PSR Podcast
Pure Sex Radio (PSR) seeks to help men, women, and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ. Since 2005, Jonathan Daugherty and Stephen Cervantes (and guests) have been helping listeners engage difficult topics like sexuality, marriage, and trauma healing in a thoughtful and personal manner.
Intimacy and Sexuality for the Single Christian
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Carol Tanksley to explore intimacy and sexuality for single Christians—a topic the church often overlooks. Drawing from her own journey through 40+ years of singleness, marriage, and widowhood, Carol unpacks the difference between sex and intimacy, how Jesus modeled de...
Critical Conversation #6: Leveraging Your Story
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In this episode of the Family Time segment,* I sit down with Norma Q-Brown, Director of our Family Care ministry to explore the sixth critical conversation in our series: "Leveraging Your Story." Norma and I discuss how parents can wisely and humbly share their personal testimonies with their children to build trust and connection around sexuality.
We cover practical tips on age-appropriate sharing, avoiding oversharing, and keeping...
Parenting Through the Mess of Addiction and Betrayal Recovery
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In this episode, I sit down with Cat Etherington, Director of Recovery at Naked Truth Project, to explore how addiction impacts parenting and family dynamics. Cat openly shares her personal journey through addiction and recovery, offering powerful insights into how addiction disrupts parent-child attachment and creates generational cycles of shame.Â
Together, we discuss practical ways parents in recovery can stabilize their family environment, communicate honestly with their c...
How Can a Wife Know if Her Husband is Truly Changing?
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In today’s episode, I sit down with my good friend Dr. Stephen Cervantes, also known as Doctor Marriage, to explore how wives can recognize genuine change in their husbands after betrayal. We break it down into two key indicators: new language and new behaviors. A truly changing husband takes initiative in his growth journey, developing emotional awareness, practicing patience, managing anger, and seeking accountability and genuine friendships with ot...
The P.A.T.H. Plan with Dan Johnson
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In this episode, I sit down with Dan Johnson, creator of the PATH plan, who opens up about his decades-long struggle with pornography addiction. Dan shares his personal journey, from his first encounter with porn in seventh grade to a pivotal confession to his wife in 2019.Â
He introduces his practical recovery tool, the PATH Plan — a simple four-step method designed to help men navigate the moment of tem...
Facing Fear Together: Navigating Anxiety After Sexual Betrayal in Marriage
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In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Karla Downing to tackle one of the most challenging topics in marriage — recovering from sexual betrayal. Karla breaks down how fear and anxiety affect both partners after betrayal, explaining the push-and-pull patterns of hyper and hypo-reactivity that can make healing so difficult.Â
She offers practical, compassionate steps for couples to identify and manage their fears, rebuild trust, and com...
Critical Conversation #5: Processing Exposure
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In this episode of the Family Time segment*, I sit down with our Family Care Director, Norma Q-Brown, to explore the fifth of six critical conversations parents should have with their kids about sexuality. After recapping the first four conversations, we dive into what to do when your child is exposed to sexual content.Â
Norma shares practical tools like code words, open-ended questions, and age-appropriate communication to h...
Reframing Recovery as Emotional Regulation
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In today’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Eddie Capparucci to explore emotional regulation as the cornerstone of addiction recovery. Dr. Eddie explains the "window of tolerance," how unresolved childhood trauma drives addictive behaviors, and why true recovery goes beyond just stopping harmful actions.Â
We discuss how emotional dysregulation connects to relapse, how people of faith can embrace their emotions in healthy ways, and how deeper emo...
How Does Generational Trauma Impact Recovery from Porn Addiction?
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In this episode, I sit down with Sam Black to explore the fascinating and deeply personal topic of generational trauma and its connection to addiction recovery in men. Sam shares his own journey with pornography addiction and how it led him to investigate patterns passed down through families.Â
We dive into compelling scientific research — including studies on worms and...
Three Principles Every Husband Can Use to Grow Emotionally & Spiritually with His Wife
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stephen Cervantes to explore emotional and relational growth in marriage. Stephen shares three powerful principles for husbands:Â
Through personal stories and biblical wisdom, we unpack prac...
Fully Known, Fully Loved: Why Only God Can Meet Our Deepest Desires
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In this episode, I sit down with Stephen Cervantes to explore the deepest desires of the human heart — to be fully known, loved, forgiven, enjoyed, and celebrated. We discuss how these beautiful, God-given desires can become problematic when we turn them into demands on other people.Â
While humans can love and forgive abundantly, only God can do so fully. We also reflect on how con...
Critical Conversation #4: Dealing with Temptation
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In this episode of Family Time, I sit down with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care Director, to discuss the fourth of our six “Critical Conversations” for parents: Dealing with Temptation. We explore how to help kids recognize and respond to temptation without shame, emphasizing grace, honesty, and open communication.Â
Norma shares practical tips for building trust, normalizing temptation as a human experience, and equipping children with lifelong skills...
Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce: Healing After Infidelity Breaks Up Your Marriage
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In this episode, I sit down with Linda McDonald, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss her personal journey through betrayal, divorce, and healing on her own after her husband’s affair. Linda shares how her experience inspired her new book, “Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce,” and introduces the term “betrandoned” to describe the unique, compounded grief of betrayal and abandonment.Â
We explore the stigma, shame, and lack of clo...
Healing Trauma: Understanding the Body's Role in Spiritual & Emotional Wholeness
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In this episode, I welcome back Kristin Cary to explore the mind-body connection, especially how our bodies respond to trauma and betrayal. Kristin shares insights from her ministry, Living Truth, explaining how God designed our nervous systems to protect us through natural responses like fight, flight, or freeze.Â
We discuss the importance of compassion over shame, practical grounding techniques (like the butterfly hug; even walking or jogging), a...
Confessions of a Recovering Approval Junkie
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In this episode, I sit down with my friend and decades-long colleague, Dr. Stephen Cervantes, to explore our shared struggles with seeking approval and what it means to be an “approval junkie.” Together, we reflect on why we crave affirmation—from childhood to adulthood—and how this shapes our sense of belonging and self-worth.Â
We discuss the dangers of letting approval define us, the role of leaders in foster...
Critical Conversation #3: Preparing for Exposure
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In today’s Family Time episode, I sit down with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care Director, to unpack the third critical conversation every parent needs to have with their child: preparing kids for exposure to sexualized content. We talk about why this comes after building trust and discussing God’s design for sex, and share practical ways to equip children for what they’ll inevitably see online or from peers...
The Anatomy of Awakening from Addiction
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In this episode, I sit down with Stephen Cervantes, AKA "Doctor Marriage," to explore the journey of awakening from addiction. Together, we discuss how addiction numbs pain and stunts emotional and spiritual growth, and why facing our pain—rather than running from it—is key to healing.Â
Stephen shares personal insights about slowing down, self-reflection, and finding freedom in Christ. If you’re fighting an addiction, we encoura...
How Couples Can Navigate the "Messy Middle" After Betrayal Trauma
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In this episode, I sit down with Karla Summey, an APSATS coach and couples recovery specialist, to explore the “messy middle” couples face after sexual betrayal. Karla shares her personal and professional insights on navigating the emotional ups and downs, rebuilding trust, and redefining relationships.Â
We discuss the importance of emotional regulation, transparency, and patience, emphasizing that recovery isn’t linear. Karla offers hope and practical advice for cou...
Healing from Trauma: Inviting God to Restory Your Life
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In today’s episode, I sit down with Mary DeMuth, author of Restory Your Life, to talk about her powerful journey from childhood trauma and sexual abuse to healing and restoration through faith in Jesus. Mary shares how storytelling, community, and embracing our identity in Christ help us move from brokenness to wholeness.Â
We discuss the ongoing nature of healing, the importance of safe spaces to share our...
From Betrayal to Bonding: Rebuilding Your Marriage After Infidelity
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In this episode, I sit down with Drs. Matt and Laura Burton to talk about rebuilding a marriage after sexual betrayal. We explore their personal recovery and healing journeys, the challenges of rebuilding trust, and why true recovery goes beyond just sobriety.Â
The Burtons share insights on the importance of involving both partners, the process of compassionate disclosure, and how addressing deeper wounds is key to restoring r...
Critical Conversation #2: God's Design for Sex
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In this episode of "Family Time," I sit down with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care Director, to discuss how parents can confidently guide their kids through a sex-saturated culture. We focus on the second critical conversation: teaching children about God’s design for sex. Norma shares practical advice for having ongoing, honest, and grace-filled talks, addressing common barriers and emphasizing the importance of building trust.
We encourage pa...
Knowing Your True Identity Beyond Sexual Brokenness
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In this episode, I sit down with Anne Edward, who shares her powerful journey from childhood trauma and same-sex attraction to finding hope, healing, and her true identity in Jesus Christ. Anne opens up about her struggles, the process of forgiveness, and how embracing her God-given identity led to transformation.Â
We discuss why true change goes deeper than behavior—it's about understanding who we are in Christ. Ann...
Helping Your Kids Know God's Good Design
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In this episode, I chat with Elizabeth Urbanowicz about her book, Helping Your Kids Know God’s Good Design: 40 Questions and Answers on Sexuality and Gender. Elizabeth shares her journey as a Christian educator and how she equips parents to teach kids about sexuality and gender from a biblical perspective.
We discuss God’s design for sex, the importance of ongoing conversations, how to address tough topics like...
Glory from the Ashes: Clinton and Nikki's Story of Hope and Healing
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In today’s episode, I sit down with Clinton and Nikki Mitchell, who bravely share their 31-year marriage journey through addiction, infidelity, and ultimately, healing. We talk about the pain of secrecy, the power of full disclosure, and how faith, therapy, and community helped them rebuild trust and spiritual intimacy.Â
Their story is raw and honest, showing that even in the darkest moments, hope and restoration are pos...
From Broken to Brave: Courageous Healing After Betrayal Trauma
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In this episode, I sit down with friend and former guest, Tammy Gustafson, a counselor and author of "Broken to Brave," to talk about healing after betrayal trauma. Tammy shares why wives often get stuck in their recovery—especially when pressured to trust or forgive too soon—and explains the importance of grieving and processing emotions like anger and sadness.Â
We discuss how true healing requires safety, hones...
Critical Conversation #1: Feelings & Emotions
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In this episode of our new “Family Time” segment, I chat with Norma Brown, our Family Care Director, about the first of six “critical conversations” parents should have with their kids: Feelings and Emotions. We focus on the importance of talking about feelings and emotions as the foundation for deeper topics like sex.Â
Norma shares practical tips, resources like the “Honest Talk Game,” and encouragement for parents to build trus...
Maxims that Help Us Go Beyond Sobriety in Recovery
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In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I roll up our sleeves to explore the journey of recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors. We discuss the deeper transformation needed beyond just sobriety, sharing over a dozen practical maxims and spiritual insights that will help you aim for life beyond recovery.Â
We reflect on aging, grief, and the challenges of change, emphasizing honesty, community, and trusting God. Through personal stories a...
The Power of Perspective: How Compassion Changes Everything
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stephen Cervantes from DoctorMarriage.org to explore how we see ourselves, others, and how Jesus sees us all. We dive into the impact of shame, addiction, and early life experiences on our identity, and discuss the healing power of viewing ourselves through Jesus’s compassionate eyes.Â
Together, we reflect on practical ways to break free from self-judgment and embrace a m...
Best of 2025: The Key to Real and Lasting Freedom from Porn
Originally aired on January 29, 2025
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In today’s episode, our guest is Noah Filipiak, a pastor, author, and podcaster who is passionate about applying the reality of the gospel to the real struggles and challenges of life, especially struggles with porn and sexual brokenness. Noah opens up about his personal struggles with pornography addiction, which began in his teenage years despite growing up in a Christian home. He shares how vulnerability, community, and a deeper relationship with Christ were key to his recovery.Â
We discuss the importance of...
Best of 2025: Are You a Loner or Connector in Your Relationships?
Originally aired on March 26, 2025
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In this episode, we dive into the dynamics of "loners" and "connectors" in relationships. Everyone falls into one of these categories. As we explore this topic, my friend and co-host Stephen Cervantes discusses how loners tend to be independent and process internally, while connectors thrive on dialogue and emotional exchange. We examine how these differences impact communication and emotional connection, particularly in marriages.Â
We share insights on personal growth, emphasizing the importance of understanding and appreciating each other's communication styles; we aren’t o...
Online Care Groups for Wives Facing Betrayal Trauma
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In this episode, I sit down with the incredible volunteer team behind the Wives Care groups, which is our eight-week online support group for wives healing from betrayal tra...
Keys to Emotional Intimacy: Empathy, Attunement, and Responsiveness
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Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.
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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and colleague Dr. Stephen Cervantes—Doctor Marriage—to explore the vital roles of empathy, attunement, and responsiveness in relatio...
Breaking Free from Shame: Knowing Your Identity in Christ
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In this episode, our guest is Amber Albee Swenson—mom, Bible teacher, and author—to talk about her book, The Key to Confidence. Amber shares her personal journey from sh...
Beyond Sobriety: How to Truly Heal from Compulsive Sexual Behaviors
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In this episode, I sit down with Sean Maney, director of First Light in St. Louis, to discuss sexual recovery ministry. Sean shares how First Light supports men and...
How to Outgrow Porn Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle
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Now through December 31, 2025 your gift will be DOUBLED, up to $71,500! Please help us reach this match in order to keep all our programs and services running strong into the New Year.
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In this episode, I sit down with Drew Boa to discuss his new book, Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle. Drew shares his personal jour...
Girl Talk: Helping Moms and Daughters Have Honest Conversations About Sex
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In this episode, I sit down with returning guest Ashley Jameson, a sex educator and author of the new book "Girl Talk." We dive into why it’s so...
Why We Stay Stuck and How to Move Forward
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In this episode, I sit down with Stephen Cervantes to explore why so many of us feel stuck in our personal growth, especially men facing addiction and relational struggles. We share honest stories about excuses, limiting beliefs, and the deep fears that hold us back—like failure, rejection, and not feeling good enough.Â
Together, we unpack how faith, hope, and community can help us move forward, break old...
Your True Identity: The Journey from Head Knowledge to Heart Belief in Christ
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In this episode, I reconnect with KathyGrace Duncan, who briefly shares her remarkable journey of living as a man for 11 years before finding transformation and true identity in Christ. The bulk of our conversation focuses on what it means to move from “head knowledge” of identity in Christ to “heart belief,” exploring how God renews our minds and hearts through Scripture, prayer, and community.Â
KathyGrace offers practical wisdom on...
The Three Phases of Couples Recovery
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In this episode, I welcome back Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to dive into their “Three Phases of Couple Recovery” model for healing from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Together, we explore the Recovery, Restoration, and Renewal phases—discussing how couples can move from crisis and individual healing to rebuilding trust, intimacy, and shared purpose.Â
Joanna and Matthew share practical tips, emphasize the importance of trauma-informed support, and encourag...
How Parents Can Effectively Engage in Sexual Discipleship with their Kids
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Juli Slattery to talk about sexual discipleship in parenting. Juli shares insights from her new book, "Surrendered Sexuality," and explains how sexual discipleship is an ongoing, grace-filled journey—much deeper than traditional sex education.Â
We discuss the unique role parents play in shaping their kids’ understanding of sexuality, the importance of modeling both truth and grace, and how surrender, not p...
