Rewired Sober: The Next Chapter

Sobriety got cool.

Mocktails got beautiful. Alcohol-free bottle shops opened. Sober influencers took over Instagram. Retreats, apps, coaches, supplements, memberships, courses and $17 zero-proof cocktails followed.

And honestly? Some of that was fucking fantastic.

The sober-curious movement helped dismantle the old binary that said you either drank “normally” or had to hit rock bottom before you were allowed to question alcohol. It made not drinking visible, interesting and — finally — socially acceptable.

I benefited from that movement. I built a coaching business in it. I started this podcast in it.

But somewher...

What happens when you quit drinking—and realize alcohol wasn't actually making you wild, confident, sexy, rebellious, or free?

Maybe it was just giving you permission to be the woman you already were.

In this episode, I'm joined by Sarah Anderson, aka The Booze Free Bitch—corporate attorney, creator, coach, and almost seven years sober—for a conversation about alcohol, feminism, midlife, and why sobriety can become one hell of an act of rebellion.

Sarah and I talk about our shared histories as card-carrying “good girls”: getting the grades, building the careers, following the rules...

What if midlife isn’t about becoming someone new—but finally giving yourself permission to be more of who you’ve always been?

In this episode of Rewired Sober, I’m joined by Lisa Hart Anderson, certified women’s life coach, recovery coach, content creator, and the woman behind Hart2Hart Coach. With a combined audience of more than 92,000 across Instagram and TikTok, Lisa has built a community by doing something deceptively simple: showing up as herself.

Dancing. Swearing. Laughing. Talking about recovery. Talking about menopause. Talking about being a grandmother. Occasionally waking up in the middle...

I have always considered being a get-shit-done person one of my greatest strengths.

Have an idea? Start it.

Have a problem? Solve it.

Want to try something? Stop overthinking and fucking do it.

I've basically built part of my identity around Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic philosophy: done is better than good. And in a lot of ways, that mindset has served me incredibly well. It's helped me start businesses, write articles, walk runway stages, record nearly 100 podcast episodes, embarrass myself occasionally, and keep moving anyway.

But lately I've been...

What if getting sober didn’t mean leaving the party—but finally becoming fully present for your own life?

In this episode of Rewired Sober, I’m joined by Claire Comai, founder and creative director of Rehab Studios and Vice President and Creative Director of Break Free NYFW’s Recovery on the Runway.

Claire and I talk about the intersection of fashion, recovery, identity, creativity, and reinvention—and why the old image of sobriety as staying home and playing it safe simply doesn’t fit everyone.

After getting sober at 24, Claire found herself trying to fi...

What do we actually mean when we say we believe people can change?

The controversy surrounding the canceled John Galliano exhibition at the Met sent me down a rabbit hole—not because I think Galliano is owed a museum retrospective, and certainly not because addiction erases the harm someone causes.

It doesn’t.

But after years working in psychiatry and addiction—and after eight years of sobriety myself—I can't listen to this conversation without noticing what seems to be missing from it: addiction, impairment, recovery, accountability, rehabilitation, and the possibility of genuine human ch...

What happens when life strips away the things you thought made you valuable?

In this episode, I sit down with model, author, breast cancer survivor, and executive producer Christine Handy, whose bestselling novel Walk Beside Me was inspired by her own experience with breast cancer and has now been adapted into the feature film Hello Beautiful.

Starring Tricia Helfer, Hello Beautiful follows Willow, a successful model whose breast cancer diagnosis disrupts not only her body and health, but her sense of identity, beauty, relationships, and self-worth. The film is officially headed to theaters nationwide on...

What if beauty wasn't about fixing what's wrong with us?

What if it was about celebration, creativity, confidence, and feeling more like ourselves?

In this episode, I'm joined by Sarah Siegel-Kolodziejski, founder of Pure Clarity, for a conversation about the fascinating intersection of beauty, wellness, alcohol-free living, mindset, and reinvention.

Sarah and I both love beauty. We're not here to tell women to throw away the mascara, cancel the Botox appointment, and retreat into the woods. But we are interested in asking better questions about why we do what we do.

...

Is midlife too late to start something new?

Or have social media, hustle culture, and our obsession with turning every damn thing into an accomplishment convinced us that if we're not already good at it, making money from it, or building a personal brand around it…why bother?

In this episode of Rewired Sober: The Next Chapter, I'm talking about what it feels like to be 47 and suddenly obsessed with sewing, French, fashion, creativity, and parts of myself I thought I'd left somewhere along the way.

And yes, sometimes I look online and th...

What if getting dressed has less to do with fashion—and everything to do with identity?

In this episode, I sit down with New York stylist and creative director Kate Tricarico to talk about why personal style is so much deeper than following trends. From growing up in New York City to working with legendary costume designer Patricia Field on the Bowery, Kate shares stories from the city's unforgettable fashion scene and how those experiences shaped her understanding of clothing as self-expression.

Today, Kate styles everyone from celebrities to everyday women, helping people discover a wa...

It's Time to Pivot: Why Rewired Sober Is Evolving

Eight years ago, getting sober changed everything.

For a long time, alcohol was the conversation because it had to be. It was the thing standing between me and the life I wanted. But here's what I've discovered after years of working with women in recovery, psychiatric nursing, coaching, and hosting this podcast:

We rarely stay talking about alcohol for very long.

Eventually, the conversations become about burnout.

Identity.

Marriage.

Careers.

Friendships.

Midlife.<...

Can healing happen in the very places where we once unraveled?

In this deeply personal episode of Rewired Sober, I share the story of returning to Portland—a city that once represented some of the most painful years of my life. It was the place where alcohol left behind professional wreckage, strained relationships, broken trust, and a version of myself I wasn't proud of.

Eight years into recovery, I returned not to erase the past, but to experience it as the woman I've become.

This episode explores how our brains attach emotions to pl...

What if the greatest thing you recover in sobriety isn't your liver…it's your brain?

In this episode of Rewired Sober, I share a deeply personal look at the ways alcohol quietly changed my thinking, attention, stress tolerance, curiosity, and ability to experience everyday joy. This isn't another episode about fear or shame. It's a conversation about hope and neuroplasticity.

As a psychiatric nurse, I've spent years studying how alcohol affects the brain. As someone in long-term recovery, I've also lived it. Looking back, I can see that alcohol didn't just take away hangover-free mornings. It...

Most people think recovery is about quitting alcohol.

It's not.

Quitting drinking is the beginning. Learning to trust yourself again is where real recovery begins.

In this episode, I explore why self-trust—not willpower—is one of the greatest gifts of sobriety. We talk about why so many women lose trust in themselves, how years of self-abandonment quietly erode confidence, and why rebuilding that relationship happens through small, everyday decisions—not dramatic transformations.

You'll also learn how your brain literally rewires itself as you begin keeping promises to yourself, setting boundaries, tolera...

Watching someone you love struggle with alcohol can be heartbreaking, frustrating, confusing, and exhausting. Whether it's a spouse, parent, adult child, sibling, or friend, many of us find ourselves asking the same question:

How do I help without becoming consumed by their choices?

In this episode, Kate explores the delicate balance between caring and carrying, supporting and controlling, loving and enabling. Drawing from her experience as a psychiatric nurse, addiction nurse, recovery coach, and someone who has been on both sides of the conversation, she breaks down what actually helps—and what doesn't.

Yo...

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What if your craving isn't actually for alcohol?

What if the thing you're chasing isn't the wine, the cocktail, or the buzz—but the feeling you believe it will create?

In this episode, Kate dives into the fascinating neuroscience of dopamine, anticipation, and craving. Drawing from the work of psychiatrist and author Dr. Anna Lembke (Dopamine Nation), she explores why the anticipation of drinking often feels more rewarding than the drink itself and why the first sip rarely lives up to the fantasy.

If you've ever said, "I just ne...

What do Botox, beauty culture, perfectionism, recovery, feminism, and self-worth have in common?

More than most of us want to admit.

In this powerful and surprisingly funny conversation, Kate sits down with filmmaker and actress Kerri Lynn Miller to discuss her upcoming psychological drama TOX, a film exploring beauty obsession, body dysmorphia, perfectionism, and the relentless pursuit of external validation.

Together, they unpack the uncomfortable truth that many women spend years chasing the next thing that promises to make them feel worthy:

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For most of human history, women experienced life.

Now we watch ourselves live it.

We stare at our faces on Zoom. We record ourselves. Edit ourselves. Compare ourselves. Analyze...

What do autism, Ozempic, alcohol cravings, recovery culture, and a Substack called The Loudest Girl in the Corner have in common?

More than you might think.

In this episode of Rewired Sober, I sit down with Rebecca Rush—sober autistic peer support coach, poet, essayist, and creator of The Loudest Girl in the Corner—for one of the most honest, hilarious, and thought-provoking conversations I've had on the podcast.

We explore the intersection of neurodiversity, addiction, and recovery culture, including why many people spend years being labeled as "alcoholics" while undiagnosed autism, ADHD, sens...

In this solo episode of Rewired Sober, we’re talking about why so many intelligent, capable, high-functioning women struggle to quit drinking — even when they know alcohol is hurting them.

Because contrary to popular belief, addiction and emotional dependency are not intelligence problems.

In fact?

Sometimes being highly self-aware actually makes it easier to stay stuck.

Smart women are incredibly good at:

Welcome to analysis paralysis.

This episode breaks down how...

In this episode of Rewired Sober, we’re talking about a thought almost every woman in recovery has had at some point:

“It’s unfair I have to live sober.”

And honestly? I get it.

It can feel deeply frustrating to watch other people drink while you’re trying to rebuild your nervous system, regulate your emotions, and figure out who you even are without alcohol.

Nobody wants to be the person ordering club soda while everyone else is posting vodka sodas like they’re in a 2001 episode of Sex and the City.

This episode is a little chaotic, deeply human, wildly funny, and honestly? exactly what recovery can start to feel like when you stop making sobriety synonymous with punishment.

I’m taking you with me to New York City — from a sober social night at The Maze, to long walks through Central Park with women who are rebuilding themselves out loud. We talk about laughter, freedom, female friendship, feeling safe in your own skin again, and why sober people weirdly become the people partying at noon with popsicles in hand dancing in Central Park.

I also shar...

What if the thing you’ve been calling boredom in sobriety…

is actually a lack of expression?

In this episode, I sit down with Susi Glenna Milne to talk about creativity not as a hobby—but as a lifeline in recovery.

We get into what happens after you stop drinking and realize… okay, now I actually have to feel my life.

And instead of numbing out, what if you created your way through it?

We talk about how creativity in sobriety and recovery:

My solid guess is this: You didn’t drink because you were weak.

You drank because your brain adapted.

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest lies in recovery culture: that shame will somehow motivate you into becoming a better version of yourself.

Spoiler: it won’t.

In fact, it does the opposite.

Using both neuroscience and real-life, messy-human examples, Kate is walking you through why shame keeps you stuck in the exact patterns you’re trying to escape—and what actually creates lasting change instead.<...

What if the way you introduce yourself…

is keeping you stuck?

In this episode, we’re diving into something that’s deeply normalized in recovery spaces—but rarely questioned:

The words you use to describe who you are.

Because when you repeatedly say:

“I am an alcoholic”

“I am broken”

“This is just who I am”

Your brain listens.

Not emotionally.

Neurologically.

And it starts wiring your identity around those words.

But what if there’s another way?

...

Every year, the first Monday in May, the world watches the Met Gala—a spectacle of fashion, identity, and storytelling through art.

And this year?

I’m not on that carpet.

But I am building something that matters a hell of a lot more.

Because the version of me who used to drink herself into invisibility…

is now creating a life out loud.

In this episode, I’m taking you inside the real plot twist of sobriety—what happens when you don’t just quit drinking… you actually start...

Mama- You’re not too angry.

You’re finally paying attention.

In this episode, we’re talking about something that gets misunderstood, minimized, and straight-up pathologized—especially in women:

Rage.

Not surface-level irritation.

Not “I need a bubble bath.”

I’m talking about the kind of anger that makes you look at your life and go:

“Are you kidding me?”

This isn’t a “calm down and regulate” conversation.

This is about sacred rage—what happens when you stop suppressing yourself, stop numbing out, and star...

What if the problem wasn’t just alcohol…

but the way you were taught to stop thinking for yourself?

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on something bigger than recovery culture.

Deprogramming from AA dogma forced me to confront a deeper pattern—cult mentality—and how it shows up everywhere: sobriety spaces, religion, spiritual healing circles, coaching communities, friendships, and even romantic relationships.

We’re not talking about extreme, fringe groups.

We’re talking about everyday environments that:

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Everyone is talking about nervous system regulation—but what does that actually look like in real life?

In this episode, Kate sits down with n...

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In this solo episode, Kate shares what she can feel falling away in her life—and what she’s consciously choosing to embrace instead.

Inspired by a meditation on the goddess Kali from the work of Meggan Watterson and the spiritual teaching of choosing love over fear from A Course in Miracles, Kate reflects on the identities, beliefs, and systems she’s outg...

Early sobriety can feel confusing, emotional, and honestly… pretty weird. You quit drinking and everyone expects life to magically improve overnight. But the truth is, the early stages of sobriety often come with exhaustion, emotional whiplash, boredom, and a lot of questions about who you are without alcohol.

In this solo episode, Kate Vitela, RN, takes a no-nonsense, honest look at early sobriety—what’s actually happening in your brain, why emotions feel so intense, and why this phase can feel both awkward and transformative at the same time.

Kate breaks down the real challenges people...

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If you’re a midlife woman questioning your relationship with alcohol or figuring out what comes next in sobriety, I’ve created resources to help you move forward with clarity and confidence.

Nurses spend their careers taking care of everyone else. But what happens when the caregiver is the one who needs help?

In this episode, Kate sits down with Stephanie, an ICU nurse with 26 years of experience, a mother of three, and a powerful advocate for honesty and compassion in the conversation around a...

In this episode of Rewired Sober, host Kate Vitela, RN sits down with Dawn Nickel, founder of SHE RECOVERS, to explore what women’s recovery looks like when we stop forcing it into one narrow definition.

SHE RECOVERS is a global nonprofit dedicated to making recovery accessible, inclusive, and empowering for all women—not just those recovering from substance use, but women healing from mental health challenges, trauma, eating disorders, burnout, and the many ways life impacts the nervous system.

In this powerful conversation, Dawn shares:

Women don’t just experience alcohol use disorder differently than men — they are judged differently too.

In this episode, we explore the double standard women face around drinking, addiction, and recovery, including how stigma, biology, trauma, and social expectations intersect to create unique challenges for women.

You’ll learn why women often develop alcohol problems faster, why shame and secrecy delay treatment, and how cultural pressures — including work, caregiving, and societal expectations — contribute to rising alcohol use among women.

We also talk about the concept of being “gaslit” by cultural narratives that frame women’s strugg...

What happens when a recovery program that once helped you… stops fitting who you’re becoming?

In this episode, Kate sits down with Kirsten — known online as @sobrietybestie and host of the Sobriety Bestie podcast — to explore what it looks like to question Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) after years of participation.

Kirsten spent 10 years in AA and has now been out for 5. Together, they discuss the complex reality that AA can be helpful for many people — while also examining how dogma, identity labels, and recovery folklore can become limiting or even harmful over time.

This conve...

In this episode, Kate is joined by Simmy, founder of Miracle Maker 1111, for a conversation exploring the connection between belief, identity, energy, and manifestation.

Together they unpack the idea that our internal world — our thoughts, expectations, emotions, and self-concept — shapes the life we experience. Simmy shares her step-by-step approach to manifestation, including the role of visualization, emotional embodiment, spiritual connection, and becoming the kind of person who expects good things to happen.

Rather than framing manifestation as “wishful thinking,” this conversation explores how transformation happens when someone begins to see themselves differently, feel differently, and live fro...

Burnout isn’t just a personal problem—it’s a cultural one.

In this episode, Kate sits down with former Sociology Professor turned Burnout Coach Dr. Jen Costanza for a refreshingly honest conversation about what it actually means to live in today’s world as a woman, a professional, and a human being with a nervous system.

Together, they unpack how modern culture pressures women to perform wellness instead of experience it, why “having it all together” is often a lie, and how burnout is frequently a rational response to unrealistic expectations—not a personal failure.

In this raw solo episode of Rewired Sober, Kate celebrates eight years of sobriety while recording from New York City during her annual Fashion Week trip. This isn’t a highlight reel — it’s an honest reflection on self-trust, identity, boundaries, feminism, spirituality, grief, creativity, and what actually changes when you build a life you don’t need to escape from.

Kate explores how sobriety reshaped everything: how she dresses, how she speaks up, how she chooses relationships, how she handles discomfort, and how she trusts herself more deeply than ever before. From tattoos and style as self-exp...

In this solo episode, Kate goes deep into a part of recovery that rarely gets named — but quietly shapes everything: religious wounding, self-trust, and soul work.

For years, Kate approached recovery through neuroscience alone — partly out of rebellion against rigid dogma and hierarchical systems that taught her she was broken, powerless, or unable to trust herself. But over time, both her own healing and her work with hundreds of women revealed something deeper:

Many women aren’t just healing from alcohol.

They’re healing from self-abandonment.

From spiritual disconnection.

From bei...

pisode Notes

This is a bonus episode about staying sober in a world that feels like it’s on fire.

I talk about capacity — not as a moral issue, but as a real limit — and why newly sober people do not owe the world constant engagement, takes, or emotional mastery.

We cover:

This episode is f...