Reflections & Realisations

Time Stamps 

00:00 Beginning life and career in London

10:01 Mentorship and career opportunities

15:50 Overcoming news addiction habits

18:13 Managing pandemic-related fears

21:42 Coping with work burnout

29:52 Recognizing humanity in others more

35:34 Managing injury and pre-race stress

39:46 Working with public figures

45:28 Coaching Noor to run 1k

51:05 Reflecting on drinking culture

55:44 Discussing faith as guidance

01:09:09 Reflecting on childhood fitness dreams

Key Quotes 

"I put my secret down to my success in my career is I still lo...

Did you know many men struggle in silence with burnout and mental health challenges? In this deeply personal conversation, Shahbaz Khan opens up about his journey as a British Muslim, growing up between cultures, facing racism, and navigating the pressures of career, family, and community expectations. From imposter syndrome to overcoming shame and vulnerability, Shahbaz shares what it really took to choose growth and healing, even when life felt overwhelming.

Whether you’re the child of immigrants, a parent, a professional navigating bias, or someone quietly suffering under the weight of expectations, this episode is for you. 

In this episode of Reflections and Realisations, Saima opens up to Alveena about her life-changing experiences building a school and working in Zanzibar. Through a series of intimate reflections and honest revelations, Saima shares how the local children’s creativity—like crafting footballs from banana leaves—taught her the true meaning of resilience and community support.

The conversation doesn’t shy away from the complexities of identity and belonging. Together, they shed light on the cultural, structural, and safety barriers that shape where and how women can contribute.

You’ll hear stories of orphans being taken in b...

In this episode of Reflections and Realisations, Alveena Salim and Saima Raja dive deep into the cultural challenges faced by brown and Muslim women in education, teaching, and creative fields. They unpack why the phrase "I'm just a teacher" is so common in their communities, exploring how cultural expectations, false modesty, and fear of the evil eye (nazar) hold women back from owning their accomplishments.

You'll hear personal stories about overcoming stereotypes, generational trauma, and the haunting effects of learned helplessness and perfectionism. Saima shares her journey from life coach and artist to school founder in Zanzibar...

 Welcome to Reflections and Realisations. I’m so glad you’re here. 

Join Alveena Salim as she sits down with Kausar Tahir, founder and clinical pharmacist, to explore the challenges and triumphs of launching a startup as a visibly Muslim woman. From navigating rejections and accelerator programs to pitching in Silicon Valley, Kausar Tahir shares an honest account of how resilience, faith, and authenticity have guided her journey.

Learn how Kausar Tahir overcame obstacles, leveraged her unique perspective as her strength, and stayed true to her values in the fast-paced world of tech startups. Discover insigh...

In this episode, Alveena explores the quiet ways chronic stress, unprocessed emotions and survival mode can spill into the body. Through her own experience with insomnia after two miscarriages, she explains how the nervous system can become stuck in fight or flight and why no supplement, sleep hack or lavender spray could fix what was actually emotional and physiological.

Drawing from neuroscience, the biopsychosocial model, chronic stress research and insights from faith, she unpacks how the body speaks through symptoms long before we consciously understand what is wrong. She shares how early morning routines, nervous system regulation...

Welcome to Reflections and Realisations. 

In today’s episode, Alveena sits with Kausar Tahir, clinical pharmacist and founder of MeNow Health, for a candid conversation about perimenopause, menopause, and the cultural and generational barriers that make it hard for women to talk openly about their health.

Together, they explore the cultural silence around menopause, gaps in medical research, and how faith and societal beliefs shape women’s midlife experiences. You’ll hear about the power of sharing stories, advocating for yourself in healthcare, and supporting one another through life’s big transitions.

This episode i...

In this episode, Alveena reflects on a childhood memory she had buried for decades and how it resurfaced in an unexpected moment with her own daughter. She explores how unresolved experiences shape our automatic reactions, especially in parenting, and how generational patterns can quietly repeat themselves without us noticing.

Drawing from Daniel Kahneman’s system one and system two thinking, as well as concepts from psychology, attachment theory and faith, she explains how much of our behavior comes from autopilot responses rather than conscious intention. Through storytelling and reflection, she shares how slowing down, noticing our triggers an...

In this episode, Alveena reflects on the mindset stories we absorb as children and the quiet ways they shape our adult lives. Through her own experience struggling with maths in school and later facing a statistics module as a parent with no time to spiral, she explores how old narratives can sneak back in and limit what we believe we are capable of.

Using Carol Dweck’s research on fixed and growth mindsets, along with reflections from parenting, faith and personal growth, she unpacks how mindset is less about ability and more about the stories we repeat to...

In this episode, Alveena shares the quiet moment she emotionally checked out, not out of anger but exhaustion. She reflects on the psychology behind letting go, exploring how anxious attachment, fear of abandonment and the urge to control outcomes show up in our relationships, our parenting and our faith.

Drawing from attachment theory, cognitive diffusion and spiritual teachings, she explains how releasing control is not giving up. It is reclaiming peace. Through personal reflection, psychology and faith, Alveena shows how letting people think what they want and choosing your own response can bring you back to yourself.<...

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In this episode, Alveena reflects on the true story of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Dr. Bruce Perry and the powerful lesson it carries about how our environment shapes the brain.

Through the story of a neglected child who learned to heal through love, presence, and stability, Alveena explores how trauma can be reversed when safety and care are reintroduced. She connects these insights to psychology, faith, and parenting, showing how our surroundings influence not just who we become but how our brains develop.

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In this episode, Alveena unpacks the psychology of echoism, the tendency to shrink, stay quiet, and put others’ needs above your own.

She shares her experiences growing up between cultures, learning to make herself smaller to avoid judgment or conflict, and how that pattern showed up later in adult life. Through psychology, faith, and personal reflection, she explores how saying “I’m fine” when you’re not can slowly erase your voice and identity.

This episode is for anyone who struggles with people pleasing, setting boundaries, or finding th...

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In this episode, Alveena explores how the way we love is shaped long before we realise it. From childhood moments of comfort and conflict to how we connect in adulthood, she unpacks attachment theory and its impact on our relationships, resilience, and faith.

Through psychology, faith, and personal reflection, she explains how early experiences with caregivers teach us lessons about love, safety, and belonging that echo throughout our adult lives.

This episode is for anyone interested in attachment theory, emotional healing, or understanding how early experiences shape...

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In this episode, Alveena opens up about growing up wishing she was white and the long journey toward self acceptance. She reflects on identity, belonging, and how cultural expectations can quietly shape who we become.

Through honest storytelling and psychological insight, she explores self discrepancy theory and the tension between who we are, who we wish to be, and who we think we should be. Alveena blends ideas from psychology, mental health, and Islamic spirituality to show how self awareness and faith can help us bridge those internal gaps...