IT Stress Relief

In this final installment of her mini-series on crunch culture and burnout, Gena dives deep into the subtle force that keeps IT professionals tethered to overwork: Identity. We explore how being the reliable one or the fixer can transition from a badge of honour to a source of immense pressure, making recovery feel like losing a part of oneself. This episode challenges the hero mode mentality and offers a roadmap for evolving your professional identity toward intentional, sustainable excellence.

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Many IT professionals adopt an unspoken identity as the ‘problem solver’ or ‘fixer’, which can lead...

Gena takes a look at the physiological and psychological barriers that prevent IT professionals from setting effective boundaries. Moving beyond surface-level ‘just say no’ advice, Gena explores why boundaries often trigger a survival response in the tech world, where being responsive is often equated with reliability and worth. She discusses the three hidden fears that lead to over commitment, how to reframe boundaries as ‘capacity signals’ rather than emotional outbursts, and why protecting your cognitive clarity is the ultimate move for long-term career sustainability and leadership.

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For many in IT, setting boundaries feels unsafe b...

Today, Gena explores the vital difference between escape and true recovery. While many high-achievers in tech rely on vacations or ‘over-correcting’ with strict discipline to combat burnout, these methods often fall short because they don't address a dysregulated nervous system. Gena explains why ‘survival performance’ fueled by adrenaline is unsustainable and offers a more effective path: micro-regulation. By introducing small, predictable signals of safety throughout the day, you can retrain your brain to shift from a constant state of threat to a baseline of steady, sustainable performance.

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Simply stepping away from wor...

In this episode, Gena takes a look at the perplexing reality many IT professionals face: the inability to feel restored even when they finally step away from work. Gena explains how sustained crunch culture conditions the nervous system to remain in a state of high vigilance, making stillness feel unfamiliar and even threatening. By exploring the wired-but-tired state and the common pitfalls of standard vacations, this episode shifts the conversation from time management to nervous system regulation. 

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High-pressure work environments train the nervous system to stay in a state of constant vigilance and r...

In this episode, Gena dives into the deceptive nature of high-functioning burnout, a form of exhaustion that doesn't look like collapse, but rather like peak competence. For IT professionals, this type of burnout is especially dangerous because it hides behind productivity and reliability. Gena explores why high performers often use ‘being busy’ as a coping mechanism and why standard rest (like vacations) often fails to provide deep recovery for a nervous system stuck in ‘threat mode’. 

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Burnout isn't necessarily a lack of motivation or ‘working too hard’; it is a cumulative failure of the nervous s...

In this episode, Gena dives deep into the psychological and physiological mechanics of ‘crunch culture’. Rather than viewing constant urgency as a simple scheduling error, Gena redefines it as a ‘threat perception’ issue that traps the nervous system in a perpetual state of survival mode. The episode explores why intelligent professionals often defend these unhealthy patterns, how ‘crunch’ transforms from a temporary event into a permanent internal state, and the hidden cost it takes on human connection and workplace empathy.

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While often framed as a lack of time, crunch culture is actually driven by the brain...

In this episode, Gena dives into the high-pressure world of ‘crunch culture’, those intense periods in IT where deadlines are compressed and stress becomes the background noise of life. Gena explores the psychological toll of sustained ‘perceived threats’, explaining how your nervous system shifts into survival mode, which ironically reduces the very creativity and empathy needed to solve complex problems. 

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Psychologically, crunch culture is a sustained state of perceived threat that triggers the nervous system's survival mode.

IT culture often rewards ‘heroics’ and responsiveness over sustainability, creating a cycle where pressure is mistakenly...

Today, Gena interviews Michala, a certified Hypnotherapist (non-medical), Beyond Quantum Healing practitioner, and inner transformation coach. Michala shares her journey from corporate burnout and chronic anxiety to discovering the transformative power of working with the subconscious mind. She demystifies hypnosis, explaining it as a natural state of focus rather than mind control.

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Around 90-95% of our daily behaviours are driven by the subconscious mind. Trying to change habits with willpower alone is like installing a new app on an outdated, glitchy operating system.

Burnout isn't just about working too hard; it...

In this episode, Gena explores the often-overlooked stress response of ‘fawning’: a reflex to people-please and avoid conflict that silently erodes the resilience and clarity of tech professionals. Gena breaks down how this hidden behaviour manifests in code reviews, backlog meetings, and scope creep, leading to burnout and a loss of authentic contribution.

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Alongside fight, flight, and freeze, ‘fawn’ is a reflex to appease others to avoid conflict. In tech, this often looks like volunteering for every bug fix or softening valid critiques to avoid upsetting colleagues.

While fawning might smooth over imm...

In this episode, Gena delves into the reasons why New Year's resolutions often fail, particularly for IT professionals who are prone to overworking and burnout. She acknowledges that the root of these challenges lies not in a lack of discipline, but in the nervous system and subconscious patterns that drive behaviour. Gena advocates for a shift in approach, suggesting that sustainable change comes from understanding and regulating one's system rather than merely setting goals.

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Most New Year's resolutions fail not due to a lack of discipline, but because they are based on mindset-only...

In this episode, Gena delves into the powerful tool of reframing, a technique that allows individuals to view challenging situations from a healthier perspective. She illustrates how reframing can transform frustration into opportunity by sharing relatable scenarios from the tech world, such as dealing with difficult colleagues or stressful deadlines. Gena also introduces a practical hypnotherapy technique called the 'dissociation screen', guiding listeners through a visualisation exercise to help them step back from their immediate reactions and gain clarity.

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Reframing is the ability to view a situation from a different, healthier perspective, which...

In this episode, Gina delves into the impact of emotional investment in one's job and how it can lead to stress and burnout. Gina emphasises that it's not just the physical demands of work that contribute to exhaustion, but also the mental and emotional responses to stressors. Gina discusses the importance of disconnecting from work after hours and suggests various routines, such as meditation and physical activities, to help manage stress.

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Emotional Investment and Burnout: Being emotionally invested in your job can increase the likelihood of stress and burnout, especially...

In this episode, Gena interviews Valerie Huang Beck, a board-certified Ayurvedic practitioner and Vitality and Vision mentor. Valerie shares her transformative journey from experiencing burnout to discovering the holistic practices of Ayurveda, which helped her regain balance and vitality. They discuss the pressures faced by IT professionals, particularly the misconception that success requires sacrificing health and happiness. Valerie emphasises the importance of foundational health, energy, and alignment in achieving a thriving life.

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Ayurveda, a 5000-year-old system of holistic medicine, offers a framework for individuals to understand their health and well-being, helping them recover...

As we revisit this very first episode of IT Stress Relief, your host, Gena Frangina, delves into the pervasive issue of stress in the tech industry. As an IT professional and business psychologist, she highlights alarming statistics that reveal the extent of stress, anxiety, and burnout among IT workers, emphasising the importance of effective stress management. Gena shares practical strategies for achieving a sustainable work-life balance, including setting boundaries, managing time effectively, and practising stress relief techniques like mindfulness and exercise.

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Stress, depression, and anxiety accounted for 51% of all work-related ill health cases...

Today, Gena interviews Lara Barnes, a Chief Customer Officer with nearly three decades of experience in the technology sector. Lara shares her inspiring career journey, highlighting her passion for customer success and team leadership. The duo discuss the biggest challenges of balancing a high-pressure IT role with parenting, particularly in the context of raising a child with learning and behavioural issues.

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Managing a high-pressure leadership role while raising a child can be incredibly challenging. It requires effective time management, consistency, and the ability to juggle professional responsibilities with parenting duties.

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Gena sits down with Shaman Dawn, a certified hypnotherapist and traditional teacher from South Africa, to discuss the intersection of indigenous wisdom and modern psychology. Dawn shares her unique journey into shamanism, emphasising the importance of reconnecting with oneself, others, and nature in a fast-paced, technology-driven world.

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Emphasising the importance of reconnecting with oneself and others, recognising that disconnection can lead to feelings of isolation and stress. Healing often occurs in relationships and community settings.

Incorporating simple daily practices, such as being present in the moment, can help manage stress and...

Today, Gena shares her personal experience of dealing with the chaos that ensued when her phone broke down. She reflects on our heavy reliance on smartphones and how they have become extensions of ourselves, often distracting us from real-life interactions and experiences. Gena encourages listeners to embrace the opportunity for offline living, suggesting that being without a phone can lead to stress relief and personal growth.

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Many people are highly reliant on their smartphones for daily tasks, including remembering phone numbers and staying connected, which can lead to chaos when a phone breaks...

Today, Gena interviews Aarti Mehta-Nayyar, a former IT professional turned corporate coach and author of 'Unappreciated to Unstoppable'. Aarti shares her personal journey from feeling unfulfilled in the high-pressure tech industry to discovering her passion for coaching and helping others overcome stress and self-doubt. She discusses her experiences coaching cohorts at Mindvalley, the significance of resilience, and practical tools for managing stress, such as the power of breath and curiosity.

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Success is driven by how individuals feel about themselves internally rather than relying on external validation from others. Building a strong sense of...

Today, Gena shares her insights from a recent experience at Big Data London, highlighting the transformative impact of data and AI across various industries. She emphasises the importance of understanding how these technologies affect not only business strategies but also the well-being of IT professionals who face constant pressure. Gina introduces her upcoming session at the Prompt Engineering Conference, titled "Prompt Your Way to Calm," where she will explore how AI can be utilised to manage stress and build resilience.

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Today, Gena reflects on a unique question ‘Should you fire your boyfriend if they underperform?’. Drawing a parallel between professional and personal boundaries, Gena shares her own recent experiences with a toxic relationship. She candidly discusses the challenges of being the primary earner and caregiver, the emotional and financial burnout she experienced, and her journey to reclaiming her sense of self-worth.

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Just as there are clear boundaries in a professional setting, we should have standards and boundaries for our personal relationships.

Today, Gena interviews Anand Parkhi, an assistant vice president at a leading investment bank and a former podcast host. Anand shares his journey in the IT industry, discussing the challenges of mental health and the impact of personal loss on his perspective. They also take a look at the common stressors faced by IT professionals, such as loneliness and the pressure of remote work, especially during the pandemic.

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There is a significant need for open conversations about mental health within the IT industry, which is often characterised by high stress and long hours...

Today, Gena interviews Kirstie Heap, a business empowerment coach and neurodiversity advocate, to discuss the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent professionals, particularly in demanding fields like IT. Kirstie shares her personal journey from HR and operations management to coaching, emphasising the importance of psychological safety and proactive support for neurodivergent individuals in the workplace.

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Neurodivergent individuals often face unique challenges in the workplace, including stress, burnout, and feelings of exclusion. Organisations need to adopt a proactive approach to support these employees by fostering psychological safety and understanding their specific needs.

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In this episode, Gena discusses the pressing issue of mental health within the tech industry, highlighting the unique challenges faced by IT professionals, such as long hours, tight deadlines, and the pressure to constantly improve. She highlights how traditional stress management techniques often fall short, advocating for holistic approaches like hypnotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), and coaching to create lasting change.

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The tech industry often fosters a high-pressure environment characterised by long hours, tight deadlines, and constant problem-solving, which can lead to increased rates of burnout, anxiety, and depression.

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Special guest Fyodor Kuznetsov shares his transformative journey from a stressful IT career to discovering the power of a scientific sensory-based breathing system for mental clarity and stress resilience.

After facing significant challenges, including the loss of a startup and a diagnosis of ankylosing spondylitis, Fyodor delves into his personal experiences with breathwork and mindfulness. He discusses the importance of eliminating mouth breathing, the impact of stress on physical health, and how he developed his unique breathing formula, which combines counting, visualisation, and mantra repetition

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In this episode, Gena delves into the crucial topic of mindset and its impact on stress management for IT professionals. Drawing from her personal experiences, including a stressful incident involving a burst pipe, Gina emphasises the importance of maintaining a positive, can-do attitude in the face of unexpected challenges. She discusses the detrimental effects of a can't-do mindset and how it can hinder creativity and problem-solving. By comparing life coaches and hypnotherapists to plumbers, she illustrates the value of addressing the root causes of stress rather than relying on temporary fixes.

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The distinction...

In this episode, Gena sits down with Dr. Puja Myles, a public health specialist and certified health and wellness coach, to explore the intersection of stress relief, consciousness, and leadership. Dr. Myles shares her journey from childhood curiosity about consciousness to her work with the Monroe Institute, where she utilises sound-based techniques to help individuals manage stress and enhance focus.

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Utilising sound frequencies, such as those developed by the Monroe Institute, can help individuals achieve desired states of consciousness, such as relaxation, focus, or deep sleep, through a phenomenon known as the frequency...

In today's episode, Gena sits down with Jihyun Lee, a multifaceted entrepreneur with a background in luxury fashion and beauty marketing, who now runs startups focused on executive coaching, biotech, and conscious property. Jihyun shares her unique journey and insights into the stress patterns prevalent in the tech industry, emphasising the importance of self-awareness and reframing stress as excitement. Jihyun also discusses her personal practices for stress relief, including meditation and the power of positive self-talk, while highlighting the importance of treating oneself with kindness and respect.

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Stress can be reframed as excitement...

In this episode, Gena speaks with Estee Lantos, a somatic and nervous system coach, to discuss the profound impact of stress on both mental and physical health. Estee shares her personal journey from a corporate HR leader to a wellness coach, highlighting how her own health crisis, triggered by chronic stress, led her to explore the mind-body connection. Their conversation delves into the importance of nervous system regulation, the difference between stress management and stress transformation, and practical strategies for achieving balance in a fast-paced world.

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Chronic stress can manifest physically, highlighting the...

In this episode, Gena sits down with Greta Staknyte, a breathwork facilitator and holistic coach, to discuss the transformative power of breathwork in managing stress and anxiety. Greta shares her personal journey into breathwork, highlighting how it helped her find fulfilment beyond her corporate job. She emphasises the need for self-care in today's fast-paced world and encourages individuals to explore breathwork as a holistic approach to improving their mental health.

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Breathwork serves as a bridge between the mind and body, allowing individuals to access deeper emotional states and release stress and anxiety without...

In this episode, Gena explores the essential skills that IT professionals need to develop by 2025, as highlighted by LinkedIn News UK. She emphasises the importance of both technical and soft skills, such as effective communication and stress management, in navigating the rapidly evolving IT landscape. Gena covers ten key skills, including technical documentation, AI literacy, incident response, and data governance, while providing actionable tips on how to cultivate these abilities.

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As the IT landscape evolves, professionals need to focus on both technical skills (like AI literacy and incident response) and soft skills (such...

In this episode, Gina, delves into the pervasive issue of Imposter Syndrome that affects many in the tech industry. She discusses how the fast-paced nature of IT can breed self-doubt, highlighting the different ways men and women experience this phenomenon. Gina shares personal anecdotes and examples from her coaching practice to illustrate the challenges faced by IT professionals, including the tendency for women to undervalue their skills and for men to mask their insecurities with overconfidence. The episode also explores effective strategies for overcoming imposter syndrome, such as hypnotherapy and coaching, which can help rewire negative self-beliefs and build...

In this episode, Gina explores the importance of confidence and assertiveness for IT professionals. She discusses common challenges like speaking up in meetings and handling difficult conversations, and explains how skills such as hypnotherapy, coaching, and business psychology can help.

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Many IT professionals believe that being confident or assertive is something you’re born with, but the episode emphasises these are skills you can develop—just like coding or problem-solving.

Even if you’re a brilliant developer, lacking confidence and assertiveness can hold you back from promotions, recognition, and having your ideas...

Gena explores the importance of starting your mornings mindfully to foster a productive and stress-free day, in this helpful routine-focused episode. She discusses how the emotional tone set in the morning can significantly impact your entire day, emphasising the detrimental effects of rushing and distractions. Gina shares practical techniques for creating a mindful morning routine, including practising gratitude, journaling for clarity, incorporating movement, and engaging in mindful breathing or meditation.

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Starting your day mindfully sets a positive emotional tone, helping to improve focus, mood, and productivity while reducing stress.

Taking a...

In this episode, Gena delves into the critical skill of time management for IT professionals. She discusses the challenges faced in the tech industry, such as tight deadlines, constant distractions, and the risk of burnout due to poor time management. Gino introduces several effective productivity frameworks, including the Pomodoro technique, time blocking, and the Eisenhower matrix, to help listeners take control of their time. 

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Effective time management is crucial for IT professionals due to heavy workloads, cognitive overload, and the risk of burnout. Poor time management can lead to missed deadlines, decreased performance, a...

In this episode, Gena delves into the concept of "betterment burnout," a phenomenon experienced by high achievers who feel exhausted from the relentless pursuit of self-improvement. Gina shares her personal experiences with burnout and emphasises the importance of self-compassion, enjoyable leisure activities, and mindfulness as effective strategies to combat this issue. She highlights how treating oneself with kindness can enhance motivation and reduce stress, while engaging in fun activities can recharge the mind and boost creativity. 

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Betterment burnout is the exhaustion that comes from constantly striving for self-improvement in various aspects of life, l...

In this very first episode of IT Stress Relief, your host, Gena Frangina, delves into the pervasive issue of stress in the tech industry. As an IT professional and business psychologist, she highlights alarming statistics that reveal the extent of stress, anxiety, and burnout among IT workers, emphasising the importance of effective stress management. Gena shares practical strategies for achieving a sustainable work-life balance, including setting boundaries, managing time effectively, and practising stress relief techniques like mindfulness and exercise. 

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Stress, depression, and anxiety accounted for 51% of all work-related ill health cases in the U...

In today's episode, Gena investigates the pervasive issue of procrastination faced by IT professionals and software developers. She explores the underlying connections between procrastination, stress, anxiety, and burnout, emphasising that it's not merely a sign of laziness but often a response to overwhelming tasks and perfectionism. Gena shares personal anecdotes and real-world examples to illustrate how procrastination can lead to increased pressure and diminished performance.

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Procrastination is not merely a sign of laziness; it is often linked to stress, anxiety, and burnout. Recognising this connection can help individuals approach their procrastination with more...

Today, Gena considers the critical yet often overlooked topic of setting boundaries for IT professionals. She discusses the pervasive "always-on" culture in the IT industry, where the expectation to be constantly available can lead to significant stress and burnout. Gena also shares personal experiences and research findings that highlight the importance of establishing clear work-life boundaries to protect mental health and improve overall well-being.

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Establishing clear work-life boundaries is crucial for reducing stress and preventing burnout, especially in the IT industry, where the expectation to be constantly available is prevalent.

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In this episode, Gena interviews Elke Wallace, founder of Mastering Your Mind Matters and host of the Exploring Brain and Mind podcast. Elke shares her journey as a Performance Enhancement Specialist with expertise in various psychological techniques. She delves into the impact of chronic stress on IT professionals, highlighting the symptoms of burnout and the importance of maintaining brain health through proper nutrition, hydration, and movement. 

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Chronic stress can lead to anxiety-like symptoms, reduced immune function, and cognitive issues such as brain fog and decreased concentration. IT professionals, in particular, may experience these e...