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The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/Dateable AF is a relationship podcast that goes deeper than dating advice. Hosted by a therapist and a researcher, the show breaks down the emotional patterns behind connection, conflict, identity, and growth. We skip platitudes and focus on what actually helps people relate more honestly, securely, and sustainably.Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of all kinds of relationships—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, re...
S3E10: Trust Comes Back When Behavior Changes
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?”
In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle.
This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication matters. But sometimes communication is not the problem. Sometimes the problem is that nothing changes, no matter how clearly you speak.
We start by unpacking the myth that if...
S3E9: Owning It vs. Explaining It: What Accountability Looks Like in Real Life
Dateable AF Show Notes:
S3E9: Owning It vs. Explaining It: What Accountability Looks Like in Real Life
Have you ever tried to talk to someone about something that hurt you, only to walk away from the conversation feeling like nothing actually changed?
Maybe they explained their intentions. Maybe they shared their stress, their reasoning, or what they meant by what they said.
And by the end of the conversation, you understood them better. But somehow you still didn’t feel repaired.
In this episode of the Da...
S3E8 “Nothing’s Wrong… So Why Am I Unhappy?”: When Safety Becomes Stagnation
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Sometimes the hardest relationship problem to name is the one where nothing is technically wrong. There’s no betrayal, no explosive conflict, no obvious crisis. On the surface, everything looks stable. The relationship is calm, predictable, and relatively easy to maintain. And yet something feels off.
In this episode of the Dateable AF Podcast, we explore the quiet paradox that many couples experience: a relationship that feels safe but also strangely lifeless. When things become comfortable but emotionally flat, people often feel confused about why they’re unhappy. After all...
S3E7: “It’s Easier If I Just Do It”: Why You’re Always the One Who Adjusts
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?”
In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle.
This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication matters. But sometimes communication is not the problem. Sometimes the problem is that nothing changes, no matter how clearly you speak.
We start by unpacking the myth that if...
S3E6: Why Your Relationship Changed When You Did: When growth creates distance between partners
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?”
In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle.
This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication matters. But sometimes communication is not the problem. Sometimes the problem is that nothing changes, no matter how clearly you speak.
We start by unpacking the myth that if...
S3E5: Fear of Being Seen vs. Fear of Being Left: Why You Abandon Yourself Before Anyone Else Can
Dateable AF Show Notes:
S3E5: Fear of Being Seen vs. Fear of Being Left: Why You Abandon Yourself Before Anyone Else Can
Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?”
In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle.
This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication matters. But sometimes communication is not the problem. Sometimes the problem...
S3E4: You’re Not Bad at Communication. You’re Tolerating Too Much: When Talking Doesn’t Fix the Problem
Dateable AF Show Notes:
S3E4: You’re Not Bad at Communication. You’re Tolerating Too Much: When Talking Doesn’t Fix the Problem
Have you ever thought, “I’ve explained this so many times. Why doesn’t anything change?”
In this episode of Dateable AF, we talk about one of the most exhausting relationship experiences: doing all the emotional work, communicating clearly, staying calm, using “I” statements, and still feeling stuck in the same cycle.
This is not an anti-communication episode. Communication matters. But sometimes communication is not the problem. Sometimes the prob...
S3E3: Shame and defensiveness in relationships: Why You Feel Accused When No One Is Accusing You
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Have you ever had a partner say, “Hey, can we talk about last night?” and immediately felt like you were in trouble?
Even when no one is blaming you, your body reacts like you are being attacked. Your heart races. You get defensive. You start explaining, justifying, or shutting down. Suddenly, a simple conversation turns into a fight.
In this episode of Dateable AF, we explore why that happens and what it has to do with shame, not weakness.
We start by unpacking what shame actually is and...
S3E2: “Are You Regulated or Just Really Good at Not Feeling?”
Dateable AF Show Notes:
A lot of people think emotional regulation means staying calm. But calm isn’t the same as connected. In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood concepts in modern relationship culture: emotional regulation — and how easily it gets confused with emotional suppression. Because you can look “together,” be low-drama, and even feel composed… while being completely disconnected from what you actually feel. And that disconnection shows up everywhere — in dating, in partnerships, in friendships, and in how safe it feels to be emotionally close to anyone.
🧠What We Cover
We talk ab...
S3E1: Come Closer… Not Like That - Why Intimacy Feels Riskier Than Loneliness
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Why Intimacy Feels Riskier Than Loneliness** This season marks a shift. Dateable AF started as a dating podcast — but what we kept circling back to was how people relate. Dating is just one place where relationship patterns show up. Whether it’s a partner, a friend, a parent, or a coworker… the same emotional dynamics keep repeating.
So yes, the podcast is still called Dateable AF. No, we’re not changing the name. But dating was just the beginning. Season 3 is about what actually makes you “dateable” in life — your capacity for connection...
Mistletoe & Minefields: Navigating the Holidays with Your Partner
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Meet Rachel Howell and Dr. Sarah Kyle
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and th...
S2E16: Control Issues in Cute Outfits: Why we try to manage our emotions by managing our partner’s behavior (and how to stop).
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Meet Rachel Howell and Dr. Sarah Kyle
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and th...
S2E15: Fight Right: How to Argue Without Burning the House Down
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasi...
S2E14: “Gaydar 2.0: How We Actually Know Who’s Queer These Days”
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Rachel and Sarah discussing Who is Queer?
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and th...
Revisit- Lesbian Dating on the Apps: Where Hope and Sanity go to Die!
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Rachel and Sarah are traveling. Here is a revisit of a great show they had in Season 1- Lesbian Dating on the Apps: Where hope and Sanity go to die!
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dive...
Dateable AF- Revisit Avoiding the Situationship Spiral
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Rachel and Sarah discussing Situationships
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasi...
S2E13: The Plus-One Problem: When your partner hates your friends—or your friends hate your partner—and what to do about it
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasi...
AFterparty for S2E12: Sealed with a Mess: Why Kissing Can Be Magic… or a Total Red Flag
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasi...
S2E12: “Sealed with a Mess: Why Kissing Can Be Magic… or a Total Red Flag”
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasi...
AFterparty for S2E10 and S2E11: Boundaries and Open Relationships
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Rachel and Sarah have another after party answering listeners questions.
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes...
S2E11: Open For Business: A Discussion of Ethical Non-Monogamy
Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E11
Rachel and Sarah discuss Ethical Non-Monogamy (1)
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable storie...
Adjacent to New Shody Media Podcast Cord of Connection Host- Danielle Cobb
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Ladies of Left Field- with Hot Girl Headlines - Recap of Texas/ou Weekend
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Kim & Friends meet Julia Haeffele "I Excercise, I am not Exercise"
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The Conspiracy Farm: What did Confucius actually say? "You Lack Rituals!"
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Mom's Favorite with Cassidy and Kim- Tales from a Former L&D Nurse: Part 2- The Pitt
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Pammy Out Loud- How not to become your parents with Cass Grange
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Shody Media Saturday Showcase
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S2:E 10 "That's not a boundary babe" (That's emotional micromanagement. Let's fix it.)
Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E10
Rachel and Sarah discuss emotional micromanagement.
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable storie...
Introducing Shody Media's Newest Podcast - Cord of Connection with Danielle Cobb
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S2E10: “That’s Not A Boundary, Babe” (It’s emotional micromanagement. Let’s fix it.)
Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E10
Rachel and Sarah deep dive emotional micromanagement!
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relata...
AFterparty for S2E9: El Camino Energy: Is It a Car or a Truck? (Being Bisexual in a Binary World) (1)
Dateable AF Show Notes:
Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe
Theme Song: Cade Kyle
Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat
Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.
Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.
Episode 2 Rachel & Dr. Ky...
Adjacent meet Mile High Club Member Suzann Grabe
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Ladies of Left Field- Hot Girl Headlines
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Kim & Friends- Kim shares what it is like raising a daughter
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Las Comadres Amigos de Las Comadres
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The Conspiracy Farm
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Pammy Out Loud- Zero Proof Experience with Susie Streelman
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Mom's Favorite with Cassidy and Kim- Kim sits down with Melissa Nolan to discuss Pans/Pandas
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Shody Media Saturday Showcase
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