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Living life with values means making choices and taking actions that align with your core beliefs and principles. It involves having a clear understanding of what is important to you and using those values as a guide for your thoughts, words, and behavior.1. Authenticity: Living with values means being true to yourself and staying aligned with your genuine beliefs and principles. It involves being honest with yourself and others, and not compromising your values for the sake of external pressures or expectations.2. Integrity: Living with values means acting in accordance with your moral and ethical principles. It involves consistently making...
Wanting Talks. Dedication Acts.
Everybody wants the outcome, but few remain committed to the process. Wanting is emotional; dedication is behavioral. Stop waiting to feel motivated and decide what you’re willing to do today. If you need accountability, direction, and consistency while rebuilding your life, visit NorthmanCoaching.com.
#Dedication #TakeAction #MensGrowth #Accountability #NorthmanCoaching
Rebuilding Gets Real When Motivation Dies
Anyone can change when motivation is high. Dedication is revealed when progress slows, loneliness returns, and old habits start calling. Sometimes rebuilding isn’t taking a massive step forward—it’s simply refusing to become the man you fought so hard to leave behind.
#Dedication #MensGrowth #RebuildYourLife #FaithOverFeelings #NorthmanCoaching
The Blue Sky, the Black Cloud, and the Day America Changed Forever
While serving in the United States Navy, I was returning to base on the morning of September 11, 2001. What first appeared to be a dark storm cloud became the horrifying realization that America was under attack. This is my memory of the day none of us should ever forget.
#NeverForget911 #September11 #NavyVeteran #My911Story #NorthmanCoaching
When Courage Is Required: A September 11 Tribute | Mark 15:9
When the crowd is demanding what is wrong, will you have the courage to stand for what is right?
In Mark 15:9, Pilate stood at a moment of decision. He knew Jesus did not deserve what the crowd demanded, yet he allowed public pressure to influence his actions. Courage is easy to claim when nothing is at stake. Its true test comes when doing what is right may cost us approval, comfort, safety, or even our lives.
As we remember September 11, we honor the innocent lives taken and the families whose lives were changed forever. We...
We Came Together After 9/11—What the Hell Happened to Us?
September 11 showed us what America could be when labels, politics, and differences stopped mattering. As we remember 9/11 and honor Charlie Kirk, we must confront today’s division and choose courage over fear, service over selfishness, and conversation over violence.
#NeverForget911 #CharlieKirk #UnitedWeStand #StopTheDivision #NorthmanCoaching
You Can Kill the Man, but Not the Message | Remembering Charlie Kirk
When did disagreeing with someone become permission to hate them—and when did hatred become an excuse to silence them permanently?
In this episode of Northman Coaching’s Seven Deadly Sins, Gary confronts the sin of wrath while remembering Charlie Kirk one year after his assassination at Utah Valley University on September 10, 2025.
Drawing from John 10:14–15, this message examines sacrificial leadership, the destructive progression of hatred, and what happens when we stop recognizing those who disagree with us as human beings created in the image of God.
Charlie’s life was taken, but the attempt...
We Promised We Would Never Forget, Are We Still Living Like It? Week Honoring Charlie Kirk and 9/11
On September 11, we witnessed unimaginable evil—but we also witnessed extraordinary courage, sacrifice, compassion, and unity. We honor those we lost by serving one another, standing for what is right, and refusing to let fear or division determine who we become.
#NeverForget911 #September11 #UnitedWeStand #CourageOverFear #NorthmanCoaching
You Were Chosen to Make Your Life Count | John 15:16
Are you waiting to feel qualified before doing what God has already called you to do?
In John 15:16, Jesus says, “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last.”
Being chosen is not a reason to feel superior. It is a responsibility to live differently. God did not call you to remain comfortable, collect information, and keep your faith to yourself. He appointed you to produce visible, lasting fruit through your character, service, integrity, leadership, and obedience.
You may fe...
Wrath Doesn’t Begin With a Rifle A Week Honoring Charlie Kirk and Remembering 9/11
Violence begins long before a weapon is raised. It begins when hatred convinces us that another human life has no value. This week, as we honor Charlie Kirk and remember September 11, we must reject wrath and remember that every person is created in the image of God.
#CharlieKirk #NeverForget911 #RejectHatred #FaithOverWrath #NorthmanCoaching
When Ambition Becomes Greed Colossians 3:5
How much is enough—or have you become willing to sacrifice your peace, family, health, and integrity just to get more?
In this episode of Northman Coaching’s Seven Deadly Sins, Gary confronts greed through Colossians 3:5, where Scripture calls greed what it truly is: idolatry.
Greed isn’t limited to money. A man can become greedy for attention, recognition, control, possessions, sex, status, or success. Ambition becomes bondage when what you’re pursuing begins controlling you—and the people you love are forced to pay the price.
If getting more never satisfies...
Hatred Attacked America It Could Not Break Us: A Week of Honoring Charlie Kirk and Remembering 9/11
On September 11, 2001, hatred tried to bring America to its knees. Instead, courage rose, strangers became neighbors, and a divided nation stood together. As we remember those we lost—and honor Charlie Kirk this week—may we reject hatred, defend truth, and never surrender our faith or humanity.
#NeverForget911 #September11 #UnitedWeStand #CharlieKirk #NorthmanCoaching
Don’t Waste the Fire, God Is Refining You | Mark 9:49
What if the fire you keep asking God to remove is the very thing He is using to refine you?
Mark 9:49 says, “Everyone will be salted with fire.” Following Christ does not mean avoiding every hardship. Sometimes faith leads us directly through the fire—not to destroy us, but to reveal what needs to change within us.
Pressure exposes hidden pride, fear, resentment, and destructive habits. The rejection, loss, correction, or uncertainty you are facing may be developing the strength, humility, and faith you have been asking God to give you.
Don’t waste th...
When Hatred Strikes, Faith Must Stand: The Week We Honor Charlie Kirk and 9/11
When Hatred Strikes, Faith Must Stand | Honoring Charlie Kirk and 9/11
This week, we remember Charlie Kirk and those whose lives were taken on September 11. We honor them not by surrendering to anger or revenge, but by standing firmly in faith, choosing unity over hatred, and refusing to let violence silence truth.
#CharlieKirk #NeverForget911 #FaithOverFear #RejectPoliticalViolence #NorthmanCoaching
When Disagreement Becomes Deadly: A Week of Honoring Charlie Kirk and Remembering 9/11
When Disagreement Becomes Deadly | Honoring Charlie Kirk and Remembering 9/11
Disagreement is never permission to hate—and hatred is never justification for violence. As we honor Charlie Kirk and remember the lives lost on September 11, we confront the wrath that strips away our humanity and choose faith, courage, and truth instead.
#CharlieKirk #NeverForget911 #RejectPoliticalViolence #FaithOverWrath #NorthmanCoaching
We Said “Never Forget”, So Why Are We So Divided? A Week of Honoring 9/11 and Charlie Kirk
As a Navy veteran who witnessed the smoke rising over New York on September 11, Gary shares his personal memories of that tragic day and the unity that followed. While remembering Charlie Kirk one year after his assassination, he challenges every American to reject hatred, stop labeling one another, and start listening again.
#NeverForget911 #CharlieKirk #UnitedWeStand #StopTheDivision #NorthmanCoaching
**What Is Your Word Worth? | The Value of Credibility**
How much is your word worth when nothing is forcing you to keep it?
Credibility cannot be demanded, purchased, or built through promises alone. It is earned when your actions consistently support your words—especially when following through is difficult, inconvenient, or unseen.
In this episode of the Northman Coaching Podcast, Gary Hults explores how men build, damage, and restore credibility in relationships, fatherhood, leadership, faith, and everyday life. He explains why accountability matters more than excuses, why good intentions are never enough, and how small acts of consistency teach people what your word is tr...
Credibility is Built one Deposit at a Time
Credibility is built like a bank account. Honesty, accountability, and keeping your promises make deposits. Every excuse, exaggeration, and half-truth makes a withdrawal.
Tune in tomorrow to the Northman Coaching Podcast.
#Credibility #TellTheTruth #Integrity #Honesty #Accountability #KeepYourWord #CharacterMatters #Trust #MensGrowth #DoTheRightThing #NorthmanCoaching #NorthmanCoachingPodcast #TuneInTomorrow
Credibility in Fatherhood
Your children are constantly deciding whether your words can be trusted. Credibility in fatherhood isn’t built through perfection—it’s built through presence, honesty, accountability, and keeping your promises.
Tune in tomorrow to the Northman Coaching Podcast.
#Credibility #Fatherhood #PresentFather #DadsMatter #IntentionalParenting #KeepYourPromises #LeadByExample #Accountability #MensGrowth #BiblicalFatherhood #NorthmanCoaching #NorthmanCoachingPodcast #TuneInTomorrow
God Has Not Lost His Hold on You | John 10:29
Why are you living as though something can take you away from the God who refuses to let you go?
Relationships may end. Careers may change. People may betray you, and you may lose something you desperately prayed to keep. But John 10:29 reminds us that changing circumstances cannot change your position in God’s hand.
Your fear cannot remove you. Your grief cannot pull you away. Another person’s rejection cannot determine your value before God. You may lose your footing, but God has not lost His hold on you.
Whatever you are faci...
Episode 16 Wrath: Anger Doesn’t Make You Honest
Are you really being honest—or are you using honesty as permission to hurt people?
In Episode 16 of Northman Coaching’s Seven Deadly Sins, Gary confronts wrath and the damage caused when anger disguises itself as honesty.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 says, “Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.”
Truth is meant to bring clarity. Wrath uses truth—or pieces of it—to punish people. You can be factually correct and still be completely wrong in how you treat someone.
Volume isn’t authority. Intimidation isn’t leadersh...
Good Intentions Aren’t Enough | Mark 14:38
Are your good intentions making you stronger—or giving you an excuse to remain undisciplined?
In Mark 14:38, Jesus warns His disciples: “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
Wanting to pray, control your anger, or break a destructive habit is not the same as preparing to do it. Spiritual discipline requires recognizing your weaknesses, establishing boundaries, and bringing the battle to God before temptation arrives.
Your weakness does not have to become your excuse. Stay awake, pay attention, and pray contin...
Watch & Pray
In Mark 14:38, Jesus warns His disciples: “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
Wanting to pray, control your anger, or break a destructive habit is not the same as preparing to do it. Spiritual discipline requires recognizing your weaknesses, establishing boundaries, and bringing the battle to God before temptation arrives.
Your weakness does not have to become your excuse. Stay awake, pay attention, and pray continually.
Ready to strengthen your faith, develop discipline, and walk alongside men committed to becoming who...
Episode 15 Pride: Why Are You So Defensive?
Why does correction feel like disrespect when it might be exactly what you need to hear?
In Episode 15 of Northman Coaching’s Seven Deadly Sins, Gary confronts pride—not just the loud, arrogant kind, but the pride that becomes defensive, shuts down, and refuses to listen.
Proverbs 18:12 says, “Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor.”
If every correction feels like an attack, you may not be protecting your peace. You may be protecting your ego.
When the same problem keeps appearing in different relationships, workplaces, and situatio...
When God’s Will Conflicts With What You Want | Mark 14:36
What are you willing to surrender when God’s will conflicts with what you desperately want?
In Mark 14:36, Jesus faced the suffering of the cross and prayed honestly: “Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.”
Surrender doesn’t mean denying your fear or pretending the pain isn’t real. It means trusting God enough to choose obedience—even when a relationship ends, a door closes, a diagnosis comes, or life takes a path you never would have chosen.
Ask yourself: Am I truly seeking God’s will, or am I...
Courtesy Isn’t Weakness, It’s Evidence of Character
When people interact with you, do they walk away feeling respected—or like they were simply in your way?
In this episode of the Northman Coaching Podcast, Gary explores why courtesy is much more than good manners. It is patience under pressure, respect during disagreement, and the discipline to tell the truth without destroying the person receiving it.
You’ll discover the difference between courtesy and people-pleasing, how to set firm boundaries without becoming cruel, and why the way you treat people—especially those who can do nothing for you—reveals your true character.
Gary a...
Small Acts of Kindness
The podcast episode explores the value of courtesy, its impact on relationships, and the importance of promoting honest stories. It emphasizes the connection between courtesy, respect, and self-awareness, highlighting the impact of courtesy on personal growth and the culture of our homes, workplaces, and communities.
Takeaways
Courtesy is a demonstration of respect and self-control.Promoting honest stories and acknowledging effort are essential for building a culture of courtesy and respect.Chapters
00:00 The Value of Courtesy05:36 Promoting Honest Stories07:52 Courtesy and Respect12:28 The Impact of Courtesy#NorthmanCoaching #Courtesy #Character #Respect #MensGrowth...Courtesy Teaser
The importance of choosing to speak to people with dignity, even in challenging situations, and how courtesy reflects one's character.
Takeaways
Courtesy reflects characterTreating others with respect in challenging situationsChapters
00:00 The Test of Courtesy00:36 Courtesy as Character#NorthmanCoaching #Courtesy #Character #Respect #MensGrowth #PersonalDevelopment #EmotionalMaturity #SelfDiscipline #HealthyBoundaries #MensCoaching #Brotherhood #LifeCoaching #Accountability #Leadership #PodcastForMenWinning the Argument, Losing Your Wife | Proverbs 15:1
You can win every argument and still lose the person you love.
Proverbs 15:1 teaches us that a gentle answer can defuse anger, while harsh words only add fuel to the fire. Real strength isn’t unloading on someone simply because you’re angry. It’s having every reason to react and still choosing your words carefully—or choosing to keep your mouth shut.
Controlling your response isn’t weakness. It’s discipline. That’s the difference between getting older and becoming a man.
Visit NorthmanCoaching.com to learn about our weekly men’s groups and one-o...
Episode 14 Sloth: You Know What to Do, So Why Aren’t You Doing It?
What truth do you already know—but keep refusing to act on?
In Episode 14 of Northman Coaching’s Seven Deadly Sins, Gary confronts sloth—not simply as laziness, but as knowing what needs to be done and continuing to avoid it.
James 4:17 says, “If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.”
Some men stay busy so they never have to become productive. They work overtime, scroll for hours, help everybody else, and complete countless meaningless tasks—all to avoid the one uncomfortable...
You’re the Common Denominator | Proverbs 26:11
f every relationship, friendship, or job ends the same way, it may be time to stop blaming everyone else and recognize the pattern.
Proverbs 26:11 warns us about repeating the same destructive behavior without learning from it. Accountability begins when the excuses end. God isn’t asking you to defend your actions—He’s asking you to learn from them.
Getting older happens automatically. Becoming a man requires you to recognize your patterns, take responsibility, and make a different choice.
Join AJ every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for more from Northman Coaching. #NorthmanCoaching #MensWork #Christ...
Episode 13 — Lust: What Are You Training Your Eyes to Want?
What are you training your eyes to want—and what is it doing to your heart?
In Episode 13 of Northman Coaching’s Seven Deadly Sins, Gary confronts lust and the undisciplined decisions that allow it to take control.
Job 31:1 says, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”
Lust doesn’t begin in the bedroom. It begins with what you repeatedly look at, entertain, and allow into your imagination. Eventually, those desires influence how you think, treat others, and behave when nobody is watching.
You cannot...
Shut Up and Learn | Proverbs 12:15
Description: The fastest way to stay stuck is to believe you’re always the smartest man in the room. Proverbs 12:15 reminds us that a fool trusts only his own judgment, while a wise man listens to advice.
Wisdom doesn’t come from always having the answer. It comes through humility, teachability, and knowing when to listen. Getting older happens automatically—becoming a man requires growth.
Join AJ every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for more from Northman Coaching. #NorthmanCoaching #MensWork #ChristianMen #BiblicalWisdom #Proverbs1215 #Humility #Teachability #PersonalGrowth #BecomingAMan #FaithBased #MensCoaching #DailyDevotional #Wisdom #StrongMen #ListenAndLearn
Courage Isn’t the Absence of Fear, It’s Moving Anyway
What would you change in your life if you stopped waiting to feel fearless and started moving forward while you were still afraid?
In this episode of the Northman Coaching Podcast, Gary and AJ discuss what courage really looks like in a man’s life. Sometimes courage means charging into the fight. Other times, it means admitting you were wrong, asking for help, walking away from an unhealthy relationship, or taking one honest step into the unknown.
Fear is inevitable. Things will go wrong. Courage is deciding that living controlled by fear will cost you mo...
Vulnerability Versus Emotional Dumping
The conversation highlights the importance of emotional responsibility and the impact of emotional dumping on others. It emphasizes the need to be cautious and responsible when sharing emotions with others, as emotional dumping without responsibility can be harmful.
Takeaways
Emotional dumping without responsibility can be harmfulBeing cautious about emotionally dumping on others is importantChapters
00:00 Emotional Responsibility00:16 Impact of Emotional Dumping #NorthmanCoaching #Courage #MensWork #MensMentalHealth #Brotherhood #Masculinity #PersonalGrowth #FaceYourFears #KeepMovingForward #SelfImprovement #Accountability #CoreValues #OvercomeFear #MensPodcast #LifeAfterDivorceThe Power of Values
The conversation explores the power of courage and the importance of knowing one's values. It emphasizes that courage does not mean knowing everything will work out, but rather deciding that living in fear costs more than taking a risk. The discussion also highlights the significance of understanding and embracing personal values as a source of strength.
Takeaways
Courage over fearKnow your valuesChapters
00:00 The Power of Courage #NorthmanCoaching #Courage #MensWork #MensMentalHealth #Brotherhood #Masculinity #PersonalGrowth #FaceYourFears #KeepMovingForward #SelfImprovement #Accountability #CoreValues #OvercomeFear #MensPodcast #LifeAfterDivorceCourage in Admitting
The importance of men seeking help and admitting vulnerability in brotherhood.
Takeaways
Vulnerability in brotherhoodThe liberating power of seeking helpChapters
00:00 The Stigma of Seeking Help #NorthmanCoaching #Courage #MensWork #MensMentalHealth #Brotherhood #Masculinity #PersonalGrowth #FaceYourFears #KeepMovingForward #SelfImprovement #Accountability #CoreValues #OvercomeFear #MensPodcast #LifeAfterDivorceOvercoming Fear
Facing fear and taking small steps to live more.
Takeaways
Courage to take small steps.Overcoming fear for positivity.Chapters
00:00 Facing Fear00:37 Taking Small Steps #NorthmanCoaching #Courage #MensWork #MensMentalHealth #Brotherhood #Masculinity #PersonalGrowth #FaceYourFears #KeepMovingForward #SelfImprovement #Accountability #CoreValues #OvercomeFear #MensPodcast #LifeAfterDivorceREAL STRENGTH SERVES Mark 10:45
Would you still serve if it cost you something—and nobody ever gave you credit for it?
Mark 10:45 tells us, “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve.”
Men’s work isn’t about demanding respect. It’s about becoming a man worthy of respect through service, sacrifice, and responsibility.
Anybody can step up when there’s recognition waiting for them. Character is revealed when you serve your family, your brothers, and the people around you when there’s nothing in it for you.
R...
HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH?...Greed
HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH?
More money. More success. More attention. More followers. More validation.
More. More. More.
And somehow… it’s still never enough.
In Episode 12 of The Seven Deadly Sins, we look at Proverbs 28:25 and the sin of greed—and why greed isn’t determined by how much you have. It’s determined by your relationship with more.
There’s nothing wrong with ambition, building wealth, or wanting a better life. But there’s a huge difference between building something and believing...
DO YOU BRING PEACE OR CHAOS? Mark 9:50
When you walk into a room, does your presence bring out the best in people—or does your ego bring more conflict with it?
In Mark 9:50, Jesus says, “Have salt among yourselves, and be at peace with each other.”
Men’s work isn’t just about becoming stronger. It’s about developing the character to bring honesty, wisdom, and peace into every room you enter.
That doesn’t mean avoiding difficult conversations. It means learning to challenge your brothers without tearing them down, speak the truth without creating unnecessary conflict, and...
