The Reset with Shaun Tucker
The Reset with Shaun Tucker is a daily conversation about cutting through the noise, breaking destructive patterns, and coming back to what actually works.Hosted by Shaun Tucker — Men’s Performance Coach, Health Scientist, and Breathwork Facilitator — this podcast is for high-performers, fathers, and individuals who are done with extremes, toxic hustle, and surface-level motivation.If you've ever felt stuck in cycles of starting over, relying on cheap dopamine, or abandoning yourself to meet external expectations, this is your space to recalibrate.Each short, grounded episode delivers raw insights and lived experience on:•Nervous System Regulation & Breathwork: Learning to manage stress s...
54. You’ll Be Liked… But Will You Be Loved?
How do you actually want to be remembered?
In this deeply confronting episode, Shaun challenges the idea of being the “nice guy” — the man who is always kind, always giving, always putting others first… but silently abandoning himself in the process.
Because while being nice might make you liked, it doesn’t guarantee you’ll be respected, fulfilled, or truly loved.
Shaun explores the hidden cost of people-pleasing, the emotional weight men carry when they suppress their truth, and the legacy that’s formed not through achievements — but through how you make p...
53. Stop Forcing the Plan — Start Trusting Yourself
Are your actions actually taking you where you want to go… or are you just following a plan that used to work?
In this episode, Shaun challenges the obsession with rigid plans, constant tracking, and outdated methods — and invites you into something far more powerful: self-trust.
Because here’s the truth…
The more tightly you cling to a plan, the more disconnected you become from yourself.
And sometimes, the most effective path forward isn’t the one that’s perfectly mapped out — it’s the one where you adapt, experimen...
52. The Desire You Keep Avoiding Is the One That Will Free You
Why do we wait until the last minute to take action?
In this episode, Shaun breaks down the deeper truth behind urgency, fear, and procrastination — and why the real issue isn’t laziness… it’s avoidance.
When life feels comfortable, we stop growing. And when we stop growing, something inside us begins to stagnate.
Shaun explores the idea that human desire isn’t something to suppress — it’s something to listen to. The very thing you’ve been putting off, ignoring, or running from may be the exact path that leads to your next lev...
51. Self-Belief Isn’t Given… It’s Earned
What does it actually mean to believe in yourself?
Not the fluffy version.
Not the “just think positive” version.
In this episode, Shaun breaks down the truth:
👉 Self-belief isn’t something you have — it’s something you build.
Through reps.
Through action.
Through doing the thing even when you’re not sure you can.
From everyday examples (like remembering names) to high-performance moments under pressure, this episode shows how your internal dialogue is either limiting you… or expanding you.
🧠 Key Takeaways
Your beliefs shape...50. Nobody Cares… And That’s Your Freedom
50 episodes in… and Shaun drops one of the most liberating truths yet:
Nobody cares.
Not in a harsh, dismissive way — but in a way that sets you free.
Because the thing you’ve been holding back…
Your voice. Your edge. Your truth. Your uniqueness…
It’s not being suppressed by others.
It’s being held back by your fear of how others might perceive you.
In this episode, Shaun shares the raw experience of going viral, the emotional spiral that came with it, and the powerful r...
49. Self-Regulation Starts With You (Not Your Kids)
Most parents think they need to teach their kids how to regulate their emotions.
Shaun flips that completely.
In this episode, he shares a powerful truth:
your child doesn’t learn self-regulation from what you say — they learn it from how you show up.
Your reactions, your tone, your presence…
That’s the blueprint they copy.
This conversation dives into emotional responsibility, the impact of unconscious reactions, and how mastering your own state is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child.
🧠 Key Takeaways<...
48. Pressure Is a Privilege — But Only If You Move
Pressure isn’t the problem.
How you respond to it… is everything.
In this episode, Shaun explores the idea that pressure is a privilege — a signal that you’re in a moment that matters.
But most people don’t rise in pressure…
They freeze.
And the reason?
They’re stuck in their head — disconnected from the intelligence of their body.
🔑 In This Episode:
Why pressure is a privilege, not a problemHow pressure reveals who you are under stressThe real reason Shaun froze in the octagonWhy o...47. Your Karma Is Your Memory — Face It or Suffer It
Do you avoid heavy feelings… or face them?
In this episode, Shaun unpacks a powerful truth:
your current experience of life is shaped by your past actions — your “karma.”
Not in a mystical sense… but in a practical one.
Your reactions, your triggers, your patterns —
they’re all built from memory.
And the question becomes:
👉 Do you accept what’s here?
👉 Or do you resist it?
Because resistance doesn’t remove suffering…
it intensifies it.
🔑 In This Episode:
A grounded understanding of <...46. Mindset Means Nothing Without Execution
You can have the strongest mindset in the world…
But if you’re not taking action?
It means nothing.
In this episode, Shaun cuts through the noise around “mindset” and brings it back to what actually matters — execution.
Because thinking about change isn’t change.
Talking about it isn’t change.
Only action creates results.
🔑 In This Episode:
Why mindset without action is uselessThe truth about “being motivated” vs actually executingHow resilience is built through doing, not thinkingWhy most people stay stuck in ideas i...45. Who You Are Is Greater Than What You Do
What if everything you’ve been chasing… isn’t actually who you are?
In this episode, Shaun breaks down one of the biggest traps high performers fall into — tying their identity to what they do, what they achieve, and how they’re perceived.
Because when what you do becomes who you are…
You lose yourself in the process.
🔑 In This Episode:
Why your identity is not your achievementsThe hidden danger of tying your self-worth to performanceHow failure and adversity actually shape your characterWhy success without alignment leads to burnou...44. Your Nervous System Is Sabotaging Your Fatherhood
You don’t have a discipline problem.
You don’t have a patience problem.
You have a regulation problem.
In this episode, Shaun breaks down how an unregulated nervous system is silently impacting how you show up—as a dad, a partner, and a man.
Because it’s not the big moments that do the damage…
It’s the small, reactive ones.
The snapped comment.
The short fuse.
The lack of presence when it matters most.
And the hardest truth?
The people who feel it...
43. Are You Playing to Win… or Just Trying Not to Lose?
At one point, Shaun had the body most people chase—lean, shredded, “washboard abs.”
But behind that look?
Mental starvation. Pressure. Disconnection.
In this episode, Shaun challenges the idea that looking “fit” equals being healthy—and goes deeper into what real health, fulfillment, and joy actually look like.
Because the real question isn’t what you’re chasing…
It’s why you’re chasing it.
Are you playing to win your own game?
Or are you just trying not to lose someone else’s?
🔥 What You’ll Learn in This E...
42. What Are You Actually Afraid Of? (And Why It’s Costing You Everything)
What are you really avoiding?
In this episode, Shaun shares a powerful real-life moment where he followed a spark of inspiration—and it led to an unexpected opportunity to connect with one of the world’s fittest man and speak to a global community.
This isn’t about luck.
It’s about courage.
Too many people sit on ideas, delay action, and hide behind “later.” But the truth is, inspiration only rewards those who move on it.
If you’ve been waiting for the right time, this episode is your wake-up call.<...
41. The Power of “I Don’t Know”
In Episode 41 of The Reset, Shaun explores a simple phrase that has completely shifted the way he approaches life:
“I don’t know.”
For many people, those three words feel uncomfortable.
They can bring up feelings of inadequacy, uncertainty, or even failure.
Because in the world most of us were raised in—especially through school and societal expectations—not knowing often meant you weren’t good enough.
But what if that belief is actually the thing holding you back?
Shaun reflects on a time in his...
40. What It Really Means to Show Up as a Dad
In Episode 40 of The Reset, Shaun reflects on a powerful milestone:
Two years and one month of fatherhood.
And in his words—it’s been one of the greatest gifts of his life…
but also one of the hardest.
This episode is raw, honest, and grounded in what it truly means to show up.
Not perfectly.
Not with everything figured out.
But consistently.
Shaun shares how becoming a dad has completely transformed the way he sees himself.
Not just in his ro...
39. What You Resist Persists
In Episode 39 of The Reset, Shaun shares a deeply personal reflection and a bold commitment:
40 days without relying on caffeine or sugar.
Not as a challenge for the sake of discipline—but as a way to confront something deeper.
Because at the core of this episode is a powerful truth:
What you resist… persists.
Shaun opens up about the habits and patterns he knows no longer serve him—using caffeine for energy, sugar for comfort, and even past tendencies toward obsession in fitness and performance.
A...
38. Stop Forcing Change and Let It Happen
In Episode 38 of The Reset, Shaun takes a different, more raw approach—recording from his kitchen while preparing dinner—and shares a powerful realization about change:
What if the change you’re chasing doesn’t come from forcing it… but from allowing it?
So many of us approach growth with intensity.
We try to force new habits.
Force discipline.
Force results.
Whether it’s fitness, business, or personal development, we often believe that more pressure equals more progress.
But Shaun reflects on his own journey and recogniz...
37. Are You Living at Cause or at Effect?
In Episode 37 of The Reset, Shaun explores a powerful idea that can completely shift how you experience your life:
Are you living at cause… or at effect?
Many people today feel overwhelmed by what’s happening in the world around them.
News cycles.
Economic pressure.
Global conflict.
Rapid technological change.
When we absorb all of this without awareness, it’s easy to feel like life is happening to us rather than something we are actively shaping.
This is what Shaun calls living...
36. The Hidden Stress That’s Blocking Your Results
In Episode 36 of The Reset, Shaun talks directly to the dads and men who feel like they’re doing everything right… but still aren’t seeing the results they expect.
You’re going to the gym.
You’re training hard.
You’re trying to eat well.
But when you look in the mirror, it feels like nothing is really changing.
The common assumption is that the problem must be training harder or tightening up nutrition. But Shaun argues that the real issue is often something most people overlook.
Accumulated...
35. The Power of a Simple Phone Call
In Episode 35 of The Reset, Shaun shares a powerful lesson about how easily we overcomplicate things—especially when it comes to business, fundraising, and creating results.
During a recent breathwork and healing immersion, Shaun participated in a group challenge designed to test creativity and resourcefulness.
The rules were simple.
Each group started with $10 and had 30 minutes to raise as much money as possible for a chosen charity. The only restriction? They couldn’t donate their own money.
They had to use that $10 as a starting point to gene...
34. What Going Viral Taught Me About Criticism
In Episode 34 of The Reset, Shaun shares a deeply personal story about what happened when he unexpectedly went viral after stepping into the Octagon for an MMA fight.
The experience started as a personal challenge.
Shaun signed up for a 20-week Fighter Warrior training camp and spent months preparing for the opportunity to step into the cage. At the end of the camp, he chose to compete — fully aware of the risks and fully committed to the experience.
But the fight itself was over quickly.
In just 16 seconds...
33. When You Finally Stop Holding It All In
In Episode 33 of The Reset, Shaun explores a topic that many people quietly struggle with — the pressure of holding everything inside.
We often hear the phrase: “You get out of life what you tolerate.”
But what happens when the thing we’re tolerating is happening inside our own mind?
The self-doubt.
The inner critic.
The voice that constantly questions whether we’re doing enough.
Shaun opens up about that voice — the one that shows up when you’re trying to move forward but keeps pulling you back. Sometimes it tells you t...
32. When Everything Feels Like It’s Not Working
In Episode 32 of The Reset, Shaun speaks openly about a moment many people face in business, fitness, and life — the point where you’re doing the work, staying consistent, but the results still haven’t shown up.
You’re putting in the effort.
You’re showing up every day.
You’re doing everything you believe you’re supposed to do.
But the numbers, the results, or the progress just aren’t there yet.
For Shaun, this is something he’s currently navigating in his own business as he works to grow and attract new cl...
31. When Pressure Pushes You Off Your Path
In Episode 31 of The Reset, Shaun opens up about one of the most difficult and defining periods of his life — the pressure he felt during his early university years and the unexpected path that followed.
Many of us experience intense pressure at different stages of life.
Pressure to succeed.
Pressure to live up to expectations.
Pressure to prove we’re good enough.
For Shaun, that pressure started in his final year of high school.
Growing up in a large family with high-achieving brothers, he felt a deep need to prov...
30. Why Sales Should Never Feel Manipulative
In Episode 30 of The Reset, Shaun tackles a topic that many coaches, trainers, and business owners struggle with: sales.
For a lot of people, selling feels uncomfortable. It can feel forced, scripted, or even manipulative. Many of us carry negative associations with sales because we’ve experienced high-pressure tactics that feel dehumanising.
But Shaun offers a different perspective.
What if sales isn’t about convincing someone to buy?
What if sales is actually about helping someone activate the transformation they’re looking for?
Drawing from his ow...
29. Performance vs Authenticity
In this episode of The Reset, Shaun explores the powerful intersection between performance and authenticity — and why many of us struggle to balance the two.
Performance often comes with pressure. It’s the expectations, the plans, the metrics we think we need to hit. It’s the version of ourselves we believe we should be.
Authenticity is different.
Authenticity is what happens when we give ourselves permission to relax into who we truly are.
Shaun shares a personal moment from his own journey in business where he realised he was tr...
28. How Many Times Do You Have to Fail Before You Succeed?
In Episode 28 of The Reset, Shaun shares the story behind a small medal that represents one of the toughest personal challenges he has ever completed: 75 Hard.
But the real story isn’t about the challenge itself.
It’s about the nine times he failed before finally finishing it.
From forgetting a simple daily task to accidentally breaking his diet at his brother’s wedding, Shaun reflects on the moments where discipline slipped, motivation faded, and it would have been easier to simply quit.
Instead, he kept showing up.
27. The Worst Mentor I Ever Had (And Why I’m Grateful for It)
In Episode 27 of The Reset, Shaun shares a deeply personal story about one of the most painful experiences of his early career in fitness — working with a mentor who ultimately taught him everything about the kind of coach he never wanted to become.
It’s a story about insecurity, chasing validation, and how toxic leadership can quietly reshape the way we see ourselves.
But it’s also a story about growth.
Because sometimes the moments that hurt the most become the experiences that shape our character the strongest.
Chasing Validation
Six...
26. The Moment I Realised I Wasn’t Being a Present Dad
In Episode 26, Shaun shares a deeply personal moment from early fatherhood that completely shifted how he approached life, business, and what it truly means to be present.
It’s a story about stress, priorities, and the realization that trying to be everything at once can make you miss what matters most.
For many fathers, the pressure to provide can pull them away from the very reason they’re working so hard in the first place.
This episode is a reminder to pause, reassess, and realign with what truly matters.
The Moment That...
25. The Cookie, Guilt & Playing All In
In Episode 25, Shaun holds up a triple chocolate cookie and asks a simple but powerful question:
Should I eat it… or not?
But this episode isn’t about the cookie.
It’s about guilt.
It’s about shame.
It’s about self-sabotage.
And it’s about purpose.
Because so many people aren’t struggling with discipline — they’re struggling with why they’re doing what they’re doing.
The Cookie Dilemma
You’re on a diet.
You’re saving money.
You’ve made a plan.
And then...
24. Sleep: Practical Ways to Get Deep Rest
How are you sleeping?
Are you waking up well rested… or just getting through the day on caffeine and momentum?
In Episode 24, Shaun breaks down simple, practical steps you can use to improve your sleep and create the conditions for deep rest — both externally and internally.
Because sleep isn’t just about closing your eyes.
It’s about creating the right environment for your nervous system to fully switch off.
Why Sleep Matters
Sleep should feel like deep restoration.
But if your mind is racing…
If yo...
23. What You Focus On Grows
What you focus on is what you hit.
What you focus on is what you create.
What you focus on grows.
In Episode 23, Shaun breaks down how your attention is shaping your reality — whether you realize it or not.
If you don’t like what’s showing up in your life, the real question becomes:
What have I been focusing on?
The Motorcycle Lesson
Shaun shares a story about a friend who failed his motorcycle license test because he kept hitting the cones during the course...
22. Consistency Creates Character
In Episode 22 of The Reset, Shaun breaks down something deeper than motivation:
Consistency.
Not the kind that feels exciting.
Not the kind that depends on energy.
But the kind that shows up whether it’s hard or easy.
Because character isn’t built on hype.
It’s built on repetition.
Key Themes
Consistency vs motivationIntegrity with self-promisesEnergy leaks and distractionPain of discipline vs pain of regretDoing the hard thing firstCharacter creationTaking space to reset perspectiveNPC vs main character livingCore Insight
Cons...
21. When Your Standards Drop
In Episode 21 of The Reset, Shaun asks a confronting question:
Who are you going to be 10 years from now?
Inspired by watching a 10-year-old video from Mr. Beast reflecting on his future, this episode dives into something deeper:
What happens when you don’t consciously decide who you’re becoming?
You default.
To comfort.
To safety.
To lower standards.
And slowly… you lose yourself.
Key Themes
Long-term identity creationComfort vs growthStandards and integrityIdentity crisisAvoidance vs facing fearMain character vs NPC living...20. Nobody Cares (And That’s Freedom)
20 episodes in.
And Shaun drops something liberating:
Nobody cares.
Nobody cares what you wear.
Nobody cares what you say.
Nobody cares how you look.
Because everyone else is too busy thinking about what you think about them.
This episode is about freedom.
Freedom from comparison.
Freedom from judgment.
Freedom from playing small.
Key Themes
The illusion of being judgedSocial anxiety and projectionPlaying not to loseComfort-zone livingBeing fully involved in your lifeEmotional suppression vs emotional processingPresence vs imaginationRemembering who...19. When Doubt Is Loud
In Episode 19 of The Reset, Shaun opens up about something real:
Doubt.
The kind of doubt that whispers:
“It won’t work.”“Who are you to do this?”“No one will show up.”“You’re not ready.”From launching a free fitness group for dads…
to stepping into an MMA fight…
to building something without knowing the outcome…
This episode is about showing up anyway.
Because doubt isn’t evidence.
It’s projection.
Key Themes
Self-doubt during growthFear before stepping into the arenaLoneliness and intrusive...18. Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
In Episode 18 of The Reset, Shaun dives into one of the most destructive internal loops:
Comparison.
Comparing your body.
Your success.
Your progress.
Your discipline.
Your life.
The truth?
If you play the comparison game, you will never win.
Because there will always be someone:
BetterFasterRicherLeanerAheadAnd even if you become “the best” — it won’t last.
This episode invites you to step off the comparison treadmill.
Key Themes
Comparison as identity erosionObjectifying yourself through the mindInsecurity and performa...17. Stop Using Toxic Fuel
In Episode 17 of The Reset, Shaun asks a powerful question:
What fuel are you using for motivation?
Are you being pulled by vision?
Or pushed by pain?
Shame. Guilt. Fear. Insecurity.
They work.
But they don’t last.
This episode breaks down the difference between short-term emotional spikes and long-term sustainable energy — and why toxic fuel will eventually burn you out.
Key Themes
Pain pushing vs vision pullingShame and guilt as motivationCheap energy vs sustainable energyNumbing behaviours (food, alcohol, pornography, distraction)Identity crea...16. Stop Shaming Yourself for Overindulging
In Episode 16 of The Reset, Shaun tackles something almost everyone experiences:
Overindulging…
Then shaming yourself for it.
Whether it’s Christmas, Lunar New Year, holidays, or just a weekend blowout — the cycle is familiar:
Eat too much → feel heavy → shame yourself → promise to be stricter → repeat.
This episode breaks that loop.
Because discipline without self-awareness becomes a cage.
And shame is not a sustainable motivator.
Key Themes
Overindulging during holidaysShame and guilt cyclesDiscipline vs rigidityOwning your choicesIdentity and environment influenceGetting “back on the horse”Flexibility withou...15. Celebrate the Small Wins (And Try Ingratitude)
In Episode 15 of The Reset, Shaun explores something most high performers struggle with:
Feeling like a failure…
even when you’re making progress.
This episode reframes momentum. Because if you only allow yourself to feel like you’re winning when you hit the big goal — you’ll spend most of your life feeling like you’re losing.
Shaun introduces two powerful shifts:
Learn to generate the feeling of winning before the destination.Experiment with the “ingratitude practice” to access deeper gratitude.Because real momentum isn’t external.
It’s embodied.
