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We're diving deep into the often intimidating world of spiritual warfare this week, focusing on the crucial concept of perspective and how it shapes our reality. It's easy to feel overwhelmed when faced with life's challenges, but we're here to remind you that how we view these struggles can make all the difference. Our conversation highlights the powerful truth that we fight our battles through surrender, flipping the narrative from being victims to realizing we're actually beneficiaries of God's goodness. We'll explore a transformative story from 2 Kings, illustrating how the servant of Elisha gained a new perspective, revealing a...

We’re kicking off a new series on spiritual warfare, and today, we’re diving deep into the intriguing paradox that to win in this spiritual battle, we actually need to surrender. It’s a concept that flips our usual understanding of conflict on its head. We’ve all been taught that fighting back is the way to victory, but what if the true path lies in yielding to Jesus and embracing the humility that comes with it? Throughout our conversation, we explore how surrendering can lead to profound victory, and how this practice can transform our perspective on the chal...

We’re diving into the final episode of our childlikeness series, where we unwrap the powerful connection between imagination and a flourishing marriage. We explore how imagination isn’t just a whimsical fantasy; it’s a vital tool we can use to envision healthier relationships and a deeper connection with God. We discuss the distinction between healthy imagination and destructive fantasies, emphasizing how the latter can lead us away from genuine intimacy. Drawing on personal anecdotes and biblical insights, we invite you to reconsider how you use your imaginative faculties to partner with God in creating a life filled with h...

We dive deep into the concept of being childlike, emphasizing that Jesus said we must adopt this mindset to enter the kingdom of God. As we explore what it truly means to be inquisitive, we reflect on how children perceive the world with wonder and awe, often seeing things adults overlook. We share personal anecdotes that highlight our own experiences of curiosity and the joy that comes from embracing the simple marvels of life—like the fascinating design of a grapefruit! We also tackle the challenges of maintaining that childlike wonder as we grow older, often succumbing to indifference or...

We dive deep into the essence of childlikeness, focusing on innocence and what it truly means to live with that quality in our lives. We explore how Jesus emphasizes the importance of becoming like children to engage with the kingdom of God, highlighting the genuine curiosity and openness that children embody. As we unpack the complexities of guilt versus innocence, we discuss how societal judgments can distort our self-perception, making us feel inherently guilty rather than recognizing our innate purity in Christ. Join us as we reflect on the journey of reconciling our humanity with our divine identity, ultimately...

This week, we dive deep into the concept of interdependence versus independence, particularly in the context of childlikeness. We explore what it truly means to have community and the importance of recognizing who’s around us and why that matters. It’s all about understanding our needs and how they connect us to others, as we reflect on the beauty of being able to express those needs like children do. We unpack the idea that while independence is often celebrated, it can lead to isolation, whereas interdependence fosters genuine connections and healing. Join us as we navigate these themes, draw...

Our guest, Carlos Padilla, reveals his insights on Christ, salvation, and the transformative power of counseling, emphasizing that there’s no separation, no delay—just a life fully immersed in Him. We dive deep into the conversation about the profound implications of living a life free from the perceived separation between us and God. We explore the misconceptions that often arise from religious teachings and the necessity of understanding our assumptions when interpreting scripture. Carlos shares his personal journey through various religious backgrounds, shedding light on how those experiences have shaped his understanding of God and humanity. Join us as w...

We dive into the compelling invitation from Jesus to embrace a childlike spirit as a pathway to the kingdom of heaven. The conversation gets real as we explore what it truly means to be childlike—not childish—in our faith journey. We unpack the significance of dependence, joy, and the raw honesty that children embody. Through relatable anecdotes, we illustrate how societal pressures often stifle our innate ability to connect with God and others authentically. Join us as we challenge the norms of adulthood and rediscover the beauty of being a child of God, fully alive and engaged with the...

This week, we’re diving deep into the heart of family dynamics as we explore the significance of gathering around the table. We share our personal journey of how we created a weekly family dinner tradition, which we affectionately dubbed our Shabbat meal. The table became a sacred space where we not only shared meals but also engaged in meaningful conversations about our lives and emotions, encouraging everyone to express their feelings openly. We discuss the importance of creating an atmosphere that allows for vulnerability and connection, even amidst discomfort, and how this practice has fostered deeper relationships within ou...

This episode dives deep into the roles we adopt within our families and how these roles shape our identities. We explore the idea that family dynamics can often feel like a framework into which we are poured as children, with each of us taking on specific roles—whether we were asked to or not. From the silent absorber to the family punchline, we share our personal experiences and humorous anecdotes about the roles we played growing up. We open up about how these family patterns can carry over into adulthood, affecting our relationships and self-perception. Ultimately, we encourage you to...

Exploring the concept of God as Mother may just be the most liberating conversation we've had yet. In this episode, we dive into the often overlooked feminine attributes of God, challenging conventional views of the divine as strictly paternal. Through personal stories and scripture, we reveal how embracing God’s maternal qualities can bring healing and a deeper understanding of our relationship with Him. We share our own experiences of how our perceptions of God are shaped by our families of origin, illustrating the importance of seeing God as both a nurturing figure and a source of comfort. This ep...

We're diving deep into how we perceive God as Father in this episode, and it’s a pretty crucial topic. The way we view God is often shaped by our experiences with our earthly fathers, whether those relationships are filled with love or carry deep wounds. We share our personal stories to explore how these dynamics affect our view of God and ourselves. Together, we’ll process those feelings and invite God into the healing process, aiming to reshape our understanding of divine fatherhood. So, grab a seat, and let’s create some space for God to speak into our he...

We dive deep into our concept of God today, focusing specifically on how our understanding of Jesus shapes our identity and our relationships. This conversation is not just enlightening; it's liberating. We explore how our early family experiences and the dynamics of sibling relationships heavily influence our perceptions of God and ourselves. With humor and vulnerability, we reflect on our personal journeys towards seeing God as a friend and a brother, breaking down the barriers of misconceptions that may have held us back from experiencing true connection. Join us as we share stories of transformation and invite you to...

We're diving into the transformative concept of God in this new series, exploring how our perception of Him shapes our entire experience of life. I mean, how we see God isn't just an abstract idea; it profoundly impacts how we view ourselves and the people around us. We're all carrying around some form of concept of God, often shaped by our upbringing, which can lead to some serious misunderstandings about His nature. As we kick off this series, we're not just scratching the surface; we're laying down a framework that will guide us into deeper conversations and revelations about...

We dive into our marriage journey, sharing how we met and the unique dynamic that keeps our relationship vibrant and authentic. In this episode, we tackle the stereotypes that often shape marital expectations, emphasizing the importance of being true to ourselves rather than conforming to societal norms. We explore the playful differences in our communication styles—like my tendency to chat about every detail while my partner offers brief, succinct responses. Through humor and heart, we discuss how we navigate these contrasts, learning to appreciate each other's perspectives while fostering a deeper connection. Ultimately, we invite you to embrace yo...

Join us as we dive into the intriguing world of prophecy, a subject that sparks a variety of opinions and conversations. We're unpacking our personal journeys with the prophetic, shedding light on how it can be a powerful tool for encouragement and reconciliation rather than something to fear. We believe that everyone can engage with the prophetic—not just a select few—and through this episode, we aim to demystify what it really means to hear God and share His heart for others. Plus, we’re excited to announce our upcoming conference in Grapevine, Texas, where we’ll create a space...

We're diving deep into who we are at SettledCo, and let me tell you, it's been quite the journey! We're not just a counseling company; we're a community passionate about helping others occupy their true selves in Christ. From our humble beginnings—when I, Jason, launched the company solo after leaving a decade-long church staff role—to now, where Elizabeth has officially joined the adventure, we've been busy creating a space where people can experience healing and growth. We're excited to share the evolution of our offerings, from biblical counseling to consulting and courses, all underpinned by our core mess...

Today, we dive into the transformative practice of meditation and contemplation, exploring how these moments of silence can help us truly hear God. This episode wraps up our series on connecting with God not through words, but through stillness and presence. We’ll discuss how stepping away from the noise of daily life allows us to be present with ourselves and with God, and help dispel the pressures we feel to constantly be productive. From personal anecdotes about our kids to sharing our favorite contemplation techniques, we aim to make this practice accessible and inviting. So grab a candle or...

Today, we're diving into the profound topic of being known as a friend of God. It’s not just about knowing Him; it’s about the incredible reality that He knows us deeply and intimately. We explore different dimensions of knowing God—cognitive, emotional, and even that profound intimacy likened to a marriage. Along the way, we share personal stories about our struggles with anxiety and how vulnerability opened the door to experiencing God’s presence in those moments. Join us as we unpack what it truly means to invite God into our lives and be seen by Him in our r...

Today, we're diving into a conversation about finding a safe place with God, a concept that can transform how we hear Him. We explore the idea that feeling safe is a core human need, and when we don’t feel safe, we tend to hide or put on facades instead of bringing our true selves to the table. With insights drawn from Scripture, we highlight that God serves as our strong tower, providing refuge and safety in His presence. We also discuss how to use the eyes of our heart to discover new truths about ourselves through contemplation and re...

We're diving deep into the art of asking, seeking, and knocking—yes, it's not just a catchy phrase; it's a lifeline for hearing God in our lives! In this episode, we explore how persistence in our prayers and desires not only aligns us with God but also reflects our inner longings and truths. We'll unpack the importance of using our words, our eyes, and our bodies in this process, illustrating how each action plays a vital role in our relationship with God. Together, we’ll reaffirm that this journey is about discovering ourselves in Christ, recognizing that the knocking isn...

Today, we’re diving deep into the concept of attunement and how it relates to hearing God. We’re exploring the idea that genuine connection with others—and with God—hinges on being seen, heard, and understood. Through some relatable stories, like a mom's response to her daughter’s mishap with a new pair of jeans, we’ll illustrate how attunement can transform our relationships and interactions. We’ll also unpack how God is perpetually attuned to us, inviting us to mirror that same understanding and connection in our own lives. So whether you’re feeling frustrated, joyful, or anything in betw...

Today, we're diving into a thought-provoking discussion about how you don't actually need faith to hear God. I know, it sounds a bit wild, right? But it’s true! This episode really unpacks the idea that as children of God, we are inherently designed to hear Him without the pressure of mustering up faith first. We’re here to help you settle into the reality that you’re perfectly made to tune into His voice. Join us as we explore what it means to rest in that truth and stop striving, because hearing God is about relationship, not performance. Plus...

Today, we dive into the profound topic of hearing God, a conversation that challenges the notion that only the spiritual elite can tap into divine communication. We explore the idea that the language of God is not just a set of words but the very fabric of reality itself. In our discussion, we share personal experiences that illustrate how God speaks to us through peace, intuition, and even our emotions, emphasizing that hearing Him can take many forms beyond the traditional understanding. We reflect on how our upbringing and societal influences shape our perceptions of God and reality, inviting...

Today, we’re unpacking the profound topic of original design and what it means to be found in Christ before the very foundations of the earth were laid. It's a refreshing perspective that shifts the narrative away from original sin and towards the beautiful truth of our original innocence in Him. We dive deep into how our identity isn’t defined by our mistakes but rather by our inherent value as individuals chosen by God. With humor and heartfelt honesty, we explore the idea of seeing ourselves through the lens of grace rather than guilt, inviting a transformative perspective that...

We're diving into a pivotal discussion about our original design, focusing on the theme of being "naked and unashamed." This episode tackles the concept of shame and how it impacts our lives, encouraging us to identify the areas where we feel exposed and the voices that have influenced our self-perception. We reflect on the Genesis narrative, emphasizing that before the fall, humanity was created to live in openness and vulnerability, fully embraced by God's presence. Through personal stories and insights, we explore the transformative journey of relinquishing shame and occupying our true identities in Christ. Ultimately, we aim to...

Today, we’re diving into a fascinating exploration of our original design as we unpack the significance of the two trees in the Garden of Eden. The central theme revolves around understanding the choice between the Tree of Life and the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, and how this choice impacts our spiritual journey. We’ll help you discern which tree you might be drawing from in your own life, and share insights from years of personal and ministry experiences that have transformed countless lives. Our goal is to empower you to live from the Tree of Life...

Today, we're diving into the profound topic of living from the image of God and how the impressions we allow from people and situations can distort our true identity. We explore the idea that many of us carry images shaped by past experiences, whether they be traumatic or simply misleading, which can leave us feeling devalued. Using the playful metaphor of Silly Putty, we discuss how these impressions can stick to our hearts and influence our perceptions of self-worth. Together, we reflect on the importance of recognizing these false images and returning to the truth of who we are...

Today, we're diving deep into the idea of occupying our true selves in Christ and understanding ourselves as a territory, a land filled with dreams, disappointments, and hopes. We explore how every person is like a universe of experiences, and how the kingdom of God resides within us, waiting to be discovered. Yep, that’s right—just like the tasty meatballs we enjoyed at IKEA, there's a richness inside us that’s both profound and deliciously complex! We'll get into how our internal world can sometimes feel chaotic, and how we often give external forces too much power over our id...

We're kicking off our Original Design Series. In this episode, we’re diving deep into what it truly means to sit down inside ourselves and operate from our original design in Christ. We’ll unpack how so many of us have been conditioned to focus on what we do rather than who we are, often letting the narrative of humanity's fall overshadow God’s original intent for us. It’s a refreshing perspective that invites us to embrace rest as our starting point, rather than a reward for our efforts. We’ll explore the garden language that illustrates our identity a...

This podcast episode elucidates the notion that incessant striving to improve oneself often proves fruitless, as evidenced by our discussion surrounding the concept of the "try harder solution." We delve into the detrimental effects of relying on sheer effort without addressing the underlying issues of the heart, ultimately revealing that true transformation stems from a profound connection with God rather than mere self-discipline. Through personal anecdotes, we illustrate the futility of attempting to rectify life’s challenges through superficial means, drawing parallels to a childhood experience with improper cleaning solutions. Our conversation underscores the importance of embracing a new id...

You’re trying hard to do all the right things, but deep down you’re still exhausted, disconnected, and wondering if closeness with God is always going to feel just out of reach. In each episode, Jason & Elizabeth have raw, story-driven conversations to help you rest in the reconciled person you already are in Christ. We’ll include space to slow down, listen, and encounter God right where you are. Are you ready to stop striving, start hearing God in the moment, and occupy your true self? This show is for anyone craving freedom, wholeness, and a settled identity.

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