Avoiding My Anxiously Attached Boyfriend

In this episode, we’re joined by actor Laquarn Lewis, known for *What It Feels Like for a Girl* and *Jamie Johnson*, for an honest conversation about growing up Black and gay, code-switching, masculinity and finding your place in a queer community that doesn’t always reflect your own experiences.

Laquarn opens up about the reality of being a Black queer actor and why opportunities can still feel limited for people who don’t fit what the industry is looking for. We get into playing Lady Die in *What It Feels Like for a Girl*, how stepping into t...

In this episode, we’re joined by therapist Dhiren Doshi-Smith for an honest conversation about therapy, queer identity, race, culture, sex and the shame so many gay men carry without even realising it. Dhiren specialises in working with queer, neurodiverse people of colour and explains why traditional approaches to therapy don’t always account for people whose identities are shaped by family, religion, culture and community.

We get into the idea of decolonising therapy, why setting boundaries can look completely different when you come from a collectivist culture and the loneliness that can come from feeling othered by y...

In this episode, we’re joined by Saad Zain for an honest and at times provocative conversation about growing up gay across Pakistan, Kazakhstan, Dubai and London and what queer life can really look like in cultures where sexuality is rarely spoken about openly.

Saad opens up about knowing he was gay from an early age, growing up surrounded by shame around his sexuality and why he believes there’s a huge difference between what happens behind closed doors and what people are willing to accept publicly. We get into his now infamous claim that “everyone in Pakist...

In this episode, we’re joined by Tyrell Trey for an honest conversation about modelling, sexuality, mixed-race identity, music, dating and the long process of figuring out who you actually are when you’ve spent years becoming what other people expect from you.

Tyrell opens up about entering the modelling industry at just 16, going from feeling like the “ugly” kid growing up in a predominantly white area to being signed, modelling in Milan and suddenly having his appearance become his career.

We then get into sexuality and identity. Tyrell talks about growing up mixed-race and gay, lea...

In this episode, we're joined by Andrew Akuruka, author of The Gay Blueprint, for an honest and at times challenging conversation about gay identity, masculinity, race, sex and the expectations we place on ourselves and each other.

Andrew opens up about knowing he was gay from a young age, but only coming out to his Nigerian mum decades later. He reflects on growing up around religion, fearing that his mum’s love might be conditional and the unexpectedly emotional moment that followed when he finally told her he was gay.

We also unpack Andrew’s comp...

After months of back-to-back guests, we're finally back with a solo episode... and there's a lot to catch up on.

From sneaking into Tyla's exclusive A*POP listening party in London and sharing our first impressions of her new album, to debating Beyoncé, Jay-Z and celebrity culture.

We also dive into one of the biggest debates in the LGBTQ+ community: is there really a "top shortage", or are gay men simply conditioned to associate masculinity with attraction? We unpack why DL men are so desired, the stereotypes surrounding tops and bottoms, masculinity, femininity, Heartstopper, queer i...

In this exclusive episode, we're joined by I Kissed A Girl season two's Blessing, one of the breakout personalities from the series. Known for her confidence, warmth and unapologetic masculinity, Blessing opens up about her journey on the show, finding community with other masc lesbians and why I Kissed A Girl became far more than just a dating experience.

From navigating life inside the Masseria and challenging stereotypes around masculine-presenting lesbians, to reflecting on the support she found from the other contestants, Blessing shares what it was really like representing a side of the LGBTQ+ community that...

In this exclusive episode, we're joined by I Kissed A Girl season two's Nikita Bharath for her first ever podcast appearance. As the only contestant from the series still in a relationship, Nikita finally opens up about finding love with Pippa, keeping their relationship secret for almost a year and what really happened after the cameras stopped rolling.

From navigating multiple connections, love triangles and the final kiss-off, to building a relationship away from the cameras, Nikita reflects on her experience inside the Masseria and why taking things slowly became the foundation of her relationship with Pippa. 

Faye McGrath first captured the nation's hearts on BBC's I Kissed A Girl, where her warmth, humour and vulnerability made her one of the standout personalities of the series. 

In this episode, Faye joins us to reflect on her experience on the show, navigating rejection in front of the nation and the deeper emotional journey that shaped her long before reality TV. 

From falling for Elise, feeling like she was "too nice" for reality TV and unpacking the lessons she took from I Kissed A Girl, Faye opens up ab...

Cain Culto is a queer artist, musician and creative whose work explores religion, spirituality, masculinity and identity. In this episode, we sit down with Cain to discuss growing up gay in the evangelical church, religious trauma, coming out, deconstructing Christianity and how he transformed years of shame into powerful music and art.

From leading worship as a young church leader and preaching against homosexuality, to experiencing psychosis, being hospitalised and undergoing an attempted exorcism, Cain opens up about one of the most difficult periods of his life. 

The conversation also explores masculinity, femininity, queer identity, S...

JORDY first caught the internet's attention with viral pop hits like Nice Things and Story of a Boy, but behind the infectious hooks is an artist navigating identity, masculinity and what it really means to be seen. In this episode, we're joined by singer-songwriter JORDY to talk about life as an openly gay artist, making music without compromise, and the journey behind his new album.

From writing songs inspired by dating disasters and toxic relationships, to going viral on TikTok, signing record deals and eventually going independent, JORDY reflects on the highs and lows of building a...

Ruben Bø Dower first caught the attention of audiences on I Kissed A Boy, but behind the iconic green looks and unforgettable fashion is a thoughtful conversation about identity, creativity and belonging. In this episode, we're joined by artist, designer and creator Ruben Bø Dower to talk about life after reality TV, finding confidence in who you are, and the journey towards self-acceptance.

From his experience on I Kissed A Boy and the show's impact on queer representation, to navigating public attention, dating apps and online criticism, Ruben reflects on how appearing on television changed his life. We...

The Sober Gay has built a thriving online and real-life community for LGBTQ+ people exploring sobriety, and in this episode, we're joined by Welsh creator and community organiser Sion Meirion to talk about his journey away from alcohol and drugs, the realities of queer social culture, and why he created a space where sober and sober-curious people can connect. 

From documenting his first 100 days sober on TikTok to launching The Sober Gay Socials, Sion shares how a personal challenge unexpectedly grew into a supportive community. We discuss navigating weddings, holidays, Pride events and nights out without alcohol, a...

Fresh from the West End production of Kinky Boots, we’re joined by performer, dancer and content creator Liam McEvoy for a conversation about queer joy, chosen family, musical theatre and finding “the buzz” in life.

From landing his dream role in Kinky Boots and performing across the UK, Europe and the West End, to becoming Bruiser the dog in Legally Blonde, Liam shares the journey from growing up in Ireland to building a career on stage. Along the way, he reflects on the realities of touring, life as a dance captain, audition stories, and why queer repres...

We’re joined by artists, storytellers and creators Adwoa and Solomon for a fascinating conversation exploring African mythology, folklore, spirituality and the stories that colonialism tried to erase.
From how they met at university and built a creative partnership together, to using art as a way to reconnect with their Ghanaian and Nigerian heritage, Adwoa and Solomon share how a passion project grew into a platform educating thousands about African history, culture and traditional beliefs.

We dive into the Orishas, the Ifá tradition, why African spirituality has been heavily demonised, and how colonial narratives continue to sha...

We’re joined by Glyn Fussell, creator of Mighty Hoopla and co-founder of Sink The Pink, for a hilarious, emotional and deeply honest conversation about queer culture, identity and building spaces where people truly feel like they belong.

From creating one of the UK’s biggest and most loved queer festivals to taking Mighty Hoopla around the world, Glyn shares the journey behind building something that became much bigger than just a festival. He opens up about why representation and community matter, and how creating spaces where people feel safe became central to everything he does.

Al...

Smoggie Queens is the chaotic, camp and heartfelt BBC comedy following a group of queer friends navigating life, love and absolute mayhem in Middlesbrough and in this episode, we’re joined by creator and star Phil Dunning alongside actor Elijah Young to talk all about it.

From the inspiration behind the show and how the characters came to life, to filming inside real queer spaces in the North East, the pair share the journey of turning a lockdown script into one of the BBC’s funniest new sitcoms. They also tease what’s to come in season two, i...

We’re joined by choreographer and creative director Claud for a deeply honest conversation about identity, healing, relationships and what it means to truly come home to yourself. From growing up in Angola and moving to the UK at a young age, to navigating queerness, family expectations and life in the spotlight, Claud reflects on the experiences that shaped him into the person he is today. 

In this episode, he opens up about the emotional impact of therapy, the patterns he uncovered within himself and the heartbreak that forced him to finally slow down and look inward. He...

We’re joined by Zelah, a Trans man, content creator and online coach, for an open and honest conversation about transitioning, identity and what it really means to navigate masculinity in today’s world.

In this episode, Zelah shares his journey from growing up as a queer woman to transitioning later in life, reflecting on how identity can evolve over time rather than arriving as a single defining moment. From navigating family dynamics and cultural expectations to unpacking internalised ideas of masculinity, he offers a deeply personal insight into the realities of self-discovery.

He opens up a...

We’re joined by Shaden, a fearless Arab comedian and outspoken voice on identity, politics and freedom of expression, for a raw and unfiltered conversation about queerness, culture and resistance.

In this episode, Shaden opens up about growing up in the Arab world and navigating the tension between cultural identity and personal freedom. From challenging taboos around sex, religion and language to confronting censorship and societal expectations, she shares what it really means to speak openly in environments where silence is often enforced.

She reflects on the complexity of being both Arab and queer, pushing ba...

We’re joined by Cliff, Editor-in-Chief of Attitude Magazine and Rolling Stone UK, for an honest and insightful conversation about identity, media, community and what it really means to create cultural impact.

In this episode, Cliff reflects on his journey through the media industry. From working in queer nightlife magazines to leading some of the most influential publications in the UK. He shares how his early experiences in the LGBTQ+ scene shaped his perspective, and how community, activism and storytelling became central to his work. 

We explore the evolution of representation in media, from a tim...

We’re joined by Joris for a powerful conversation on neurodiversity, identity & the systems shaping our understanding of the world.

In this episode, Joris shares his perspective as a neurodivergent creator, unpacking how autism, ADHD and mental health are often misunderstood through a purely medical and Western lens. As part of Autism Awareness Month, we explore what it really means to be neurodivergent, and why many of the labels we use are deeply shaped by culture, power and societal norms.

We dive into the idea that “nothing is neutral”  from psychology to identity and break down ho...

We’re joined by Drew Demetry, founder of NAFS, for a powerful conversation about SWANA identity, queerness & community.

In this episode, Drew shares his journey growing up between Denmark and Egypt, navigating religion, culture and sexuality. He opens up about being outed, family rejection and reconciliation, and how those experiences shaped his understanding of identity and belonging.

We also explore his career across fashion, art and luxury, where he experienced racism, homophobia and systemic exclusion: leading him to build NAFS, a platform dedicated to uplifting SWANA queer creatives. Drew breaks down the importance of creating fi...

We’re joined by Saleem Haddad, novelist and writer, for a deeply personal conversation about identity, masculinity, love and what it means to belong.

In this episode, Saleem shares his journey growing up across the Middle East, navigating queerness in conservative environments and the complicated relationship he had with masculinity. From being drawn to traditional ideas of masculinity to later challenging them, he reflects on how identity, culture and sexuality shaped his experiences.

He also opens up about being forced back into the closet while working in Yemen, discovering queer spaces in Beirut, and how th...

We’re joined by Lady Phyll, activist, community organiser and founder of UK Black Pride, the largest Pride celebration for Black and people of colour in Europe.

In this powerful conversation, Lady Phyll shares the story behind building UK Black Pride after being laughed at and told there would “never be a Black Pride in the UK.” What started as a small grassroots gathering has grown into a movement attended by tens of thousands, creating space for Black queer joy, safety and community. 

We explore Lady Phyll’s upbringing as a Ghanaian woman growing up in the UK...

This week we sit down with Helio, essayist, historian and cultural commentator, for a conversation that completely reshapes the way we think about empire, masculinity, queerness and power.

From Ancient Rome’s obsession with dominance and “bottom shaming”, to Emperor Hadrian deifying his lover Antinous… from Alexander the Great’s erased queer relationships to the ongoing exploitation of the Democratic Republic of the Congo, this episode travels across centuries to expose how colonialism didn’t just steal land, it rewrote history.

We explore how empires manufacture identity, how education becomes propaganda, how masculinity is weaponised, and why quee...

We're BUSY BEING BLACK! This week we sit down with Josh Rivers, creator and host of the award-winning podcast Busy Being Black, a platform centring queer Black joy, intimacy, spirituality and political consciousness.

Josh shares the origin story behind Busy Being Black, from a deeply personal dark night of the soul to building one of the most vital spaces for queer Black storytelling in the UK and beyond. We explore identity politics, shame, desire, anti-Blackness, and why visibility alone will never be liberation.

This is a conversation about spirit, softness, political awakening and remembering who...

In this episode, we’re joined by Jenny, founder of Meet Cute Cakes in Manchester, for a funny, intimate and unexpectedly deep conversation about love, identity, anxiety and building a life on your own terms.

Jenny talks about growing up, coming out, and why she’s never quite connected with labels, exploring queerness, internalised homophobia, and what it means to feel secure in your identity without needing to define it. 

Alongside the laughs, this episode gets real about panic attacks, anxiety, OCD, and the quiet ways mental health can shape big life moments including weddings, trave...

In this episode, we’re joined by Jerome and Jacques, partners, creators and the people behind the viral cat duo Lupin and Rajah.
They share how a love story that began on a nightclub dance floor grew into a life together, a creative partnership, and an unexpected online following built around joy, softness and visibility in public spaces.

Jack opens up about growing up in France in the 1990s, experiencing homophobia at school, including being called “fagg*t” by a teacher and how those early experiences shaped his sense of safety, identity and self-expression. Together, they reflec...

In this episode, we’re joined by Ali and Adam, a married queer couple whose relationship sits at the intersection of faith, politics, identity and love.

Ali, who is Muslim, Palestinian and Turkish, and Adam, who is Jewish, share how they met, fell in love and built a life together and how their marriage became a flashpoint for online debate, media attention and, at times, serious hostility.

They reflect on navigating religion, queerness and cultural expectations, coming out within very different family dynamics, and what it means to be constantly asked to “pick a side” in a w...

In this episode, we’re joined by myndstate, a spoken word artist who uses poetry to explore identity, sexuality and what it means to grow up in a world that doesn’t always leave space for difference.

myndstate shares how he found his voice through hip-hop, wordplay and storytelling and how writing became a form of therapy as he came to terms with being queer. He opens up about growing up without representation, the shame and confusion of hiding parts of himself and the long road to coming out to his family and finally feeling free.

In this episode, we’re joined by singer and songwriter Malika (Hamza) for a raw, funny and deeply honest conversation about music, mental health, identity and becoming who you really are.

Malika opens up about growing up with depression, ADHD and anxiety, and how songwriting became the only way she could truly express what was going on in her mind. 

We talk about dropping out of school, going viral online, getting signed to a major label, and the reality of being pushed to become someone you’re not. From navigating record deals and creative control to ch...

In this episode, we’re joined by Dr Rohit Dasgupta, associate professor at the London School of Economics, queer activist and local councillor, for a vital conversation about caste, class, colonialism and queerness.

Rohit reflects on growing up gay in India, navigating caste, colourism and class hierarchies, and how these systems didn’t disappear online, they were replicated through dating apps, digital spaces and diaspora life.

We explore how British colonial laws criminalised queerness across South Asian countries, why homophobia is often framed as “traditional” when it isn’t, and how white queer spaces can reproduce...

In this episode, we’re joined by Elias Jahshan, a Palestinian-Lebanese journalist, editor and writer, for a powerful conversation about identity, belonging and reclaiming narrative.

Elias opens up about growing up Arab, queer and deaf, navigating racism, homophobia and disability and the deep tension many queer Arabs face when asked to separate parts of who they are in order to be accepted.

We explore his work editing This Arab Is Queer and Queer Arab Families, the weaponisation of queerness in political discourse, fetishisation in dating culture, trauma led storytelling in the media and wh...

In this episode, we sit down with Jake & Max, a couple whose love story has captured hearts across the internet. What started with a cautious first date and clashing attachment styles evolved into a partnership defined by growth, healing and genuine joy.

From childhood wounds and emotional shutdowns to lockdown intensity, travel adventures and building an online presence rooted in authenticity, this is a conversation about what it really takes to create a healthy relationship.

Together, they unpack navigating arguments, validation, intimacy, jealousy, social media pressure and the slow, beautiful work of choosing each other...

In this AIDS Awareness Day special, we sit down with Marc Thompson HIV activist, community leader and one of the most vital voices in Black queer British history. Born and raised in Brixton, Marc has spent four decades reshaping the landscape of HIV awareness, queer visibility, and racial justice in the UK. His story is one of survival, disruption, joy, and relentless advocacy.

From coming out at 16 in the mid-80s to being diagnosed with HIV at just 17, at the height of the epidemic, Marc brings raw honesty about stigma, family, survival and the realities of living...

In this episode, we sit down with Keye, the breakout star of Married at First Sight UK whose humour, honesty, and emotional depth have made him one of the show’s most unforgettable personalities. From navigating a painful divorce in his early twenties to rebuilding his identity after a mental health crisis, Keye opens up with disarming wit about relationships, people pleasing, sexuality, trauma, and the pressure of performing a version of yourself for others.

We dive deep into what it means to finally date as your real self, the messy reality of breakdowns and breakthroughs, and wh...

In this episode, we sit down with comedian and writer Jake Cornell, the quick-witted mind behind Hey Big Guy and one of the most refreshing queer voices in comedy today. From coming out at 16 to finding his community later in life, Jake opens up about identity, shame, body image, dating, and the hilarious chaos of gay adulthood.

We dive deep into what it truly means to find your voice, the pressure of building a career in stand-up, and why coming out made his life only easier. Jake reflects on growing up surrounded by straight culture, discovering gay...

In this episode, we sit down with married couple Alexis & Liam, whose relationship has existed across identities, labels and multiple “coming outs.”

Alexis shares her true timeline: first identifying as straight, then gay, then trans, then returning to gay, then finally stepping into womanhood again, this time for herself, not to make the world more comfortable. Liam opens up about how his own sexuality sits outside the binaries people want to force him into, and why he still identifies as a gay man, even though the world reads them as a straight couple.

Together, they disc...

In this episode, we sit down with Jeza Belle: drag queen, author, comedian and the first drag queen in history to publish a Christian devotional, for one of the most surprising, thoughtful and moving conversations.

✨ We talk queer spirituality, reconciling religion and sexuality, grace, and why faith doesn’t belong to bigots. Jeza opens up about growing up Jewish-Christian, evangelical culture shock, coming out later in life, and why drag became both ministry and rebellion. We also dive into her award-winning queer historical fiction and the controversy surrounding her interracial slave-era romance novel, exploring power, race, desire and...