Placemarker 4 Perversion Podcast

In this episode, Mistress Audry Lu Black and Elizabeth Black, LCSW-BACS, LICSW, take a deep dive into the world of kink-informed therapy. They unpack crucial concepts like the difference between triggers and activations, how age play can help address attachment wounds, and why true consent goes far beyond a simple "yes" in both therapeutic and kink contexts. They also challenge the conventional wisdom around self-care. Elizabeth advocates instead for self-maintenance that actually brings joy rather than just checking boxes on a wellness to-do list. They emphasize that in both kink and therapy, understanding the distinction between hurt and harm...

In this conversation with Mistress Audry Lu Black, Jon AKA HiThereCatsuit, a podcaster and kink enthusiast, shares his personal journey of embracing gender fluidity and breaking societal labels. He lends insight into authentic storytelling, kink as self-care, and the creation of safe, community-driven spaces. They talk about vulnerability, respect, and genuine connection, and how they empower personal growth in the kink world.

Referenced in the episode:

NCSF – National Coalition of Sexual Freedom

The Invitation to a Brave Space by Mickey ScottBey Jones

You can find the Authentically Ki...

In this conversation, Mistress Audry Lu and Slave X delve into the evolution of female domination, exploring the complexities of kink, masculinity, and entitlement. Slave X shares his personal journey from a confused alpha male to a content creator in the Femdom space, discussing the importance of understanding one's own privilege. They also touch on the empowerment that comes from embracing one's true self through Femdom service. The dialogue includes the complexities of adult entertainment, particularly focusing on the dynamics of professionalism, the realities of Femdom porn, and the importance of authenticity in fetish exploration.

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In this engaging conversation, Maid Rosie shares his journey into the world of kink and service submission with Mistress Audry Lu Black. They discuss the significance of his maid persona and the role of uniforms in service roles. The dialogue explores the evolution of identity within the kink community and the dynamics of trust and safety in dominance and submission. Maid Rosie emphasizes the joy of dressing up and the unique experiences that come with being a service submissive.

Credits: Producers Maypop, Siren, Sunflower, Zinnia, Poppy, Dahlia, Wisteria and Lavender; Sound Editor Primrose; Music Creators Nick Ruiz...

In this conversation, Mistress Audry Lu Black and Sydney the Fat Troublemakr delve into the complexities of grief within polyamorous relationships, particularly focusing on the often unacknowledged and deferred grief that arises from losing a partner. They discuss the societal expectations surrounding grief, the lack of resources available for those navigating loss in polyamorous contexts, and the importance of creating systems to ensure that loved ones are informed in the event of a tragedy. The conversation emphasizes the need for open discussions about planning for the unexpected. They discuss the importance of memory and legacy, and the unique challenges...

In this dialogue, B.J. Frazier and Mistress Audry Lu Black explore the intricate relationship between writing and kink. They discuss the nuances of writing erotic literature and the tools available for effective communication in BDSM. The conversation concludes with reflections on the dynamics of domination and submission, highlighting the importance of understanding motivations and desires in both writing and relationships.

The resources discussed today are the BDSM checklists and fun quizzes found at B.J. Frazier’s website https://www.bjfrazier.com

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In this engaging conversation, Mistress Audrey Lu Black interviews Bran Hellbent, a skilled carpenter and woodworker with a lifetime of experience. They explore the aesthetics, functionality, and craftsmanship behind BDSM tools, emphasizing the importance of quality and personalization. They explore the design process and safety considerations. Bran details the pieces he has designed to create adaptable items for kinksters with disabilities. They also touch on the impact of mainstreaming BDSM and the value of investing in well-crafted equipment. They share insights on navigating the kink community and the joy of creating and using unique BDSM instruments.

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Therapy for the Sex-Positive and Kink-Informed

In this engaging conversation, Mistress Audry Lu Black sits down with Dr. Sam and Dr. G to talk about sex-positive, kink-informed therapy. They compare finding a therapist to the dynamics of dating: finding the right fit and continuing to explore the relationship. They discuss what red flags to look for, including consent and ethical boundaries.

Resources:

https://planetmidori.com/

RACK – (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) is a prominent safety and ethical framework primarily used in the BDSM and kink communities. It posits that because no sexual ac...

In this conversation, AudryLu Black and Kol discuss the importance of community-owned education in the BDSM and leather communities. They explore the role of consent classes, the significance of non-verbal communication, and the impact of online communities. The discussion also touches on the rich history and values of the leather community. They emphasize the need for inclusivity, community support, and the importance of navigating personal boundaries in BDSM practices. Featured toy/resource: Whiteboard and dry-erase marker

FRIES Model – Freely Given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific

Leather Archives Documentary https://vimeo.com/1012894808

Le...

Mistress AudryLu Black and Goddess Aroya Lessons examine the intersections of BDSM practice, podcasting, and personal evolution. Their discussion navigates pop culture's influence on identity and relationship dynamics within power exchange. They explore the balance between training and domination and the value of being correctable in leadership. The conversation extends to positioning in dominance and the liberation of authentic self-expression, while addressing community safety practices, and their 'Build to Serve' bootcamp integrating fitness with BDSM elements.

A munch is a casual social gathering for people involved in or interested in kink, BDSM, fetishes, or alternative relationship lifestyles.<...

In this episode, Mistress AudryLu Black, Sharkey, and Zander peel back the curtain of the furry community. They trace the intimate pathways of entry, where conventions become spaces for profound connection and belonging. The conversation navigates the complex architecture of identity, where fursonas emerge not as escapism but as expressions of self. What begins as an exploration of subculture becomes something more: a masterclass in how to build a world where the self can be seen, touched, and celebrated in its most authentic form.

They also discuss the vibrant world of the furry art community and how...

In this conversation, K. Andrew Turner and Mistress Audry Lu Black dissect the intersection of queerness, identity, and disability. They talk about navigating public spaces engineered for exclusion. Access and accommodation are not generosity; they are the minimum requirements for any community that claims to be inclusive.

Their dialogue encompasses love, attraction, and the dynamics of relationships. They unpack informed consent, disclosure in dating, and the ways desire shifts alongside bodies, capacity, and circumstance. Grief is given its due—not as an ending, but as a teacher—and the conversation returns to honest communication.

With humo...

In this conversation, Mistress AudryLu Black and Sckratch delve into the nuances of bratting within the BDSM community. They explore the various styles of bratting, emphasizing the importance of respectful interaction, understanding boundaries, and the intent behind teasing. They also explore the playful nature of bratting, contrasting it with petty behavior, and the importance of negotiation in establishing dynamics. The conversation highlights the multifaceted nature of kink, where humor, vulnerability, and emotional safety intertwine to create fulfilling experiences.

Toy: NiceLeatherGear

Credits: Producers Maypop, Siren, Sunflower, Zinnia and Dahlia; Sound Editor Primrose; Music Creators...

In this conversation, Mistress Audry Lu Black and Mistress Natalie delve into the complexities of power dynamics within BDSM relationships. They explore the balance between ego and submission and the human needs that underpin power exchanges. The discussion also highlights generational shifts in attitudes towards power and intimacy, advocating for a more holistic approach to self-care and emotional well-being in the context of BDSM. In this engaging conversation, Mistress Natalie and Audry Lu Black explore various aspects of BDSM, including role-switching, favorite toys, the importance of communication, and the definitions of dominance and submission. They emphasize the significance of...

In this conversation, Mistress Audry Lu BLack sits down with Evey Winters to explore what happens inside isolationist spaces—how the promise of belonging can quietly harden into rigid, black-and-white thinking. They unpack “red pill” ideology and the way it rejects nuance, demanding absolutes where real human experience lives in the gray.

Together, they also turn toward survival and truth: why believing survivors matters, how sexual assault trauma reshapes lives, and the exhausting, often brutal obstacles survivors face when they try to seek justice. This is a conversation about listening without defensiveness, holding complexity without flinching, and choosi...

In this conversation, Mistress AudryLu Black sits down with Katherine Studley—a tax consultant who works fluently in the spicy economy—to unravel the quiet complexities of filing taxes as a sex worker. They talk about the realities that rarely make it into polite financial advice: stigma, discretion, and the very real labor of keeping your livelihood protected in a world that isn’t always kind or fair.

Katherine breaks down why treating your work like a business matter—how clean organization, separating personal and professional finances, and, in some cases, forming an LLC can be acts of both...

In this layered exchange, Mistress Audrey Lu Black and Eve Hall approach intimacy with both curiosity and command—unpacking “Big Clit Energy” as a philosophy of confidence, communication, and embodied awareness rather than a slogan. They move through sexual health with clarity and care, touching on pelvic floor wellness, fantasy, and roleplay as tools for connection, not performance. The conversation widens to include nonverbal language, the difference between sex and intimacy, and the persistent orgasm gap—examined without shame, but with precision. Kink appears here as a framework for consent, boundaries, and deeper dialogue, while trauma is acknowledged as somethin...

In this conversation, Lady Sheba moves with the kind of confidence that comes from lived knowledge—speaking as a dominatrix, educator, and artist who understands both the psychology and the poetry of her world. She traces the quiet power of makeup as ritual and signal, reflects on her stewardship at the Carter/Johnson Library, and honors leather not just as material, but as memory—stitched deeply into LGBTQ history and survival. Woven through it all are reflections on representation, mentorship, and how kink relationships continue to evolve with more intention, care, and community than ever before. Lady Sheba’s photog...

This conversation, between Mistress Audry Lu Black and Maeve McBride, delves into the intricate connections between sexuality, kink, and personal empowerment. They explore how societal norms shape our understanding of worth, the intersection of birth and kink, and the importance of education in fostering acceptance and safety in vulnerable experiences. They discuss the significance of boundaries in professional settings and the emotional labor involved in client relationships. The conversation also highlights community dynamics, representation, and the transformative impact of kink on personal growth. In this engaging conversation, Audry Lu Black and Maeve explore the importance of sexual education for...

In this engaging conversation, Jules Brats-a-Lot and Mistress AudryLu Black explore the complexities of identity within the kink community, particularly focusing on the experiences of 'littles' and the dynamics of age play and age regression. They discuss the importance of community, representation, and the stigma surrounding these identities, while also exploring the joy and nostalgia that come with embracing one's own little space. The conversation underscores the importance of self-expression, the beauty of individuality, and the value of achieving clear goals in adult life, all while maintaining a light-hearted and authentic tone.

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In this episode, recorded live at DomCon NOLA, Mistress Audry Lu Black interviews Mistress Cyan, FemDom powerhouse founder of DomCon and owner of Sanctuary in Los Angeles. They discuss embracing the intersection of professional domination and lifestyle BDSM. Their conversation includes what we can learn from each other, how we all deserve community and the role of professional doms within that community.

Credits: Producers Maypop, Siren, Sunflower and Zinnia; Sound Editor Primrose; Music Creators Nick Ruiz and Dawson Kroeger

In this conversation, Mistress AudruLu Black and Paul Faust discuss his journey in the kink community, focusing on the events produced by Faustian Society and the aesthetic of Torture Garden. The dialogue explores the cultural differences between kink in Europe and America, the legal challenges faced in the U.S., and the complex relationship Americans have with sexuality. Faust emphasizes the importance of community accountability and the need for collaboration over competition in the kink scene. The conversation also touches on the commodification of kink and the influence of corporations on kink events, highlighting the evolving nature of the...

Mistress AudryLu Black and Pretty Penny the Hucow delve into the unique aspects of Hucow culture within the kink community; explore themes of body positivity and the intersection of hypnosis and kink. They also discuss the significance of costumes in providing permission for exploration and the role of community events in fostering creativity.

Content warning: Feeding kink and blood play

Featured toy/resource: Anal hook cow tail

https://tailsoffantasy.com/products/cow-tail

Credits: Producers Maypop, Mimic, Siren and Sunflower; Sound Editor Primrose; Music Creators Nick Ruiz and Dawson Kroeger.

In this conversation, Mistress AudryLu Black and Father Nathan Monk delve into modern America’s relationship with Purity Culture. They dive into corporate motivators, greater cultural effects, and the political implications of these ideologies. Father Nathan Monk speaks about being personally raised in the Purity Culture nexus and his subsequent study of the biblical sources (or lack of sources) that led him to lead in and eventually leave the Orthodox Church. Through his individual journey, we see the importance of autonomy and open dialogues about sexuality and sexual expression. Father Nathan Monk also discusses the life-saving ability of Narcan, em...

In this engaging conversation, Mistress AudryLu Black and Thomas explore the world of travel-friendly kinky toys, share tips on navigating airport security with sex toys, and discuss the dynamics of dating within the kink community. They reflect on learning experiences from disappointing encounters, the importance of authenticity and humor in online dating profiles, and the role of professionals in enhancing sexual experiences. The discussion is filled with insights, laughter, and practical advice for those interested in the intersection of travel, kink, and dating.

Toy: We-Vibe Chorus https://www.we-vibe.com/us/chorus

Vibrating necklace https...

In this fascinating conversation, AudryLu Black and Marcelo delve into the intricacies of the kink and porn industry and explore Marcelo's personal journey. They discuss the importance of health and safety, the impact of public perception, and the nuances of negotiated intimacy in relationships. The conversation also touches on creative freedom in scene work and the role of pro-doms in the industry and reflects on the future of porn.

Content warning: conversations about blood and STIs testing and protection.

Featured resources: Spunk Lube, 100% silicone-based lube & IG: @LuxxGear_KinkBags large kink bag.

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In this engaging conversation, Mistress Audrey Lu Black and Dr. Hillary Williamson Perez delve into the rich tapestry of Mesopotamian mythology, exploring the roles of goddesses, the complexities of relationships in ancient narratives, and the intersections of power, sexuality, and creativity. They discuss the significance of figures like Inanna, Ereshkigal, and Gilgamesh, while also highlighting the contributions of Hidwana, the first known poet, and the cultural implications of their stories in the context of gender and power dynamics.

Content warning: Rape, Sex addiction, sex abuse, incest, physical assault and child marriage.

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In this engaging conversation, Mistress Audrey Lu Black and Dr. Hillary Williamson Perez delve into the rich tapestry of Mesopotamian mythology, exploring the roles of goddesses, the complexities of relationships in ancient narratives, and the intersections of power, sexuality, and creativity. They discuss the significance of figures like Inanna, Ereshkigal, and Gilgamesh, while also highlighting the contributions of Hidwana, the first known poet, and the cultural implications of their stories in the context of gender and power dynamics.

Content warning: Rape, Sex addiction, sex abuse, incest, physical assault and child marriage.

Dr. Hillary J Williamson...

The Power of Sex: cults, control, kink and red flags with Dr. Sam

In this conversation, Audry Lu Black and (Dr.) Sam delve into the world of cults and high control groups and what draws individuals to them and the forms of control that are used to keep them there. They also explore the evolution of cults from good intentions to manipulative control and the gender dynamics that come into play.

Content Warnings: human trafficking, sexual abuse, sexual assault, child marriage, conversations around religion, torture

For further reading:

Stephen Hassan https...

Mistress AudryLu Black has a chat with Lady Delisha about her hat kink. In this engaging conversation, AudryLu Black and Lady Delisha explore the intriguing world of kinks, with a particular focus on hats in attraction and identity, the power of transformative roleplay, and the playful nature of kinks.

Content warning: insertion play

Featured toy: Strap on Me, Strapless Strap on

https://strap-on-me.us/products/vibrating-strap-on-remote-controlled

Credits: Producers Maypop, Siren and Sunflower; Sound Editor Primrose; Music Creators Nick Ruiz and Dawson Kroeger

In this conversation, AudryLu Black and the Feral Gargoyle delve into monster fucking, exploring its definitions, the importance of consent, and the personal journeys that lead individuals to find attraction in monstrous figures. They discuss identity, kink, and the power dynamics involved in monster play. In this engaging conversation, the Feral Gargoyle and AudryLu delve into the unique aspects of the monster community, exploring identities, the intersection of kink and comfort, and the fascinating world of fantasy-themed sex toys. They discuss the challenges of finding like-minded individuals, the creativity of independent artisans, and the importance of understanding one's own...

Play with Casey Garner

Mistress AudryLu Black talks with Casey Garner about the importance of play and what it does for us psychologically, mentally and emotionally. They’ll also discuss transitioning play into the bedroom with a little kink.

Resources in today’s episode:

The Gamemaster’s Handbook of Proactive Roleplaying by Jonah Fishel, Tristan Fishel https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/65212673-the-game-master-s-handbook-of-proactive-roleplaying

Unfuck Your Boundaries by Faith G. Harper https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/46231474-unfuck-your-boundaries

Peter Grey definition of play – self-chosen and self-directed. Play is intrinsi...

Play with Casey Garner

Mistress AudryLu Black talks with Casey Garner about the importance of play and what it does for us psychologically, mentally and emotionally. They’ll also discuss transitioning play into the bedroom with a little kink.

Resources in today’s episode:

The Gamemaster’s Handbook of Proactive Roleplaying by Jonah Fishel, Tristan Fishel https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/65212673-the-game-master-s-handbook-of-proactive-roleplaying

Unfuck Your Boundaries by Faith G. Harper https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/46231474-unfuck-your-boundaries

Peter Grey definition of play – self-chosen and self-directed. Play is intrinsi...

How To Talk To Your Medical Advisor About Your Kink and BDSM with Nurse Jess

Mistress AudryLu Black sits down with Nurse Jess to discuss how to talk to your medical advisor about your kink and BDSM.

Content warning: blood, sexual assault, sex trafficking, and medical information. 

Featured toy: OFFICIAL Hitachi Magic Wand Original Model HV260

https://hitachimagic.com/

We apologize for the sound quality in the first half of the production. It does greatly improve in the second half.

Credits: Producers Maypop, Siren and Sunflower; Sound Ed...

Mistress AudryLu Black sits down with author and playwright Dana Hammer to discuss all things menstruation, specifically menstrual poverty, preparedness and of course, period sex.

Content warning: Child abuse, blood, physical and sexual assault, body and gender dysphoria

Links to some of Dana Hammer’s books

https://www.amazon.com/Cannibals-Guide-Fasting-Dana-Hammer/dp/1953971512

https://www.amazon.com/Best-Friend-Athena-Dana-Hammer-ebook/dp/B0BHH74MNM/ref=sr_1_1?crid=VNNPD8I77YNG&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.MCH_4impkKgzJVEO21YSsRsJSGtStzKexrC9PHp2ZgEvo222xxH3HA_A12vQWsMweORK0qXpJuUujGSYjBkmeVcjVOlzKfc4rfcKOHaQmqwmb4kRf-f8s51GfOS9N2F2GftE6sQ7ZFRAqder3g1wCw.Ds...

Join Mistress AudryLu Black and adjunct professor Dr. Martin Young as they discuss their favorite philosophies and how they relate to kink.

For further reading recommendations by Dr. Martin Young:

https://madwizard.com/recommends.htm

Credits: Producers Maypop, Siren and Sunflower; Sound Editor Primrose; Music Creators Nick Ruiz and Dawson Kroeger

Part Two: The Fat Troublemakr

Mistress AudryLu Black sits down with the Fat Troublemakr to discuss the myths around fat sex and the importance of accessibility in kink. They also talk about how to make sex more accessible and fun for all body types using resources like the wedge or a liberator.

https://www.liberator.com/liberator-wedge-sex-pillow.html

https://womanizer.com – duo 2 submersible

https://hitachimagic.com

https://tracysdog.com/collections/clit-sucking-vibrator

Content warning: Fat phobia, abuse, disordered eating, and feeding abuses

Cr...

Part One: The Fat Troublemakr

Mistress AudryLu Black sits down with the Fat Troublemakr to discuss the myths around fat sex and the importance of accessibility in kink. They also talk about how to make sex more accessible and fun for all body types using resources like the wedge or a liberator.

https://www.liberator.com/liberator-wedge-sex-pillow.html

https://womanizer.com – duo 2 submersible

https://hitachimagic.com

https://tracysdog.com/collections/clit-sucking-vibrator

Content warning: Fat phobia, abuse, disordered eating, and feeding abuses

Cr...

Mistress AudryLu Black delves into sexy talk with her guest, Stina French. Stina hosts the online monthly series Listen to Your Skin and is the editor and publisher of the Listen to Your Skin Anthology and Take the Fruit. In today’s episode, language is kink, from sexting and whispering sweet nothings to safe words. In this episode, they cover it all.

Content Warning: Self-harm

Links:

https://www.thegreatbritishbookshop.co.uk/products/take-the-fruit

https://www.thegreatbritishbookshop.co.uk/products/listen-to-your-skin-an-anthology-of-queer-and-self-love

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