Heart Versus Head
A podcast that helps couples fight better and connect again. We're a relationship podcast that keeps it short and gives you and your partner something to talk about... something to argue about... in a meaningful way that turns your differences into strengths. This is Heart Versus Head.
Are You Rowing in the Same Direction
Are you both Hearts? Are you both Heads? Do you think it would be easier if you were with someone more like you? In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about the importance of balance when it comes to relationship dynamics. In all disagreements, someone is going to be in Heart mode and someone is going to be in Head mode. If you're both doing it the same, you will end up going in circles (and slamming into the riverbank quite a bit). It's time to get your boat moving in the right direction... together.
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How to End an Argument: Close the Loop
If you've ever had one of those arguments that the Head partner couldn't move past... this episode explains part of the issue. When issues are discussed, Hearts will focus on the way everyone is feeling about the issue. They want to make it feel better so they can move past it. Heads are trying to identify the logical errors and so they don't get resolution from simply an apology. The trick in these arguments is for Heart partners to learn to "close the loop" with the Head. Randy and Beverly break it down in this episode of #HeartVersusHead #HowToEndAnArgument...
Relationship Fireworks
Happy 4th of July... In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore ways that couples can bring the fireworks back into their relationship. Whether you've been together a long time and gotten a bit predictable - or you're in a new relationship and trying to add some zing - we've got a couple of simple things that can really make a big difference. #HeartVersusHead #relationshipFireworks #4thofJuly
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Maxed Out
Randy crashed out. He was angry and ready to give up and walk away from even doing this week's podcast. When Heads get maxed out, they can shut down and explode. Hearts get maxed out too - especially when the Head is being angry. In this episode, Randy and Beverly take you inside their moment of being maxed out. Jump in and see how these problems arise and how to defuse them. If you feel like you're drowning... or you think you're the unappreciated one carrying everything in the relationship... you're probably in the middle of your own 'maxed...
6 Ways to Heat Up Connection
In this episode, Randy and Beverly are sharing some quick and simple ways that you and your partner can recover some of that missing connection. Life is tough sometimes and all couples will experience disconnected moments. As connection fades, conflict rises. These are the suggestions that can turn the problem around so you both can get back to being awesome... together. There are suggestions for Heart partners and suggestions for Head partners.
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Word Salad
If you've ever had a disagreement that ended up in the Head partner storming off in a huff before the Heart partner even gets to the "important" part of what they were trying to say, then this episode is for you. This episode is for every Heart who has a lot of words and every Head who is overwhelmed by those words at times. Randy and Beverly help both partners understand how Hearts process their emotions out loud and Heads process internally before speaking. It's a good thing in a relationship because it provides balance but like so many...
Stalemates
Have you been having the same argument for a decade? Are you both so stuck in your unmovable position that neither is willing to change? Have you become stale mates? Or at least reached a stalemate? In this episode, Randy and Beverly unpack what Heart and Head are each doing to fuel the problem. Then they offer some things that each partner should consider doing differently to get through the stalemate and get back to being teammates. Randy and Beverly also discuss their new book, Heart Versus Head; How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works, which was...
The Energy Concept
What are you building in your relationship with your limited human energy? We all have a set amount of energy available to get through the day, the week, the life. Are you using too much energy on the negative aspects of the relationship? How do you begin to turn that around. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly talk about their new book Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works, which will be available on Tuesday, June 2, 2026 on Amazon. One of the concepts in the book is the energy concept. Are...
The Connection Dance
Sometimes you need to step back to get your partner to step toward you. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore how the Heart partner often ends up in Head mode when they're too busy pursuing the Head. The trick... is to step back into being a Heart, which creates room for the Head partner to dance a little too. #lifesadance #HeartVersusHead
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Forgiveness
How does forgiveness work for Hearts and Heads? Why is so dang hard for Heads to say "I'm sorry." And why does it feel like Hearts say "I'm sorry" ALL THE TIME. In this episode of the Heart Versus Head podcast, Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock dive into apologizing and how to get to real forgiveness. #heartVersusHead #ithinkitsaboutforgiveness
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Your Operating System
At the core of how we each operate in our relationships is the guiding concept of Heart and Head. As people are learning about Heart and Head, they see some similarities between it and other relationship models. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain how Heart and Head is different and, yet, intertwined to the concepts of feminine, masculine, Mars, Venus and even attachment styles. Understanding Heart and Head will unlock your understanding of your relationship and also all of the other relationships in your life. We're diving into the operating system in this episode of Heart Versus Head...
How To Judge Your Partner
Judging. You know you're doing it. It's natural. It's the comparison nature of having a human brain. You compare yourself to others and that very human action comes with judgement. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore a better way to judge a partner. Whether you're dating someone and wondering if they're a fit or you're married and trying to understand your partner, you'll see the benefit of judging based on your partner's values, instead of your own. That sounds complex (even for me, as I was typing it in the episode description) but we explain it better in...
Relationship Polarity
Are you frustrated by the amount of 'pushback' in your relationship? Does it seem like every little thing is analyzed and critiqued? Or does your partner constantly jump in with 'fixes' you didn't ask for? While all relationships experience these kinds of friction points, why are these differences important in building a strong relationship. (And please excuse Randy in this episode, he 'geeks out' a bit when talking about polarity.) #HeartVersusHead #HeartAndHeadCoaching #relationshipadvice #relationships
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Get a Life
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Hearts and Heads need to "get a life!" Finding your individual interests and outside support networks can make a ton of difference in a relationship. Also in this episode, you'll meet the annoying rooster that lives outside the office (naming suggestions can be emailed to info@HeartAndHeadCoaching.com). When we rely on solely our partner to fill all of our needs, we're headed for a letdown - not because they don't love or care about us enough - because no one can carry us and themselves effectively. It's time to get...
There Are No Mind Readers
Randy's head is about to explode. In this episode, Randy has reached a level of exasperation with Heart clients who think their Head partners are just supposed to somehow know what the Heart needs. Dive deeper as we explore why most Hearts have an expectation that their partner just somehow magically knows the right thing to do.
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What Is Love?
Do you and your partner have the same definition of love? Are you sure? We've found that the Heart partner and the Head partner see love in very different ways. Hearts are feeling it. Heads are managing it. Find out why that matters so much as Randy and Beverly talk about how love is defined.
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Balancing Heart and Head
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Heart/Heart relationships and Head/Head relationships don't work like you think they might. Listen and consider how all relationships seek the balance of Heart and Head. The secret isn't finding someone who has a relationship style just like yours, it's about finding the person who can balance your style, create polarity, and slide the correct direction to support you when you're struggling. When you can do that... everything else works better.
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Under the Hood of a Trauma Bond
Why do we seem drawn to the bad relationships of the past? Have you ever been in a good relationship but felt like you were craving an old partner - even if the old relationship was horrible? Or maybe you keep dating the same kind of problem. What's wrong with us? What's wrong with our brains? Why do trauma bonds have such a strong draw. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly dig deeper into what goes on when we get hurt and why we seem to gravitate back to that familiar, previous damage. #HeartVersusHead
Under the Hood of a Fight
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why fighting deeper is so important, especially when it comes to those arguments that seem to repeat themselves for years on end. If you've been fighting about the same thing over and over and over and over and over... this episode will show you an easier way. It's time to really get under the hood and fix this relationship for good. Vroom! Vroom!
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Unmasking the Hidden Hurt
Humans generally know it. When we're in a disagreement, we're slinging hurt. So why is it so hard to slow down with our partner and see that they're hurting. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly explain how hurt disguises itself as anger, defensiveness, withdrawal and a whole bunch of other tricky emotions when hurt shows up in a relationship. When you learn to recognize hurt and respond to it appropriately, everything - every thing - gets easier. Here's a great episode to share with your partner and your friends... Unmasking the Hidden Hurt. #UnmaskingTheHiddenHurt #HeartVersusHead<...
The Honeymoon is Over
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why the honeymoon phase can't last forever. And why trying to get it back is actually the wrong approach - relationally and scientifically. And they'll explain how you can learn to communicate in a way that helps you finally achieve something much better than the honeymoon phase - something you've always wanted.
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Why So Angry?
Is your relationship getting heated? Are you feeling more angry these days? In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly dive into why anger shows up in relationships and how you can navigate the angry moments with more compassion.
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You're Not Perfect but You're Perfect for Me
On the one year anniversary of the Heart Versus Head podcast, Randy and Beverly discuss how the podcast almost killed them, explain why they argued about the title of this episode, and finally tell the story of how they met. Plus, they've got some practical insight into how the small, often unnoticed things couples have in common can make a big difference in a relationship. #HeartVersusHead
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Avoid The Landmines
What do you do that triggers your partner? What do you that causes them to blow up like a landmine? For Randy, it's criticism. For Beverly, it's looking over her shoulder. But how do you handle those things as a couple? How do you avoid the landmines to keep from triggering each other? Then, how do you defuse those things so you aren't always walking through a minefield? In this episode, we'll show you how to learn to laugh at yourselves a bit while growing together into more stable humans. #HeartVersusHead #AvoidTheLandmines
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You Change So I Can Be Happy
In this episode, Randy and Beverly help couples explore why we put so much pressure on our partners and ourselves when it comes to happiness. When it is someone's responsibility to make you happy... they're going to let you down. Not because they don't love you but because they're human too. How can couples break the cycle and find their happiness again?
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Where Did Fun Go
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore why relationships tend to experience less "fun" over time. Many couples talk about how things 'used to be' exciting and fun but now they're stuck in a world of sitting on the couch at the end of the day without the connection they used to share. Relationships will all experience a dip in the fun factor - for lots of reasons - and this episode offers some ideas to get the fun back. If you're ready to have some fun, grab your partner and listen to the podcast. #HeartVersusHead
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Money Money Money $$$
Let's fight about money. Doesn't everyone? Probably - at some level and some point. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore the deeper issues that need to be part of your relationship's money arguments. When it's just about the money, then you're missing the point. When you dig a little deeper, this is all about values and trust. If you're ready to have more useful talks about money with your partner, this episode is for you. #HeartVersusHead #MoneyMoneyMoney #MoneyFights
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Ice Cream for Breakfast - Wants Versus Needs
In the first episode of Season 2, hosts Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock explain how Hearts and Heads talk differently about what they want and what they need. Join them as they discuss a couple who struggled with the kids always sleeping in mom and dad's bed. Get ready to change the conversation, speak the same language and get what you NEED from your partner (and maybe what you WANT too.) #HeartVersusHead
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Wrapping Up The Season
Well, put a big bow on Season One of the Heart Versus Head podcast. In this episode, Randy and Beverly recap their favorite episodes from the 2025 season and look forward to Season 2 - with all new episodes diving even deeper into why Heart partners and Head partners have so much trouble communicating in relationships. #HeartVersusHead
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Proximity is Not Connection
Just 'cuz you're sitting together... doesn't mean you're connected. The Head partner often has the feeling that being in the same space is 'good enough' as a means of connection. Watching TV together is not bad but it's not real connection. You've got to dig a little deeper and really connect to keep a relationship growing. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly give some examples of ways couples can connect again. #HeartVersusHead #RelationshipGoals #ProximityIsNotConnection
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Divorce After 50
Have you heard about "gray divorce" or "silver splits"? These are the terms that social scientists, therapists and divorce attorneys are using to describe the growing trend of older couples getting divorced after 50. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore the reasons why divorces are rising among older people . They'll also offer some tips to keep your relationship on track, especially when it feels like you'll never be able to make your partner happy. #SilverSplits #GrayDivorce #HeartVersusHead
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I Wanna Be Important
If you've ever felt like your partner put other things ahead of you... then you're going to want to listen to this episode of Heart Versus Head. Randy and Beverly talk about how to make your partner a priority, especially when human chaos breaks out - like it often does around the holidays. Prioritizing your relationship is the key to its survival but it isn't as hard as it seems. This is yet another area where Hearts are a bit crazy and Heads can seem like narcissists. Get ready to prioritize! And if this one connects with you, remember t...
"Poof" Is Not a Breakup
We're busting some ghosts on this episode. If you've been ghosted or are a "ghoster"... let's talk about a better way. It's time to be honest, even when it sucks. In just 20 minutes, you'll hear Randy and Beverly explain how Heads and Hearts should be dealing with breaking up in the modern world. #HeartVersusHead #ghostbusting #BreakingDownBreakingUp
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Slay Your Own Dragons
Are you a princess waiting for a prince to rescue you? In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about grand, romantic gestures and why too many Hollywood stereotypes about love have actually made relationships harder. Even if you achieve great romantic gestures and win the princess... you're setting your relationship up for future failure. It's time to focus on teamwork and kick some dragon butt together. Tune in this time around as Randy and Beverly take a lighthearted look at why Randy sucks at being the prince and why Beverly isn't much of a "sit and wait to be...
Birds of a Feather... Clash Together
In this episode, we're diving into why Hearts are toughest on other Hearts and Heads are more critical of other Heads. If you've ever been judgmental of your children's dating choices or of a co-worker's screw up, then this one is for you. Even though we're hard on our opposite-style relationship partner, why do we seem to be most harsh to those around us who are probably more like us? Like always, hosts Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock explain it through real life examples that are sometimes funny and always thought provoking. Grab your partner and see if you...
The 10 Minute Vent Protocol
Have you ever had a disagreement because your partner was upset about something else and then they got mad at you for not listening, not understanding or not being supportive... when you thought you were trying to help? Or are you the partner that just wants your disconnected partner to listen like your friends do? The 10 Minute Vent Protocol helps you set some rules around venting and guides resolution instead of just more "stuck". In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore why constant complaining - even about non-relationship stuff - can damage a couple's communication. If you're ready to...
Halloween is a Relationship Holiday
Is Halloween a relationship holiday? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore the horrors of relationships, including the topic of attachment styles. If you've got ghosts of exes past, skeletons in the closet, or a mask you wear, this one is for you... because after Valentine's Day, Halloween might just be the 2nd best holiday to think about your relationship.
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Fight By The Rules
In this episode, Randy and Beverly dive into Rule #13 from The Couples Rulebook - Fight by the Rules. Are you ready to learn how you can use disagreements to create stronger connection in your relationship? Do you know how to de-escalate by starting with love? Listeners will learn how to use curiosity to replace defensiveness. Plus, Randy and Beverly explain how the rules in The Couples Rulebook are structured for everyone - no matter how you like to learn new things. There's also some big discounts on The Couples Rulebook right now on Amazon - whether you like the...
Can a ChatBot Save Your Relationship?
In this episode, the hosts explore how more and more people are turning to AI for relationship advice. But is that advice any good or can it do more harm than good? Can a chatbot be useful in solving relationship communication issues? Randy and Beverly explain why AI might have a place in relationships but that place probably isn't serving as a low-budget, on-demand source of therapeutic wisdom.
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Is It Mean If It's True?
Head-led partners focus a lot of energy on being factually correct but that can seem harsh and uncaring to their Heart partner. Listen as Randy and Beverly discuss an argument they had about something that should not have been an argument. How do the little moments break connection and how can being aware of it change it? Find out on this episode of Heart Versus Head.
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