Carl and Heather Present
Carl and Heather Present: Marriage, Faith and thriving with your total opposite. We are taking on the humor, challenges, highs and lows of staying married to someone who is nothing like you, while holding to the hope that marriage is worth it all.
Episode 91: "Together In Calling" Ephesians 3:1-21 & 4:1-16 (Week 3)
Does God have a purpose for your life... or just for pastors and missionaries?
In Episode 3 of our study through Ephesians, Carl and Heather explore one of the most encouraging truths in Scripture: every follower of Jesus has received a calling.
As Paul prays for believers to be rooted and grounded in God's love, he reminds us that the Christian life isn't about earning God's approval—it's about living from it.
Together you'll discover why your career isn't your calling, how the Church reveals God's plan to the world, and what it...
Episode 90: "Together In Grace" Ephesians 2:1-22 (Week 2)
Do you ever feel like you're never quite enough?
Enough for God.
Enough for your spouse.
Enough as a parent.
Enough in your faith.
Ephesians 2 answers that question with one of the clearest pictures of the Gospel in all of Scripture.
In this episode, Carl and Heather explore what it means to be saved by grace—not by performance—and why understanding that truth changes everything about how we love God and one another.
Together you'll discover why grace isn't just the starting point of the Chri...
Episode 89: "Together In Christ" Ephesians 1:1-23 (Week 1)
Who are you... really?
Most of us build our identity around things that can disappear—our career, relationships, accomplishments, ministry, or even our role in the family.
But what if your truest identity was something no circumstance could ever take away?
In the first episode of our five-part study through Ephesians, Carl and Heather explore one of the richest chapters in the New Testament and discover what it means to be chosen, adopted, redeemed, and sealed by God.
You'll learn why Paul begins with identity before instruction—and...
Episode 88: Rebuilding Broken Trust
Can trust be rebuilt after it's been broken?
Trust is one of the most valuable—and fragile—parts of any marriage. It can take years to build and only moments to damage.
In this episode, Carl and Heather explore what happens when trust is broken, why forgiveness matters, and how couples can rebuild trust one small step at a time.
Through personal stories, biblical wisdom, and practical encouragement, they discuss how trust grows through everyday faithfulness, honesty, humility, and accountability.
Whether your marriage is thriving or you're working through a difficult seas...
Episode 87: Pride Month, Marriage, and the Gospel
It's Pride Month, and for many Christian couples that raises difficult but important questions.
How should followers of Jesus think about marriage, sexuality, sin, truth, and love in a rapidly changing culture? Is it possible to love people well without affirming every belief or behavior? And why does it matter for a husband and wife to agree on what sin is in the first place?
In this episode, Carl and Heather discuss the difference between acceptance and affirmation, the danger of spiritual drift, and why the biblical vision of marriage still matters today.
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The Tragic Decision The Whole Internet Had An Opinion About
A young couple made a tragic, public decision — and the whole internet had an opinion. This week, Carl and Heather step into the headlines with honesty and tenderness, asking three questions: What actually happened? What can a crisis like this reveal in a marriage? And what does God say about the value of a human life — no matter what?
This is a conversation about holding conviction and compassion in the same hand. Because marriage was never meant to make us comfortable; it was meant to make us holy. So was parenting. So is raising every kind of chil...
Episode 85: When Your Faith Feels Flat w/ Jeffery & Shannon Scott
Have you ever felt stuck in your faith? Like you're doing all the right things, but God feels distant and spiritual growth seems nowhere to be found?
In this episode, Carl and Heather sit down with Jeffrey and Shannon Scott to talk about the often-overlooked seasons of the Christian life when faith feels flat, progress feels slow, and nothing seems to be happening. Together, they explore how God is often doing His deepest work beneath the surface, even when we can't see it.
If you've ever wondered whether you're growing, drifting, or simply walking through...
Episode 84: Everyday Spiritual Habits
Can small spiritual habits actually change your marriage?
This week we’re joined by author and Bible teacher Hanna Seymour and her husband Tyler to talk about Hanna’s new book, Everyday Spiritual Habits.
Hanna’s message is simple but powerful: spiritual growth doesn’t happen through perfection or pressure — it happens through small, faithful rhythms practiced over time.
In this conversation, we unpack how everyday habits like prayer, gratitude, Scripture, friendship, and practicing the presence of God can reshape not only your faith, but your marriage and family culture too.
We also ta...
Episode 83: Engaged? Listen To This Before You Walk Down The Aisle
If you’re engaged—or know someone who is—this might be one of the most important conversations you hear before marriage.
Because most marriages don’t fall apart in a moment…
 they drift slowly through poor communication and unresolved conflict.Â
In this episode, Carl and Heather walk through five essential conversations every couple needs to have before saying “I do.”
This isn’t about planning a wedding—
 it’s about preparing for a lifetime.
In this episode, we cover:
 How to build a shared purpose and directionEpisode 82: Sexless Marriage?
No one plans to end up in a sexless marriage…
 But a lot of couples quietly drift there.
It’s not loud.
 It’s not explosive.
 It’s silent—and that’s what makes it so dangerous.
In this episode, Carl and Heather talk about the hidden struggle many couples face:
 two people who love each other… but have lost connection.
You’ll hear:
 The real reasons intimacy fades (and why it’s rarely just about sex)  The physical, emotional, and spiritual impact of disconnection  Why unresolved conflict and poor communication are...Episode 81: Two Leaders, One Marriage, Now What?
What happens when both spouses are strong leaders?
Chris and Maribeth Dodd join us to talk about the tension, beauty, and challenge of building a Christ-centered marriage when both husband and wife are high-capacity leaders.
We cover leadership, submission, differences in pace and personality, and what it really looks like to become one—without losing who God made you to be.
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Episode 80: Parenting The Anxious Generation
Something has shifted—and our kids are feeling it.
In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to parent in the age of rising anxiety. From the explosion of smartphones to the loss of play-based childhoods, we unpack why this generation is struggling—and what we can do about it.
We explore:
 The difference between a play-based vs. phone-based childhood  How constant comparison is shaping identity  Why resilience is declining (and how to rebuild it)  Practical ways to disciple technology, not fear it  Creating a home where kids can process instead of perform  Anc...Episode 79: The Roommate Trap
The Roommate Trap
What if your marriage isn’t falling apart… but it’s quietly drifting?
In this episode of Carl and Heather Present, we’re talking about a season almost every couple experiences—but few know how to name: the roommate phase. It’s when life gets full, conversations become transactional, and connection slowly fades into the background.
You’re not fighting.
 You’re functioning.
 But you’re also not really seeing each other anymore.
We’ve lived this.
 And after a season of travel, ministry, an...
Episdoe 78: Transforming South Sudan
What does hope look like in one of the most desperate places on earth?
In this powerful episode, we sit down with Mike Vogt, director of Transform South Sudan, to hear firsthand what God is doing in South Sudan—the poorest country in the world by nearly every measure.
From unimaginable challenges to stories of resilience, faith, and transformation, Mike shares how the Gospel is bringing real, tangible change to communities in crisis.
But this conversation isn’t just about awareness—it’s about action.
Right now, there is an urgent opportun...
Episode 77: Is Your Phone Killing Your Connection?
Is your phone quietly destroying your connection?
We carry them everywhere. We check them constantly. And without even realizing it… our phones may be becoming the third presence in our marriage.
In this episode, we introduce the idea of the “pocket toddler”—the device that demands attention, interrupts conversations, and slowly pulls us away from the person sitting right next to us.
We’re talking honestly about how technology:
Shuts down real communication
Keeps us from truly listening
Trains us to prioritize distractions
And slowly erodes emotional and physical i...
Episode 76: Porn & Your Marriage Replay
Pornography isn’t just a private struggle—it’s quietly wrecking marriages, eroding trust, and disconnecting us from both our spouse and God.
We’re hearing it everywhere we go—conferences, conversations, real stories—and the impact is undeniable. So we’re bringing this conversation back to the surface.
In this episode, we revisit one of our most important discussions to help you fight for intimacy, healing, and a deeper connection in your marriage.
If this episode encouraged you, don’t just move on—join us.
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Episode 75: Parenting Children with Extraordinary Needs feat. Mandi Moseley
What does parenting look like when your child has extraordinary medical needs—and how does that affect your marriage?
This week we’re joined by our friend Mandi Moseley, whose daughter Ellie was born with Edwards Syndrome. Against the odds, Ellie’s life has become a profound answer to prayer and a testimony of God’s faithfulness.
Mandi shares candidly about navigating medical complexity, the strain and strengthening it brings to a marriage, and the ways God has used Ellie’s story to draw their family closer together.
It’s a conversa...
Episode 74: Opposite Together w/ Samuel & Stephanie Rainey
Samuel and Stephanie Rainey join us for a great conversation about how their marriage started, how it's going, and how their differences led them to a calling that helps people thrive through life coaching and therapy.Â
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Episode 73: Our Origin Story
We have a podcast that encourages people to work on their marriage and stick it out through the hard stuff, but that's not how it started. Go back with us to our humble origins and see if you can find hope for you own journey.
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Episode 72: Forgiveness & Cancelling The Debt That's Holding You Back
Bitterness, resentment, and anger won’t change the past — but they can derail your future. In this episode, Carl and Heather explore what biblical forgiveness really means and how releasing relational debt opens the door to healing and freedom. Rooted in Ephesians 4:31–32 and Colossians 3:13, this conversation offers practical steps and Gospel-centered hope for anyone struggling to let go of hurt.
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Episode 71: Four Warning Signs of Divorce
Every marriage faces conflict — but some communication patterns quietly erode connection over time. In this episode, Carl and Heather unpack Dr. John Gottman’s “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” and share practical, faith-rooted tools to replace criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling with grace, humility, and repair. If you’ve ever wondered why small disagreements escalate or conversations shut down, this episode will give you language, hope, and a path forward.
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Episode 70: Behold Update 2026
In this episode, we’re sharing an honest update on Behold Gathering 2026—what it was like, the moments that mattered, and the stories we’ll carry forward. We reflect on the prayers that shaped the weekend, the ways God met us in the room, and the fruit that’s still unfolding.
We also take time to honor the people who made Behold possible and invite you into what God is doing next. Whether you were there or cheering from afar, this episode is a reminder: Behold isn’t just an event—it’s a movement of women learning to be...
Episode 69: Three Marriage Conversations
Every marriage needs more than love—it needs intentional conversation.
In this episode, Carl and Heather share the three essential “tune-up” conversations every couple must keep having to stay connected, emotionally safe, and on the same team. From managing stress, to strengthening intimacy, to navigating roles, conflict, and the daily load of life, these conversations are designed to prevent drift before distance sets in.
If you’ve felt disconnected, reactive, or stuck in the same arguments, this episode gives you simple, proven questions and rhythms that help you move from surviving to growing—together.
Because...
Episode 68: Intentional Motherhood
Motherhood is holy—but it’s also heavy.
In this vulnerable and hope-filled episode, Heather speaks to the quiet tensions every mom feels: losing yourself, carrying fear, and trying to hold everything together. You’ll be encouraged to reclaim your God-given identity, strengthen your marriage as a team, and learn how to parent from faith instead of fear.
With honest stories, biblical wisdom, and practical shifts you can make today, this conversation will remind you that while raising your children is a sacred calling, it is not your only one.
If you’re longing...
Episode 67: Intentional Fatherhood
What kind of father do you want to be?
In this honest and practical conversation, Carl unpacks what it really means to lead your family with purpose—not perfection. From building meaningful rhythms and traditions, to learning the language of blessing, to navigating the tension between work and presence, this episode is a call for dads to stop drifting and start leading.
You’ll hear real stories, real regrets, and real strategies for shaping a home culture that points your kids to Christ. Because the moments that matter most aren’t always the big ones—they’re...
Episode 66: Learning to Trust Again w/ Jackie & Stephana Bledsoe
Jackie and Stephana Bledsoe join us this week to talk about building trust and rebuilding it when it's broken. They are the founders of Happily Married Couples and you can find their book The Seven Rings of Marriage here: https://a.co/d/9gcV4HS
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Episode 65: Habits of Happy Couples w/ Brian and Jen Goins
Brian and Jen Goins join the podcast this week to talk about the common habits of the world's happiest couples.
Brian's podcast he references is called "Married With Benefits" and the book we talked about is "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages".Â
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Classic Episode: The Pilot Episode
This week we’re replaying a classic episode of the podcast.
We’re taking this week off and decided to replay the very first episode of the podcast, the Pilot Episode. Some of you have been with us since the beginning but a lot of you are new so we thought this would be a good way to remind everybody why we do what we do and to let you know that we’re excited to keep encouraging marriages and sharing the Gospel in 2026.
We’ll be back next week with a brand new episode of Carl...
Advent Week Four: Love
This Advent we're walking together through each week of the season and trying to keep Jesus at the center of our marriages and families this Christmas.Â
It's Christmas week 2025! Merry Christmas! Join us in this conversation about the love that Jesus has for us and how by God's Spirit that can be the kind of love we express to each other.
Behold Women's Gathering is February 7, 2026. Register @ beholdgathering.com
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Advent Week Three: Joy
This Advent we're walking together through each week of the season and trying to keep Jesus at the center of our marriages and families this Christmas.
If you need some more joy in your marriage this Christmas, let's find it together. Joy is not about being happy, it's about establishing your foundation on a source that does not run out or sun dry. Jesus has won our victory with his presence. Everything else is just frosting, but he is the source of our deepest joy, even in suffering and pain.Â
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Advent Week Two: Peace
This Advent we're walking together through each week of the season and trying to keep Jesus at the center of our marriages and families.
This week we remember that peace is from Jesus. We talk about how to practice peace and how to make it out of conflict. If you need a boost for your peace process this Christmas, check it out.
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Advent Week One: Hope
This Advent we're walking together through each week of the season and trying to keep Jesus at the center of our marriages and families.
In the first week we remember the reason for our hope is Jesus. If you need a reminder of the hope that will not disappoint, join us.
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Episode 60: Thanksgiving w/ Them Cartee Boys
Happy Thanksgiving! Join us for a fun conversation with our sons and hear their hot takes about our marriage: What they'd do different and what advice they'd take from us. We're grateful for all our "Carl and Heather Present" podcast family!
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Episode 59: Porn and Your Marriage
Porn is a threat to your marriage and a tool of the evil one to destroy your relationships. This week we talk about how to break free from its influence, recover from shame and fight for authentic intimacy with your spouse.
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Episode 58: Together in Grief
We share out stories of how losing our parents in different ways has challenged our marriage and made us closer. As the holidays approach it's always season of joy, but also loss feels more pronounced. Listen for encouragement in a season of grief.
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Episode 57: Marriage Mentors w/ Robert & Eva Shaw
This week Dr. Robert and Eva Shaw, a couple who have been mentors and friends to us, talk friendship, marriage and offer timeless wisdom for couples who want their marriage and family to thrive.
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Episode 56: Date Night! (Unscripted and Uncensored)
Heather and I have an unscripted and uncensored date night, playing with a deck of Tales Conversation Cards, Couples Edition. We had the best time and even learned a little bit more about each other.
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Episode 55 The Soldier and The Therapist w/ Matt and Corie Weathers
"The Soldier and The Therapist" highlights the incredible insights of Lt. Col Matt Weathers, a chaplain in the United States Army and his wife Corie who is an author and therapist. Together they're having significant impact on the families that serve our country! To find out more visit corieweathers.com Â
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Episode 54: Surrendering Sex w/ Dr. Juli Slattery
Our guest Dr. Juli Slattery talks about her book Surrendered Sexuality which helps believers understand God's design for sex. Juli says our sexuality is not for self-discovery but to understand God’s love. She gives some great wisdom and challenges the culture and Christianity's view on sex.
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Episode 53: Our 1 Year Podcast Anniversary!
This episode is a celebration of our first year in podcasting! We have so much to celebrate and be thankful for. Take the journey with us back through some of the best moments and memories from our first year of podcasting. If you're new, this is a great way to catch up! Happy Podcast Anniversary!
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