Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind

The agreement is signed, the exchanges are happening, and the whole thing still starts up again every time a pickup text lands. This episode is about why grief after divorce works differently from every other loss, and the one thing to do this week for the version of your life that has not been lived yet.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual...

It is a few months after the divorce, the apartment is smaller and quieter than you pictured, and the life that was supposed to show up hasn't. Corey tells the story of the move he made in eighth grade chasing a better life, what he couldn't see from Florida, and why the answer to "better when" is to stop waiting on it and start the work now.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a...

It's a few weeks after you signed, the house is quiet on a night without the kids, and you feel worse than you did when the fight was still on. This episode is about why that happens, why the people who were blindsided feel it hardest, and why none of it means you're broken or behind.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual...

The papers are signed, everyone keeps asking if you feel relieved, and mostly you just feel tired. This episode is about why that's normal, the three ways people land after a settlement, and the big decisions to hold off on while you get your footing.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing...

Your first court date is coming and you keep imagining the worst version of it. This episode walks you through that morning, including what the aggressive lawyer on the other side said after the judge ruled.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey...

You took the pause, stayed flexible, made every deposit, and the other side still refuses to move. This episode breaks down the three kinds of divorce trials, which one you are walking into, and how to know if your attorney is truly committed to fighting it with you.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting...

The other side just sent something obnoxious, and your reply is sitting there ready to go. Before you hit send, hear what the judge is actually watching for, and why every choice you make is either a deposit or a withdrawal.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for...

Mediation fell apart, a court date is on the calendar, and your mind keeps jumping to courtroom scenes from the movies. This episode gives you the real lay of the land, the three unspoken rules no attorney explains, and why a judge pushing you toward settlement is a window, not a warning.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went...

You have already decided your spouse is too difficult for mediation, and court feels like the only road left. This episode walks you through the front door and the back door to mediation, the three types you will actually encounter, and why choosing resolution now is not the same as giving up.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went...

You have consultations booked and no idea how to tell the attorney who will actually protect you from the one who just tells you what you want to hear. This episode gives you the three questions that reveal the difference before you hand over a retainer.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without...

You looked up the firm your spouse hired, saw the fancy address and the wall of attorney bios, and felt your stomach drop. Before you assume the worst, this episode gives you the one question that tells you whether their expensive lawyer actually changes anything: can they afford to keep paying for it?

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends...

You're done being the reasonable one, because being reasonable is what got you here. Before you lock in the position that finally feels like fighting back, here's what it does to your case.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent...

You've told yourself it probably won't come up, so you haven't mentioned it to anyone, including your lawyer. This is what it costs if you're wrong, and why handing it over now is what keeps it from being used against you later.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is...

The emails and requests keep coming, and each one feels like it needs an answer right now. Most of it is built to drain you, not to win, and this is how you spot the few that actually matter.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living...

You keep sending reasonable proposals and they keep getting brushed aside, and you cannot figure out why. What looks like chaos is usually a strategy, and this episode names the four you are most likely up against.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce...

You are about to hand your case to a lawyer, and no one ever laid out how the system works. This is the scouting report, so you walk in knowing your job and who to trust with the rest.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living...

Somewhere in the middle, the work stops feeling like progress and starts feeling like nothing is changing. This is a pause to show you what already has.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial...

A last-minute request blows up your plans with the kids, and you have about ten seconds before you respond badly. Watch how to handle it in real time so the calm answer is also the smart one.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce...

Being nice hasn't worked. Getting angry isn't who you are. There's a third way to respond, and one question gets you there.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and...

When they tune you out, saying it louder won't get through. Step four of the CLEAR Method, and the one move that shifts a conversation from reactive to real.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as...

When your spouse demands 50/50 and you know it isn't really about the kids, your instinct is to push back. That instinct will cost you. Here's the move that actually works.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years...

When you're dug in on the big issue and nothing's moving, the answer isn't to push harder. Find the smallest place you actually agree and start there.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial...

When your spouse demands 50/50 after years of barely parenting, the urge to set them straight is overwhelming. That instinct is the trap.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and...

The offer is outrageous. Your reaction is valid. Saying it out loud is the mistake. Here's the method that keeps you persuasive instead.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases...

This episode breaks down why acting neutral in your divorce isn't about hiding your feelings, it's about protecting your case from a system that's already forming opinions about you. Corey walks through what happens when emotions take over, why credibility matters more than truth in court, and how to stop giving the other side ammunition.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce...

You're not going to get what you want by pushing harder. The strategic shift shows you how to listen for what's really driving their position, so you can move them without a fight.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent...

That custody win or perfect settlement you're fixated on may not deliver what you think it will. Before you commit to the fight, make sure you can stomach what it takes to get there.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has...

You open a settlement offer on Friday afternoon and it's outrageous. Before you fire back, this episode gives you the Perspective Check: a way to borrow wisdom from your future self by asking how this will play out in 10 hours, 10 days, and 10 years.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind...

The two traps people fall into when divorce hits their inbox: freezing and doing nothing, or retaliating with everything you've got. Corey breaks down why both backfire and walks through the strategic response that keeps you in control.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that...

A checkpoint before we move forward. How far you've come since episode one, and what's next.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains...

The 4 levels of a contested custody case and why only one of them protects your child's mental health.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where...

What to do when you're spiraling at 2am over a text from your ex. A scenario lab walking through the 3 shifts: boundaries, the 24-hour pause, and mental distancing. 
 

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a...

Why fighting every issue in your divorce will cost you the ones that matter most.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the...

You knew better. You responded anyway. Now you're spiraling. This episode isn't about being perfect. It's about three small changes that give you more capacity when you're running on fumes.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years...

You've been the primary parent their whole lives. Now your ex wants 50/50 and won't budge. You're awake at 2 AM, replaying the injustice on a loop. This episode gives you a 5-step process to break that cycle so you can stop spiraling and start thinking clearly again.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without...

Friday afternoon. You're done with work, ready for the weekend with your kids. Then a text from your soon-to-be ex lands and you fire back while you're still activated.

I've been a divorce attorney for 25 years. Those rapid-fire text threads become Exhibit A. They get used against you.

This episode covers the 24 Hour Pause: how to stop reacting and start responding tactically.

You'll learn why the "emergency" usually isn't one, what to say when you need to buy time, and why their escalating texts actually mean you're winning.

Y...

You know the moment. You're about to fall asleep, you check your phone one last time, and there it is. A text that lights you up. You respond. It goes badly.

Corey shares a story he's not proud of and explains why boundaries aren't about your ex. They're about protecting yourself from your worst impulses when it matters most.

Plus one phone setting that puts you back in control.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession...

Some people will spend ten thousand dollars to fight a five-thousand-dollar problem. That's not negotiation. That's punishment. Spot it early so you stop wasting resources.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in...

The parent who reacts least wins most. That win is a better life for you and your children.

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show i...

Divorce isn't just financial. It's a capacity problem. Most people run out of something other than money first. 
 

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is wh...