We Ain't Dead Yet
Lori Dube and Constance Bauer, long time friends, embark on an intimate journey chronicling their deep conversations about life, love, and aging. As her cover picture surely attests, Constance is more "furious" with the aging process and the way women in their third act are ghosted by society, and Lori is more "curious" about how she can lean into and learn from this aging process. In this podcast we will unpack issues that are impacting the hearts and souls of women over 60, as we walk together into the unknown of what lies ahead for us all. We hope you will j...
Hair We Are: I'd Rather Dye Than Go Grey
One thing that doesn't change as we age, is our obsession with our hair. For women over 60, many conversations often get around to asking one burning question..."Should I let my hair go grey?" In this episode, we will go there with our guest Ellen Taxman, a woman who prides herself in being "low fuss" in her appearance, and who even works in the field of aging. We hear from Ellen about her surprise that the Dye-Grey dilemma is causing so much confusion. So dive into our cheerfully rambling conversation about how our mothers' decisions about hair dyeing influenced...
Get Ready For Retirement and Life After
In this episode we dive into the myths, barriers and boundary issues that get in the way of moving into, and fully enjoying retirement. For many working women, their careers are a source of pride and self-definition. Take a listen to this episode with Retirement Coach Elaine Belansky as we explore the question of "Who Am I?" once your career is in the rear view mirror, and Elaine provides tips and some free tools for making room for your next chapter to begin.
SHOW NOTES:
Elaine’s Website: https://elainebelansky.com
Bl...
Rightsizing Your Fear of Death
In our conversation with Amy Schiller, a social worker and professor who specializes in the field of death and dying, we start to unpack the myth of the “Good Death.” Amy talks about letting go of control in the dying process, and how becoming aware of our fears and beliefs about dying can impact our lives, and allow us to live more fully. Amy offers her students the opportunity to write Legacy Letters, and suggests everyone consider their own Advance Directives for when the end of life comes. Constance shares the many ways she is trying to practice and “rights...
Valentine’s Day, Rewritten: Pleasure, Passion & Play After 60
Just in time for VALENTINE'S DAY, Constance and Lori speak to Kandee Love, a licensed therapist specializing in couple’s and sex therapy. We explore topics ranging from sexual expression across the life stages to sex toys and tips for older adults. Kandee emphasizes the importance of prioritizing pleasure, passion, and play in a world filled with stress. Kandee has labeled February as “Spunky Old Broads Month,” and encourages women to re-write their old narratives and embrace boldness in the bed room. We discuss the idea of redefining sexuality beyond traditional penetrative sex, and the great importance of communication in a r...
Don't Burn Your Journals Yet: Finding Yourself on the Written Page
Constance and Lori speak to Ellen Blum Barish, a writing coach and memoir author. Even if writing is not your thing, listen in to our lively conversation about leaning in to this form of creativity as a tool for growth and reflection as we age.
For starters, we discuss the hidden value of writing for people who don’t like to write. Ellen suggests looking through the old stuff we tuck in drawers and stash away in closets and think about the stories they have to tell. Also, think about using photos we have stored in our ph...
When Roles Reverse: Caring for Parents in Our 60s
Constance and Lori speak to Ramsay Ringo, a career coach and expert on caring for elderly parents. We discuss the unique challenges of supporting aging parents when you are in your 60s yourself. Ramsay emphasizes the importance of a simplified approach to avoid overwhelming caregivers, and provides many practical tips. We explore the tension between ensuring the safety of elderly parents and respecting their desire for independence and autonomy. We also cover the complexities of coordinating care across different family members and locations, and ways to talk to our adult children about caring for elderly parents. Finally, Ramsay coaches u...
Post-Pie Reflections on Aging Out of Fucks
Constance and Lori catch up after the Thanksgiving holiday break. We cover everything from no longer giving a fuck, to spiritual connections with our deceased parents, to Mel Robbins’ "Let Them" Theory, to aging pubic hair 🤣 And we preview a few of our upcoming shows. Please join us for this quick, warm check-in.
SHOW NOTES
Aging Out of Fucks: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t Pretend Anymore, Ellen Scherr
What We Gain When We Stop Caring, Anna Holmes
Melani Sanders’s “We Do Not Care” Club (Instagram and Facebook)
We would...
Shocking Herself Awake: Gail Rice on Reinvention, Risk and Radical Acceptance at 70
Constance and Lori speak to Gail Rice, psychologist and writer, based in Sydney Australia, about her recent life-imitating-art birthday celebration. For her 70th birthday, inspired by Emma Thompson in the film "Good Luck to You Leo Grande," Gail hired not one, but two male escorts. She clearly touched a nerve, as her story went viral. She's been interviewed all over the world and recently had her television debut. Gail explains that these encounters were less about the sex and more about "shocking herself awake," and finding her voice. We also explore themes of reinvention, risk-taking, late-bloomers, body acceptance and th...
HARVESTING WISDOM: TWO OLD WOMEN'S MUSINGS ON THE HOLIDAYS
ALERT WADY Listeners: Due to a technology glitch, or to my senior brain 🤣, we accidentally published an environmental rap song instead of this Holiday episode, and over 70 of you downloaded it before we caught the error. Sorry, but it's all fixed now! Although we did receive some lovely compliments about the song 😊 Thanks in advance for trying again 🙏
Join Lori and Constance for a discussion about their evolving holiday traditions as they and their families age. They reflect on the changing nature of family gatherings, and the reduced pressure to maintain the traditional "Norman Rockwell" holiday experience. As always...
I Am Only One, But I Am One!
Constance and Lori check in with Bonnie Lee Black, writer and popular blogger, about her mission to amplify the voices and activism of older women. Join us as we explore themes of aging, death, sex, and civic engagement. Bonnie shares her journey from blogging about aging to advocating for activism in her hometown of San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. We discuss the imperative of making some noise, and knowing that we count. We also touch on themes of mortality, discussing Jane Goodall’s view that death might just be the “next great adventure.” Bonnie leaves us with some tips for gett...
Is Age Only a Number?
Is age only a number? Are the 60s the adolescence of aging? Does a lengthy life equal a live well-lived? All of these questions and more will be discussed, if not answered in this episode. Every decade of life holds its own, unique gifts and challenges. Constance and Lori will unpack the differences of being in your 60s and being in your 70s with Claudia Perez, a psychologist who specializes in working with clients navigating their 70s, 80s and even 90s. The conversation also dives into the concept of “joyspan,” a term coined by Kerry Burnight, a former professor of g...
Sex in the Sahara
Sex! Sex! Sex! It never gets old, even as we get older, but there’s no denying that things change. In this episode, Constance and Lori hear from sex therapist Jen Rafacz, who specializes in working with “medicare-aged” clients. Jennifer busts some myths about sex no longer mattering to people as they age, and offers some hacks to getting and keeping the sexual motor running, regardless of the physical changes or limitations of the aging body or the libido. Normalizing, informative, and sex-positive, this episode opens the door to a vital conversation we should all be having about sex with o...
I DON’T WANT TO DIE HATING MY BODY
"Dynamic and delicious" are two words that have been used to describe Nina Manolson, and we wholeheartedly agree! In this episode, you will be treated to a private reading of 2 of Nina's favorite poems. Together, we explore themes of aging, body image, and self-compassion. Nina shares her personal journey from being an "expert dieter" at age 10 to becoming an anti-diet therapist. Listen in, and you'll learn how to use one of Nina's favorite body peace exercises, hear her opinion on the use of Ozempic, and much much more.
You will also have a chance to weigh in o...
The Origin Story
In this episode of We Ain’t Dead Yet (WADY), get to know the origin friendship story of Constance and Lori, and hear about the qualities and conditions that allowed their remote friendship to blossom over 25 years. This is also an open-hearted and authentic conversation about the role of friendship in the lives of women over 60, and tips on how to keep old friendships alive, how to make new friends at any age, and how to let go of the friendships that weigh us down.
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We Ain't Dead Yet Pilot/Trailer
Meet your new hosts Lori Dube and Constance Bauer, long time friends, as they embark on this intimate journey chronicling their deep conversations about life, love, and aging. Constance is more "furious" with the aging process and the way women in their third act are ghosted by society., and Lori is more "curious" about how she can lean into and learn from this aging process. In this podcast we will unpack these questions, and others issues that are impacting the hearts and souls of women over 60 as we walk together into the unknown of what lies ahead for us...
Priscilla Dann-Courtney Is Taking Up Space!
Whoever said you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, had not met Priscilla Dann-Courtney! Priscilla embodies the empowered woman learning and trying new things in her third chapter of life. In this episode, you will hear the hilarious story of how Priscilla ventured out of her comfort zone, to journey from her psychologist chair to the improv stage. This episode has many surprises, laughs, and a whole lot of inspiration for anyone looking for a larger life. Listen in and learn how Priscilla has leaned into taking up more space!
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