Miss Understood with Rachel Uchitel

Carl and Laura Lentz are speaking publicly about infidelity, forgiveness and rebuilding their marriage again with the release of their new book, Overcoming Infidelity.But there is another person whose life became part of that very public story. In 2023, Rachel sat down with Ranin Karim, the woman whose relationship with former Hillsong NYC pastor Carl Lentz became one of the biggest scandals surrounding the megachurch.Now, with Carl and Laura telling their story again, Ranin has provided a new statement about the conversation happening today. We’re bringing back Rachel’s original interview because her perspective feels just as relevant now a...

The Golden Life has arrived—and Harry Dubin is officially my weekly recap cohost! 🍿We’re breaking down the premiere of E!’s new series with our unfiltered thoughts and an insider perspective. Harry has years of RHONY history, personal relationships with the women, and filmed scenes for The Golden Life himself. Add my own connections to some of the ladies, and there’s plenty to unpack.Harry will join me every week throughout the season to recap each episode, dissect the drama, and share insider scoop—exclusively on Miss Understood.Listen wherever you get your podcasts or watch on YouTube. Subs...

Kurt Cobain’s death was ruled a suicide in 1994.More than three decades later, Michelle Wilkins believes the case deserves another look.Michelle is the creator behind Who Killed Kurt?, a project dedicated to reexamining the circumstances surrounding Cobain’s death through witness accounts, forensic analysis, public records and the original investigation.In this episode, she sits down with Rachel Uchitel to explain why she believes the official story leaves major questions unanswered.Michelle walks Rachel through the account of a man who says he was at Cobain’s Seattle home the night he died, the amount of heroin found in his...

Earlier this year, Rachel sat down with Ann Marie Farino for an unforgettable conversation about her son Richard, addiction, suicide, grief and the difficult journey toward finding joy again.Today, we’re bringing that conversation back for a very special reason.Ann Marie’s memoir, Chronic Chaos: A Son’s Addiction, A Mother’s Love, and Her Quest to Find Joy, is now available.Rachel was honored to provide an endorsement for the book, and with its release, we wanted to revisit the conversation that introduced so many Miss Understood listeners to Ann Marie and Richard’s story.Richard was funny, cha...

Matt Easton knows how to sell.But this conversation is not really about sales.It’s about the tiny interactions that can change your career, your relationships and the way people respond to you.Matt joins Rachel Uchitel to explain the “cheat codes” he believes most people are missing when it comes to confidence, communication and getting what you want without manipulating anyone.His philosophy started long before he became a sales coach. Matt grew up with a single mother who made roughly $4,000 a year. As a child, he struggled to read and believed he wasn’t smart. Then a chance i...

Earlier this year, Rachel sat down with Maddie Kowalski for one of the most raw conversations we’ve had on Miss Understood.We’re bringing that interview back because the questions at the center of Maddie’s story have not gone away.Maddie was a 19-year-old sophomore at the University of Florida when private videos of her were posted online without her consent. Within hours, her name was trending, the videos were being downloaded and reposted, and millions of strangers were dissecting, judging and making assumptions about a young woman they had never met.Maddie talks with Rachel about being under...

From the outside, Venus Griffin appeared to have the perfect life.She and her husband were raising six children in Augusta, Georgia. They were PTA presidents, sat front row at church every Sunday, and were known around town as the “Ken and Barbie of Augusta.”Behind closed doors, Venus says her marriage was becoming increasingly abusive.Then a phone call in the middle of the night began unraveling everything.A woman told Venus she was involved with her husband. Venus went to meet her convinced she could prove his innocence. Instead, it became the beginning of a series of revelations that...

She has millions of followers who say she saved their lives — and critics who say she's running a cult.
Teal Swan is one of the most polarizing spiritual teachers on the internet. She built an empire on YouTube talking about trauma, depression, and healing, with no formal training in psychology — and thousands of followers who traveled to her retreats in Costa Rica. Then came the 2018 investigation accusing her of targeting people with suicidal thoughts, and the 2022 docuseries The Deep End, which put cameras inside her inner circle for three years and turned the whispers into a question the whole inte...

Marissa Rubinetti just watched the world see her relationship with Edward play out on 90 Day Fiancé.
But the wedding was filmed months ago — and a lot has happened since the cameras stopped.
Marissa joins Rachel Uchitel to talk about what married life actually looks like now, the unresolved question of whether Edward still wants children, and why that issue is beginning to resurface in their relationship.
She also opens up about watching herself back on television and realizing that some of the criticism from viewers was fair. Marissa admits there were moments where she spoke to Edward in...

Matt Bowyer is back on Miss Understood — this time after serving time in federal prison.
Bowyer was the illegal bookmaker at the center of the gambling scandal involving Shohei Ohtani’s former interpreter, Ippei Mizuhara, who placed hundreds of millions of dollars in wagers through Bowyer’s operation.
When Matt first sat down with Rachel, prison was still ahead of him. Now, more than six months after getting out, he returns to reveal what actually happened behind bars, the violence he witnessed, the realities of life in a federal prison camp, and how difficult it can be to rebuil...

Before Jackson Olson stepped onto the Dancing with the Stars stage, he sat down with Rachel Uchitel to share the unlikely journey that brought him to the Savannah Bananas.
In this special encore episode, recorded January 25, 2025, Jackson reveals how a promising baseball career came to an abrupt halt during COVID, why he started delivering groceries for Instacart, and how making TikToks eventually led to an opportunity with MLB.
Then, after seeing three Savannah Bananas videos in one night, he decided to shoot his shot—and found his way back onto the baseball field.
Jackson also takes us be...

Sharon Yitzhaky thought she was traveling through South America with her first love. Then he disappeared—and she says she was left carrying suitcases hiding 10 kilos of cocaine.Arrested in Bolivia, Sharon was sent to a maximum-security women’s prison where she says she was electrocuted in the showers, surrounded by gangs and drugs, raised a baby inside prison, and eventually fell in love with the head of a cartel.Years later, after learning she was facing a 17-year sentence, Sharon says she had just 48 hours to disappear—leading to false passports, an escape across countries, and one of the hardes...

Before this interview begins, Rachel and George address something unexpected: John Wayne Bobbitt recently showed up in the comments on our Youtube.So we’re putting the question to you:
Should we interview John Wayne Bobbitt?Then we revisit Rachel’s full conversation with Lorena Gallo, formerly known as Lorena Bobbitt, about the story that became one of the most sensationalized cases of the 1990s.Lorena explains what she says was happening behind closed doors before the incident that made her a household name, including years of domestic violence, sexual assault, fear, and the cycle of abuse. She also refl...

September 11th is not history to Rachel Uchitel. It is the day she lost her fiancé, Andy O’Grady, and the day her life changed forever.
In this special episode, Rachel revisits the hours and days surrounding 9/11, beginning with the now-iconic footage of her outside Bellevue Hospital holding Andy’s photograph and asking for help finding him. She reflects on being 26 years old, newly engaged, and suddenly facing the loss of the future she thought she had.
Rachel then speaks with Rudy Giuliani about what he remembers from inside New York City’s emergency response that morning: the first r...

Kyle Overmyer was once one of the youngest sheriffs in Ohio, a former narcotics officer who worked undercover, bought kilos of cocaine, and built a reputation for taking drug dealers off the streets.
Then his own life began to unravel.
What started with a legitimate prescription for painkillers turned into opioid addiction. Kyle says he began doctor-shopping, stealing Percocet from his father, and eventually going through prescription drugs surrendered to law enforcement inside his own sheriff’s office.
In 2016, everything collapsed.
Kyle was hit with a 43-count indictment, booked through the same system he once controlled, an...

Karly Cramer never set out to become a drug dealer.
In 2009, she was a struggling single mom in Scottsdale, Arizona, trying to make ends meet when a friend introduced her to the world of marijuana delivery.
What started as a small side hustle quickly grew.
Karly went from nervously spending nearly everything she had on her first six pounds of weed to supplying other delivery services and moving far more product than she ever imagined.
Then it all caught up with her.
After multiple arrests — including one traffic stop where she says police found 100 pounds of...

Is technology making you smarter, or are you slowly training your brain to do less? We are living in a world where AI can write our emails, answer our questions, organize our thoughts, remember information, and make decisions faster than we ever could on our own. Our phones remember everything for us. GPS tells us where to go. Social media constantly competes for our attention. And the more convenient technology becomes, the easier it is to stop exercising the memory, focus, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills that make us human. This matters because your brain adapts to how you use...

What if the person you cannot get over was never actually your person? We tend to give enormous weight to chemistry and connection, especially when we find someone we like who seems to like us back. That feeling can be powerful enough to make us overlook a harder truth: connection alone does not create a relationship. Without commitment and compatibility, chemistry can keep you emotionally invested in someone who is never actually choosing you. Matthew Hussey breaks down the four levels of a relationship, from attraction to compatibility, and explains why so many people get stuck at the stage that...

Jay Paterno—former Penn State assistant football coach, author, and current member of Penn State’s Board of Trustees—joins Miss Understood to discuss the 2011 Penn State scandal that reshaped college football and permanently altered the legacy of his father, legendary coach Joe Paterno. Jay walks through the timeline surrounding Jerry Sandusky, a former assistant coach later convicted on dozens of counts of child sexual abuse, and explains how the fallout expanded beyond Sandusky’s crimes to implicate Penn State leadership, leading to Joe Paterno’s firing despite never being criminally charged. He shares what it was like to witness the scanda...

What if the health of your brain decades from now is being shaped by what you are doing today? We tend to think about Alzheimer's and cognitive decline as problems that show up later in life, once memory starts slipping or confusion becomes noticeable. But many of the factors associated with brain decline can begin much earlier. Blood sugar, insulin resistance, sleep, inflammation, muscle mass, exercise, social connection, oral health, and even the medications you regularly take may all influence the environment your brain is aging in. This matters because brain health gives you more areas to act on than...

What if all this optimizing is actually making us less happy? Sleep scores, step counts, glucose monitors, supplements, peptides, wearables, and endless wellness protocols have turned health into something we constantly track, measure, and try to perfect. But when every meal, workout, night of sleep, and social plan becomes another data point, the pursuit of better health can start creating more stress than clarity. You may look disciplined and optimized on the outside while feeling anxious, restricted, and disconnected from the life you are trying to improve. Technology has also changed the way we trust our own bodies. We wake...

Suzanne Lossia may look like she has always lived a glamorous, larger-than-life life — but the story behind it is anything but simple. 
Suzanne joins Rachel Uchitel to open up about growing up in a traditional Chaldean-American family, being pushed into an arranged marriage as a teenager, and realizing before the wedding that she did not love the man she was expected to marry. She talks about becoming a mother, living in a relationship she now describes as transactional, dealing with infidelity, and eventually making the decision to leave despite having little education, no real career, and no idea how she...

Are your health habits helping you live better, or are they quietly making your life more complicated? We are surrounded by nutrition rules, supplement stacks, protein targets, fasting windows, wearables, weight-loss drugs, and viral claims about foods we have been eating for decades. A banana in your smoothie is suddenly a problem. Every snack needs added protein. Everyone thinks they need electrolytes. People lose weight quickly without thinking about the muscle they may be losing with it. And in the process of trying to become healthier, many people become afraid to eat, travel, miss a workout, or enjoy their lives...

What if changing your face has nothing to do with how you feel about yourself? Plastic surgery has become more normalized, more accessible, and more visible than ever. We watch people document facelifts, nose jobs, injectables, and cosmetic procedures in real time, which can make major medical decisions feel as casual as booking a facial. But the polished before-and-after photo rarely shows the full story.  Social media, filters, Zoom, and constantly seeing ourselves in photos and on video have changed the way we evaluate our appearance. We notice every angle, compare our real faces to edited ones, and start believing t...

Alexis Bellino Janssen sits down with Rachel Uchitel for a conversation about life before, during, and after The Real Housewives of Orange County. Alexis gets candid about the facelift everyone is talking about — breaking down her entire experience of before, during and after. She also takes Rachel behind the scenes of her Real Housewives journey: how she unexpectedly landed RHOC all the way to the infamous “Jesus Jugs” nickname. Alexis opens up about meeting John Janssen, falling in love after believing she would never marry again, and the misconceptions surrounding her relationship with John and Shannon Beador. Plus, Alexis shares the de...

Is a lack of motivation a personality flaw, or a signal from your brain that something needs attention? We tend to think brain decline begins with memory loss, but changes in motivation, behavior, attention, and decision-making can show up much earlier. Apathy can look like laziness. Poor sleep can feel like memory loss. Doom scrolling gets blamed on dopamine, even though the science does not support many of the claims people repeat online. And the habits we rely on for brain health are often based more on trends than evidence. This matters because your brain is constantly deciding whether a...

Want some more BTS bonus content of Miss Understood? Join our patreon for Post Show Podcasts, Monthly Merch Giveaways and Weekly Bonus Episodes! Become a Patreon Member: https://www.patreon.com/c/MissUnderstoodwithRachelUchitel   Shop Miss Understood Merch https://missumerch.com   BONUS EPISODE: In light of Perez Hilton’s recent hospitalization following a deeply concerning TikTok livestream, we’re revisiting our raw and unfiltered conversation with the man who became known as one of the original kings of celebrity gossip. Long before this latest crisis, Perez opened up to Rachel about what was happening beneath the larger-than-life persona—the insecurity, pain and ange...

Can being obsessed with other people's lives distract you from living your own? Reality TV can feel like harmless entertainment. You watch the drama, follow the relationships, and debate who was right or wrong. But when people become deeply invested in edited storylines, compare themselves to strangers, or attack contestants online, it reveals something bigger about where we are putting our attention. The more time we spend watching other people live, the less energy we may have for building a life of our own. Entertainment can be a way to unwind, but your attention is still one of your most...

Want some more BTS bonus content of Miss Understood? Join our patreon for Post Show Podcasts, Monthly Merch Giveaways and Weekly Bonus Episodes! Become a Patreon Member: https://www.patreon.com/c/MissUnderstoodwithRachelUchitel   Shop Miss Understood Merch https://missumerch.com   In 1995, twenty-year-old Navy SEAL Dusty Turner watched the man he trusted most — his SEAL Team “swim buddy” — murder a young woman in the back seat of his car. What followed was 31 years in a Virginia prison for a crime Turner didn’t commit: two trials, an 82-year sentence, a 2008 ruling that called him “actually innocent” (the first of its kind in Virginia hist...

Are your thoughts helping you move forward, or are they quietly running your life? We talk a lot about positivity, discipline, leadership, and good habits, but very few people understand how those things actually work together. Negative thoughts can feel true simply because they show up fast. Bad habits can undo years of progress. Leaders can have a great vision and still lose their team because they do not communicate, connect, or create trust. And being hardworking is not always enough if people do not want to follow you. This matters because success is shaped by what you believe, what...

What if manifestation is keeping you focused on the life you want while distracting you from the work required to build it? Manifestation has become one of the biggest trends in personal development. Visualize the outcome, believe it is coming, raise your vibration, and trust the universe to deliver. There can be value in believing in yourself and getting clear on what you want, but belief without action quickly becomes wishful thinking. Your thoughts can influence your focus, confidence, and behavior, but they cannot control every external outcome. Health challenges, financial circumstances, psychological struggles, timing, and access all play a...

🎧 Want more Miss Understood? Join us on Patreon for exclusive bonus episodes, behind-the-scenes conversations, extended interviews and more. Visit the Miss Understood Patreon and become a member today.   To the world, Victor “Little Vic” Orena became known as a powerful figure in New York’s Colombo crime family. To Jackie Orena, he was simply her grandfather.   Jackie joins Rachel for a deeply personal conversation about growing up with the Orena name, the moment she realized her family wasn’t like everyone else’s, and why she has dedicated herself to fighting for her grandfather after more than three decades behind bars.   Now eld...

Are you chasing longevity hacks while missing the habits that actually change your health? Everyone wants the shortcut. The GLP-1. The fasting protocol. The supplement. The perfect biomarker. The next thing that promises better energy, better body composition, and a longer life. But the real issue is that most people are drowning in information and still missing what actually moves the needle. Your body is not random. Muscle affects insulin sensitivity. Movement changes how glucose gets used. Sleep impacts recovery. Fasting can be powerful when it is done strategically. And the right biomarkers can show you risks that "normal" lab...

With Lee Asher back in the news following the recent attention surrounding Velveteen, I wanted to bring back one of my favorite interviews.   For those who aren’t familiar with him, Lee is the founder of The Asher House and one of the most influential voices in animal rescue today. Nearly 3 million people follow his work across Instagram and YouTube as he documents the realities of rescuing animals and running a sanctuary.   Years ago, I interviewed Lee for Miss Understood. At the time, we released the conversation in two separate episodes. We’ve never published it as one complete interview—until no...

What if "follow your passion" is actually bad advice? We hear it all the time: do what you love and the money will follow. It sounds inspiring, but it is not always realistic. Loving something does not automatically make it a career, a business, or a strategy. Sometimes the better move is to follow your effort, because wherever you consistently put in reps is usually where you build skill, confidence, and real opportunity. Your passion can stay your passion. You can love fitness, cooking, fishing, music, or watching documentaries without needing to turn it into your full-time job. In fact...

Are you actually making healthier choices, or are you just buying whatever wellness trend sounds the most convincing? The wellness world has gotten very good at selling certainty. Peptides, longevity stacks, skin hacks, GLP-1s, miracle supplements, and "expert" advice are everywhere. The problem is that confidence online does not always mean credibility. A lot of people are spending serious money on things that sound scientific, but are backed by weak evidence, half-truths, or marketing dressed up as medicine. This matters because your health decisions should not be based on who has the best abs, the biggest platform, or the...

Why do so many men struggle to open up? Why do relationships break down even when both people care? And what does "manning up" actually mean today?   Rachel sits down with therapist and Rugged Counseling founder Trey Tucker for one of the most honest conversations we've had about masculinity, rejection, anxiety, childhood trauma, and why so many men quietly carry emotional burdens they never talk about.   Together they explore how our earliest experiences shape who we become, why rejection affects us more than we realize, the differences between how men and women process emotions, and the misconceptions both sides have ab...

What if laughing every day is less of a personality trait and more of a health strategy? We spend so much time chasing the perfect wellness routine. The supplements, the trackers, the saunas, the cold plunges, the red light, the protocols. And yet one of the simplest tools for changing your brain, your mood, your stress, and your body is something most of us are not doing enough: laughing. Laughter releases endorphins, helps lower stress hormones like cortisol, supports immune function, and can shift your emotional state fast. A real laugh can pull you out of a bad mood, break...

What if waiting until you feel ready is the reason you keep missing the opportunity? A lot of people have ideas, ambition, and opinions, but very few are willing to move before they have the perfect plan. Ronnen Harary built Spin Master by doing the thing so many people avoid: making the first small decision, trusting his gut, asking who could help, and moving fast enough to catch the opportunity while everyone else was still thinking about it. He did not start with decades of experience, unlimited resources, or a perfect roadmap. He started with curiosity, speed, persistence, and a...

What if high school wasn't about preparing students for a job—but teaching them how to build a business instead?   Rachel sits down with Nat Eliason, co-founder of Founders School, an innovative high school redefining what education can look like in the age of AI.   For $150,000 per year, students spend their mornings learning through AI-powered instruction and their afternoons building real businesses alongside experienced entrepreneurs. The boldest promise? If students don't generate $1 million in gross profit by graduation, Founders School refunds their tuition.   Rachel and Nat discuss:   Why Founders School has no traditional teachers How AI is changing education Why studen...