No More Yes Girls
We’re Viviann & Vieney—first-gen Mexican-American sisters who used to say yes to everything until it cost us our peace, softness, and voice. We’re getting raw about why we were conditioned to please, the cost of over-giving, the cycles we’re breaking, and what led us to finally choose ourselves. This space is for the strong ones, the good girls, the First-Gen daughters—the mujeres ready to say no without guilt. We’re not experts, just two sisters healing out loud. 🫶🏽
La Paciencia No Es Esperar… Es Confiar Sin Tener Pruebas.
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Hubo un momento en mi vida donde pensaba que la paciencia significaba no hacer nada… solo esperar, tener esperanza e intentar no sentir ansiedad por lo desconocido.
Pero lo que he llegado a entender es que la paciencia no es pasiva.
Es una de las formas más difíciles de confiar.
En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, abrimos nuestro corazón sobre cómo se ha visto realmente la paciencia en nuestros procesos de sanación — y cómo aprender a confiar en el tiempo de nuestra...
Patience Isn’t Waiting… It’s Trusting Without Proof.
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There was a time in my life when I thought patience meant doing nothing… just waiting, hoping, and trying not to feel anxious about the unknown.
But what I’ve come to realize is that patience isn’t passive. It’s one of the hardest forms of trust.
In this episode of No More Yes Girls, we open up about what patience has really looked like in our healing journeys — and how learning to trust the timing of our lives has changed everything.
As sisters, we share h...
Claridad: El Momento en Que Finalmente Me Elijo a Mí
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Llega un momento en tu vida donde te das cuenta de algo muy importante…
no estás confundida. Solo no quieres aceptar lo que ya sientes
En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos sobre lo que realmente es la claridad y cómo muchas veces no es algo que nos falta, sino algo que estamos evitando porque requiere honestidad, cambio y elegirnos a nosotras mismas.
Como hermanas, compartimos conversaciones profundas sobre ese momento incómodo donde sabes lo que necesitas hacer… pero aceptar esa ver...
Clarity: The Moment I Finally Chose Myself
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There was a moment in my life when I realized…I wasn’t actually confused.
I just didn’t want to accept what I already felt.
In this episode of No More Yes Girls, I open up about what clarity has really looked like in my healing journey — and how it didn’t come from waiting for answers, but from finally being honest with myself.
For a long time, I told myself “I don’t know”…when deep down, I did.
I just knew that if I acc...
No estás estancad@… es tu mentalidad. (En Español)
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Hay un momento en la vida donde te das cuenta de algo muy importante…
no son solo tus circunstancias las que necesitan cambiar…
es la forma en que piensas.
En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos sobre el poder de la mentalidad y cómo los pensamientos que repites todos los días terminan moldeando cómo te sientes, las decisiones que tomas y la vida que creas.
Como hermanas, compartimos conversaciones honestas sobre desaprender creencias que no nos pertenecen, cuestionar los patrones que hemos repetid...
You’re Not Stuck… Your Mindset Is.
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Your life doesn’t just change because your circumstances change…
it changes when the way you think changes.
In this episode of No More Yes Girls, we talk about the power of mindset and how the thoughts you repeat daily shape your emotions, your decisions, and ultimately your life.
As sisters, we open up about our own experiences with unlearning old beliefs, shifting our mindset, and learning to see ourselves and our lives from a more aligned, compassionate perspective.
In this episode, we explore:
• What a mind...
El Poder del Perdón (En Español)
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El perdón es una de las herramientas más poderosas para sanar… pero también es una de las más difíciles.
En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos sobre lo que realmente significa perdonar — no por los demás, sino por tu propia paz, libertad emocional y crecimiento espiritual.
Como hermanas, compartimos nuestras experiencias personales de sanación y cómo aprender a perdonar nos ha ayudado a soltar cargas emocionales, encontrar paz interior y reconectar con nosotras mismas.
En este episodio exploramos:<...
The Power of Forgiveness
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Forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools for healing… but it’s also one of the hardest.
In this episode of No More Yes Girls, we talk about what it really means to forgive — not for others, but for your own peace, emotional freedom, and spiritual growth.
As sisters, we open up about our personal healing journeys and how learning to forgive has helped us release emotional weight, find inner peace, and reconnect with ourselves.
In this episode, we explore:
• What forgiveness really is (and what it’...
El Salto de Fe Que Cambia Tu Vida: Aprender a Confiar en lo Desconocido (En Español)
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Hay momentos en la vida donde sentimos que algo dentro de nosotros nos está pidiendo confiar… incluso cuando no tenemos todas las respuestas.
En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos sobre lo que realmente significa confiar: confiar en Dios, en el universo, en la vida y en el proceso que muchas veces no podemos ver todavía.
Como hermanas, compartimos conversaciones honestas sobre esos momentos donde el corazón siente que es tiempo de avanzar, pero la mente quiere controlar todo.
En este episodio exploramos:
•...
Trusting the Unknown: How Faith Opened Doors We Never Expected
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There are moments in life when we don’t have all the answers… but something in our spirit tells us it’s time to trust.
In this episode of No More Yes Girls, we talk about what it really means to trust God, the universe, and the greater source guiding our lives. We share what it looks like to take a leap of faith into the unknown and believe that everything will work out exactly the way it’s meant to. As sisters, we open up about our own journeys...
Crecimos con Padrastros Justo Después del Divorcio (La Parte Que Nadie Habla) (Español)
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El divorcio de nuestros padres no solo cambia su relación — también transforma por completo la vida de los hijos.
En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos con honestidad sobre lo que fue crecer con padrastros y madrastras justo después del divorcio de nuestros padres, y cómo esas transiciones marcaron nuestro proceso de sanación.
Como hermanas, compartimos:
• La confusión emocional de tener nuevas figuras parentales tan pronto
• El duelo silencioso por la familia que ya no fue
• La lealtad dividida que m...
Growing Up With Step Parents After Divorce (The Confusing No One Talks About)
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Divorce doesn’t end when the paperwork is signed — it continues in the quiet transitions, blended families, and emotions no one prepares you for.
In this episode of No More Yes Girls, we open up about growing up with step parents right after our parents’ divorce, and how those early changes shaped our healing journeys.
As sisters, we talk honestly about:
• The confusion of having step parents shortly after divorce
• Navigating loyalty, grief, and unspoken emotions as kids
• Viviann’s experience raising her firstborn with her now-husband, w...
Hijole... Otra Vez Nos Provocaron.
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En este episodio, hablamos de triggers, proyección emocional y por qué las reacciones de otras personas no siempre tienen que ver contigo.
Como hermanas, exploramos:
• Qué son realmente los triggers (y qué no son)
• Por qué tu sanación puede activar a familiares y relaciones cercanas
• Cómo se manifiesta la proyección cuando pones límites
• La diferencia entre intuición y viejos patrones de supervivencia
• Cómo dejar de cargar emociones que no te pertenecen
Este episodio es para ti si alguna vez te dijeron...
Uh Oh We Got Triggered Again..
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When you start healing, something unexpected happens —
you feel calmer… and other people feel uncomfortable.
In this episode of No More Yes Girls, we talk about triggers, emotional projection, and why other people’s reactions aren’t actually about you.
As sisters, we unpack:
• What triggers really are (and what they’re not)
• Why healing disrupts family and relationship dynamics
• How projection shows up when you set boundaries
• The difference between intuition and old survival patterns
• How to stop absorbing emotions that aren’t yours
This co...
¿Porque México se siente como duelo y sanación a la vez? (Episodio en Español)
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Para muchas personas Inmigrantes o que vienen de familia inmigrante, regresar a México se siente imposible de explicar.
El cuerpo se calma… pero el corazón se aprieta.
En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos de por qué México puede sentirse como sanación y duelo al mismo tiempo. De la memoria del cuerpo, de la nostalgia por una vida que no vivimos del todo, y de la identidad que se despierta cuando volvemos a nuestras raíces.
Hablamos de:
por qué México regul...
Why Healing Feels So Hard for Oldest Daughters.
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Being the oldest daughter often means becoming the strong one, the fixer, the emotional support system before you ever had the chance to just be a child. In this episode, we talk about the invisible burden oldest daughters carry and why healing, setting boundaries, and choosing yourself can feel so uncomfortable — and so full of guilt.
We explore:
-Why guilt shows up when you start prioritizing yourself
-How being “the responsible one” becomes an identity
-Why healing can feel like selfishness (even when it’s not)
-And how to l...
Ser la hija mayor me enseñó a cargar con todo… incluso con mi propia sanación. (Episodio en Español)
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Ser la hija mayor (o hija en general) no es solo un rol… es una carga emocional.
En este episodio hablamos de la culpa silenciosa que muchas hijas mayores llevan: esa sensación de que si te cuidas, si pones límites, si eliges tu paz… estás fallando a tu familia.
Este tema nació de un comentario de una seguidora y de los mensajes que hemos visto, sobre lo difícil que es ser “la fuerte”, la que arregla todo, la que nunca puede quebrarse.
Hablamos de:<...
Why Mexico Feels Like Grief and Healing at the Same Time.
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Going back to Mexico hits different when you’re first-gen.
In this episode, my sister Viviann and I talk about why Mexico can feel like grief and healing at the same time — why our bodies soften there, why our hearts ache, and why being in a place that feels like home can also remind you of everything you didn’t get to have.
We talk about:
• missing a life you never fully lived
• the quiet grief of being in between cultures
• why Mexico feels regulating to the nervous...
Las Frases Que Nos Enseñaron a No Sentir ( Episodio en Español)
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Cuando minimizar sentimientos se volvió “normal” en nuestra cultura.
En este episodio de No More Yes Girls, hablamos de las frases que muchos de nosotros crecimos escuchando y que, sin darnos cuenta, nos enseñaron a callarnos, a aguantar y a invalidar nuestras propias emociones.
“No es para tanto.”
“Estás exagerando.”
“Aguántate.”
“Hay gente que está peor.”
Exploramos cómo estas palabras, aunque muchas veces venían desde la supervivencia y no desde la maldad, dejaron una huella profunda en nuestra forma de sentir, expresar y relac...
This Year Changed Us...and We’ll Never Be the Same.
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We didn’t wake up healed.
We woke up different.
In this end-of-year reflection, we look back and realize something unexpected — healing didn’t just change our mindset… it changed our nervous systems, our boundaries, and the choices we were finally brave enough to make.
Including one of the biggest ones: Vieney quitting her job indefinitely in the middle of the year.
Not because everything was figured out..but because survival mode no longer felt like an option.
In this episode, we talk about:
• the...
AuDHD & Homeschooling: We Need To Talk About This.
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Growing up first-gen, we were raised to “fit in,” follow rules, and not question systems — especially school. But what happens when your child doesn’t fit inside the boxes those systems were built on?
In this episode, Viviann opens up about discovering AuDHD — what it is, what it feels like from the inside, and why so many kids in our community go unseen, mislabeled, or misunderstood. She shares the quiet heartbreak of watching a child struggle in environments that were never designed for neurodivergent minds… and the healing that began when she chose to...
You Don’t Lose People. You Lose Attachments.
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Sometimes the hardest part of healing isn’t the pain — it’s the letting go. In this episode, we talk about how the people who drift, disappear, distance themselves, or suddenly fall away… weren’t losses. They were releases.
We don’t actually lose people.
We lose the attachment to what they represented:
• the comfort of the familiar
• the version of ourselves we used to be
• the approval we used to crave
• the role we played for them
• the validation we thought we needed
When you heal, you...
Why Comparison Runs Deep in Our Culture
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In this episode of No More Yes Girls, we dive into how comparison is normalized in our culture — from childhood comments like “Why can’t you be more like your cousin?” to adult reminders that someone else is prettier, thinner, more successful, married sooner, had kids earlier, or “did life right.”
We explore:
how comparison is used in families as motivation that actually becomes shame
why first-gen daughters are especially affected by comparison
how unspoken jealousy and expectations create quiet resentment
how comparison becomes a lens we judge oursel...
When Belonging Costs You Your Becoming
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There’s a moment in every healing journey where you realize you’ve been shrinking your dreams just to stay relatable.
Not because you’re small — but because you’re scared of outgrowing the people you love, the identity you were raised with, or the version of you everyone feels comfortable with.
This episode is about that inner conflict:
The craving to belong… and the calling to become.
We talk about the guilt of wanting more, the fear of being “too much,” and the quiet ways first-gen daughters dim th...
They Labeled Me, So I Lived Like it
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Ever realize how the roles we were given growing up — the strong one, the quiet one, the fixer, buena/o para nada, the rebel — start to shape how we show up in life?
Sometimes we don’t even notice we’re still living from someone else’s definition of who we are.
In this episode, we talk about how easy it is to internalize the labels our families gave us and mistake them for our identity. How “you’ve always been like that” can become a prison instead of a truth. And how...
Are you a Fixer or a Forcer?
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Growing up in a first-gen household, many of us became the “fixers.”
The emotional mediators.
The peace-keepers.
The ones who tried to guide, teach, translate, protect — and sometimes… control.
Not because we wanted power, but because survival taught us:
✨ “If I don’t fix it, it falls apart.”
✨ “If I don’t hold it together, no one will.”
✨ “If they change, then maybe we’ll finally feel safe.”
In this episode, we get real about the difference between helping and fixing, loving and forcing, guiding and controlling.
We explore...
La Pobrecita Was Me.
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In Mexican families, we grow up hearing “pobrecita, le ha ido tan mal” — but rarely “qué valiente por cambiar su vida.”
We’ve learned to glorify pain, to measure worth by how much we’ve suffered, and to feel seen only when we’re struggling. But what happens when you stop identifying with your pain? When you decide that being strong doesn’t have to mean staying in survival mode?
In this episode, we talk about what it’s like to outgrow the pobrecita narrative — the guilt that comes with healing, the disco...
Breaking the "Calladita Te Vez Mas Bonita" Rule
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We grew up hearing “Calladita te ves bonita” — a phrase that taught so many of us to shrink, stay polite, and never make anyone uncomfortable. But silence came with a cost. In this episode, we’re unpacking what it means to finally speak up after years of staying quiet to keep the peace.
We share personal stories about finding our voice, setting boundaries with love, and learning that being “too much” was never the problem—being unheard was. 💔
This one’s for every mujer who learned to smile through discomfort, who’s r...
Learning to Let Go
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As first-gen daughters, we carry a quiet kind of guilt — the one that whispers, “You should be grateful, you shouldn’t need help.” We grew up watching our parents sacrifice everything, so somewhere along the way, asking for help started to feel like dishonoring their struggle.
In this episode, we open up about the heavy guilt that comes with needing rest, support, or softness when you were raised to survive. We talk about how control became our comfort zone — a way to prove we were capable, worthy, and strong enough to carry the weight...
We're in a Funk
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Lately… we’ve been in a funk. Not quite sad, not quite okay — just somewhere in between. You know that space where you’re doing all the “right” things but still feel off? That’s where we’ve been sitting.
In this episode, we get real about what it means to be in an emotional funk — those seasons where your energy dips, your motivation disappears, and even the things you love feel heavy. We talk about why it happens, how to move through it with compassion instead of guilt, and what it’s teaching us a...
Turning Our Parents’ Divorce Into Growth
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Divorce is one of those life events that can break you—or shape you. In this episode, we open up about what it was like growing up as first-gen daughters of divorced parents, and how that experience changed the way we see love, family, and ourselves. From learning independence too early, to carrying unspoken responsibilities, to navigating two households that felt like different worlds—divorce shaped so much of who we are.
But instead of letting it define us in pain, we’re reflecting on how it actually became a catalyst for gr...
Who Are We!? Why we said Yes to Everything until it Broke Us.
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We’re Viviann and Vieney, two first-gen Mexican-American sisters who used to say yes to everything... until we realized it was costing us our peace, our softness, and our voice. In this first episode of No More Yes Girls, we’re getting raw, real, and reflective about:
-Why we were conditioned to always say yes
-The emotional cost of people-pleasing and overgiving-The generational cycles we’re unlearning-What led us to finally choose ourselves
-Why we created this space for mujeres who are tired of living in survival mode.<...
