Sex and Breakfast

Dating apps promised us endless choices, but we're getting burnt-out swipes instead of real love. In this episode, the hosts explore why swiping through profiles has made us impatient with the awkwardness of real romance—and more importantly, how to meet people the old-fashioned way. They share practical tips for building a social life first, making friends second, and letting romance happen naturally. The key takeaway? Put your phone down, show up in person, and remember that the best connections happen when you're actually present with people who share your values.

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This episode explores edging not as a trendy bedroom hack, but as a deeper practice of awareness, control, and connection. The hosts unpack how intentionally pausing at the brink of orgasm can expand arousal capacity, heighten sensitivity, and shift pleasure from something rushed and performative into something embodied and intentional. Drawing from clinical experience, they connect edging to nervous system regulation, breathwork, and mindfulness, showing how it can support people dealing with performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, or disconnection from their bodies. The conversation also reframes sex beyond orgasm-driven goals, inviting listeners to rediscover pleasure, curiosity, and communication—whether practicing so...

Dirty talk has a reputation—and for many people, it’s intimidating, awkward, or even off-putting. In this episode, we strip away the myths and reframe what dirty talk actually is: not performance, not porn scripts, but the simple act of naming desire out loud. We explore why speaking during intimacy can feel more vulnerable than physical touch, and how cultural conditioning, shame, and lack of education shape our relationship with sexual expression. From religious influences to modern communication habits, we unpack the hidden barriers that keep people silent. This conversation brings a refreshing perspective: dirty talk doesn’t need t...

Most people think they already know how to masturbate—but what if the way you learned is actually limiting your pleasure? In this episode, we break down the difference between quick, habitual self-touch and mindful masturbation—a practice that transforms not just your solo experiences, but your partnered sex life too. We explore how patterns formed early on—often shaped by shame, lack of privacy, or porn—can wire your body for rushed, disconnected pleasure. From there, we unpack the cultural conditioning that keeps masturbation fast, secretive, and goal-oriented… and why that approach often leads to anxiety, disconnection, and dissatisfa...

Sex is supposed to feel good… so why does it sometimes feel like pressure instead? In this episode, we open up one of the most common—but least talked about—experiences in intimacy: sexual anxiety. From overthinking your performance to fearing disappointment, we unpack the quiet mental loops that can turn connection into stress. You’ll hear how anxiety doesn’t just follow sexual struggles—it often creates them. And more importantly, why nothing is “wrong” with you if you’ve felt this way. We explore the hidden cycle that keeps anxiety alive, how past experiences and cultural messaging shape your sexual...

This episode invites listeners to slow all the way down and question something most people never think twice about: are you actually feeling… or just performing?

The conversation centers around orgasmic meditation (OM)—a structured, mindful practice that removes pressure, performance, and even the goal of orgasm itself. Instead, it creates space for presence, connection, and deep attunement between partners.

Through personal experiences and professional insights, the hosts unpack how OM can feel awkward at first—but with practice, becomes a powerful tool for rewiring intimacy. By focusing on breath, sensation, and nonverbal communication, partners learn...

As conversations about sex become more visible online, many people are still quietly wondering the same question: What actually makes someone sexually confident?

In this thoughtful episode, the hosts of Sex and Breakfast unpack the deeper ingredients of sexual confidence beyond performance, dominance, or experience. Inspired by a coaching story about a client who tried to embody a rigid “real man” script he found on ChatGPT, the discussion explores how internalized expectations, myths from media and pornography, and cultural narratives often undermine our sense of sexual self-trust. The hosts describe sexual confidence as a recipe made up of c...

As conversations about equality expand beyond workplaces and politics, there’s another space where inequality still quietly exists: the bedroom. In this special International Women’s Day episode of Sex and Breakfast, the hosts explore the research behind the “orgasm gap”—the documented difference in how often men and women report orgasming during heterosexual encounters. Drawing on decades of studies, the conversation reveals that the gap isn’t rooted in biology but largely shaped by social norms, sexual scripts, and gaps in education about anatomy and pleasure. They also examine how familiarity, emotional safety, and collaboration between partners can narrow the g...

One year, countless honest conversations, and a global community later — this celebratory anniversary episode reflects on the journey of building a sex-positive space where curiosity, education, and pleasure meet. Nicole and the hosts revisit standout conversations from the past year, including fan favorites like exploring the many types of orgasms, reclaiming pleasure after motherhood, busting myths around Tantra, navigating long-distance relationships, and diving into the ever-expanding world of pleasure products. The panel shares personal highlights, surprising listener feedback, and the importance of normalizing open, shame-free conversations about sexuality across cultures.

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Porn. You love it, you hate it, or you’ve never quite known what to do with it—and in this honest, nuanced episode, we talk about all of it. We explore porn through a sex-positive, value-based lens, unpacking the differences between visual porn, erotica, audio erotica, and ethical porn, and how each can impact desire, confidence, communication, and relationships. Drawing from conservative religious upbringings, clinical experience, and modern trends, the conversation addresses shame, violence in mainstream porn, the male gaze, and why porn is entertainment—not real life. You’ll hear how porn can be used intentionally as a tool f...

In this insightful, and surprisingly nourishing episode, we take you far beyond vibrators and into the often-overlooked world of sensual foods, adaptogens, rituals, and everyday products that can profoundly support intimacy, arousal, and connection. From pantry staples like honey, coconut oil, and mangoes to plant-based alcohol alternatives, saliva-enhancing mints, pheromones, and ancient herbal traditions from around the world, this conversation reframes sexual wellness as something accessible, intentional, and deeply embodied. You’ll hear how stress, shame, and modern habits disconnect us from pleasure—and how curiosity, ritual, and gentler tools can help you feel more present, relaxed, and alive in y...

As the new year begins, this reflective and grounding episode invites you to rethink resolutions and explore a gentler, more meaningful reset through realignment—especially when it comes to your sexual self. Instead of chasing rigid goals, the panel guides you through a journaling-based sexual reboot rooted in curiosity, compassion, and authenticity, while honoring what already sparkles in your life. You’ll hear honest perspectives on why resolutions often fall apart, how shame sneaks into self-improvement, and why checking in with your evolving desires—rather than performing for the calendar—can be deeply transformative. Through thoughtful prompts, spiritual tools, and real...

This is Part 2 of our deeply honest conversation about Long Distance Relationships, we unpack what really goes into keeping intimacy alive when love spans cities, countries, and time zones. From communication mismatches to reintegration struggles to the sweet ache of longing, we explore how long-distance couples can stay connected with rituals, values-based communication, emotional honesty, and playful creativity. The coaches and therapist share personal stories, practical tools, and the mindset shifts that make long-distance love not only possible — but incredibly meaningful.

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In this warm and deeply honest conversation, we unpack what really goes into keeping intimacy alive when love spans cities, countries, and time zones. From communication mismatches to reintegration struggles to the sweet ache of longing, we explore how long-distance couples can stay connected with rituals, values-based communication, emotional honesty, and playful creativity. The coaches and therapist share personal stories, practical tools, and the mindset shifts that make long-distance love not only possible — but incredibly meaningful.

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In the spirit of the holiday season — a time of gifting, play, and delicious surprises — we’re sharing some of our favorite intimacy-enhancing products and pleasure-supporting tools. In this fun, unfiltered, and enlightening episode, we dive into the evolving world of sexual wellness items — from practical essentials to creative innovations you probably didn’t even know existed. Nicole highlights how modern sex products aren’t just about fun, but also support sexual health, comfort, communication, and curiosity for people of all bodies and identities. Whether you’re buying for a partner, a friend, or yourself — this episode invites you to explore, laug...

Part 2 of this insightful conversation about the often-overlooked power of touch in relationships. Centered around Barry McCarthy’s “five gears of touch” model and the Touch Continuum. The group explores how intentional touch builds emotional connection, bridges intimacy, and opens clearer communication between partners. They highlight how modern couple life often bypasses the rich middle gears (sensual/playful), jumping from affectionate directly to intercourse, and discuss how this affects long-term sexual vitality, consent, cultural norms, aging, and even self-touch rituals. Listeners are encouraged to notice their own “gear usage”, speak about preferences, and reintegrate meaningful touch into their lives beyond the...

This is Part 1 of a 2 episode series of a warm, insightful conversation about the often-overlooked power of touch in relationships. Centered around Barry McCarthy’s “five gears of touch” model and the Touch Continuum. The group explores how intentional touch builds emotional connection, bridges intimacy, and opens clearer communication between partners. They highlight how modern couple life often bypasses the rich middle gears (sensual/playful), jumping from affectionate directly to intercourse, and discuss how this affects long-term sexual vitality, consent, cultural norms, aging, and even self-touch rituals. Listeners are encouraged to notice their own “gear usage”, speak about preferences, and reinte...

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we explore the complex, often silent world of sexual trauma. They open with a candid look into their own healing journey — from surviving childhood trauma to becoming a certified sex coach and advocate for survivors — before the group unpacks the different forms of sexual trauma, including “big T” and “little t” experiences, and how they manifest in the body and relationships. Together, they discuss stages of trauma recovery, the importance of trauma-informed care, and how creativity, breathwork, and body connection can be tools for reclaiming pleasure and empowerment. This heartfelt conversation reminds listeners th...

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we explore the complex, often silent world of sexual trauma. They open with a candid look into their own healing journey — from surviving childhood trauma to becoming a certified sex coach and advocate for survivors — before the group unpacks the different forms of sexual trauma, including “big T” and “little t” experiences, and how they manifest in the body and relationships. Together, they discuss stages of trauma recovery, the importance of trauma-informed care, and how creativity, breathwork, and body connection can be tools for reclaiming pleasure and empowerment. This heartfelt conversation reminds listeners th...

In this vibrant episode, we dive into the playful intersection of sex and exercise — or “sexercise.” Together they explore how movement enhances sensual awareness, body confidence, and connection, touching on everything from coregasms and pelvic health to aging, embodiment, and pleasure as a lifelong practice. With humor and honesty, the conversation reframes fitness as more than physical strength — it’s about awakening desire, celebrating your body, and cultivating deeper intimacy with yourself and others.

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In this essential episode, we dive into sexual accessibility for differently abled bodies—because everyone deserves access to pleasure, intimacy, and fulfilling sexual experiences regardless of ability. Join us as we break down harmful myths, discuss practical modifications that make sex more accessible, and share valuable resources that support disabled individuals in their sexual journeys.

Urge.org (or Urge.com.org) - Provides education, materials, advocacy, and community support for people with disabilities exploring their sexuality

SRHM.org (Sexuality and Reproductive Health Matters) - Education and advocacy resource

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In this two-part conversation, hosts and sexperts explore one of the most universal and challenging topics in long-term relationships: how to maintain and cultivate desire over time. They dive into the realities couples face—including dwindling libido, caregiving responsibilities, stress, aging, myths about spontaneity, and mismatched values. The discussion reframes boredom as a potential catalyst for creativity and emphasizes the importance of adaptability, curiosity, and playfulness in intimacy. Practical tools like novelty, role play, chore play, card decks, sexcations, massages, and erotic teasing are highlighted as accessible ways to rekindle connection. They also stress the need for empathy, communication, an...

In this two-part conversation, hosts and sexperts explore one of the most universal and challenging topics in long-term relationships: how to maintain and cultivate desire over time. They dive into the realities couples face—including dwindling libido, caregiving responsibilities, stress, aging, myths about spontaneity, and mismatched values. The discussion reframes boredom as a potential catalyst for creativity and emphasizes the importance of adaptability, curiosity, and playfulness in intimacy. Practical tools like novelty, role play, chore play, card decks, sexcations, massages, and erotic teasing are highlighted as accessible ways to rekindle connection. They also stress the need for empathy, communication, an...

In this enlightening episode, the hosts dive deep into the wonderful world of orgasms, debunking the myth that they're "one size fits all" and celebrating the incredible variety of orgasmic experiences available. From the commonly known clitoral and vaginal orgasms to the lesser-discussed cervical, anal, energetic, and even "coregasms" from exercise, the panel explores how pleasure extends far beyond what we've traditionally been taught. They tackle common shame and misconceptions, emphasizing that all orgasms should be celebrated equally while offering practical advice for exploration including pleasure mapping, mirror work, and understanding the neurological connections that make transcendent, full-body orgasmic...

In this episode, the host explores the fascinating intersection of sex and cannabis, discussing how this plant can enhance connection, increase sensation, and support deeper intimacy. Dr. Norelyn, as a certified cannabis health coach and sex coach, shares personal experiences and insights into mindful cannabis use, emphasizing the importance of understanding the endocannabinoid system. The conversation addresses common myths, ingestion methods, and potential risks, while offering practical guidance on how to incorporate cannabis into sexual wellness practices. The episode concludes with a discussion on the VIBEs method, a holistic approach to combining cannabis and sex.

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In this enlightening second part of a two-part series, host and trained Tantrik Dominique explores the true nature of tantra - far beyond the common misconceptions that reduce it to sexual practices. Dominique, drawing from her training with teacher Sama Zadora, explains what tantra actually means and represents and how this practice relates and is used in sexual practice. The hosts discuss different types of tantra and practices including breathwork, body awareness, and sacred connection.

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In this enlightening first part of a two-part series, host and trained Tantrik Dominique explores the true nature of tantra - far beyond the common misconceptions that reduce it to sexual practices. Dominique, drawing from her training with teacher Sama Zadora, explains what tantra actually means and represents and how this practice relates and is used in sexual practice. The hosts discuss different types of tantra and practices including breathwork, body awareness, and sacred connection.

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In this episode, Dr. Norelyn and her fellow sex coaches & therapist explore the complex relationship between alcohol and sexual intimacy, challenging the normalized use of alcohol as a "social lubricant" in romantic connections. Discussing how couples often rely on alcohol to transition from their busy daily lives into intimate moments, but reveals the hidden negative effects this dependency can have on sexual health and performance. The hosts examine the difference between using alcohol as a ritual versus a crutch, explore the physiological impacts on both male and female bodies, and offer practical alternatives like adaptogens, breathwork, mindfulness practices, and...

Sex Coach, Nicole and her powerhouse panel of sexperts dive headfirst into the often-misunderstood world of lube. With humor, science, and serious sex-positive vibes, they break down everything from osmolality and pH balance to the difference between vaginal moisturizers, lube, and vulva balms. Whether you’re lube-curious, facing dryness, or navigating shame and misinformation, this episode gives you the confidence and knowledge to find the right glide for your body. Plus, you’ll walk away knowing how to spot harmful ingredients, test for sensitivities, and even repurpose lube for your hair or massage. Trust us—this is one episode you do...

What’s on the bookshelf of a certified sex coach or therapist? Well, this episode spills the tea (or coffee) on the books that shape how these professionals talk about desire, relationships, bodies, and pleasure. Whether you're looking to better understand your own desires, explore tantra, spice up your relationship, or just be reminded you're not broken — there's a title here for you.

Have a book we should know about? A title that changed your relationship to your body, sex, or partnership? Drop us a message or email at sexandbreakfastpodcast@gmail.com

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In this heartfelt and illuminating Pride Month episode, Dominique Peters and her guests dive deep into the often misunderstood and invisibilized experience of being bisexual. They unpack the evolving language around bisexuality, the difference between bi, pan, and omni-attractions, and the myths of not being “bi enough.” With compassion and wisdom, the conversation explores the intersections of identity, spirituality, shame, allyship, and joy—reminding listeners that bisexuality is not about who you're with but who you are. Whether you're bi, questioning, or an ally, this episode offers insight, validation, and a call to embrace expansive, authentic sexuality without apology.

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In this playful and insightful Part 2 Series, Dr. Norelyn and her colleagues dive into the diverse world of play parties—from cozy cuddle gatherings to steamy sex-positive soirées. They break down the spectrum, including “second base parties” for those curious but not quite ready for the deep end. With a focus on consent, communication, and curiosity, they explore how these events can spark connection, fuel fantasies, and add some extra sizzle to relationships—all while respecting everyone's unique comfort zones.

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In this playful and insightful episode, Dr. Norelyn and her colleagues dive into the diverse world of play parties—from cozy cuddle gatherings to steamy sex-positive soirées. They break down the spectrum, including “second base parties” for those curious but not quite ready for the deep end. With a focus on consent, communication, and curiosity, they explore how these events can spark connection, fuel fantasies, and add some extra sizzle to relationships—all while respecting everyone's unique comfort zones.

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Dedicated to mothers, this warm and insightful conversation led by sex coach Dian Handayani, focuses on reclaiming intimacy and sexual pleasure after motherhood. Normalizing the challenges of postpartum desire, they emphasize that it's entirely natural to not feel ready for sex right away and highlight the immense physical, emotional, and hormonal changes new mothers face. The discussion touches on practical and emotional barriers for mothers—from short maternity leaves and anxiety to lack of privacy and being "touched out." The group offers empowering suggestions like chore play, sensory mindfulness, reframing pleasure, scheduling intimacy, and creating a sensual environment. The ov...

In this episode, they dive into a real-life case study involving a couple facing mismatched libidos and communication breakdowns in their sexual relationship. Sharing the story of “Steve” and “Michaela” (names changed for confidentiality), a married couple navigating neurodiversity, sensory sensitivities, and a desire to rekindle intimacy while trying to conceive. They explore strategies to help the couple better understand their individual and shared erotic needs. They also emphasize the importance of personal pleasure practices, communication around needs, and how broader relationship dynamics affect intimacy. The conversation wraps up with tips and insights on how to choose a qualified sex coac...

In this episode, we explore the intersection of sex, religion, and shame, particularly how religious upbringing influences sexual beliefs and behaviors. They highlight that most major world religions, except Taoism, often promote shame around sex outside of marriage. The speakers share their experiences working with clients who struggle to reconcile their sexuality with their religious teachings. They emphasize the importance of respectful approaches, such as encouraging exploration of the body within acceptable boundaries and involving religious leaders when appropriate. Ultimately, they advocate for compassion, curiosity, and open-mindedness in supporting clients’ journeys to healing and sexual empowerment.

Exploring the deep connection between body image and sexuality, discussing how societal standards, cultural expectations, family dynamics, and media influence shape our perceptions of our bodies. We highlight the harm caused by negative comments, media portrayals, and unrealistic body expectations, particularly around genital appearance and sexual performance. The conversation touches on issues like body dysmorphia, the effects of social media filters, and the impact of life changes, such as pregnancy, on intimacy and body image. Experts share tips for cultivating self-love and body positivity, including mirror exercises, affirmations, and group witnessing practices, while emphasizing the importance of patience, self-compassion...

Diving into the importance of maintaining a healthy vaginal biome. We discuss how factors like antibiotics, tight clothing, travel, and harsh products can disrupt the vaginal biome, leading to conditions like bacterial vaginosis and increased vulnerability to infections. The conversation emphasizes the need for better education on vaginal health, alternatives to traditional treatments, and self-care practices, such as using probiotics, natural oils, and gentle lubes. We also explore the benefits of practices like going commando, using bidets, and being mindful of chemicals in personal care products.

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Today we're cooking up a sneak peak of the life working in sexual health from sex coaches to professional dominatrixes. The conversation also highlights the roles of pelvic health physiotherapists, occupational therapists, and surrogate partner therapists, underscoring the collaborative nature of sexual health care and the need for specialized referrals. We'll break down who does what and how to find the right person for you.

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In this episode, we meet the certified sex coaches and all about the Holistic Sex Coaching Model, MEBES® created by Dr. Patti Britton.

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