Muddle Buddies with Jacy Luce

For many of us, the conversation about sex in church growing up sounded something like: “Don’t do it.” or nothing at all.

But then we get married… and suddenly we’re supposed to understand our bodies, intimacy, desire, and communication with zero confusion or baggage.

Except real life doesn’t work that way.

In this episode, Jacy sits down with Angela, known online as The Christian Sexpert, to talk about faith, sexuality, purity culture, and what it looks like to build a healthier, shame-free understanding of sex within Christian marriage.

Together the...

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Heather, founder of Limb Love Library, to talk about representation, differences, and why books matter more than we think. After her recent appearance on Good Day PA, she joins Muddle Buddies for her very first podcast ever, and we laugh our way through both of our “firsts.”

Heather shares the heart behind Limb Love Library, how purchasing books helps donate more inclusive books to families and schools, and why teaching kids about differences early changes everything. We also talk about the broader impact of organizations like Lucky Fin Proj...

Join Jacy and her daughter Taryn as they talk about a whole lot of nothing and everything all at once.

This week’s episode is a quiet, honest check-in from the middle of the muddle.

After coming off the high and exhaustion of a big mental health conference and heading straight into a deeply reflective spiritual formation retreat, Jacy shows up with very little polish and a lot of real life. What starts as a “tiny episode” turns into an unfiltered reflection on a moment of rupture in her marriage, the familiar instinct to lead with logic instead of presence, and the uncomfortable awareness that growth is still very much in progress.

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This week’s UPE episode is brought to you by very few brain cells, a whole lot of life, and the decision to show up anyway.

Jacy shares honestly about walking through a high-stress season, preparing for a big mental health conference, navigating full schedules, and noticing how limited capacity can impact both our inner world and our closest relationships.

In the middle of the exhaustion, something gentle unfolds. A hard but healthy conversation with her husband. The unexpected gift of being seen. The realization that sometimes we’re carrying more than we even know.

In this episode of Muddle Buddies, I’m joined by Bekah Treverton for a conversation that feels like a breathe of fresh air.

Bekah and I talk about nervous system regulation, finding peace in the middle of the hustle and bustle of life, and what it looks like to gently care for ourselves when life feels heavy, overwhelming, or just plain loud. We explore the small, practical ways we can come back to ourselves, build awareness around our bodies, and create space for healing, growth, and joy, even when things aren’t tidy or figured out.

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This late-night UPE is fueled by excitement, a ring light I’m not emotionally prepared for, and a coffee table I found on the side of the road that somehow became the missing piece of my podcast space 🥹

I’m recording from my cozy chair, trying out video on my phone (no promises), sharing a Taste Like Sugar moment that feels like a quiet nudge to keep going—and inviting YOU into this space. If you’ve ever thought about being on Muddle Buddies but felt awkward asking… this is your official invitation. The answer is yes. Always yes.<...

What if the parts of ourselves we’re most afraid of are actually the doorway to healing?

In this honest, wide-ranging conversation, Jacy sits down with Cara to talk about parenting, grace, rage, self-compassion, faith, and what it really means to be human, especially when you’re raising kids, carrying expectations, and trying to do better than the generation before you.

Together, they explore:

It’s a new year… and I am still very much myself.

In this Unforeseen Prior Engagement episode, I’m skipping the resolutions and sharing my anti-resolutions—the things I fully plan to keep doing in 2026. Like underestimating how long everything takes, believing a warm drink can fix most problems, needing reminders for things I deeply care about, and growing slowly enough that I usually only notice it in hindsight.

If you didn’t magically become a new person when the calendar flipped, you didn’t fail January. Maybe this year doesn’t need a big reinventio...

New Year, Same Mess. More Grace.

It’s New Year’s week, and Jacy is joined by her dear friend SaKoya for an unfiltered, laugh-out-loud, deeply honest conversation about what 2025 held and what they’re carrying into 2026.

From choosing a “word for the year” to navigating postpartum emotions, ADHD, marriage growth, people-pleasing, boundaries, mental health, medication, grace, and the liberating power of letting them (or, as SaKoya lovingly reframes it… f them), this episode feels like sitting on the couch with a friend who tells the truth and hands you permission to breathe.

They talk ab...

Christmas is a few days away, I’m wildly unprepared, and instead of something polished or festive, this week’s UPE is an invitation to stop.

In this episode, we take a few quiet minutes together to breathe, notice what we’re carrying, and make space for both the heavy and the tender parts of this season. There’s no fixing, no learning, no productivity. Just a gentle pause, some grounding breaths, and a reminder that you’re not behind and you’re not alone.

This episode includes intentional silence and reflection, so listen when it feels saf...

In this week’s conversation, I sit down with my friend Kelli to talk about what we jokingly call being “toxically open” – oversharing, social hangovers, and that next-day spiral where you replay every word and wonder if you were “too much.” We explore how shame sneaks into our relationships, what it looks like to build safe community, and why the simple question “Who told you that?” can be such a game-changer for our view of ourselves and God.

We also get into what it means to invite Jesus into our actual stories (not the cleaned-up versions), why many of us learn...

This week’s Unforeseen Prior Engagement episode is coming to you from the very real, very tired middle of my life. It’s one of those weeks where everything feels a little heavier, the brain feels a little slower, and simply showing up feels like its own tiny victory. So instead of polished thoughts or tidy lessons, this episode is just me—tired, human, and telling the truth about where I’m at.

I share a quick, ridiculous mess from the week, a small “Tastes Like Sugar” moment that reminded me why this community matters, and a whole lot of...

What does it look like to live handicapable in a world that wasn’t built with you in mind? In this episode, I sit down with my friend Kiefer to talk about disability, accessibility, and advocacy in real life - not just on paper.

Kiefer shares his story of becoming a quadriplegic after a spinal cord injury and how, 11 years later, he’s using his lived experience to speak up for accessibility, inclusion, and independence. We talk about what it’s like to move through everyday spaces like churches, apartments, gyms, outdoor trails, beaches, bathrooms, when you use a...

This UPE is a snapshot of a week that felt unreasonably chaotic — starting with the moment a dead cave cricket fell out of my shoe at work. Nothing could’ve prepared me. Truly nothing.

From there, the week continued with a rip in the worst possible spot in my jeans, an almost-disastrous autocorrect text, and a handful of other “are you kidding me?” moments.

It wasn’t the worst week, just a weird one — the kind that leaves you laughing, unsettled, and grateful for people who let you tell your stories.

If you’ve had a “what...

This week I’m joined by my friend Alex for a real, tender conversation about faith and mental health—no magic fixes, just honesty, humor, and hope. We talk about why “Jesus wept” matters for our grief today, how lament can be a faithful practice, and what it looks like to be a safe person before trying to be a “fixer.” We get practical too: community, small self-care rhythms, checking what we consume, and giving ourselves grace in the grey.

⚠️ Content notice: Between 10:00–12:05, I briefly share a story involving the loss of a baby. Please skip that section...

This week’s mini episode is part gratitude, part real life. I’m celebrating one whole month of Muddle Buddies, and honestly, I’m still in that happy shock every time someone tells me they’ve been listening. 🥹

I share a quick mess (spoiler: my house and I are in a long-term relationship with chaos) and a quick sugar: a sweet reminder from my almost-five-year-old that even grown-ups sometimes need help taking a deep breath.

If you’ve been feeling buried in clutter, literal or emotional, or just need a reminder that doing “one small thing” is enoug...

In this episode, I sit down with my daughter Taryn for her very first time on the podcast — and it’s everything I hoped it would be: silly, honest, full of giggles, and surprisingly thoughtful.

We talk about funny family moments, what it feels like to grow up, school favorites, church memories, why playing together matters, and what helps her feel most loved.

It’s messy, sweet, unfiltered, and so very Muddle Buddies — just two buddies talking about life with open hearts and a microphone that keeps slowly sinking down mid-conversation.

If you n...

Adrianne joins me for a cozy, chaotic, very “banana brains” chat about real life in the busy fall season. She’s a wood artist ramping up for the holidays, a former music teacher riding the joy of her fourth-grader bringing home a trumpet, and a mom learning when to say yes—and when to say no.

We talk ADHD energy, small-business pressure, setting boundaries (even with the good stuff), why Sabbath rest saves our sanity, and the gift of community when you’re poured out. We laugh about Hallmark movies vs. Criminal Minds, Chick-fil-A sauce stashes, and a Taylor S...

Surprise! I know waiting two weeks between full episodes can feel like forever—so consider this my unofficial, unpolished love note to the in-between.

Unforeseen Prior Engagements wasn’t originally part of the plan (shocking, I know), but life keeps interrupting my best intentions, and honestly… that feels on brand. So on the off weeks, you’ll get these mini episodes—quick check-ins where I share a mess I’m currently muddling through and a small sugar moment that made it worth it.

No big production. No perfect outline. Just a tired human with a microphone...

Join Jacy and SaKoya - two best friends who have navigated a whole lot of life together. They talk about all things friendships. From things that keep their friendship going to friendship breakups.

Come join me as I share the heart and hope behind Muddle Buddies for both me and you!

Welcome to Muddle Buddies! I'm so glad you are here!