesty, and a willingness to sit in uncomfortable spaces without needing to rush to answers.

We sit inside fear, identity, and vulnerability.

Not as concepts.
As lived experience.

We start with a question that hits hard.

Share your most guarded secret.
Your most embarrassing fear.
The thing you least want to say out loud.

We stay wi...

In this episode, I’m joined by Tommy.

Tommy is in recovery. He is also a businessman, a dog dad, and the founder of Takeoff Monkey, a construction estimating business he built after drinking himself out of everything and starting again from nothing.

We sit inside recovery, accountability, and what happens when one person starts to wake up.

Not as ideas.
As lived experience.

We talk about what it means to admit fault in a relationship and then have that honesty turned back on you as a weapon.

We...

In today's episode I am on my own.

Last week Toni Will left the next guest a question.

What have you changed your mind about lately?

Usually my guests get hit with that question without warning. This time it landed on me.

For most of my life I believed the problem in my relationships was the other person.

The partner.
The boss.
The coworker.

Different people. Same story.

Eventually something uncomfortable happened.

I ran out of people to blame.

...

In this episode, I’m joined by Toni Will.

Toni is the General Manager of a men’s professional hockey team in Michigan. She is one of the few women in the world in that role. She is five and a half years sober, runs a coaching business helping high functioning professionals reduce or remove substances from their lives, hosts a podcast, and has a book coming out this year.

We sit inside pressure, identity, and relief.

Not as ideas.
As lived experience.

We talk about high performance environments. What happ...

In this episode, I’m joined by Claire.

Claire is a counsellor, a mother, a wife, and someone I studied with. She understands this work from the inside, not just professionally, but personally.

We sit inside authenticity, over responsibility, and rejection.

Not as concepts.
As lived relationship dynamics.

We talk about the illusion that therapy is about fixing other people and the reality that it becomes a mirror. A constant confrontation with your own patterns. Your own defences. Your own subtle violence.

We sit with what it costs to...

In this episode, I’m on my own.

Solo episodes are different. Harder. There’s nowhere to hide when there’s no guest sitting across from you.

This one sits inside resentment, projection, and accountability — not as theory, but as lived history.

I speak about Pam, my former mother-in-law, and a period of my life where I was reactive, resentful, and convinced someone else was the problem. Messages were sent. Blame was projected. Stories were told — and believed.

And then came the moment that this podcast is named after:
Where I thought...

In this episode, I’m joined by Amy.

Amy had read It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME and reached out to sit in a conversation. It’s her first time on a podcast, and we don’t make a story out of that. We stay with what’s actually there.

We sit inside judgment — not as a concept, but as a lived pattern that shows up automatically, often before it’s noticed.

We talk about how judgment starts early.
Learned in families.
Normalised as personality.
Used as protection.

And how it...

In this episode, I’m joined by my partner, Sophie.

We sit inside mirroring, masking, and perfectionism — not as ideas or frameworks, but as lived patterns playing out in real time.

We talk about how mirroring starts early: fitting in, staying safe, learning how to belong. And how those same strategies quietly follow us into adult relationships, work, intimacy, and even the way we “do the work.”

Not to fix it.
Not to resolve it.
But to notice the cost.

The cost of staying palatable.
The cost of hiding e...

This is the first episode, and I want to be clear from the start.

This isn’t self-help.
It’s not advice.
And it’s definitely not about fixing yourself so you can be more tolerable in relationships.

I’m introducing why this podcast exists, why I wrote It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME, and why I’m done with the performance of “doing the work” while nothing actually changes.

I explain the structure going forward: