The Moms Are Alright
Whether you're trying to conceive or are a few years into toddlerhood, we know that the transition to motherhood can leave you feeling a little (or a lot!) stuck, overwhelmed, and alone. Join perinatal psychologists Dr. Caroline Dickens (toddler mom) and Dr. Hila Sachs (first-time mom-to-be) as they share their professional expertise and personal experiences alongside guest experts to cover all the motherhood challenges you're struggling with the most. You'll leave each 45-minute episode with new perspectives and tools that will help you find more peace, joy, fulfillment, and hopefully a little humor, through even the hardest parts of the tr...
The Power of Play with Lovevery's Jessica Rolph
Lovevery co-founder and CEO Jessica Rolph joins us to discuss how purposeful, development-informed play can support children without turning parenting into a performance. We also talk candidly about ambition, work-family trade-offs, self-compassion, and letting children follow their own interests. We also explore self-compassion, workplace flexibility, child-led play, and why connection matters more than racing toward milestones.Â
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Jessica traces Lovevery’s origins to her experience as a mother and an early-childhood entrepreneur, after co-founding an organic baby-food company.Motherhood forced trade-offs: Jessica describes letting go of a perfectly managed inbox, matching socks, and...When Moms Start Asking for More with Rebecca Schwartz Smith
We spend so much time thinking about how to nourish our babies. But who's making sure moms are getting what they need?
This week, we're joined by Rebecca Schwartz Smith, founder of Mamala Organics, to talk about motherhood, nutrition, entrepreneurship, and what happens when women start taking their own needs seriously.
Rebecca shares the story behind Mamala's support snacks, how motherhood sparked her entrepreneurial journey, and what it actually takes to turn an idea into a business while raising a family. We get into the creative energy that motherhood can unlock, the grit required to...
The Debrief: Navigating Body Image During Pregnancy and Postpartum.
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In this conversation, Caroline and Hila discuss their last episode with Dr. Rachel around the complexities of body image, particularly in the context of pregnancy and postpartum experiences. They explore the application of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) as a coping mechanism, emphasizing its effectiveness in managing body image issues. The discussion highlights the importance of self-acceptance, body neutrality, and practical strategies for navigating the emotional challenges associated with body changes. The conversation also touches on the significance of surrounding oneself with positive influences and the need for actionable steps to improve mental well-being.
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In this episode, Dr. Hila Sachs and Dr. Caroline Dickens chat with Dr. Rachel Goldman, a clinical psychologist, to discuss the complexities of body image during pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood. They explore the definition of body image, its impact on mental health, and the role of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) in addressing body image challenges. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, managing external expectations, and building a mental health toolbox to navigate the emotional landscape of motherhood.
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Body image encompasses thoughts, feelings, and behaviors about our physical...The Debrief: Breastfeeding and Mental Health
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In this conversation, Caroline and Hila reflect on their experiences and insights regarding breastfeeding, mental health, and the emotional complexities of motherhood. They discuss the pressures surrounding feeding choices, the importance of having advocates in maternal health, and the challenges of perfectionism in parenting. The episode also delves into the emotional toll it can take on breastfeeding mothers. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize the need for compassion, understanding, and the recognition that every mother's journey is unique.
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00:00- Reconnecting After the Holidays
05:45- Perfectionism in...
Breastfeeding and Mental Health with Amy Famini
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In this episode, Dr. Caroline Dickens and Dr. Hila Sachs welcome Amy Famini, a pediatric nurse practitioner, to discuss the complexities of breastfeeding and its impact on mental health. They explore the challenges new mothers face, debunk common myths surrounding breastfeeding, and emphasize the importance of self-care and mental well-being during the breastfeeding journey. Amy shares her insights on how to support mothers in making feeding decisions that work for them and offers practical tips for expecting and new moms.
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It's important to normalize the struggles of breastfeeding...Why You Need a Doula with HeHe Stewart
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In this episode, Hila and Caroline interview doula HeHe Stewart, who shares her views on the importance of doulas in the childbirth process. HeHe discusses the various roles doulas play, including emotional and physical support, and the significance of informed decision-making for expectant parents. The conversation also touches on the impact of people-pleasing on birth experiences and the gaps in standard childbirth education. HeHe emphasizes the need for flexibility in birth plans and the importance of understanding all options available to parents during labor and delivery.
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Doulas provide e...The Debrief: The Postpartum Brain
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline debrief last episode's discussion with Dr. Nikki's all about the postpartum brain and the biological and psychological changes new mothers face during postpartum. They explore the emotional and mental challenges new mothers face, the importance of self-care, and the need for support systems. The discussion emphasizes the significance of planning for mental health and building connections with other mothers to navigate this transformative period in life.
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New moms experience significant vulnerability during postpartum.Societal myths can complicate the postpartum experience.The postpartum...The Postpartum Brain with Dr. Nikki Pensak
In this conversation, Dr. Nikki Pensak discusses the power of the postpartum brain and explores the biological and psychological changes that accompany new motherhood. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the neuroplastic changes that occur in the brain, the need for better resources for mothers, and the significance of self-care and mental health in ensuring a positive new motherhood experience. The discussion also touches on the societal pressures and expectations placed on mothers, the impact of returning to work, the importance of understanding brain changes, the prevalence of mom guilt and shame, and the critical role of therapy in...
IVF, Intimacy, and Sex: Everything You Need to Know with Batya Novick and Jewel Spencer
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In this episode, Dr. Caroline Dickens and Dr. Hila Sachs discuss with Batya Novick and Jewel Spencer the intricate relationship between IVF, intimacy, and sex. They discuss how the IVF process can impact couples' emotional and physical connections, the importance of distinguishing between intimacy and sex, and practical strategies to enhance intimacy during this challenging time. The conversation highlights the significance of communication, emotional validation, and the narratives couples create around their experiences. This conversation explores the complexities of intimacy and sexuality during the IVF process, pregnancy, and beyond. They discuss the importance of...
The Debrief: Navigating the Emotional Landscape of IVF
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline explore the multifaceted emotional landscape surrounding fertility challenges, particularly focusing on IVF. They discuss the trauma and grief often associated with infertility, the impact of shame and comparison, and the loss of trust in one's body. The conversation also touches on male factor fertility issues, the importance of community support, and the empowerment that comes from making informed decisions. They emphasize the need to maintain one's identity beyond fertility struggles and acknowledge the financial burdens that can accompany IVF treatments. Overall, the discussion highlights the complexity of navigating...
Navigating the Emotional Landscape of IVF with Batya Novick
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In this episode, Dr. Hila and Dr. Caroline welcome Batya Novick, a licensed clinical social worker specializing in reproductive mental health. They discuss the emotional challenges associated with IVF, the importance of mental health support, and the nuances of secondary infertility. Batya shares her personal journey into this field and emphasizes the need for specialized care in reproductive mental health. The conversation also covers coping strategies for managing anxiety and grief during the IVF process, and the significance of community support.
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Understanding the IVF process is crucial for...Mothers Day Special
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In this heartfelt episode of 'The Moms Are All Right,' hosts Dr. Caroline Dickens ("Liney" to her mom) and Dr. Hila Sachs ("Lali" to her mom) celebrate Mother's Day with their own mothers, Laura and Sarit. The conversation explores the journey of motherhood across generations, reflecting on personal experiences, the evolution of support systems, and the differences in societal expectations. Laura and Sarit share their insights on becoming grandmothers, the challenges of modern parenting, and the importance of self-care. The episode concludes with valuable advice for new mothers, emphasizing the significance of enjoying...
The Debrief: Breaking the Silence
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline explore the multifaceted journey of motherhood, touching on the importance of community and the impact of societal norms like the 12-week rule. They discuss the significance of sharing experiences and the need for open dialogue about emotional well-being. The conversation emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and support in navigating the ups and downs of motherhood.
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Well-meaning platitudes can often invalidate feelings.The 12-week rule is a cultural norm that can create isolation.Finding your comfort zone in sharing pregnancy news is essential.Creating...Breaking the Silence with Dr. Jessica Zucker
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In this conversation, Dr. Jessica Zucker shares her personal experiences and how they have shaped her professional work, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and normalizing difficult conversations about women's health issues. The episode focuses on miscarriage and the cultural stigma surrounding it. The discussion highlights the need for open dialogue to combat feelings of shame and isolation, and the role of storytelling in fostering connection and understanding among women. Dr. Zucker's upcoming book, 'Normalize It,' aims to further explore these themes and empower women to share their stories.
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Reproductive Loss with Dr. Shara Brofman
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In this episode, Dr. Shara Brofman discusses the complexities of pregnancy and reproductive loss, exploring its impact on identity, mental health, and relationships. The conversation delves into the unique challenges faced by individuals navigating grief and loss, anxiety, and expectations surrounding family planning. The conversation emphasizes the importance of acknowledging loss, coping strategies, and the need for support in the healing process. The episode highlights the coexistence of hope and fear, the nuances of mother-child bonding after loss, and the significance of finding ways to honor and remember those lost.
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The Debrief: What's Missing in Postpartum Medicine
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline reflect on last week’s episode with Dr. Phindile Chowa. They discuss the challenges of motherhood, particularly focusing on the medical system's tendency to invalidate mothers' concerns. They emphasize the importance of holistic care in postpartum health, the interconnectedness of mental and physical health, and the need for accessible support services for postpartum moms. The conversation highlights the role of providers in creating a supportive environment for mothers and the various options available for mental health and wellness beyond traditional therapy.
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Moms of...What's Missing in Postpartum Medicine with Dr. Phindile Chowa
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline discuss the importance of postpartum medicine with Dr. Phindile Chowa. They explore Dr. Chowa's journey into medicine, the gaps in traditional postpartum care, and the systemic issues that contribute to inadequate support for new mothers. The discussion emphasizes the need for better information, emotional support, and community-based solutions to improve maternal health outcomes. Dr. Chowa discusses the need for comprehensive postpartum care, highlighting common challenges faced by new moms, including mental health issues, breastfeeding difficulties, and the need for a supportive community. Dr. Chowa advocates for a shift from...
The Debrief: Matrescence
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline explore the concept of matrescence, specifically the psychological and emotional changes that occur during motherhood. They discuss the importance of awareness and acceptance in navigating these changes, the ambivalence that often accompanies motherhood, and the relentless nature of parenting. The conversation emphasizes the need for understanding and support during this transformative period, highlighting the beauty and challenges of motherhood.
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Matrescence is a significant developmental period for mothers.Awareness of matrescence can provide validation and normalization of experiences.Acceptance does not mean liking...Matrescence with Sam Hall
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In this episode, Hila and Caroline explore with Sam Hall the concept of Matrescence, the transition to motherhood. Sam shares her personal journey and insights into the challenges and transformations that come with becoming a mother. The conversation delves into the cyclical nature of matrescence, the various factors influencing each woman's experience, and the importance of acceptance in navigating this journey. Sam emphasizes the importance of understanding the unique aspects of each season of matrescence, providing valuable tips for those on this path.
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Matrescence is the ongoing<...The Debrief: From Partners to Parents
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In this conversation, Caroline and Hila discuss the complexities of transitioning to parenthood and its impact on relationships. They explore themes such as accountability, the mental load, the importance of reinforcement in relationships, and the acceptance of imperfection in parenting. The discussion also touches on the effects of surprise pregnancies and the influence of social media.Â
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The transition to parenthood impacts ALL relationships.Reinforcing positive behaviors can change relationship dynamics.Small changes can lead to significant improvements in relationships.Chapters
00:00- Navigating the Transition t...
From Partners to Parents with Melissa Fairhurst
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In this conversation, Caroline and Hila welcome Melissa Fairhurst to discuss the complexities of marriage after having a baby. They explore the challenges couples face during the transition to parenthood, including communication issues, the mental load on mothers, and the impact of societal expectations. Melissa shares her insights from both personal and professional experiences, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, understanding, and connection in maintaining a healthy relationship.Â
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Marriage dynamics change significantly after having a baby, and no one is immune.Communication is crucial for navigating relationship challenges.It's common fo...The Debrief: Emotional Ambivalence & Motherhood
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline reflect on their discussion with Molly Millwood, exploring the emotional complexities of motherhood. They delve into themes of ambivalence, the need for connection versus autonomy, and the importance of acknowledging feelings. The conversation highlights the challenges of navigating identity loss and postpartum grief while emphasizing the significance of psychological flexibility and acceptance in the journey of motherhood. Practical steps for managing ambivalence are also discussed, along with the idea that motherhood is a profound experience of the human condition.
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Motherhood brings a...Emotional Ambivalence & Motherhood with Dr. Molly Millwood
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In this conversation, Dr. Molly Millwood, a clinical psychologist and author, discusses with Hila and Caroline the complexities of motherhood, particularly focusing on the emotional ambivalence women face during this transformative phase. The show highlights how new mothers often experience conflicting emotions, which can lead to feelings of shame and isolation. Millwood advocates for a shift in societal perceptions of motherhood, encouraging open discussions about the challenges women face, and the importance of support and connection in navigating these experiences.
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Maternal ambivalence is a common experience for new mothers...The Debrief: Welcome Anxiety, My Old Friend
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Caroline and Hila explore the multifaceted nature of anxiety, in the context of pregnancy and motherhood. They discuss how anxiety manifests differently in individuals, the importance of acceptance, and the role of compulsions and avoidance in managing anxiety. The conversation emphasizes the shared experiences of mothers and the significance of emotional communication in understanding and coping with anxiety.
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Anxiety presents differently for each individual.The anticipation of anxiety often exceeds the actual event.Acceptance of anxiety is crucial for coping and avoidance can exacerbate feelings of it.Understanding...Welcome Anxiety, My Old Friend with Dr. Julia Birt
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In this episode, Hila and Caroline welcome Dr. Julia Birt, licensed clinical psychologist and anxiety expert, to talk all things anxiety during pregnancy and postpartum. They explore the complexities of anxiety, its components, and how it manifests in new parents. The conversation includes practical tips for managing anxiety, understanding it as a normal feature of significant life transitions, and the importance of recalibrating one's relationship with anxiety. The episode emphasizes the need for self-compassion and the value of leaning into uncertainty while navigating the challenges of parenthood.
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Anxiety has...The Debrief: Rage, Rinse, Repeat
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In this conversation, Caroline and Hila delve into the complexities of 'mom rage.' The discussion highlights the importance of understanding the biopsychosocial model of anger, the impact of social dynamics on emotional health, and the significance of recognizing triggers that contribute to anger responses. They also provide insights on navigating the anger cycle and making effective choices in emotional situations. Caroline and Hila also discuss how to navigate anger and other strong emotions within relationships and provide practical strategies for emotional regulation. The conversation also touches on personal experiences with anger, particularly in the...
Rage, Rinse, Repeat with Dr. Alice Pickering
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In this episode of 'The Moms Are Alright,' Caroline and Hila welcome Dr. Alice Pickering, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health, to discuss the often stigmatized topic of mom rage. They explore the complexities of this emotional experience, the anger cycle, and the societal pressures that contribute to feelings of inadequacy among mothers. Dr. Alice shares insights on how to recognize triggers, intervene in the anger cycle, and the importance of self-compassion. The conversation also introduces Dr. Pickering's Angry Moms Bootcamp as a resource for mothers seeking support and coping strategies.
The Debrief: Finding Balance in Motherhood
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline discuss insights from Dr. Whitney's episode on achieving balance in motherhood and life. They explore the importance of identifying personal values over goals and practical strategies for managing daily life. The discussion emphasizes the significance of intentional decision-making and cognitive diffusion techniques to navigate challenges and maintain a centered life.
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Writing things down creates mental space.Finding balance means focusing on what matters to you.Values provide a stable framework for decision-making.Pain is part of life; suffering is a choice.Intentional...Finding Balance in Motherhood with Dr. Whitney Casares
In this episode of TMAA, Hila, Caroline & Dr. Whitney Casares (@modernmommydoc) discuss the challenges new moms face in balancing career and motherhood. They explore the impact of societal expectations and mental health on new moms. Dr. Whitney introduces her 'Centered Life Blueprint' as a framework for prioritizing what truly matters in life, while also addressing the importance of equitable partnerships in parenting. Their discussion highlights the need for self-compassion, support systems, and practical strategies to navigate the complexities of motherhood.
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The Debrief: Sleep Like a Baby
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In this conversation, Caroline and Hila discuss the critical role of sleep in mental health during pregnancy and postpartum. They explore practical strategies for improving sleep and the challenges of insomnia. The conversation emphasizes the importance of creating healthy sleep associations and finding ways to rest even when sleep is elusive. They also address the societal pressures surrounding sleep expectations and the need for self-compassion in navigating these challenges.
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Sleep is interconnected with every aspect of life.Sleep challenges are often dismissed, especially in pregnancy.Practical strategies can...Sleep Like a Baby with Dr. Natalie Solomon
In this episode, Caroline and Hila discuss the intricate relationship between sleep, anxiety, and mood during pregnancy and the postpartum period with Dr. Natalie Solomon, a licensed clinical sleep psychologist and expert in behavioral sleep medicine. The conversation explores how sleep changes throughout pregnancy and postpartum, and highlights practical strategies for new parents to improve their sleep quality. The episode also addresses common myths about sleep needs and emphasizes the importance of community support for new mothers.
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Sleep disruption in pregnancy is often dismissed.The first trimester is marked by increased fatigue and s...The Debrief: Push It Real Good
Caroline and Hila discuss the often overlooked topic of pelvic floor health in relation to mental health and postpartum experiences. They emphasize the importance of understanding pelvic floor issues, the stigma surrounding them, and the need for community support. Personal anecdotes (disclosure alert!) highlight the challenges women face, and the conversation encourages open dialogue and seeking help for pelvic health concerns.
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There is a bidirectional relationship between mental health and pelvic floor function.Sharing personal stories can alleviate feelings of shame.Women deserve to receive care that addresses their needs.Open conversations about...Push It Real Good with The Down There Doc
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In this ep, Dr. Marcy Crouch, a pelvic floor physical therapist, chats with us about the importance of pelvic floor health in maternal care. The discussion covers common pelvic floor issues, their impact on mental health, and the significance of preventative measures through her 3P system. Dr. Crouch advocates for empowering women with knowledge and encourages integrated care for expecting and new mothers.
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Pelvic floor health is crucial for postpartum recovery.Pelvic floor issues can lead to mental health challenges.Knowledge empowers women to advocate for their health...The Debrief: Setting Boundaries
In this conversation, Hila and Caroline explore the complexities of setting boundaries, particularly in the context of motherhood and cultural expectations. They discuss the emotional challenges that come with asserting one's needs, the importance of intentional decision-making, and practical frameworks for effective boundary setting. The conversation also touches on navigating family dynamics, especially during the holiday season, and emphasizes the need for clear communication between partners.
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Setting boundaries is one of the hardest skills to build.It's important to clarify your needs and values.Being intentional about decisions is crucial.Cultural expectations can...Setting Boundaries with Lauren Auwood, LMFT
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In this conversation, Dr. Caroline Dickens and Dr. Hila Sachs speak with therapist Lauren Auwood about the importance of setting healthy boundaries in pregnancy and new motherhood. They explore the emotional and relational changes that come with becoming a mother, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the significance of prioritizing one's own needs. Lauren shares practical steps for establishing boundaries, the common pitfalls mothers face, and how to manage feelings of guilt and discomfort. The discussion emphasizes the need for clear communication and the shift of loyalty from family of origin to family of...
The Debrief: Building Unshakeable Self-Trust
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In this conversation, Hila and Caroline explore the topic of perfectionism and the way that external pressure can contribute to it for modern mothers. They discuss the importance of identifying one’s own values, grounding in the present moment, and the need for self-compassion. The conversation emphasizes the significance of trusting one's intuition and finding balance amidst societal expectations.
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Perfectionism can manifest in various ways, especially in motherhood.Social media amplifies the pressure to be perfect.It's essential to connect with one's values and priorities.Grounding techniques can hel...Building Unshakeable Self-Trust with Dr. Tuesday Watts-Overall
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Dr. Tuesday Watts-Overall joins Hila and Caroline for a conversation exploring the complexities of perfectionism in motherhood, focusing on themes such as navigating uncertainty and the importance of self-trust in pregnancy and early motherhood. The speakers discuss how these elements intertwine to affect personal growth and parenting experiences in this phase of life.
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Perfectionism can intensify after becoming a mother.Self-trust is crucial for navigating parenting challenges.Understanding one's own needs is essential for emotional well-being during the perinatal periodWhat’s covered in this episode:...
The Debrief: Let's Talk About Sex, Baby!
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In this conversation, Caroline and Hila reflect on their discussion with Dr. Kayla Jimenez about relationships and intimacy during the postpartum period. They explore the importance of emotional intimacy, navigating transitions in relationships, and the challenges couples often face in maintaining connection in early parenthood. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding desire discrepancies, and setting boundaries with empathy. They also discuss the role of values and authenticity in relationships, and how emotional connection can enhance physical intimacy.
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Emotional intimacy is crucial for maintaining relationships.Setting aside...Lets Talk About Sex, Baby! with Dr. Kayla Jimenez
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In this episode, Caroline and Hila welcome Dr. Kayla Jimenez and dive into the complexities of physical intimacy after having a baby. They explore the emotional challenges postpartum mothers face, the importance of effective communication between partners, and the need to redefine intimacy in the context of new parenthood. The discussion emphasizes the significance of emotional connection, collaborative approaches to intimacy, and practical tips for couples to navigate this transitional period.
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It is normal for postpartum couples to experience a decline in intimacy.Effective communication is key to navigating...