Sniffies' Cruising Confessions

We've all got 'em. We've all sent 'em. Some of us, maybe to the wrong person. This episode is about n*des — the currency of the apps — and the surprisingly rich etiquette surrounding intimate photos.

We're walking through the psychology of sending (and withholding), the highly subjective Do's and Don'ts of composing them, and the eternal question: What makes a good one? What makes a catastrophic one? And what are the funniest nudes that have ever been sent to us? And are nudes art? An ethereal journey?

Comedian Honey Pluton joins us with strong opinions and...

What does sexual responsibility look like to you? In the age of PrEP, PEP, testing, and contact tracing, there are more tools than ever to help us protect ourselves and our partners — but as we learned in our Puerto Rico episode, stigma and political barriers can still get in the way.

How has sexual responsibility evolved beyond condoms and abstinence? How can community care keep us safer? And how do we navigate the shame and judgment that can come with basic sexual health?

Answering questions is primary care provider Jake Collins PA-C.

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Beaches, Bad Bunny, a quick gaycation escape — these are things we think of when we think of Puerto Rico, but it's so much more than that. PR is one of the richest queer communities in the world, so Sniffies is on the ground in San Juan with this extra special travel episode.

We dive deep into the world's oldest colony: health disparities, political movements, activism, nightlife, and perreando. How do Puerto Ricans cruise, party, and thrive on their own terms?

Our guests are Vico Ortiz and Ane Hernandez, hosts of the bilingual podcast “Mucho Mucho Amor...

Inspired by our Cruising 401 episode, we dig deeper into the history of HIV prevention and how it’s progressed into the age of PrEP and the Undetectable=Untransmittable movement. Whether you’re weighing your prevention options or navigating the world as a person living with HIV, there’s never been a better time to be an ethical slut.

Do people living with HIV have an obligation to disclose their status to sexual partners? How is the history of U=U entwined with prevention activism? 

Back in the studio is infectious disease physician Dr. Demetre Daskalakis.

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Cruising has changed. We all know this. But how much do we actually know about what it looked like before Sniffies, before the internet — before all of it?

This episode takes a historical deep dive into the art of cruising: the highlights, the fun facts, and the turning points — including how HIV/AIDS reshaped everything in the 1980s. What's been gained and what's been lost? Do our ancestors turn over in their graves knowing we're out here swiping instead of prowling? And has PrEP really opened the door to go full analogue again?

We discuss Pete...

STIs don't discriminate, yet why do we think gay guys are the only ones who get them? This episode digs into why info on HIV prevention isn't always distributed equally.

Why are trans men and women often overlooked in HIV prevention? How do race, class, and educational access shape who gets information about PrEP? And what can we do to make sexual-health education more inclusive and less stigmatized?

Answering these questions with us is nationally recognized infectious disease physician Dr. Demetre Daskalakis.

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Trans women and gay men have been sharing space since the very beginning — and whether you're on Sniffies, at the club, or on Fire Island, the overlap has never been more real.

This episode dives deep into an increasingly de-homogenized community: the history of gay and trans spaces, how that's changed today, and what cruising, nightlife, and safe sex look like when our worlds collide. How do our similarities and differences shape our desires, our health, and our ability to thrive? 

Joining us is the writer and nightlife producer Kay Gabriel, who helps us think thr...

Why does an STI take a certain amount of time to show up on a test? And why do I have to conduct what feels like investigative reporting to make sense of the timeline? This episode gets into the nitty gritty of seroconversion, contact tracing, PrEP, and PEP.

Look no further for your guide to understanding how far back one must go when dealing with a testing scare or risk of exposure. It’s a lot easier than you think!

Dr. Demetre Daskalakis returns to talk about little known facts about “seroconversion,” the 101 of contact tracin...

Gay men are perhaps the most aesthetic community out there: gym routines, filler, hair plugs, veneers, BBLs, skincare, holetox, steroids, and even surgery. This episode dives into the “looksmaxing” of it all, and other trends that inform (or infect) our community.

Is everyone who gets cosmetic surgery insecure? Are you toxic for having a really strict gym regimen? How do we draw the line between affirming aesthetic body modification and unhealthy impulses informed by cultural pressure?

Answering these questions with us are two guests: nurse practitioner “Injector Chris” and therapist Benjamin Goldman.

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What are all these swabs for? Haven’t we been swabbed enough! This sweeping episode asks some silly questions about various kinds of STI tests and what those different swabs and samples can actually tell us. In the words of Aquaria, any hole is a goal!

As a follow-up to our episode about cum, we’re on the journey of a fluid’s various paths. What are throat and rectal swabs looking for? Are different parts of the body associated with different STI risks? And how has the history of HIV stigma shaped the way we think about...

It happened. We finally did an entire episode about c*m. 

This episode dives into everything about c*m that you could possibly want to know — and perhaps more you didn’t even know you wanted. Gabe and Chris talk about viscosity, taste, nutritional value, the science of semen, the politics of finishing, and something called “c*m math.” This episode is deeply funny about the phenomenon of c*mming and also totally serious about what it means to gay culture. 

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Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions returns for season 4! The show about sex, desire, cruising, and queer relationships is back weekly with hosts Gabe Gonzalez and Chris Patterson‑Rosso bringing a new class of esteemed sluts and local sexperts into the studio. This season talks about the commingling of gay men and dolls, the aesthetic pressures of “looksmaxxing,” what retiring from porn is like, and the etiquette of nudes. Gabe and Chris also travel to San Juan and cruise the Atlanta nightlife scene to meet fellow cruisers. 

This season’s guests include Kay Gabriel, Eric Cervini, Honey Pluton, Benjamin Goldman, Chris Busta...

At Sniffies, there’s only one thing that gets us harder than the promise of anonymous sex: nostalgia. So for our very special 2025 Year-End Special, Gabe and Chris welcome the riotously funny Macy Rodman and Theda Hammel of the hilarious Nymphowars podcast to look back at their favorite queer cultural moments of 2025, most of which revolve around Lady Gaga. Then, in act two, the gang digs through data to learn what Sniffies’ Cruisers were up to this year, including how many pump and dumps took place, which US city was the horniest and which international destination is really, really into...

For the final episode of season three, Gabe and Chris explore just what makes locker rooms such exciting spaces to cruise, with the help of the very fit and very funny comedian Jay Jurden. Like many queer people, Jay recalls being attracted to other guys while changing in his high school locker room. But it wasn’t until he became an in-demand trainer at New York’s cruisiest gym that Jay got a front-row seat for sexual shenanigans hotter than anything on Pornhub. To celebrate his debut Hulu comedy special, “Yes, Maam”, Jay cracks our hosts up with stories about wh...

Gay culture is constantly sending us messages that big dicks are the most desirable thing a person could have, but activist Phil Miner says there are lots of people who are turned on by small or average-sized penises, and even more people who could develop confidence about their own size with Phil’s new six-week “Package Acceptance Program”. In this episode Gabe, Chris and Phil talk about average and smaller sized dicks, rejection, and embracing the concept of body neutrality. Then, the hosts and a competitor in NYC’s first “Mx. Small Penis Contest” reflect on the positive and, yes, uplifti...

Sammy Sins’ mom developed Parkinson’s Disease when they were still very young. But the lessons Sammy learned taking care of her were crucial to their job as a sex worker and content creator years later. In this episode, Chris and Gabe sit down with Sammy to talk about some of these unique discoveries, and the links between sex work, caregiving, and authenticity. Plus, how Sammy feels about code-switching as a non-binary creator, the emotional toll of churning out content, and how PrEP and DoxyPEP kept them safe while touring their K-Pop Dance party BIAS through Asia. 

The first time Alex Espinoza got cruised, he felt as if a “mutant power” had been awakened inside him. This new internal radar helped him find secret sex spaces where he uncovered another hidden strength: his dick gave him power over men who might have otherwise rejected a queer Latino man with a disability. Using his special gifts, Alex was able to build his self-confidence and dispel the feelings of shame he says are common for queer people from immigrant families. It also gave him plenty of material for his hit 2019 book “Cruising: An Intimate History of a Radical Pastim...

In 2019, Rhyheim Shabazz was just another horny LA slut having orgies on the regular. But when he started filming those orgies, the expressions on his bottoms’ faces were unlike anything he’d seen in porn. Rhyheim channelled that realization into a wildly successful career as an actor and director in the gay porn industry, and launched his own hit studio VOYR in 2023. In this episode, Rhyheim talks to Gabe and Chris about his stunning career trajectory, Brazilian boys, and yes, Chris’s ass. He also offers tips and tricks for aspiring content creators looking to follow in his footsteps.

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Comedian James Tom spent years identifying as a lesbian enby, but it took a Fire Island orgy and a twink in a Versace speedo to help him realize he was actually a gay guy. James has been mining his experiences for hilarious stand-up material ever since. In this episode, James stops by to tell Gabe and Chris side-splitting stories of sexual aha moments and misadventures alike. He also offers tons of helpful advice to trans and cis queers who “just wanna fuck” -- including Chris and Gabe! Want to know what cis guys should absolutely NOT say when hooking up w...

Fisting used to be a niche fetish practiced by kinksters in dungeons, but today “Fisting is the It Girl” according to writer and expert fister Alexander Cheves. In this deep dive, Alex explains how the availability of fisting content on Twitter has led to a surge of interest from younger queer folks in recent years. But there’s a lot that first time fist fuckers need to know about how to prepare and train for play, in order to avoid serious injuries. Luckily, Alex has plenty of smart tips (and sweet stories) to share for both beginners and pros. Get th...

You’re not supposed to get horny or talk about sex in church, but Brandon Kyle Goodman is not your normal pastor. In their new off-Broadway show HEAUX CHURCH, the host of iHeart’s hit podcast “Tell Me Something Messy” reimagines church as a place for queer people to shed their religious trauma, sexual shame, and become happier, more fulfilled lovers. In this episode, Chris and Gabe talk with Goodman about how religious homophobia fucks up queer people’s access to sexual pleasure, highlighting how Brandon’s upbeat Tammy Faye Baker-style sermon - complete with talking penis, vagina and butthole pup...

Cruising has resurged over the past decade, thanks in part to PrEP and Sniffies. But its future might look like something out of a dystopian sci-fi movie, according to journalist Leo Herrera, who followed up his hit book Analog Cruising (featured in our S1 episode “Cruising 101”) with a series of articles about how rapid advancements in AI technology may impact queer sex, cruising, and relationships. In our supersized season opener, Leo, Gabe and Chris vigorously debate the nuts, bolts, ethics and controversies over soon-to-be-ubiquitous things like synthetic companions, AI porn and yes, sex robots. Freaked out by the future? You’...

Hungry for more Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions? Our third season is BULGING with hot and hilarious conversations with cruisers, comedians, sex scholars and porn gods. Hosts Gabe Gonzalez and Chris Patterson-Rosso dive deep into everything from sex robots to double fisting for a season that’s intimate, arousing and raw -- just the way you like it. Premiering October 23rd!

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This week our hosts suit up in spandex for a wild Q&A with content creator Denzel Dixon, a prominent player in NYC’s gay wrestling fetish scene. Growing up, Denzel liked imitating WWE moves with his friends, until he realized he liked it a little too much. It wasn’t until Denzel grew up and found the website MeetFighters.com that he turned his lifelong obsession into hot, sweaty, lucrative fun. Denzel teaches Gabe and Chris all about the wrestling fetish scene and answers the most important question of all: when do we take the singlets off?

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Historically, pop culture has been so important to LGBTQ people, not only because we often experience sexual awakenings to figures in the media we consume, but also because so many of our favorite films, shows, and records have been created by queer people. In this episode, Gabe and Chris have a freewheeling discussion about pop culture, erotic discovery, porn parodies, cruising and Buffy slashfic, with our favorite podcaster and author: Ira Madison III. Then, a cruising confession from a horny French slut has Gabe and Chris saying “sacre bleu!”

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This week, Gabe and Chris dive into the complex topic of chemsex—the pairing of party drugs and sex—within queer and trans communities. Poet and performer Joss Barton shares how her gender journey began with an acid trip and how exploring pleasure through substances became part of her story. But it wasn’t until she began incorporating her experiences into her wild, hilarious performances that she started to break free from the stigma trans women often face around drug use and reassess her own relationship with it. That’s harm reduction, mama!

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The 2012 FDA approval of PrEP as a tool for HIV prevention gave HIV-negative queers anxiety-free access to the sexual freedoms of the 1970s. But writer Daniel Sanchez Torres says PrEP didn’t exactly make things easier for HIV positive folks who still face stigma, rejection, and fetishization from HIV negative folks. In this episode Chris, Gabe and Daniel discuss the varied impacts of PrEP and U=U on their sex and cruising experiences. Then, a listener shares a cruising confession about an encounter that has our hosts very, very afraid… 

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It seems like every year there’s another nasty social media debate about the presence of women in gay bars and darkrooms. But Gabe and Chris are sick of gay bros who think gay bars should be exclusively gay boy spaces. In this hilariously filthy episode, Crush and Frankie, a bisexual M-F content creator couple who go cruising together, make a case for why women should be welcomed, not shunned, in gay bars, and yes, even sex spaces, then offer tips and tricks for respectful interactions on both sides. 

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Can cruising actually lead us towards queer liberation? Professor João Florencio thinks so, and this week he’s joining Gabe and Chris to talk about the politics of cruising, and offer tips for how to cruise while the world is entering its fascist flop era. He’ll also talk about what cruising was like four centuries ago, the connections between Gen-Z sex-phobia and conservative gays like Andrew Sullivan, and what he really thinks about RFK Jr.’s “War on Poppers”. A provocative masterclass on cruising with one of the world’s foremost sexpigs and scholars. 

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Nude beaches can be places of relaxation, freedom, and, yes, hot sex on the beach. In this week’s episode, Gabe and Chris talk about their favorite nude beach cruising experiences with comedian Joseph Lymous, who grew up going to nude beaches as a kid and now seeks them out whenever he travels. Then, Joseph offers tips and tricks to overcome the challenges of nude beach cruising and helps us all embrace the transformative joy of being “nekkid” in the sun!

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Hey Daddy! In this week’s episode, Chris and Gabe interview Judson Morrow, the co-host of the Dads And Daddies podcast, about what it means to be a daddy, how PrEP played a role in igniting the daddy craze, and how Judson navigates his own daddy/son relationships. He’ll also offer expert tips on cruising, dating, and hooking up that both daddies and sons can use. Then, one of our listeners shares a jaw-dropping cruising confession about a daddy encounter in a secluded park bathroom.

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Over the past decade chastity has become one of the most popular fetishes in the queer community. But how and why can locking up your dong enhance sexual pleasure? In this episode we explore every angle of the cage craze in an interview with Peter Cage, a lifestyle submissive who just wants to be a good boy, and Jasper Reid, a dominant content creator who calls himself Peter’s master and “keyholder”. Then, Chris stops Peter’s “Locked” party at NYC’s Rockbar to hear cruising confessions from other chastity enthusiasts. 

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Your favorite queer sex podcast is BACK for more hot and hilarious conversations with cruisers, kinksters, and for the first time: our listeners! Every week on Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions, hosts Gabe Gonzalez and Chris Patterson-Rosso explore the sublime world of queer sex, cruising and relationships. Premiering June 12th!

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Welcome to "Decisions, Decisions," the podcast where boundaries are pushed, and conversations get candid! Join your favorite hosts, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, as they dive deep into the world of non-traditional relationships and explore the often-taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. Every Monday, Mandii and Weezy invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, they share their personal journeys navigating their 30s, tackling the complexities of modern relationships, and engaging in thought-provoking discussions that challenge societal expectations. From groundbreaking interviews with diverse guests to relatable stories...

The holidays can be super stressful for queers, which is why Gabe and Chris are back for a special episode full of tips for how to stay safe, sane, and sexually active over the season with the help of Sniffies! First up, RuPaul’s Drag Race icon Kandy Muse spills some very hot tea about her most outrageous Sniffies experiences while touring the globe. Then, for anyone thinking of throwing their own holiday party, the co-founder of NYC’s beloved Papi Juice nightlife and art collective, Oscar Nñ, shares the lessons he’s learned creating positive, uplifting spaces for QTPOC t...

Queer people grow up experiencing bullying at a higher rate than that of our peers. Could that be why some of us find ourselves turned on by consensual domination, degradation and humiliation play in the bedroom? In our spicy final episode of this season, Gabe and Chris welcome two kinky pleasure educators - submissive Bobby Box and dominant Dominion Onyx -  to talk about dominance, submission, bullying, BDSM, and how and why people get into this fetish practice. Can playing this way help queer people turn past traumas into pure pleasure? 

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It’s easy to talk about what we don’t want in the world—hate, discrimination, and violence against our community—but what kind of future DO we want to see?  In this episode Gabe and Chris ask past guests from this season what kind of queer utopia they’d like to see materialize by the year 2069, on the 100th anniversary of the Stonewall riots. You’ll hear from kinksters, artists, and sex workers about their hopes for the future, and the possible innovations, societal shifts, and sexual possibilities that await us later this century. 

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Some couples practice “strict” monogamy, while other couples pick up tricks, attend sex parties, and visit cruising spots together. Ain’t love grand? In this episode, Gabe and Chris talk to a couple who cruise and throw sex parties together, about how they make it work, deal with jealousy, and the pros and cons of pursuing partners in pairs! Plus: we stop by Brooklyn’s hottest new queer nightspot Animal to hear stories both hot and horrific - about hooking up with couples. 

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Sides define themselves as neither top nor bottom, preferring non-penetrative practices to buttstuff. In this episode, Gabe and Chris go deep with the “Messiah of Masturbation”, BATEBANDIT XL, about why he identifies as both a side and a bator, and why he created the BBXL Bate Bros, an international organization that holds online and in-person events for Black and Brown masturbation enthusiasts. Then our hosts learn all about what led BATEBANDIT XL to start making horny (and hot AF) hip-hop music chronicling his wild life as a bator. Plus, a special Side edition of “Pump or Dump?”

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This week Gabe and Chris explore different types of communication that can help us have hotter and more dynamic sexual experiences. First, our hosts dive into the growing phenomenon of content creators making “verbal” audio files to get listeners off. Then, sex work guru Tomik Dash pops by to offer tips to better communication in intimate scenes. Finally, author and deep-voiced daddy Dale Corvino explains how the sex journals he’s kept for decades help him better communicate with himself and inspired his hot new book, “Bonds and Boundaries”. 

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