The Life Of A Multifacet

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I’m talking about something people don’t always say out loud — that some relationships can be real, meaningful, and life-changing even if they aren’t meant to be long-term.

I get into non-traditional relationships, dating in different seasons of life, emotional honesty, boundaries, and why some of the shortest connections can still teach you the most about yourself, love, compatibility, and what you truly want in a partner. I also talk about why I think people put too much pressure on everything needing to lead to forever, and how...

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I’m talking about why I had to stop explaining myself so much and why not everybody deserves the real me.

I get into what it looks like when you’re someone who thrives off connection, shows up deeply for people, and gives others a lot of your energy, only to realize that same energy isn’t always being returned. Sometimes you keep trying to explain your heart, your intentions, your perspective, and your emotions to people who were never trying to fully understand you in the first place...

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I’m talking about why less is more when it comes to building your brand through social media.

I get into how easy it is to feel pressure to post more, chase the algorithm, and act like you have to constantly put content out just to stay relevant. But what I’ve been realizing is that building a real brand is more about telling your story in a way that feels natural, intentional, and sustainable instead of forcing nonstop content just to keep up.

I also talk...

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I continue my recent keloid journey and break down what happened after the procedure, the radiation process, and everything that came with trying to heal while still showing up for myself.

I talk about traveling back and forth from New York to New Jersey for the surgery, choosing to take the train instead of spending hundreds on a ride, dealing with swelling, healing, discomfort, and still pushing through the process with confidence. I also get into the radiation experience, the conversations I had along the way, and how...

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I’m giving a real update on part three of my recent keloid removal process and breaking down what the surgery experience was actually like from start to finish.

I talk about the difference between going under local versus anesthesia, the pre-op process, the medications they give you, what it was like getting up at 3 in the morning to travel from New York to New Jersey for the procedure, and how the full surgery day played out. I also get into the conversations I had with Dr. Jones, ho...

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I continue my keloid journey and take it back through the process of getting multiple keloids removed over the years, seeing some of them come back, and trying to figure out what actually works.

I talk about my first keloid removals back in 2019, what it felt like seeing them return bigger than before, going through different surgeons in Kentucky, Atlanta, and New York, and how frustrating it can be when you think you finally found the solution and then realize the process still isn’t done.

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In this episode, I take it all the way back and talk about where my keloid journey really began. From dealing with scalp issues, acne, oily skin, and allergies at a young age, to later realizing that keloids were something deeply rooted in both sides of my family, this is a real breakdown of how it all started for me.

I talk about the physical side of it, the mental side of it, the embarrassment, the confusion, and how hard it was trying different products and solutions without really understanding what was going on. I also get...

I got a real challenge in this episode… go everywhere dolo for the next few months.

This one is about what happened when I stopped waiting on people, stopped letting flaking and outside energy control my experiences, and started really going places by myself. I talk about how uncomfortable it can feel at first, but also how much freedom, confidence, and peace can come from learning how to enjoy your own company.

From random nights out, solo events, birthday dinners by myself, and just moving through life on my own time, this episode is really ab...

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I’m talking about how I had to stop lessening myself just because certain people didn’t have the capacity to receive me.

For a long time, I would catch myself saying things like, “I know I said too much,” or “I know I went down a rabbit hole,” but I started realizing that every time I said that, I was shrinking my own value, my stories, and the way I naturally communicate.

This episode gets into communication, listening, eye contact, dating, friendships, deeper conversations, people actually val...

I recorded this about a month before turning 30… and now that I’m here, it hits even harder.

This episode is me reflecting on my 20s and realizing how much of my growth came from getting uncomfortable. From moving to a new city, navigating life on my own, going through setbacks, building new skills, and figuring out who I really am… none of that happens if I stay in my comfort zone.

I talk about how easy it is to stay where things feel familiar… but how that same comfort can quietly keep you stuck.

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In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I’m talking about what I’ve learned from navigating survival mode and how that mindset can help you push through, but also keep you from actually enjoying how far you’ve come.

I get into family, generational survival instincts, growing up around people who had to figure life out the hard way, and how that can shape the way you move as an adult. Sometimes you’re so used to grinding, protecting yourself, and trying not to go back to where you were that you don’t even reali...

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I’m talking about why my personal new year doesn’t really start on January 1.

For me, January and February usually feel like a warm-up. I may have goals written down, I may know what I want for the year, but my real rhythm usually starts around March and April. That’s when things start clicking, my mind starts locking in, and I feel myself stepping into a new season for real.

This episode gets into fitness, weight loss, survival mode, giving myself grace, starting a new jo...

In part two of My Wild NYC Apartment Hunting Experience, I get into the real chaos of trying to find my own apartment in New York City with only a couple weeks left before I had to move.

I’m talking StreetEasy, Zillow, messaging 30 to 40 realtors, running to showings in between work calls, taking trains, bikes, Ubers I barely had the money for, standing in lines with 60 people, getting denied from spots I thought were mine, and still refusing to give up.

This episode is about more than apartment hunting. It’s about survival mode, prid...

In this episode of The Life of a Multifacet, I’m getting into part one of my wild New York City apartment hunting experience.

From leaving Kentucky, getting into tech sales, moving during the pandemic era, figuring out how to survive in one of the most competitive cities in the world, and finally landing my first apartment in Brooklyn, this episode is really about the risk, pressure, and faith it takes to chase a bigger life.

I talk about wanting more for myself, needing my own space, taking a chance on New York, dealing with th...

Moving to New York didn’t just change my life… it exposed me to myself.

From a small-town mindset to navigating one of the biggest cities in the world, I had to learn everything the hard way. From spending money just to feel comfortable… to hopping on the train every day with damn near nothing. From rooftop events to rock-bottom moments… this city made me tighten the fuck up.

I went through layoffs, rejection, betrayal, and one of the toughest seasons of my life. Over 5,000 applications. Getting ghosted after final rounds. Sitting there like… damn, what now...

This episode is about the mindset that helped me break beyond a small-town environment and start seeing life on a bigger scale. I reflect on growing up in Richmond, Kentucky, and how even in a place that could feel limited at times, there were still early signs that something bigger was possible for my life.

From academic programs and debate clubs to scholarships, leadership opportunities, and my first time visiting an HBCU, I talk about the moments that stretched my thinking long before I ever made a major move. I also speak on Black excellence, exposure, discomfort...

On April 14th, my 30th birthday, I spent time by myself at Coney Island Beach, sitting with life, listening to the sounds of nature, feeling the peace of the water, and reflecting on everything this season has been teaching me. This episode is a raw birthday reflection on growth, self-sabotage, faith, discomfort, solitude, and learning how to just be.

I speak on finding peace in my own presence, taking up more space in my own life, trusting my process, and realizing that some of the biggest growth comes from continuing to show up for yourself even when...

This episode isn’t about content. It’s about life.

I talk about learning your life target audience. The people who genuinely vibe with you, grow with you, and understand your character across different seasons. Not just when you’re polished, disciplined, or doing what looks good on the outside.

I get into how telling your story and showing up authentically is what reveals who’s really meant to be around you. Whether it’s faith, weight, habits, language, or lifestyle, I talk about how people love to reduce others to one trait or one moment, wh...

This episode is blunt because it needs to be.

I talk about how much I hate feeling limited and how I really don’t tolerate people trying to project their limits onto me. I’ve always been someone who can show up for other people, support their ideas, respect their vision, and let them expand however they want. No judgment. No box.

But for some reason, that energy isn’t always returned.

I get into how people will quietly try to shrink you, redirect you, or make you feel like you’re doing too much...

This marks 50 episodes, and this one felt like the right moment to pause and actually look back.

I talk about starting this podcast over a year ago with no blueprint, just a need to speak honestly and grow in public. A lot of what I share comes from my own life, my mistakes, my patterns, and the things I’ve learned by actually putting myself out there.

One thing I’ve realized is how often people advise on situations they’ve never tried. They’ll take one life experience and try to apply it to everythi...

In Part 2, I talk about evolution and how relationships naturally change over time. I reflect on running into a high school classmate every few years and still feeling genuine love, even without constant proximity. This episode is about understanding that you do not have to be around people all the time to receive real love.

I also speak about a close friend in my life who is on a different path, moving at a slower pace, but who shows up with real, genuine love every time. I talk about other close friends as well, and even a...

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to feel the love in the room and cherish the people around you. I reflect on how connection is not about where someone is in life on paper, but about the heart they bring and the way they show up. You can be ahead in every visible way and still miss genuine love. This conversation is about recognizing real energy, embracing the right people, and valuing presence over performance. Not everyone is meant to walk with you, but the ones who do should feel aligned and sincere.

In Part 2, I get more specific about how I’ve been approaching investing over time. I talk about starting small, learning margins and options at a basic level, and understanding that you don’t have to pour a lot of money into getting started. I’m honest about what I know and what I don’t. Crypto isn’t something I’m deep into, but I may put a few dollars in here and there while continuing to focus on the stock market.

This episode is really about slowing down. I reflect on how other people’s limitations an...

In this episode, I discuss how I first began thinking about investing and ownership. Not from a place of having money, but from wanting more and realizing there had to be a better way. I share how my mindset around Black ownership evolved over time, how I utilized YouTube to begin learning the basics of investing, and why starting small mattered more than trying to be perfect.

I reflect on working in college, doing manufacturing one summer, and earning commissions at Sprint. I talk about how taxes, withdrawals, and having to pay things back taught me discipline...

In Part 2, I go deeper into how stepping back from sex and relationships at different points in my life changed the way I viewed women, dating, and myself. I talk about periods where I chose not to be involved, not out of fear or lack of options, but because it wasn’t aligned with who I was becoming. That space allowed me to focus on myself, my discipline, and the things that actually mattered. I also speak honestly about intention, being clear whether something is just physical or something more, and recognizing that both men and women are not al...

In Part 1, I talk about the pressure men can feel having to show up in certain ways because of women’s past experiences. I reflect on how the way I move, treat women, and show up has often been different from what they were used to, and how that difference can create new expectations I didn’t ask for. From dating experiences to conversations with friends who questioned how certain situations even happened, I break down how being intentional, respectful, and consistent can sometimes feel like both a blessing and a burden. This episode isn’t about blame. It’s about...

In this episode, I reflect on a question that hit home: what’s something you’ve been able to do recently that once felt impossible? For me, it’s the discipline and consistency I’ve built with my weight loss this year. I talk about how locking in mentally changed everything and how structure replaced motivation, and consistency became my baseline. This one’s about recognizing growth in real time and understanding that sometimes the biggest wins don’t look flashy, they just feel different.

In this episode, I talk about how getting laid off forced me to slow down, reflect, and realign. That moment made me start leaning into the things I actually enjoy, my food brand, vendor events, and creative hobbies that had been sitting on the back burner. What started as a setback turned into a chance to rebuild on my own terms.

I share how security work became more than a side gig. It opened my mind to new ways of thinking about business, freedom, and ownership. It made me start thinking broader about 1099 work, entrepreneurship, and the...

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to love the alone season. There’s a difference between being alone and being lonely, but even in that space, those small moments of loneliness still hit. I share how I’ve learned to appreciate that season instead of running from it and how being alone helped me dive deeper into myself, expand creatively, and start connecting with people who are aligned with the same wavelength and purpose.

I share my transitions, my growth, and how learning myself has opened doors I never expected. From mome...

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to embrace independence and find appreciation in isolation. I share how learning to enjoy my own company has been one of the most freeing parts of my journey and not from a place of loneliness, but from peace.

A lot of people fear being by themselves because they’ve never slowed down long enough to actually hear their own thoughts. For me, that isolation became where I found clarity, creativity, and direction.

This isn’t about being anti-social or shutting people out...

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to invest in yourself and not just with money, but with time, energy, and intention. I break down how, in my 20s, I’ve learned to take pride in giving myself the space to grow, rest, and recharge instead of constantly moving in survival mode.

Investing in yourself might look like taking a day off, learning something new, trying different facets of your creativity, or just giving yourself grace. I share my own experiences, the lessons I’ve learned about balance, and how I’m unlear...

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to invest in yourself, not just with money, but with time, energy, and intention. Money comes and goes, but you it's something you can get it back. Time is equal. You lose the time you don't invest in yourself, so why not make it count today!

I break down how, in my 20s, I’ve learned to take pride in giving myself the space to grow, rest, and recharge instead of constantly moving in survival mode. Investing in yourself might look like taking a day of...

In this episode, I break down my full weight loss journey and not just the numbers, but the mindset, discipline, and real-life shifts that came with it. People always ask how I did it, so I give the full spiel: the ups, the downs, the plateaus, and the moments where I had to push through when nobody was watching.

This isn’t a highlight reel; it’s the process that shaped me mentally, spiritually, and physically. I talk about what helped me stay consistent, what nearly broke my focus, and how I’ve grown into a vers...

In Part 3, I talk about unlocking newer versions of myself and the changes I had to make to get there. From muting stories and distancing myself from certain people, to accepting that some relationships have to fade for you to grow.

This part is about releasing what no longer fits the person I’m becoming. It’s the season of pruning, protecting peace, and stepping fully into the next version of me.

I continue the conversation on the growing pains of my late 20s! Here, I dive deeper into how I’ve had to adjust, stay grounded, and keep faith while evolving through uncomfortable transitions.

In this episode, I talk about what my late 20s have really looked like, uncomfortable but hella fruitful. I share how the experiences I’ve had since college, working, learning, and just figuring life out, have sharpened me into who I’m becoming. From relationships that had to change, to financial challenges, to building discipline and finding peace in chaos, I break down what it means to grow through discomfort.

Living in New York has tested me, but it’s also shown me that every season, even the hard ones, is shaping me for something bigger. This episod...

In this episode, I talk about the power of speaking positively to yourself even in moments where life or people try to test you. I share how I’ve learned to lean into self-love, affirmation, and intuition, especially when I know I’ve been showing up the right way.

I touch on a letter I received recently from someone I once had a deep connection with, and how it reminded me that when you move with genuine intention and character, respect always comes back around. I also discuss the 29 things I wrote to myself, which were reminders of w...

In this episode, I talk about a previous cycle of fasting and what it taught me about structure, flow, and self-discipline. I share how I’ve learned to build my days with more purpose and how fasting forced me to slow down, pay attention, and move with intention instead of chaos. This one’s about more than food; it’s about balance, self-control, mindset, and creating systems that keep me grounded. It’s a reflection on growth, on learning yourself through stillness, and finding power in routine when life feels unsteady.How has fasting been for you? Have you taken ti...

In this episode, I get real about the difference between clarity and closure. For a long time, I felt like I needed closure. Like somebody had to explain themselves or tie things up for me to move forward. But what I’ve learned is that closure comes in how people treat you, in the decisions they make, and in the situations that play out. That’s all the closure you really need. What I’ve actually been chasing is clarity. Trying to understand the “why,” trying to dig deeper into the lessons and into myself. I talk about leveling up through...

In this episode, I’m talking about something most people wrestle with but rarely unpack - regret.

I break down the difference between short-term regret and long-term regret, and why I personally don’t carry a regretful mindset. That’s not ego - that’s clarity. When you move with intention, make peace with your decisions, and stay honest with yourself, you learn - you don’t dwell.

Most people who live with heavy regrets never took control in the first place. They let life happen to them instead of stepping up and directing it. I talk abo...