You Make Sense

Sarah goes on to explain the difference between being a narcissist and having an avoidant attachment. While they can sometimes appear similar from the outside, avoidant partners have a deep desire for connection but often push it away out of self-protection. Listen in for a nuanced understanding of attachment wounding and how to find clarity on your own relational dynamics.

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• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:51] Difficult behaviors don’t always indicate narcissism
• [03:15] Understanding the origins of narcissism
• [07:54] Why narcissists often seek out codependent partners
• [11:50] Repair, ownership, and empathy
• [17:39] Common traits associated with narcissism
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You’ll also learn why protective parts may block you from pursuing what you want, and how healing unfolds through cycles of expansion and contraction as the nervous system gathers evidence that the present is safe. By taking tolerable steps and bringing this work into everyday life, you can build your capacity to navigate triggers and experience more of who you are. Find out why healing can feel so elusive and how to recognize progress even when it doesn’t feel like it.

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• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:49] The counterintuitive nature of healing
• [03:24] The nervous system as...

Much of the catastrophizing we experience is actually a result of protective parts that formed in our early childhood to keep us safe. You’ll learn how to come to the aid of these parts by first accessing your most capable, able adult self. Listen in for a compassionate guide on how to find lasting relief and step toward the thinking patterns you truly desire.

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• [00:00] Introduction 
• [01:47] Focusing only on positive or negative
• [07:22] Why you may always assume the worst
• [15:46] Giving the vulnerable part safety from your adult self
• [21:28] Why traditional ta...

Healing requires more than understanding where our wounds came from. Sarah explores how somatic healing and parts work are necessary components to bringing resolution to painful childhood experiences. By learning to become a steady, regulated presence for yourself, you can begin to release and shift old survival responses. Discover how healing developmental trauma can help you build greater safety within yourself and with the people you love.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:56] Healing developmental trauma requires a somatic approach 
• [08:16] Implicit memory and how trauma lives in the body
• [10:15] How attachment trauma shapes adult relationships
• [15...

We explore the connection between our spiritual nature and the healing process, along with the spiritual and scientific foundations of parts work. Sarah explains how to begin working with your parts and what integration actually means. You’ll be invited to examine your self-protective behaviors with curiosity, compassion, and awareness, which is a powerful step toward deeper healing and a fuller experience of being alive. Your system already knows how to heal; it just needs to be shown the way.

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• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:33] Another way to think of spirituality 
• [07:28] How the nervous system protects us 
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You’ll learn about the four primary states of your autonomic nervous system and how each one directly impacts your lived experience. Then, Sarah will guide you through gentle steps to begin accessing your ventral vagal complex, which is the key to living a more free, empowered life. This conversation is a starting point to finding tools and support that lead to lasting change. If there’s an episode not to skip, it might be this one. 

Episode Highlights: 
• [00:00] Introduction 
• [02:50] Understanding your autonomic nervous system
• [06:52] Ventral - your state of regulation
• [10:57] Sympathetic - your state of m...

Instead of seeing these behaviors as flaws, Sarah invites you to view them through a more compassionate lens. You’ll also get tools to regulate your nervous system and reparent your younger parts, so that you can move beyond survival and break free from self-sabotaging cycles. Join Sarah for a powerful episode that will help you see yourself with greater understanding and move toward the life you truly want.

Episode Highlights:
• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:44] Celebrating 100 episodes
• [06:46] The purpose of coping strategies and self-sabotage
• [08:58] Common coping and numbing strategies
• [16:29] Why you shouldn’t instantly remove coping strateg...

Through personal stories and practical examples, Sarah offers a compassionate framework for recognizing when the past is shaping your perception. She explains the importance of nervous system regulation in accessing your truth and why it is essential to also reparent your younger parts. Listen in to better understand your inner signals and strengthen your ability to recognize and trust yourself.

Episode Highlights:
• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:49] The difference between intuition and a trauma response
• [01:33] Why every part holds its own truth
• [03:48] How the nervous system determines what is safe
• [11:06] Recognizing the markers of a trauma response

Rather than trying to rationalize your way through difficult emotions, Sarah explores the science of why healing begins in the body. She unpacks how the nervous system learns to disconnect from emotions that once felt unsafe, why this protective response made sense in the past, and how gently reconnecting with sensation is an important step in resolving trauma. Through practical examples and compassionate guidance, Sarah shows it is possible to move beyond survival and return to a more fully expressed way of living.

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• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:47] Signs you may be suppressing your emotions
• [03:39] Why we dis...

In this episode, Sarah explores how our nervous system works in tandem with our younger parts to protect us. We must first learn how to recognize who is in our experience at any given moment before we can begin changing unhealthy patterns and breaking free from old survival responses. Listen in to explore how understanding the nervous system can profoundly change the way we experience ourselves and respond to the world around us.

Episode Highlights:
• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:32] How your nervous system shapes your reality
• [03:33] How past experiences can distort present-day perception
• [07:47] Understanding why your nervous...

In this episode, Sarah explores what it means to anchor into the truth of your adult self and explains why protective parts can make it difficult to see your relationship clearly. You’ll learn why romantic relationships naturally activate unresolved childhood wounds, how partners can reveal the parts of you that still need healing, and how conflict can become an opportunity for repair rather than a sign that a relationship is failing. This episode offers a compassionate perspective on finding clarity and making decisions from your truest self.

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• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:19] Why only your adult self k...

Sarah unpacks how the autonomic nervous system drives repetitive cycles in the way we think, behave, and relate to others, and why simply trying harder is not enough to create lasting change. She explains how early experiences can shape the patterns we unconsciously repeat throughout life and how identifying and reparenting our younger parts can help us shift those responses. By learning to understand and work with these deeper survival responses, it becomes possible to break old cycles and begin creating lasting change from the inside out.

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• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:03] Understanding the trauma feedback loop
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For many of us, navigating friendship in adulthood can feel surprisingly complicated, especially when healing starts to change how we connect with people. Sarah unpacks how our nervous system shapes the way we relate to others, why we might experience loneliness during periods of growth, and what it takes to build the kind of community that helps us feel supported and deeply connected. This episode is a timely reminder that finding your people and building meaningful relationships are essential to our sense of connection and belonging.

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• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:42] Why no one person can meet all...

So many of us get trapped in these unhealthy cycles because we learned at a young age that achieving was how we earned and received love.  But it’s absolutely possible to shift this. By falling in love with all parts of you, especially those that only feel significant when striving, you will be able to find fulfillment and heal your attachment to ambition. Sarah offers a compassionate guide to letting go of the external quest for ‘enoughness’ and reconnecting to your inherent worthiness.

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• [00:00] Introduction
• [02:00] Ambition as a positive thing vs. ambition as a prison
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Drawing on somatic healing and parts work, Sarah shares how early experiences and family dynamics become our blueprint for connection and why lasting change requires more than simply trying to choose differently. She explains how reparenting younger parts can shift our baseline for love, helping us build healthier relationships from the inside out, and why healthy partnership is not about being rescued, but about learning to meet yourself first with the love and care you’ve always deserved.

Episode Highlights:
• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:42] Why finding the right partner is not a matter of luck
• [06:30] The nervous system a...

Sarah explores how symptoms like weight retention, insomnia, chronic illness, chronic pain, and infertility are often a result of traumatic energy from the past still living in your body. You’ll learn what it takes to heal unresolved trauma and work with your nervous system and parts to create internal safety. Listen in for a practical guide to befriending your body and finding relief from your physical symptoms.

Episode Highlights: 
• [00:00] Introduction
• [02:03] How trauma impacts your physical body
• [07:07] Why these symptoms are a form of self-protection
• [10:37] What’s happening when your see your body as the enemy<...

You’ll learn what is really needed to reparent these young parts and why anchoring into your adult self is key to stepping into the full, authentic life you’re desiring. This episode acts as a roadmap to help you make sense of the human experience and, ultimately, reclaim your sense of self, so be sure to tune in now! 

Episode Highlights: 
• [00:00] Introduction
• [02:11] You’re not alone in your experience
• [05:10] Ways we try to cope with our suffering
• [11:19] A roadmap to understanding parts work
• [17:04] Why young parts show up in our present experience 
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Endings are inevitable, and during this conversation, Sarah talks about the extraordinary dimension of life we can unlock when we do the work of shifting our orientation towards change and finding the opportunity within every transition. We explore processing grief, building internal trust, and unpacking what it means to recognize new beginnings, stay connected, and embrace the changing nature of life.

Episode Highlights:
• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:48] What happens when we resist change
• [02:37] Reasons why so many of us resist change
• [06:39] How our past experiences influence our orientation towards change
• [11:09] Being fully present to what is ending...

Sarah breaks down how these fantasizing parts inform our actions and why life is not only meant to be easy and happy. You’ll hear all about how these protective parts can keep you from experiencing the good things in your life and why the world we live in fuels our obsession with fantasy. This episode is filled with tangible tools to help you process what was and anchor into the abundance already available to you in the present.

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Sarah offers insight into both the short-term benefits and long-term consequences of fawning. You’ll learn how this behavior relates to the nervous system and the importance of anchoring into regulation and your adult self. She also discusses how social pressures can influence our tendency to fawn in romantic relationships, friendships, and beyond. Listen in for a compassionate guide for how to come back home to your most authentic self.

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Sarah highlights how our relationship to money is shaped by past experiences that have linked wealth with danger, shame, or pressure. These patterns can quietly limit our ability to receive and sustain financial well-being, which is why it’s essential to build our capacity to receive pleasure. Through tangible practices like reparenting and nervous system regulation, Sarah offers a compassionate path toward decoupling wealth from past experiences, allowing for a more fully expressed and abundant life.

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Sarah breaks down what happens when the nervous system mistakes present-day conflict for past pain, and why we may protect ourselves by shutting down or getting defensive. She also shares how curiosity can help us pause, look inward, and understand why we’re getting triggered. Instead of seeing conflict as a sign that something is wrong, Sarah shows how it can become a place for healing, honesty, and deeper connection. Tune in to learn how to return to your adult self, ask for what you need, and navigate conflict with greater safety, care, and trust.

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Sarah highlights simple, effective steps to help you connect with your protective parts by anchoring into your adult self and getting to know that version of you. From seeing your younger parts as separate to letting go of any agenda toward them, this episode offers guidance you can apply on your healing journey. Tune in for an eye-opening and thought-provoking conversation about learning to fall in love with all parts of yourself.

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Sarah offers a grounded, science-backed perspective on how to engage with technology in a way that supports your well-being. From understanding secondary trauma to recognizing how dopamine-driven platforms impact your daily life, she shares practical ways to protect your energy, tend to your inner parts, and stay anchored in regulation. Listen in for a clear, compassionate guide to navigating the digital world without losing yourself in it.

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In this episode, Sarah unpacks the formula for growth and why tolerating discomfort is a key component of stepping into your purpose. You’ll get a somatic roadmap for how to work with your nervous system, tend to your younger parts, and unpack jealousy for deeper clarity on your desires. One gentle step at a time, it’s possible to expand into the bigger life meant for you.

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In this episode, Sarah breaks down the origins of idealization and infatuation, showing how these patterns are rooted in unresolved experiences and protective strategies. She explains why infatuation is not love, but a survival response that pulls you out of your adult self and into fantasy. Sarah shares what it takes to shift these dynamics through reparenting and parts work, so you can move from survival-based patterns into grounded, mutual connection.

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Perceiving danger when we’re actually safe is one of the most prominent drivers of human suffering and the reason many of us are chronically dysregulated. Sarah will walk you through how to create internal safety by harnessing the power of your nervous system and discharging stored trauma, so the past can finally be resolved. Listen in to discover how to work with your nervous system to begin building the life you want.

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Sarah walks through the foundations of somatic parts work, including the importance of nervous system regulation, differentiating from our parts, and anchoring into adult self. When we’re able to meet these young parts with empathy, safety, and genuine love, the protective roles you’ve likely carried for years can finally begin to soften. Listen in to discover why falling in love with your parts is a powerful path toward lasting healing.

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In this episode, Sarah explains why we choose partners who poke at what still needs to be resolved. She breaks down how we unknowingly hold each other accountable for pain from the past, why conflict intensifies as love grows, and how to shift from opposing sides to the same team. When you understand what is actually happening in your nervous system, relationship struggles become an invitation to deeper repair and lasting connection.

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This conversation unpacks why relationships feel so exposing, why discomfort isn’t a sign that something is wrong, and how true healing happens first within you. You’ll learn why feeling ‘unknown’ is often a protective strategy, how parts of you get siloed to survive connection, and how the gentle integration of your protective parts creates secure, intimate relationships. Sarah touches on powerful therapeutic tools that will help you to show up as your most authentic self.

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Through a grounded, somatic lens, Sarah explores how regulation expands our capacity, why safety must be communicated in a language your nervous system understands, and how slow, tolerable steps retrain your system to tangibly move toward your desires. If you’re ready to stop forcing change and start living the life meant for you, this conversation offers a practical path forward that is backed by science.

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In this episode, Sarah explains how unhealthy shame forms, why unresolved anger resurfaces in safe relationships, and how we unknowingly build our lives around avoiding what once felt intolerable. She breaks down what it truly means to complete the stress response by building regulation, reconnecting with younger parts, and allowing the body to express the appropriate response it once inhibited. When the stress cycle is resolved, the lie of unworthiness dissolves. What remains is your innate capacity for strength and self-trust.

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She explains how childhood roles such as becoming invisible, emotionally self-reliant, or overly responsible don’t just affect behavior; they shape attraction itself, quietly guiding who we choose and the dynamics we recreate. When these internal blueprints remain unchanged, relationships tend to repeat familiar dynamics rather than support true closeness. This conversation offers a grounded look at why feeling unseen persists in love and what it takes to change the pattern at its root.

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She introduces the concept of disconfirming experiences: small, embodied moments that gently teach the nervous system that the past is over and we’re free to embody a more full, expansive life. Through key nervous system tools and somatic principles, Sarah explores how safety is rebuilt and how freedom becomes possible as the body is shown, again and again, that it no longer has to protect in the same ways.
 

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She goes on to explain the differences between codependency, enmeshment, attunement, and interdependence. Sarah also discusses how fear of conflict can lead to self-abandonment, what it takes to feel safe during moments of disconnection or disagreement, and how to support children through distress in ways that build resilience. Tune in to better understand your relational patterns and learn how reclaiming a sense of self supports healthier, more sustainable relationships.

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Limiting beliefs are often not representative of who you are today but are self-protective mechanisms that formed as a result of past traumas or experiences. The good news is that it’s absolutely possible to shift this! Sarah will guide you through how to anchor into regulation and your adult self so that you can find more ease, peace, and confidence. Tune in for a somatic approach on how to change unwanted thought patterns.

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Learning how to heal through your living can feel challenging or unfamiliar, especially if we’ve primarily found safety inside therapeutic containers, but it is also a necessary part of fully embodying the life you are here to live. You’ll get tangible tools to step toward your desires, receive abundance without suffering, and find support as you continue to grow. Wherever you are on your healing journey, this episode will show you just how much is possible for you.

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Sarah explains how romantic relationships poke at early our attachment wounding the most, often leaving us reacting from old survival patterns rather than responding to what is happening in the present. She introduces the metaphor of the relationship as a battlefield versus a garden, showing how conflict, blame, and shutdown arise when unresolved wounds take the lead, and what becomes possible when both people reorient toward growth, responsibility, and care.

This episode invites listeners to see relationships as a shared, living process that can heal the past and support deeper connection when tended with awareness and willingness.<...

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how dysregulation can lead us to feeling behind in life or that we’ve missed our chance to have the relationships, purpose, and community we desire. You’ll learn about your three states of self-protection and why anchoring into regulation is the key to shifting how you experience time. By harnessing the power of your nervous system, it’s possible to move forward with more ease, patience, and empowerment.

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Sarah breaks down how the autonomic nervous system shapes your entire lived experience, using clear metaphors to explain why you may feel blocked from the relationships, purpose, and opportunities you long for. She shares why the nervous system responds to what you show it (somatically), not what you tell it, and how regulation helps create the internal conditions for growth and fulfillment.

The episode closes with questions about finding purpose, knowing when to push versus pause, and navigating fear during big transitions. Join Sarah to learn how small, steady capacity-building steps can help you move toward the...