More Time for Mom
Are you a worn-out mom who used to be the star of the office, spend 45 minutes doing your hair and makeup, and take romantic getaways before you had kids…but now you’re constantly behind and out of PTO at work, there are three days’ worth of dishes piled in the sink, the kids scream when tablet time is over, and you’re so touched out by 8pm that you scroll Instagram instead of spending time with your husband? Welcome to the club. If you’re paralyzed by what to do first whenever you miraculously find 15 free minutes and fall asleep in t...
Health Advice Busy Moms Can ACTUALLY Follow (with The Christian Nutritionist, Chelsea Blackbird)
Send us Fan Mail
What if things didn’t have to be so complicated? What if healthy living wasn’t about obsessing over numbers and trends, but giving yourself more grace? What if eating cookies didn’t wreck you with guilt and shame? What if feeling good in your body wasn’t about control, but about stewardship and joy?
In this episode, I'm joined by Chelsea Blackbird, aka “The Christian Nutritionist”, for a refreshingly different conversation about health, nutrition, faith, and the pressure so many high-achieving women put on themselves to do everything RIGHT.
...
Rest ISN’T a Reward: Balancing Work Ethic with REST Ethic (featuring Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith)
Send us Fan Mail
You’re exhausted. Overwhelmed. Mentally overloaded. Emotionally depleted. And yet you keep showing up, working, parenting, problem solving, managing everyone's needs, and holding everything together. At what cost?!?!
In this eye-opening conversation, I'm joined by internationally renowned wellbeing expert Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith to talk about why rest feels so impossible for busy, high-achieving moms—and how to finally get the different types of restoration you need to actually enjoy your life.
Dr. Dalton-Smith is a board-certified internal medicine physician, best-selling author, in-demand speaker, and creator of the groundbreaking Seven Type...
Why You’re Always Tired: It’s NOT Just Sleep!
Send us Fan Mail
You go to bed tired. You wake up more tired. You push through another day of work, parenting, responsibilities, and everyone needing something from you thinking, “If I could just get a good night's sleep, I'd finally feel better.”
But what if sleep ISN’T the kind of rest you’re missing?
After sharing my own recent struggles with chronic stress, exhaustion, and an unexpected freeze response, I've been thinking a LOT about what our bodies actually need to recover from the demands of everyday life. I keep coming back to...
When Stress Gets the Best of You: Unpacking the Freeze Response
Send us Fan Mail
I've spent years studying stress, the nervous system, emotional regulation, and our default protective responses. I have trainings, certifications, coaching tools—and I help other women recognize these patterns in themselves every single week. But somehow, I didn't realize I was stuck in a freeze response.
In this deeply vulnerable episode, I'm taking you inside what this stress response has looked and felt like for me—and why it was SO difficult to recognize when I'm normally the high-achieving, dependable person who prioritizes everyone else and just keeps going.
The...
He Didn’t Kiss Me, Total Spiral: Why You Take Things So Personally
Send us Fan Mail
I got triggered. BIG TIME.
Last week my husband didn’t kiss me goodnight. The next morning, he left for work without kissing me goodbye. No fight. No argument. No obvious reason.
My brain immediately went to: “Why is he mad at me? What did I do wrong? Does he even love me? Is he going to leave?” Cue the tears, sadness, anger—and a HUGE feeling of rejection.
I grabbed my phone and recorded this episode because this seemingly tiny moment illustrates three huge truths:<...
What ACTUALLY Overcomes Victim Mentality
Send us Fan Mail
A 1:1 coaching client recently said one of the most transformational parts of our work together is that I validated painful things she'd experienced that other people had minimized, dismissed, or told her to get over.
For years, when she expressed her feelings, needs, or struggles, people she loved responded by criticizing her for having a “victim mentality.” Now, having someone acknowledge her felt experience is what allowed her to STOP living like a victim.
Most people think “victim mentality” is complaining or blaming everyone else for their problems. In this epi...
Why Little Things Bother You SO Much
Send us Fan Mail
Why do the towel on the floor, the shoes kicked off everywhere, your husband's plate left on the table, or your kid doing that annoying thing over and over make you snap? You can know it's no big deal while your body reacts completely the opposite.
In those moments, you typically decide THEY are the problem and exhaust yourself trying to get the chaos under control…or you make YOURSELF the problem and try to “just relax” and care less. What if neither blame nor shame is warranted?
In this e...
Emotional Decluttering: Drop the Baggage You Don’t Realize You’re Carrying
Send us Fan Mail
What if exhaustion, overwhelm, people-pleasing, guilt, and emotional reactivity aren't really about what's happening in your life today...but from emotional clutter you accumulated years ago?
Clutter isn’t just the stuff piled on your counter, shoved into closets, or preventing you from parking in your garage. There’s another, more serious type of clutter that desperately needs to be let go: unprocessed experiences, responsibility for other people's feelings, and old belief systems about what emotions are/not acceptable. Unlike the junk drawer, you can't declutter your emotions by simply throwing uncom...
What If Clutter ISN’T the Problem? How to Finally Get Organized (with Tracy Hoth)
Send us Fan Mail
If you’re an overwhelmed mom who can’t seem to get the shoes on the floor, piles of paper, and messy counters (let alone the people responsible for them) under control, this episode will completely change how you think about home organization.
I'm joined by professional organizer and life coach Tracy Hoth for a refreshingly different conversation about clutter, decluttering, organization, perfectionism, procrastination, and the mindset underneath it all.
Contrary to what you think, clutter isn't evidence that you're lazy, incapable, or failing. Tracy and I talk about why e...
Your Teen is Changing. So Are You: Individuation in Teens & Midlife Moms
Send us Fan Mail
Why is your once-sweet child pulling away, rebelling against your rules, and acting like someone you barely recognize—at the exact midlife moment you’re asking, "Who even am I anymore?" There’s a connection: you’re both going through individuation—the normal psychological process of developing your own distinct identity.
In this episode, I break down the multiple life stages where individuation naturally occurs and underscore 10 huge takeaways that normalize why it feels sooooo threatening to your nervous system.
Individuation doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong; nor does it hav...
Is Life Coaching Worth It? A Real Client’s INCREDIBLE Before and After (with Lauren Schneider)
Send us Fan Mail
What really happens inside life coaching? Is it worth the investment? And does it truly change things for the better? In today's special episode, my former client Lauren Schneider speaks candidly about the transformation she experienced after working with me 1:1 for a year.
As a busy working mom of two young boys, Lauren thought she just needed help with productivity and time management. What she didn't expect was how deeply childhood experiences, nervous system patterns, people-pleasing, anxiety, body image, and self-worth were shaping every area of her life. You’ll be AM...
The Most Unhinged Things I Used to Do As a People Pleaser
Send us Fan Mail
Ever said "yes" when you desperately wanted to say "no"? Changed who you were just to fit in? Stayed silent when someone crossed your boundaries because speaking up felt too terrifying?
In today's deeply personal episode, I'm sharing some of the most unhinged things I used to do as a people pleaser—including stories I've never told publicly before. I now know that none of these behaviors were personality flaws; they were protective nervous system adaptations.
Through my examples, you'll learn why people pleasing isn't just “being nice". It’s the...
Picky Eating: How to Raise Healthy Eaters Without Driving Yourself Crazy (with Katie Kimball)
Send us Fan Mail
Feeding kids is expensive, time consuming, and more often than not they don’t want to eat what you worked so hard to make. In this episode, I sit down with Katie Kimball of Raising Healthy Families to get her best advice for making meals and cooking with kids way less stressful. Especially if you’ve got a picky eater, you can’t afford to miss this!
BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:
How busy, cash-strapped moms can feed their family in a more healthy...4 Things Moms Get WRONG About Stress
Send us Fan Mail
What if the problem isn't your schedule or to-do list, but what you believe about stress? In this episode, I share an interview where I explain the four biggest misconceptions moms have about stress and why understanding your nervous system is the missing piece other personal development advice overlooks.
You'll learn why stress isn't actually the enemy, how childhood experiences shape your automatic reactions today, how your emotional regulation impacts your entire family, and how to stop waiting for your circumstances to change before you can finally feel calm.
...
The Words That Are Secretly Sabotaging Your Goals
Send us Fan Mail
What if the way you phrase your goals and intentions is precisely what makes them feel farther away than ever? In this episode, I unpack how the typical words you use around your goals end up keeping you stuck and frustrated.
Drawing on neuroscience, psychology, and nervous system research, I share one of the simplest yet most powerful brain hacks you can use to stop self-sabotage and finally start achieving the life you want.
If you've been feeling frustrated by your lack of progress, discouraged at your lack of...
10 Things EVERY Mom Needs to Know About Stress
Send us Fan Mail
Stress isn't your enemy, but misunderstanding it might be. If you've ever wondered why you overreact, shut down, snap at your kids, struggle to relax, or feel like you're constantly living in survival mode, this episode is for you.
I share 10 life-changing truths about stress that EVERY mom needs to understand. Drawing from neuroscience, psychology, attachment theory, and trauma-informed coaching, I explain why stress doesn’t mean anything is wrong; it means you need better tools to work with (instead of against) your nervous system.
Whether you're navigating burnout, pa...
Why You Can’t Relax (Even When You Have Time) & How to Rest Without Guilt
Send us Fan Mail
If you've ever sat down to relax only to feel guilty, restless, anxious, or immediately overwhelmed by everything you "should" be doing instead, this episode explains why.
In this powerful masterclass, I reveal the latest neuroscience behind why so many ambitious, perfectionistic women struggle to rest. You'll discover how childhood experiences, cultural conditioning, high-functioning anxiety, and nervous system patterning can actually make rest feel unsafe—even when your body desperately needs it.
You'll also learn practical, research-backed strategies for calming your nervous system, overcoming guilt, creating healthy boundaries, and fi...
11 Things NOT to Say to Your Kids (and Why)
Send us Fan Mail
What you say to your kids matters—way more than you might realize. Several seemingly harmless words have the potential to do a LOT of damage under the surface. In fact, some of the most common parenting phrases quietly wound a child in ways you probably never intended. (Even if you’ve never said these things to your kids, there’s a good chance you’ve suffered the invisible effects of your parents saying them to you.)
In this eye-opening episode, I share 11 things I never say to my kids, the neurosci...
To the Mom Who’s Holding It All...
Send us Fan Mail
A message straight from my heart for whoever needs to hear it: Don’t be afraid. You are not alone. Hope is here. It's time to heal.
FOR SO MUCH MORE:
Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult
HOMEWORK:
Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts on this episode.
COMING...
Who Taught You to Talk to Yourself Like That? Where Your Inner Critic REALLY Comes From
Send us Fan Mail
If you constantly overthink, criticize yourself, replay conversations in your head, or have a harsh inner critic that won’t quit…this episode is for you.
In today’s powerful conversation, I dive into the psychology and neuroscience of the inner critic — including where negative self-talk comes from, why high-achieving perfectionist women struggle with it so intensely, and how your childhood experiences shaped the way you speak to yourself today. The great news? Thanks to neuroplasticity, you can change! Words are SO powerful so we’ve got to be careful what we think a...
Emotional Eating: The REAL Reason Stress Makes Overwhelmed Moms Overeat (with Denise Jelinek)
Send us Fan Mail
You know better but the stress from long, exhausting days as a busy mom still makes you turn to food for comfort. This episode will help you finally understand why no weight loss program or strategy has worked: because it hasn’t begun to get at the nervous system roots of your bingeing and emotional eating.
In this deeply honest and hope-filled conversation, guest expert Denise Jelinek and I unpack the REAL root causes of stress eating, perfectionism, overwhelm, and nervous system dysregulation in motherhood. We explore why so many high-achieving wo...
You’re Carrying Everyone…But Who’s Carrying YOU? (For Overwhelmed Moms)
Send us Fan Mail
You’re overwhelmed, exhausted, and constantly stressed…but if you don’t carry the load, who will? It’s HEAVY. And yet so many moms refuse to let themselves be supported in the way that actually matters.
After 6+ years of coaching (coupled with my own dark past), I’ve seen what happens when moms wish things were easier but never take meaningful action to get help to make them better. In this episode, I offer solidarity with all the hardworking moms who have built their identity around being the strong, responsible one that f...
Parentification: The Childhood Trauma Behind Overfunctioning, People-Pleasing & Burnout
Send us Fan Mail
Far too many women (especially eldest daughters) are wrestling with the aftermath of parentification, which occurs when children have to grow up too soon because of the physical absence or emotional neglect of their caregivers. In this episode, I unpack the many circumstances that can lead to parentification, the deep wounds it creates, and why it’s so damaging for your later relationships (namely marriage and parenting).
BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:
What parentification is, the various ways in which it occ...Why Mother’s Day Is So Hard (and How to Make It Better)
Send us Fan Mail
You carry the load all day, every day. Then Mother’s Day comes along (in the middle of one of the already-busiest times of the year) and just sets you up for disappointment. You’re not alone. And you’re not a “bad” mom if you’re left feeling let down, unappreciated, and worse than before.
In this re-aired episode, I delve into what moms are afraid to admit about Mother’s Day: all the unspoken reasons Mother’s Day is so hard, what moms really want for Mother’s Day (but are too afraid...
The REAL Reason You’re Triggered by Your Husband & Kids (It Has NOTHING to Do With Them!)
Send us Fan Mail
Not enough people talk about how HARD it is to stay emotionally regulated as a parent when you’re constantly triggered by your kids or husband—not because they’re doing anything wrong per se, but because they’re behaving in ways you didn’t get to as a child. Anger, fear, jealousy, grief…so many emotions surface as others’ carefree childhood drives home the reality that you didn’t have that luxury when you were little.
In this deeply personal episode, I share a recent moment that underscores how your triggers aren’t...
6 Hidden Sources of Stress (& How to FIX Them)
Send us Fan Mail
You already know mom life is stressful. What you DON’T know are the real underlying reasons why. It’s not just the kids, the house, your job, your marriage, your to-do list. It’s the subtle ways your brain tries to sabotage you through six hidden factors: decision fatigue, procrastination, the planning fallacy, inefficiency, ineffectiveness, and overwhelm.
In this episode, I break down each of these six hidden sources of stress, where they really come from, and (most importantly) how to FIX them. Punchline? What you think is the problem is mer...
Why You Feel So Overwhelmed (It’s Your Nervous System, NOT You!)
Send us Fan Mail
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, reactive, or like something is “wrong” with you…this episode will completely change how you see yourself. In this episode, I share an interview I gave diving into the truth about emotional regulation, nervous system healing, and the real reason so many high-achieving moms feel stuck, burnt out, or constantly on edge.
Here’s the reframe most women have never been taught:
You’re not broken.
You’re not failing.
Your nervous system is doing exactly what it was wired to do.
The probl...
What’s YOUR Default “F” Response to Stress? (Free Quiz to Find Out!)
Send us Fan Mail
Everyone has a default way they respond to stress based on the protective adaptations your nervous system took on from a young age in the face of real or perceived threat. In this episode, I run through a FREE quiz to help you determine whether stress makes you more prone to a fight, flight, freeze, fawn, or fix response. In addition to outlining what’s “good” and “hard” about each type, I also profile a series of common stress response combinations so you can better understand yourself—and others!
Download the FREE PDF qui...
The FIVE Stress Responses, Part II: Fawn & Fix Explained
Send us Fan Mail
Stress is not bad, and it’s not going anywhere. Yet how you handle stress isn’t random!!! It’s your nervous system’s pre-programmed way of keeping you safe from perceived threat.
In this second of a two-part series on the five “F” responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and fix), I go in-depth into the latter two—which are newer to be recognized and hugely important because they are learned behavioral adaptations rather than automatic physiological tendencies like the first three.
BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING...
The FIVE Stress Responses, Part I: Fight, Flight, & Freeze Explained
Send us Fan Mail
Ever wondered why you snap in anger, spiral into anxiety, or completely shut down when things get overwhelming? Because your nervous system is under threat and trying to keep you safe.
In this episode, I break down what’s actually happening inside your brain and body when you get triggered. Part I goes in-depth into the fight, flight, and freeze responses—three natural, physiological responses to stress. (Stay tuned for Part II where we’ll cover two other, even more important ones for women!)
Crucially, stress responses are NOT person...
How Nervous System Regulation Changes Your Marriage & Motherhood: 2 Real-Life Examples
Send us Fan Mail
Ever wonder why you snap at your husband, get overwhelmed by mess, or flare up when your child has a big emotional meltdown? Because your nervous system is stressed! While it’s only doing its job, the reality is that we spend so much of our precious time and energy being upset about things that are actually in your control once you know how to work with—instead of against—your nervous system.
In this episode, I’m sharing two recent real-life moments that show what nervous system health and emotional regulati...
How Busy Moms Can Be More Productive in Just 15 Minutes a Day
Send us Fan Mail
Motherhood means always having more to do than time to do it. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still be CRAZY productive. After struggling for years after becoming a mom, I tried and tested every productivity and time management strategy out there to figure out which ones do—and don’t—actually help busy mamas make traction toward their goals.
In this episode, you’ll hear the best-of-the-best advice to help moms be more productive in just 15 minutes a day. I share all kinds of proven practical tips for getting more...
What’s Life Coaching Like? Behind the Scenes of a REAL Call with an Overwhelmed Mom
Send us Fan Mail
What is life coaching really like, and is it actually worth it? In this special behind-the-scenes episode, I’m sharing (with a client’s generous permission) a REAL coaching session so you can hear exactly how a powerful breakthrough unfolds in real time. If you’ve ever wondered what happens on a coaching call and whether personalized support could help you, this episode pulls back the curtain to show you my coaching in action.
What starts as a simple weight loss question reveals deeper emotional wounds around body image, infertility, shame, and se...
When Attachment Breaks: Repairing the Bond with Your Kids
Send us Fan Mail
If you’ve ever wondered whether you “messed up” your child, this episode is for you. Secure attachment does NOT come from perfect parenting. It comes from repair after inevitable ruptures. Attachment breaks happen in every family but connection can always be rebuilt.
In this deeply personal episode, we continue to unpack attachment theory — but this time through the real, messy lens of my own experience with separation, grief, and ongoing repair. If you carry mom guilt about time away, postpartum struggle, work demands, family crisis, marital issues, or other life events t...
Is Your Nervous System Ruining Your Relationships? 3 Keys to Secure Attachment
Send us Fan Mail
We all need connection but if your nervous system got wired to perceive attachment as unsafe, it’ll sabotage ALL your relationships. In this powerful follow-up on attachment theory, I’m unpacking the truth behind how attachment styles reflect the protective adaptations your brain and body learned to keep you safe.
Attachment style isn’t your personality; it’s your nervous system’s survival strategy. I’ll show you how to determine your current attachment style, guide you through three steps to cultivate more secure attachment moving forward, and share exactly what your ki...
4 Attachment Styles Every Mom MUST Know (For Yourself & Your Kids)
Send us Fan Mail
If you’ve ever been frustrated by or struggled to connect with someone you love, you’ve GOT to understand the four attachment styles that dictate all your relationships—especially marriage & motherhood. Today we’re diving into attachment theory: how it forms, how it presents as adults, & how dramatically it affects your parenting.
Your (and others’) attachment style isn’t a personality flaw. It’s the nervous system’s relational survival strategy. It affects how safe you feel with people, how you approach social connection, how you handle conflict, how you interpret silenc...
The Most Important Mindset Shift You’ll Ever Make as a Mom & Why SMART Women Stay Stuck
Send us Fan Mail
This episode is feisty in the best way. Too many moms—and the smartest ones at that—succumb to the trap of two vicious, popular mindsets that prevent them from taking true control over their own life and happiness. I want so much more for you! I want you to experience the profound mindset shift I did, realizing that investing in yourself is the GREATEST thing you can do—and not just for you but for your kids.
I wasted years of my life crippled by the lie that there must be one...
Why Plans & Goals BACKFIRE (and What You REALLY Need for Success)
Send us Fan Mail
In this bonus episode, I share a recent training I gave that underscores why it's NOT your fault that you fall short on your goals or can't seem to change your habits.
You'll learn:
Why all the standard productivity and personal development advice fails you5 cutting-edge, neuroscience-backed truths that explain why you always revert back to your old waysThe 6 simple things you must do differently if you really want to change your lifeFOR SO MUCH MORE:
Join my new 6-week program, Mo...
Why You Never Change: The Neuroscience of Staying Stuck
Send us Fan Mail
In this first episode of the new year, I’m naming the real reason so many women—especially high-achieving, overwhelmed moms—set goals every January but still end up quickly reverting back to old patterns. Even when you want change. Even when you know what to do. Even when you’re deeply dissatisfied with where you are. It all comes down to your nervous system and the subconscious beliefs that your brain relies on to keep you safe.
I also offer a series of alternative perspectives on the classic excuses women use as j...
Moms’ HARDEST Week of the Year (and How to Get Through It)
Send us Fan Mail
In this episode, I name what so many moms quietly feel: the week after Christmas is often the hardest week of the entire year—not because you’re doing anything wrong, but because your nervous system is depleted and your circumstances haven’t caught up with your desire for a fresh start. I also share three very specific things you can look forward to—including free resources and a brand-new program designed to help overwhelmed moms stop white-knuckling their way through life and finally feel like themselves again.<...
