The Language of Behavior

In this episode, Charle and Joshua tackle a timely question from an administrator planning for the year ahead: How do we make real progress when the pressure from the state, district, or politics seems to get in the way?

With candor and practical insight, they discuss how to stay rooted in your campus vision while navigating the noise. From creative funding options and neutralizing politically charged language, to strategically using data and “slow-rolling” initiatives over time, this conversation is filled with grounded strategies for leaders who refuse to let red tape derail their purpose.

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Sometimes the biggest cries for help are the quietest ones. In this episode, Charle and Joshua respond to a listener’s powerful question: What subtle signs indicate that a child or adult is struggling emotionally or behaviorally?

They unpack the vital, often-overlooked clues—like mood swings, sleep changes, irritability, physical illness, sudden grade drops, or disengagement—that might seem like defiance or laziness on the surface, but actually point to something much deeper.

Instead of labeling students as “manipulative,” “disrespectful,” or “lazy,” this conversation challenges educators to reframe those moments with curiosity and compassion: Is this behavior out...

What happens when school staff are emotionally exhausted, unsupported, and silently burning out? In this episode, Charle and Joshua answer a powerful listener question: How does school culture contribute to behavioral issues among staff?

They explore the disconnect between what’s said and what’s modeled—especially around mental health. Too often, educators are told to “take care of themselves,” yet are given no time, tools, or real support to do so. This “do as I say, not as I do” culture is fueling frustration, tension, and burnout.

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When students clash, shut each other out, or stir up conflict, it can ripple through your classroom culture. In this episode, Charle and Joshua unpack the listener question, “What do we do when students display negative interactions with peers?”—and offer real strategies to guide students toward better communication, conflict resolution, and meaningful connection.

From modeled language to restorative conversations, prompts that de-escalate tension, and skill practice that sticks, we explore how to teach the social tools students need not just to survive school—but to thrive as emotionally intelligent adults. If you’re tired of playing referee, t...

Not every cry for help is loud. In this episode, Charle and Joshua respond to a listener’s important question: What subtle signs indicate that a child or adult is struggling emotionally or behaviorally? Together, they explore how to become more attuned to the quiet cues—shifts in energy, nonverbal language, out-of-character behavior, and tone—that signal deeper emotional needs. With real-world examples and practical strategies, this conversation will empower educators to spot non-baseline behaviors in both students and colleagues, creating safer, more responsive environments for all.

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What do you do when a student shuts down—refusing to work, withdrawing completely, or staring through you like you’re not even there? In this episode, Charle and Joshua respond to a powerful question from listener Isaya Woytowich and dive deep into what’s really going on beneath the surface.

They share real classroom stories of shutdowns caused by boredom, emotional overload, trauma, and even hidden medical needs. From strategies that support students who are simply unchallenged to those dealing with cognitive overwhelm, this episode explores how to recognize the difference—and how to respond with empathy...

In this episode, Charle and Joshua tackle a tough and familiar listener question from Lindsay Ward: "When students manipulate situations and other teachers for certain things, what strategies do you have to use to still feel like they are supported?" With empathy and honesty, they break down the difference between manipulation and unmet needs, share real-world stories, and offer practical language and strategies to address inconsistencies across classrooms. Learn how to maintain healthy boundaries, foster student accountability, and ensure your team feels supported—all while preserving strong relationships with students.

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Ever find yourself in a standoff with a student and wonder, How did we get here? In this eye-opening episode, Charle and Joshua unpack one of the most common and misunderstood classroom challenges: power struggles.

From subtle cues like tone and body language to the words we choose and how we position ourselves, every interaction sends a message. This episode explores how educators may unintentionally escalate conflict and how small shifts in presence, phrasing, and proximity can create big change.

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Are In and Out of school suspensions really changing student behavior? In this episode, Charle and Joshua answer a listener's question about how restorative practices can be used in both schools and workplaces to address misbehavior in a meaningful way. Through real stories and practical strategies, they explain how to replace outdated discipline systems with restorative steps that help individuals take ownership of their actions, identify who was impacted, and build a path toward healing and growth. Tune in to learn how restoration isn’t just a theory—it’s a practical, powerful tool that builds stronger communities.

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In this deeply personal and inspiring episode, Dr. Brandi Kelly joins Charle and Joshua to discuss her new book Lead with Hope and the powerful message behind it. Brandi shares how losing her brother at a young age shaped her journey and ignited her passion to support others through grief, trauma, and depression. Together, they explore how to lean into strengths, boost self-efficacy, and protect our mental health as leaders and educators. This conversation is a reminder that even in the darkest moments, hope can be the foundation we lead from. Don’t miss this emotional and empowering episode th...

How do you hold a student accountable without damaging the fragile relationship you've worked so hard to build? In this episode, Charle and Joshua tackle a powerful listener question about navigating behavior challenges with students who struggle to trust adults. They explore practical strategies for addressing misconduct—especially when evidence is unclear or actions can’t be ignored—while preserving connection and rapport. From assigning “trusted adults” to implementing restorative practices and best-practice communication strategies, this episode equips educators with a balanced, compassionate approach that reinforces both accountability and belonging.

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What if In-School Suspension wasn’t just about separation, but transformation? In this episode, Charle and Joshua respond to a powerful question from educator Leah Hobbs: How can we integrate social emotional learning (SEL) into ISS when students are being disciplined for things like dress code violations or excessive tardies?

They dive into the purpose of ISS, how to reimagine it as a proactive learning space, and explore how SEL can become a meaningful tool—not just a checkbox. From creating alternative environments that promote reflection to restoring the harm caused by behavior and teaching future-ready skills, this...

In this reflective episode, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper revisit some of the most impactful insights from the Thriving Educator LIVE series—focusing on how our physical environment plays a crucial role in shaping student behavior. Responding to a powerful listener question, they explore real-world examples of sensory tools, calming decorations, and intentional classroom design choices that help reduce anxiety and create psychological safety. From flexible seating to textures, colors, and visual cues, Charle and Josh unpack how the smallest environmental shifts can make the biggest emotional difference for our students. Whether you're redesigning your space or rethinking your st...

Ever notice how a simple shift in tone or a slight change in proximity can completely alter a student's response? In this episode, Charle and Joshua dive into the unseen yet powerful impact of presence on student behavior. They uncover how factors like body language, classroom layout, and even the pace of speech shape student engagement and trust. Every move we make as educators sends a message so how can we ensure it’s the right one? Tune in for eye-opening insights and game-changing strategies to transform the way you connect with students.

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What happens when a student’s behavior seems completely unpredictable? A listener asks how to determine triggers for a student who seems to have none, and in this episode, Charle and Joshua dive deep into the hidden factors behind student outbursts.

They share real-life stories, common but often overlooked triggers, and environmental influences that may be fueling unexpected behaviors. Plus, they introduce strategies like The Relationship Inventory to help educators build stronger connections, uncover patterns, and create a more supportive and predictable learning environment.

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Teachers are facing more challenges than ever when it comes to student behavior, engagement, and emotional well-being. In this powerful episode, special guests Kasey Schultz and Brian Miller join Charle and Joshua to break down what’s really happening in classrooms today.

From student behavior interventions to the six key pieces of engagement, they explore why traditional methods are falling short—and what actually works. They take a deep dive into why social-emotional learning (SEL) isn’t creating the impact schools hoped for, the essential relationship-building skills educators need, and how teachers and administrators can support students post-d...

Anxiety is one of the most common challenges students and educators face, yet it’s often misunderstood or overlooked. In this episode, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper tackle the big question: How can anxiety be treated, and how can we support those who struggle with it effectively?

From building self-awareness to using evidence-based treatments like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), mindfulness, and medication, they break down practical approaches that can make a real difference. They also explore daily strategies like exercise, nutrition, journaling, art, and strong social support to help manage anxiety long-term.

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At 19, Kevin Hines made the devastating decision to jump off the Golden Gate Bridge. He survived. Today, he is one of the world’s leading voices in mental health and suicide prevention, using his second chance at life to bring hope to others.

In this powerful and deeply moving episode, Kevin shares his personal journey, the warning signs of depression and suicidal ideation that often go unnoticed in children, and why early intervention matters. We dive into the conversations educators and parents must have to support students in crisis and how a non-judgmental, education-driven approach can reduce su...

Stress is a normal part of life, but when does it cross the line into an anxiety disorder? In this episode, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper break down the key differences between everyday stress and clinical anxiety, especially in the classroom setting. They explore how predictability, classroom norms, and intentional check-ins can help students feel more secure and supported. Plus, they share practical strategies to reduce student stress and anxiety while fostering a healthier learning environment. Tune in to gain actionable insights that can make a lasting impact on your students’ well-being!

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Students with ADHD often find themselves at odds with the traditional school model by struggling to sit still, focus, or meet rigid expectations that don’t align with how their brains are wired. So what can educators do to truly support them?

In this episode, Charle and Josh dive into the realities of ADHD in schools, backed by research and real-world experiences. They unpack why conventional discipline and classroom structures fail ADHD learners, explore how their brains process information differently, and provide practical, game-changing strategies to help these students thrive instead of just survive.

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February is here, and if you’re feeling the weight of student behaviors reaching their peak, you’re not alone. Research shows that February is the highest month for student referrals, making it one of the most stressful times for educators. But here’s the reality—we can’t effectively manage student behavior if we’re not in the right emotional state ourselves.

In this episode, Charle and Josh dive into the importance of regulating our own emotions first, so we can approach student discipline with clarity, confidence, and composure. They share real-life stories, practical strategies, and simple shift...

In this special episode, Joshua Stamper reads the introduction to The Language of Behavior: A Framework to Elevate Student Success. Dive into the heart of the book as Joshua explores key sections like Are We Failing?, Regaining Trust in the System, and Why Traditional Approaches to Misbehavior Aren't Working. Discover how this new approach redefines student behavior support, fosters stronger connections, and equips educators with practical strategies to elevate success in every classroom. Ready to transform the way you see student behavior? This episode is the perfect starting point to dive into this new resource!

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How can educators support non-English speaking students and families who hold different cultural beliefs around mental health? In this thought-provoking episode, Charle and Joshua dive into the complexities of navigating cultural differences while fostering understanding and trust. They discuss common roadblocks, share real-life examples of meaningful conversations, and offer actionable strategies to educate parents on the benefits of mental health practices. Join us as we explore how to build bridges of support that empower students to thrive at school and at home.

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What happens when a student places all their trust in you and no one else? In this episode, Charle and Joshua unpack the delicate dance of earning trust while knowing when to pass the baton. With stories, insights, and actionable advice, they explore how to identify when it’s time to involve counselors, social workers, or other professionals to ensure every student gets the holistic support they need. Tune in for a thoughtful discussion on balancing connection, boundaries, and collaboration to truly show up for students in crisis.

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What if gratitude could be the game-changer for mental health in schools? Join Charle and Joshua as they sit down with Lainie Rowell, author of Evolving Gratitude, for a powerful conversation on the science and magic of gratitude. Discover how this simple yet bold practice can rewire the brain, boost emotional resilience, and transform the classroom environment. Lainie shares her personal journey, research insights, and practical strategies for educators and students to harness gratitude as a tool for connection, growth, and joy. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to create lasting, positive change through the power of...

Ever feel like the world is spinning out of control, and all eyes are on you? In this episode, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper explore the art of keeping your cool when chaos erupts. Tackling the question "How do I stay calm when I feel chaotic in front of others?" they introduce the Ladder of Conflict—a powerful tool for understanding and managing emotional escalation. But staying calm isn’t just about what happens in the moment; it’s about creating a support system that has your back when the pressure’s on. Charle and Joshua share how to build yo...

Tensions rise, emotions boil over, and suddenly, you're faced with a student on the brink of aggression. What do you do? In this episode, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper tackle one of the most challenging and pressing questions educators face: How can I deescalate when a student seems ready to lash out? Drawing from their wealth of experience, they break down effective, trauma-informed deescalation strategies designed to create safety, diffuse conflict, and restore calm without escalating the situation further. With practical tips, real-life examples, and powerful tools, Charle and Josh empower educators to approach these moments with confidence, compassion...

Ever faced a student who simply shuts down, refusing to engage or even lift a pencil? In this week's episode, Charle and Joshua dive into the often-overlooked challenges of avoidant students—the ones who declare, "I'm just here because I have to be." Through powerful storytelling and expert insights, they peel back the layers of disengagement, exploring what might lie beneath the resistance. With 17 creative strategies in hand, they offer fresh perspectives and actionable tools for fostering connection, reigniting motivation, and building bridges with even the most withdrawn students. Join the conversation and discover new ways to inspire your st...

In this critical episode of The Language of Behavior, Charle and Josh tackle a sensitive yet vital topic: "How to Assess Our Student's Level of Risk Effectively?" Together, they explore the warning signs—both verbal and non-verbal—that educators need to recognize when assessing student mental health and the potential risk of suicide.

From understanding levels of danger to identifying subtle behavioral cues, this episode equips listeners with the tools to navigate these challenging situations with care and intention. Charle and Josh provide actionable insights to help educators build awareness, foster open communication, and create a supportive envi...

In this special episode of The Language of Behavior, we welcome our very first guest, the extraordinary Todd Nesloney! As an award-winning author, speaker, and renowned school leader, Todd brings a wealth of wisdom and heart to the conversation.

Todd takes us on a journey through his evolution as an educator—from implementing practical steps to reduce student misbehavior as a teacher to discovering powerful ways to transform school culture as a principal. Through candid stories and hard-earned lessons, Todd shares how he prioritized supporting students through their toughest moments and empowered his staff to do the sa...

In this episode of The Language of Behavior, hosts Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper explore the critical topic of student mental health and the importance of timely referrals to school counselors. Join them as they discuss how to identify students who may be in need, using their insightful framework that classifies concerns into three levels of risk: Curiosity, Concern, and Crisis.

Listeners will gain practical strategies for recognizing the signs that a student may be struggling, including specific examples for each level. Discover how to approach conversations with students who expresses feeling overwhelmed, and learn the right...

How can teachers identify when a student is struggling with their mental health? In this compelling episode of The Language of Behavior, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper take on the big question: "Should teachers assess students' mental health?" Together, they share a practical and empathetic approach to spotting the signs that something might be wrong. By focusing on three key areas—feelings, behaviors, and appearances—educators can gain a better understanding of their students’ needs without overstepping.

Charle and Josh also dive into the how staying nonjudgmental, asking questions with curiosity (not interrogation), truly listening, and recognizing the un...

In this important episode of The Language of Behavior, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper dive into a powerful listener question: "How can teachers be proactive to prevent behaviors from escalating?"

Charle and Joshua share actionable strategies to help educators take a proactive approach to behavior management, including:

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In this week's episode of The Language of Behavior, Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper tackle a listener's question: "How do we set up a classroom to reduce behaviors?" Charle and Joshua explore practical strategies to create a safe and calming environment that benefits students, parents, and teachers alike. From adjusting lighting and furniture to choosing colors, sounds, and even scents, they dive into how each element can impact student emotions and behavior. With real-life stories, they illustrate how a thoughtfully designed classroom can help prevent negative triggers and reduce overwhelm, fostering a more positive and supportive atmosphere for everyone...

As we are entering a season of increased student behavior, Charle and Josh introduce an essential and free tool designed to help educators strengthen connections with students and foster a positive classroom environment. This simple 20-step guide serves as a reminder of "best practices" for every stage of class: from greeting students as they enter, to starting lessons on the right note, and maintaining positive interactions throughout. Whether you're a teacher, instructional coach, counselor, or administrator, The Relationship Agreement can be used to give valuable feedback, maintain accountability, and make intentional strides toward building trust and engagement. Join us...

Welcome to the debut episode of The Language of Behavior! In this episode, hosts Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper introduce themselves and share the mission behind the podcast: transforming how educators approach student behavior. We dive into the question, "Is the traditional way of student discipline working?" Spoiler alert—it’s time for a new approach. Together, we explore how traditional practices like detentions, In-School Suspension (ISS), and Out-of-School Suspension (OSS) often fall short and can even harm relationships with students.

Using data on student mental health and real-world experiences, we emphasize the need for proactive, relationship-focused stra...