The Christian Dating Coach
Most single Christian women feel quietly trapped between two unsatisfying extremes.On one side, silence —Pray. Wait. Don’t want it too much.On the other, overexposure —crude, transactional, disconnected from God.This podcast exists because there is a third way —one that is intelligent, reverent, and real.And one that actually leads to marriage.We don’t offer scripts.We tell the truth.About singleness and marriage.About covenant sex and holiness.About what draws men and women together — spiritually, emotionally, and physically.We also pull back the curtain on the systems shaping modern dating.This is for women who are no lo...
Ep. 120: Sex, Porn, and Rock & Roll with Coach Matt Smith
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If you've been looking for a podcast episode that talks about sex, porn, masturbation, and the real adult issues Christians face, this is it.
I'm joined by my friend and fellow life coach, Matt Smith, for a candid conversation about pornography, sexual desire, shame, and the pursuit of genuine intimacy.
We talk about why pornography can be so difficult to walk away from, why getting married doesn't automatically solve the problem, and what it takes to experience freedom.
Sex isn't something Christians should be afraid to talk...
Ep. 119: A Conversation with the Christian Man You Think Does Not Exist
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Many Christian women quietly wonder whether the kind of man they hope to marry still exists.
In this episode, I sit down with Chandler, a thoughtful Christian man who is intentionally saving sex for marriage and hoping to build a Christ-centered home and family.
He wants to laugh with his wife over Taco Bell at 2:00 a.m.
He wants Tuesday night games with his future family.
We talk about what first captures his attention, what makes a woman unforgettable, why modern dating has been more...
Ep. 118: You Didn't Sign Up for the Celibate Life
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Your dating profile has ONE job: get men you’re actually interested in INTO YOUR INBOX. If it’s not doing that, if it’s just attracting dusty project boys, your dating profile isn’t doing its job.
Solution: Come to Swipe. Match. Marry. Let me show you the FIVE photos you MUST have to get your profile doing its job: getting handsome, godly, high-caliber men you’re actually excited about into your inbox.
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Ep. 117: Tell Your Dating App Profile to Do Its Job
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Your dating profile has ONE job: get men you’re actually interested in INTO YOUR INBOX. If it’s not doing that, if it’s just attracting dusty project boys, your dating profile isn’t doing its job.
Solution: Come to Swipe. Match. Marry. Let me show you the FIVE photos you MUST have to get your profile doing its job: getting handsome, godly, high-caliber men you’re actually excited about into your inbox.
Register HERE for Swipe. Match. Marry.
Ep. 116: What Marriage to a Boaz is Really Like
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In this episode, Michelle shares the truth married women know but do not always say out loud.
What is marriage to a Boaz really like?
It is beautiful.
It is tender.
It is chosen.
It is sexy glances in the kitchen, grocery-store whispers, and being seen as beautiful when real life changes your body.
But it is not easy.
And that is exactly why the man’s character matters.
If you desire marriage, children, family, intimacy, legacy, pa...
Ep. 115: Criticism and Chaos: They're Keeping You from Your Boaz
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In this episode, Michelle talks about two patterns that keep Christian women stuck in dating: criticism and chaos.
If you keep blaming men, dating apps, your church, your city, or God’s timing while showing up inconsistent, overwhelmed, and hard to pursue, you may be blocking the very love you’re praying for.
Through the story of Ruth and Boaz, Michelle shows why wise counsel, humility, steadiness, and strategic movement matter for women who want to marry well.
Michelle Joiner is a Christian dating strategist for discerning Christi...
Ep. 114: How Do I Recognize He’s a Boaz?
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How do you know if a man is worth continuing to talk to?
How do you know if he is faithful, serious, godly, and someone you should not let get away?
In this episode, Michelle offers a wiser, more graceful way to think about discernment.
Michelle Joiner is a Christian dating strategist for discerning Christian women.
She helps successful single women become unmistakable to the kind of godly, high-caliber man who is ready to choose a wife.
Her clients do not just get da...
Ep. 113: There Are Men Who Don’t Look at Other Women
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What if the kind of man you want actually exists?
In this episode, Michelle speaks to the woman who has quietly lowered her expectations because faithfulness, clarity, tenderness, and godly pursuit started to feel unrealistic.
But there are men who do not like other women’s pictures.
There are men who do not look at other women.
There are men who pray, read the Bible, and are waiting for marriage.
And maybe the issue is not that he does not exist.
Maybe the issu...
Ep. 112: An Engineer’s Take on Dating Fatigue
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More time does not fix a process that keeps producing disappointment.
In this episode, Michelle draws from her background as an engineer to explain why repeated disappointment in dating is not neutral. It wears on your hope, your confidence, your softness, and your ability to believe that marriage is still possible.
If you have been deleting and redownloading the apps, trying to stay open, hoping the next attempt will be different, and still finding yourself disappointed by the same kind of men, this episode will help you consider whether...
Ep. 111: Waiting is Settling
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What if settling is not just choosing the wrong man?
What if settling is also allowing yourself to keep living a life beneath the desire God placed in you?
In this episode, Michelle reframes what it means to “never settle” and speaks directly to the Christian woman who is successful, capable, grateful, and still honest enough to admit: I want marriage.
If you have been waiting, hoping, praying, and quietly wondering why nothing is changing, this episode will help you tell the truth about your desire and cons...
Ep. 110: Women Aren’t Allowed to Want
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You’ve been told to be content.
To wait quietly.
To make sure you never look desperate.
But what if the desire you keep trying to silence is not the problem?
This is a bold, tender word for the Christian woman who wants marriage and is tired of apologizing for it.
You’re also invited to Come and Pray this Saturday, May 16th, 2026.
No teaching. No coaching. Just prayer for women who desire marriage.
To receive the invita...
Ep. 109: You’re Still Settling
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This is for the Christian woman who is no longer available for an “almost” life and is ready to leave the wrong path behind.
In this episode, I’m talking about what changes when a woman is truly done settling—not just for the wrong man, but for any path that is not leading to the life she desires.
Go to thechristiandatingcoach.com
and move toward marrying well.
Ep. 108: The Man You Want Has Already Met You
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Many extraordinary women quietly come to the same painful conclusion:
The kind of man I want must not exist.
But what if that isn’t true?
What if the man you want has already crossed your path…
and simply didn’t recognize you?
In this episode, Michelle Joiner shares a surprising insight about modern dating, recognition, and why the strategy most women use to find love may actually be working against them.
Stop looking.
Be findable.
If...
Ep. 107: You Can Buy Roses. You Can’t Buy This.
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Real love isn’t roses.
It isn’t candlelight dinners.
It isn’t Instagram.
It’s quieter than that.
It’s someone doing the dishes.
Jazz in the kitchen.
Being chosen on an ordinary Tuesday night.
In this episode, Michelle shares a small moment at home — and the truth most women don’t realize until years have already passed:
Delay isn’t neutral.
If you’re ready to stop waiting and marry well, Michelle will show you the path.
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Ep. 106: Something Has Changed
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Most single Christian women feel quietly trapped between two unsatisfying extremes.
On one side, church silence and simplification —
Pray. Wait. Don’t think too much.
On the other, secular overexposure —
crude, transactional, dopamine-driven explanations of sex, attraction, and desire.
This episode marks a shift.
There is a third way — one that is intelligent, reverent, and real.
My private work guides women from singleness into marriage — through strategic counsel and exquisite, biblical guidance.
In this brief reflection, I share what h...
Ep. 105: Is Surrendering This Desire to God Keeping You Single?
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Is surrender keeping you stuck? You might be surprised.
If marriage is a holy desire God placed inside you, then it’s time to treat it like the calling (and priority) it is. Your husband is real. Your story is written. The only thing missing is your participation.
And for a short time, when you purchase Kingdom Bride Unlocked: The Course, you’ll receive a free 1:1 “Call In Your Husband Now” strategy session with me. We’ll map out your exact steps, your messaging, your strategy — personalized to your life...
Ep. 104: Stop Waiting to Be Chosen — Give Yourself What You Want
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What if the only thing standing between you and your godly husband… is you?
In this episode, Michelle delivers the truth that changes everything for single Christian women: the women who get married don’t wait to be chosen—they choose themselves.
Hear how one client went from single to ring shopping in just seven months, and the mindset shift that made it happen.
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Ep. 103: Relationship 101: Purpose — 3 Steps That Get You Engaged Faster
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You don’t need a complicated plan to build a relationship that actually leads to marriage—you need purpose. In today’s finale of Relationship 101, I share the simple framework my clients use to go from “this is good” to “we’re engaged” in months, not years. If you’re ready to stop drifting and start moving, this episode is your map.
At the end, I’ll show you exactly where to meet marriage-minded men, how to write a profile that attracts the right one (and repels the wrong ones), and how to create pure...
Ep. 102: Relationship 101: Problems – Don’t Let Them Cost You a Godly Man
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Even the best, most godly men will come with problems. Not red flags… just real life, two humans learning how to love. But here’s the truth no one tells you: it’s not the problems that end most love stories — it’s the way we respond to them.
In this episode, we talk about how a Kingdom Bride handles problems.
No drama. No chasing. No shutting down. Just holy desire, respect, and emotional maturity that keeps love growing instead of dying.
💌 If you’re listening and thinking, “I wan...
Ep. 101: Relationship 101: Pleasure — Holy Sizzle That Leads to Marriage
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High-caliber, godly men are all around you.
If they’re not proposing, it’s because you don’t know this secret: they want to feel pleasure — holy pleasure.
Do you feel like pleasure is off-limits as a Christian woman? Well, it’s not.
In this episode, Michelle Joiner shows faith-filled, ambitious women how to cultivate holy sizzle — the chemistry, warmth, and joy that make a man feel admired, respected, and safe to pursue you.
If you’re ready to stop being the woman men date...
Ep. 100: The 4 Heart Postures of My Clients Who Marry High-Caliber Men
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After 100 episodes, hundreds of coaching calls, and more weddings than she ever imagined, Michelle has seen the pattern — the women who get married think, believe, and show up differently.
In this milestone episode, she reveals the 4 heart postures that define her most successful clients — the ones who attract high-caliber, godly men and build lasting, covenant marriages.
This isn’t a pep talk or dating advice. It’s a roadmap for transformation.
If you’ve ever wondered what makes love “click” for some women while others stay stuck, this ep...
Ep. 99: Behind the Scenes: So Much Love Is in the Air. Are You Ready for It Too?
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Love is in the air—holy, romantic, life-changing love. 💙
In this short behind-the-scenes update, Michelle shares what’s been happening inside the Kingdom Bride Unlocked coaching program and in her own home.
Clients who once started single are now in relationships. They’re glowing from makeovers and photo shoots that have them saying, “I feel like Beyoncé. I feel like J.Lo.” 👑
Others are being pursued by godly men who plan romantic, Spirit-filled trips and even holiday family visits. And on Michelle’s end? There are corn-maze walks with her kids...
Ep. 98: Mind Reading Isn’t Love — Learn to Speak His Language
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If you’ve ever wished a man could just know what you need — this episode is for you.
In “Mind Reading Isn’t Love — Learn to Speak His Language,” Christian dating coach Michelle Joiner reveals the secret to creating real connection: not through hints or pressure, but through communication that inspires. She shares her own long-distance story with her husband Caleb, the moment she stopped wishing he’d read her mind, and how learning to speak King’s Language transformed everything.
Discover how to express your heart with clarity, ca...
Ep. 97: Your Thoughts Create Your Results — and Some Thoughts Will Keep You Single
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What if the biggest thing keeping you single isn’t your circumstances… but your thoughts?
In this episode, Michelle breaks down the biblical and practical truth that your thoughts don’t just describe your life — they create it. You’ll learn how what you think determines how you feel, how you show up, and the kind of relationships you attract.
This isn’t just mindset work. It’s Romans 12:2 in action — renewing your mind so that transformation becomes inevitable. 💙
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Ep. 96: Crazy Things Christian Singles Hear
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You know what’s crazy? The things Christian singles get told.
“Just be content.” “Jesus should be enough for you.” “It’ll happen when you least expect it.”
We’ve all heard them — the clichés that sound holy but secretly make you feel unseen, confused, or stuck.
In this episode, Michelle gets real about the advice that holds singles back — and what faith actually looks like when you’re believing for marriage. It’s honest, freeing, and just the eye-roll of understanding you needed this week. 💙
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Ep. 95: Shocking Words from My Dating Coach That Will Encourage and Heal You
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I had to stop recording this episode three times because I couldn’t stop crying.
This might be the most important message I’ve ever shared on the podcast — and yes, it’s marked explicit, because there was no other way to say it.
In this raw, unfiltered conversation, I open up about what it was really like to be single into my 30s — the waiting, the loneliness, the “be content” comments that only made it worse.
And then I share the moment everything changed — five shocking words from my da...
Ep. 94: A Kiss in Time for New Year's
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Imagine walking into the holidays with more than just another lonely year behind you… imagine a man by your side, a best friend, a partner who adores you — and a kiss in time for New Year’s.
This episode will show you why it hasn’t happened yet, what’s really been holding you back, and the one different approach that changes everything. If you’ve ever wondered if it’s too late for you, the answer is no. Your story isn’t over, and love can still come faster than you think.
Ep. 93: Ask the Guys Interview – “Why He Hasn’t Asked You Out”
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You asked to hear from Caleb again—and this time he’s joined by two of his friends for an unfiltered, faith-filled conversation about dating and marriage. In this special extended episode, the guys share what really goes on in a man’s mind:
Making the first move (and why he hasn’t yet)Communication in marriage and gracious remindersHow long it takes a guy to know if he wants to marry youRed flags in Christian menWhat men actually look for in a wifeThis conversation is straight from the Ask a Gu...
Ep.92: This is How I Created the Chemistry That Won Caleb
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Last episode, you heard from Caleb, his side of our love story—how we met, what drew him in, and what made him commit. But what if I told you there’s a reason behind the chemistry he kept describing? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how attraction, desire, and connection can be created intentionally—without compromising your faith or your values.
If you’ve ever wondered why some conversations fizzle while others spark electricity that can lead to commitment, this one will open your eyes.
Sis, don...
Ep. 91: How We Met & Why He Chose Me: An Interview with My Husband
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It's Caleb's birthday today, and in this special episode, he's joining Michelle to share his unfiltered journey—what it was like being single, using dating apps, and wondering if the right woman was even out there.
He reveals what caught his attention when he saw Michelle’s profile, why saving sex for marriage impressed him, and that moment in Michigan when he realized he wanted to commit.
If you’ve ever doubted that godly men still exist, this conversation will remind you they do.
Praying this episode brings yo...
Ep. 90: Dating App Photos That Make Him Commit
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Dating apps are brutally visual — and low-quality photos are the #1 reason amazing women are being overlooked online.
In this episode, Michelle unpacks why photos matter more than your bio, what rules to follow if you want to attract a high-quality man, and how her clients transform their results when they upgrade their photos strategically. You’ll hear:
The quick “six-month test” to know if your photos are working or not
Why selfies and group shots actually hold you back
Five rules for photos that cre...
Ep. 89: The Secret to Feeling Beautiful — What Men Really Think
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Every woman wonders: what do men really think about beauty? In this episode, Michelle reveals the secret to feeling beautiful—not by chasing perfection, but by aligning with God’s definition of beauty and your own.
You’ll hear surprising insights from Christian men on attraction, discover why confidence is more magnetic than looks, and learn the simple shift that changes how the world responds to you.
This isn’t about filters or celebrity standards. It’s about uncovering the truth that can transform your confidence, your relationships, and your future...
Ep. 88: The Four Truths That Will Get You Married Faster
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In this powerful episode, Michelle Joiner reveals The Four Truths That Will Get You Married Faster—truths no one ever told you about why you’re still single and how to break free from the cycle of delay.
With raw honesty, biblical wisdom, and real client success stories, Michelle dismantles the lies that keep women stuck and shows you the proven roadmap out of delay.
If you’re ready to stop paying the “Single Tax,” guard your heart, and finally step into the love God has prepared for you, this episo...
Ep. 87: How to Speak the Language of High-Value Men
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The godly, marriage-minded man you’re praying for? He speaks a certain language. A King’s Language. If you don’t know how to speak it, you’ll get stuck in friend-zone conversations that go nowhere.
In this episode, I’ll show you the three things every man needs to hear and how to use your words to unlock his heart. This isn’t about chasing or striving. It’s about carrying yourself in a way that inspires pursuit, commitment, and lasting love.
When you master King’s Language, you stop wonderi...
Ep. 86: Kingdom Bride Series — Sarah: The Kingdom Marriage You’ve Longed For
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It’s one thing to attract a man. It’s another to captivate him. But God’s design is bigger than attraction — His vision is Kingdom Marriage.
In this final episode of the Kingdom Bride Series, we turn to Sarah, covenant partner of Abraham and example of unfading beauty. Her story points us to the marriage you’ve been longing for: one built on honor, tenderness, respect, and sacrificial love.
If Ruth showed you the power of mentorship, Esther revealed specialized knowledge, and the Shulammite modeled holy desire, Sarah now shows...
Ep. 85: Kingdom Bride Series — Solomon’s Beloved: The Mystery of Passion + Purity
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The Shulammite woman’s romance with King Solomon is one of the most passionate love stories in Scripture — filled with desire 🔥, longing, and covenant promise 🙏. Her story reveals a mystery: passion and purity aren’t opposites. They’re meant to go together.
In this episode of the Kingdom Bride Series, discover how to unlock the mystery to Passion 🔥 + Purity 🙏 in your own love story. Learn the secret of Flirt Pure — the art of sparking attraction, evoking desire, and creating irresistible chemistry while still honoring God’s boundaries.
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Ep. 84: Kingdom Bride Series — Esther: The Secret to Captivating a King
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Esther didn’t win her crown by chance. She carried wisdom, guidance, and a secret that set her apart — a secret that captivated the most powerful man in her world.
In this episode of the Kingdom Bride Series, discover Esther’s secret to favor and why the men you dream of — godly, high-caliber, marriage-minded men — still exist today. More importantly, learn how to unlock the same kind of presence and King Language that moves a man to pursue and commit.
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Ep. 83: Kingdom Bride Series — Ruth: Why You Haven’t Met Your Boaz Yet
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Ruth didn’t stumble into her love story—she was guided, positioned, and bold enough to move when others stayed behind. In this episode, discover the hidden reason many women never meet their Boaz, and how mentorship and decisive action can shift everything in your love life.
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Ep. 82: Weary About Love? Here’s How to Carry Hope Into a New Season
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If you’ve been praying, showing up, and believing for love—yet another season is ending without the relationship you hoped for—you’re not alone.
In this episode, Michelle offers heartfelt biblical encouragement for the woman who feels tired of waiting, drawing on the stories of Hannah, Ruth, and God’s promises to remind you that His timing is perfect and His love story for you is still unfolding.
You’ll learn how to refresh your vision, take life-giving action, and anchor yourself in Scripture so you can step into the...
Ep. 81: How to Stop Choosing the Wrong Guy
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The wrong relationship can cost you years, confidence, and even your sense of identity—and it’s almost never worth the price.
In this episode, Michelle shows you how to use biblical discernment to recognize a man’s true character, so you stop confusing chemistry for compatibility.
You’ll learn how to stay open and curious while dating, but crystal-clear and uncompromising when it’s time to commit—so you can choose a husband whose life already reflects the fruits of a godly marriage.
If you’re ready to stop wa...
