Dads And Daddies

Judson unlocks a new marital kink. Brian provides an update on his solo afternoon at the hotel where the two recorded the previous episode. Judson sees Cats: The Jellicle Ball for his first time. Brian undergoes cataract surgery. The Hookup of the Week tells the story of a non-binary femme listener who meets someone on the apps and Daddies him until it’s time for the roles to reverse. Brian and Judson are then joined by Rich Burns, writer, creator and star of the Humanitas Prize-winning comedic digital series “The Disappointments.” The show’s second season is out now and foll...

It’s Dads and Daddies 100th episode! Judson and Brian reminisce about the days before they were open to the idea of non-monogamy. They attend the LGBTQ Community Center of New York’s annual fundraising gala. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who shares the details of a recent session with a regular of more than a decade that he describes as being one of his best hookups ever. Brian and Judson are then joined by the sexiest cat on Broadway, Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Rum Tum Tugger himself, Sydney James Harcourt! Sydney talks about his jo...

Brian returns from a complicated week celebrating Passover in Hawaii. Judson’s libido surges with the change in the weather and guides him to a pair of pleasurable parties. The Hookup of the Week finds the submitter reclaiming his sexuality after abstaining for 15 years, and entering into an intricate roleplay scenario. Brian and Judson ponder whether or not the tagline of the show needs to evolve as they approach the podcast’s 100th episode next week. The two are then joined by Broadway’s favorite DILF, Claybourne Elder. The Gilded Age star and Grammy, Screen Actors Guild Award, Drama Desk a...

Judson shares a fashion sensibility with Brian’s ten year-old daughter and celebrates a victory at work. Brian prioritizes scheduling a surgery over attending his favorite sex party and responds to some online hate about his parenting that he can’t ignore. The Hookup of the Week paints a detailed picture of a sub’s annual trip to New York to see his dom. Brian and Judson then launch the Dads and Daddies Book Club with the arrival of guest John Paul Brammer, famed LGBTQ+ advice columnist and author of ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking...

Judson considers moving in with Brian. Brian and his family make a return visit to Cats: The Jellicle Ball now that it’s on Broadway. Judson sets out on an adventure to find his misdelivered phone. Brian and his husband participate in their neighborhood’s annual progressive dinner. The Hookup of the Week comes from a repeat submitter who takes some lessons from the podcast into his latest encounter. The two are then joined by Rod Thomas, aka electro-pop music artist and DJ Bright Light Bright Light! Rod sits down with Brian and Judson just two days before kicking off...

Judson and his husband escape to the warm weather getaway of Playa Del Carmen. Brian feels his age during back to back nights on the town, but the outings also inspire a night of youthful sex with his husband. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener trying out The Blowers after hearing about it on this podcast, and finding new joy in receiving oral sex. Brian and Judson are then joined by Broadway musical theatre star Grey Henson! Grey takes Brian and Judson through his nonstop career that took off immediately upon leaving college with his casting as...

Judson goes to San Francisco and reconnects with an old flame from fifteen years ago. Brian goes to DC and spends the weekend with friends of more than 25 years who he credits with making him the adult gay man he is today. They talk about how the conversations they have every week on the podcast have impacted their sex lives. The Hookup of the Week follows a listener’s birthday adventures at his favorite bathhouse. Brian and Judson are then joined by comedian, actor and host of the immensely popular “That’s a Gay Ass Podcast,” Eric Williams. Eric talks ab...

Judson prepares for one of the biggest moments of his professional career. Brian recounts a hookup that took him to the cleaners in more ways than one. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener living out the fantasy of hooking up with the hot nurse attending to him in the ER, and inspires Judson and Brian to share their own stories of doctor’s office hookups. The two are then joined by Broadway actor John-Andrew Morrison, currently on the boards as Mary’s Husband in Oh, Mary! John-Andrew talks about how he came to play our 16th president in B...

Judson revels in a moment of gratitude after reuniting with a sweater left behind at the studio. Brian reports on a frustrating afternoon on the apps and wonders if his dick pics are misleading. A unique Hookup of the Week tells its tale through text messages. The two are then joined by hosts of “The Big C*nty Couch” podcast, Mike Fails and drag queen Gina Spears! Mike and Gina reveal the bold choice that first solidified their now fifteen-year friendship before either was out of the closet, the secret sauce that has kept them so close for so long...

Our Dad and Daddy reunite after Judson’s week in San Francisco for work and Brian’s Disney Cruise in the Caribbean with his family, and they each provide a full report on their travels, including the hookup activity that happened for one and not the other. Judson sees “Pillion” a second time and takes his husband to see it for his first. Brian suggests that listeners read John Paul Brammer’s book, “Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Wal-Mart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons” in advance of his appearance on the podcast in the coming weeks. The Hoo...

Judson looks forward to checking out the Gems and Minerals exhibit at the Natural History Museum for a Galentine’s afternoon. Brian shares his thoughts on watching both “Pillion” and “Heated Rivalry” a second time. A listener who’s a lawyer provides feedback on the advice given when a question about signing an NDA was posed during a recent Go Ask Your Dad segment. The Hookup of the Week is the story of an encounter that inspires the submitter to be more specific about the information he provides when meeting people on the apps so as to avoid medical emergencies...

Judson enjoys his first planned hookup of 2026 and realizes he may be becoming demisexual. Brian explores his newfound versatility and finds much personal satisfaction. The Hookup of the Week tells the story of an encounter that is both very hot and very wet, and leads to Judson teaching Brian a piece of sexual vocabulary. They are then joined by fashion designer and sometime Son to Judson’s Daddy, Timothy Westbrook. After sharing behind-the-scenes secrets of his time on the 12th season of “Project Runway,” Timothy discusses his mission to design from a place without shame and how it inspires his ve...

It’s a party weekend! Judson prepares for a friend’s bachelor party in Chicago, and Brian prepares to celebrate his husband’s birthday on the Saturday, and his younger daughter’s on the Sunday. They attend screenings on consecutive nights of the new movie, Pillion, starring Alexander Skarsgård and Harry Melling, and compare notes with one another for the first time since. Together, Brian and Judson take a seat on The Big C*nty Couch with drag queen Gina Spears and her longtime friend Mike Fails. Our recent episode on Deshaming Sluttiness inspires a listener to submit a Hookup...

Judson is reflective after a trip to visit his mom, and shares a piece of American history he’s recently realized made a huge impact on his life. Brian has a record-breaking week of sex, between hookups, a party and his husband. An exquisitely written and performed Hookup of the Week tells the tale of a top who steps out of his comfort zone and into a submissive role in a public space. Brian and Judson are then joined by Ben Zumsteg, founder of Disco Fizz, a new premium non-alcoholic drink brand focused on serving queer nightlife. Ben shares th...

Brian and Judson discuss “Heated Rivalry” at long last. Judson makes a plan to meet up with a friend who he hasn’t seen or spoken with in over 15 years, and who is the last person to whom he has to make amends. Brian makes subtle changes in the bedroom that have significant payoff for his marital sex life, and offers an update to a controversial statement he made on an early episode of the podcast. The Hookup of the Week follows the adventures of two couples who meet at a Halloween party, and end up traveling together for a week...

Judson celebrates his 43rd birthday. Brian shares a list of trans Girl Scouts from whom listeners can order cookies. Judson and Brian appear together on Brandon Kyle Goodman’s podcast, Tell Me Something Messy, and the conversation that ensues inspires them to consider a new business venture.The two receive an outrageously misguided pitch for a guest on the show.  Brian struggles with how to label himself on the apps. Judson extols the virtues of flipping in bed. The Hookup of the Week becomes a Go Ask Your Dad question when the listener shares a story about a regular hoo...

Brian celebrates a number of firsts when it comes to hooking up, and encourages listeners to lean into new experiences. Judson bemoans hooking up in winter but looks forward to a trip to Steamworks in Toronto. Dads and Daddies stirs up jealous feelings that inspire a listener to try cuckold play with his partner in the Hookup of the Week. Brian and Judson are then joined by Daddy Kylex, one of New York City’s preeminent adult content creators. Kylex takes them through the origins of his career, what his Jewish mother does and does not know about his li...

Judson prepares to celebrate his birthday. Brian attends his daughter’s first fashion show as a designer. Judson clarifies what he means when he uses the term “Duck Toast” to describe a man’s physique. Brian provides an update on the effect Lexapro is having on his sexual performance. The Hookup of the Week follows the international adventures of a listener who has opened his marriage after more than 20 years. Brian and Judson are then joined by Tony, Drama Desk, Outer Critics Circle and NY Drama Critics Circle awards-winning comedy writer for stage and screen, Robert Horn. Robert shares incredib...

Brian reflects on the past year and shares his wishes for the year ahead. Holiday brain leads Judson down a rabbit hole reminiscing about the tabloid news of the 1990s.The Hookup of the Week features a validating public massage experience that opens up conversation between the listener and his husband. Brian and Judson are then joined by TikTok’s favorite anti-ICE activist and immigration attorney, Michael Foote. Michael talks about how the Department of Homeland Security (DHS) shares a memo with their lawyers about what to do if they face Michael in court, his subversive ways of tormenting DH...

Judson and his husband host an engagement/tree-trimming/Shabbat celebration with a Halloween theme. Brian and Judson’s husband have a clandestine meeting without them. Brian thinks he may have come out to his mother about his open marriage. A listener provides some important context around the use of SSRIs. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener sharing a favorite memory of some public group sex that took him by surprise. They are then joined by actor, comedian and writer Aaron Jackson. Aaron talks about his role as “social justice warrior, but for Instagram” Caden Smucker in Drew D...

Judson enjoys a hookup that goes past the typical twenty minutes and returns to his favorite gay event at his local bathhouse. Brian spends an evening with the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City and tries to entice Judson to check out the show. The Hookup of the Week is a twofer from a Daddy who enjoys public sex. The two are then joined by rising Broadway star Jimin Moon, and returning guest Will Wikle, known first for his iconic time spent as a houseguest on Big Brother 5 in 2004, and now as a psychiatric nurse practitioner with his own...

Judson attends the Christmas Spectacular starring the Radio City Rockettes for his first time. Brian is asked to define some key sexual vocabulary terms by his daughter. The two celebrate being named a 2025 Marathon Show, Talked About Show and Most Shared Show by Spotify. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who has found his role helping people explore their versatility. After the break, Brian shares two personal revelations about his mental and physical health, which together inspire his own journey from bottoming to topping. The episode concludes with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a...

Judson is riding high from a health rebound and a proud week at work. Brian’s daughters surprise him by saying and doing a number of things that speak both to their maturity and to their being raised by gay dads. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener at the start of opening his marriage, who shares a fun night out with his husband and others during their anniversary trip to Puerto Vallarta. Brian and Judson are then joined by the leading anal health expert in the United States, Dr. Evan Goldstein. Dr Goldstein is the founder of...

It is a momentous occasion when Judson wears an entirely black outfit. Brian takes his family to the fantastic new revival of The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee off-Broadway, where his daughter joins the cast for the afternoon. Judson crowdsources an internship for a new friend he met by chance over ramen. The Hookup of the Week comes from a sub who finds a deeper connection with one of his regular Doms. The two are then joined by Dr. Demetre Daskalakis, former director of the CDC’s National Center for Immunization and Respiratory Diseases before his fiery resignation th...

Brian celebrates his first successful afternoon on the apps in six weeks, applying a lesson from a recent episode and proving a point he's made in others. Judson shares recommendations for Anthony Amiewalan’s novel Eddie & Alan, Michael Finkel’s biography of Stéphane Breitwieser, The Art Thief, Kaveh Akbar’s novel, Martyr!, and Nicholas Colia’s film, Griffin in Summer. Both hosts are tickled by the Hookup of the Week, which describes a listener's decision to throw himself a birthday party to reclaim the sexual awakening that homophobia denied him as a teenager. Then, Brian and Judson are joined by...

Brian and Judson celebrate the victory of mayor-elect Zohran Mamdani and the fact that friend-of-the-podcast Brandon Kyle Goodman has extended their run in HEAUX CHURCH off-Broadway at Ars Nova through November 21. Brian raves about the Broadway play Liberation by Bess Wohl. Judson's trick is a treat on Halloween. Brian prepares for a sex party by listening back to his own advice on a previous episode and discovers he may, in fact, be vers. After listening to the Hookup of the Week, the two wax nostalgic for their younger years, hooking up in bars.

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It’s Dads and Daddies’ 75th episode! On it, Judson enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor and accompanies him to see comedian and artist Max Wittert perform. Brian looks forward to ending his hookup drought by attending his first sex party in months. Judson and Brian both reiterate their encouragement to all Dads and Daddies listeners to watch Netflix’s Boots, particularly after the Pentagon put out a statement against it. Judson and his husband are invited to be a Nielsen family. A previous “Hookup of the Week” submitter returns with a Part Two to his previous encounter. The two ar...

Judson and his husband celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, while Brian and his family discover a free gallery show featuring original works by Basquiat, Haring, Koons, Mapplethorpe, Sherman, Warhol, and more. The two hosts each go without physical release for longer than usual and expound on the joys of refraining. Brian then experiences a moment of undeniable divine intervention, and Judson starts his new job. They enjoy a pocket-sized Hookup of the Week about the joys of being Daddy to a pocket-sized partner. Brian spends three nights at the theater seeing Ragtime, Dylan Mulvaney's solo...

Judson’s return from a trip to Southern California inspires a comparison of Los Angelenos and New Yorkers, and a conversation about how both Judson and Brian’s husband Toby are able to convince most who meet them that they are chill, when their husbands know otherwise. Brian observes Yom Kippur with Judson’s husband, and learns some words of wisdom that help him gain some perspective on how to exist in the current political climate. The two share their thoughts on Netflix’s Boots and Judson theorizes as to whether or not he could survive boot camp himself. The “Hoo...

Brian tests whether or not he can make a hookup happen in the limited time available to him while his daughter is at an appointment. Judson crosses state lines for a hookup and receives a cultural education. Brian’s family enjoys a week of the arts–a Chappell Roan concert, the Mamma Mia revival on Broadway, and the Gabby’s Dollhouse movie–and he provides his thoughts on each. Judson feels the “Hookup of the Week” in his heart more than his groin. The two then attempt to tackle the topic of masculinity, how they each approach the expectations to live up t...

Judson recounts a weekend trip upstate and forgets an unforgettable hookup. Brian envies his husband’s incredibly successful week of hookups, one so plentiful it allowed him to forget one, too. The two then commiserate about the preparation required for bottoming. Brian discusses his tenth trip to see ”Oh, Mary!” and his fifth Mary, Jinkx Monsoon. Judson explains why he chose a trip to Arkansas to celebrate his tenth wedding anniversary. Both are very turned on by a ”Hookup of the Week” that’s far more about the thrill of the chase than the act itself. After the break, Brian shares...

Judson accepts a job offer and feels deep appreciation for all the support he received over his past few weeks of unemployment. Brian has found a new love in a sandwich he’s discovered near his office. Brian and Judson express their love for the trans community and ask how they can be best of service in these times of incredible oppression. The super-hot Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who attends Dads and Daddies friend DJ James Anthony’s new party, Unspeakable Joy, where he meets a pair of platonic roommates and brings them home to his...

Judson gets his first tattoo and shares his feelings about hooking up with dog owners. Brian experiences a near-perfect hookup minutes before enduring a far-from-perfect parenting moment. They listen to a short-and-sweet Hookup of the Week that, while quick, was a year in the making. The two are then joined by psychotherapist and musician Darrell Martin. Darrell’s journey takes him from New York’s legendary ballroom scene, appearing in the landmark documentary ”Paris Is Burning,” to writing and producing music for icons such as RuPaul, Pink, and Sheryl Lee Ralph, to his work as an award-winning mental healthcare leader a...

Judson enjoys a restorative night to himself. Brian bemoans his recent difficulties making hookups happen. The two share thoughts about keeping sex with their husbands steamy after more than a decade of marriage. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener flying some particularly friendly skies. Brian and Judson are then joined by Vanity Fair culture writer Chris Murphy, making his return to the podcast after serving as Dads and Daddies’ very first guest 60 episodes ago! Chris updates the two on his living situation with his boyfriend and debates the virtues of repeat hookups. The three discuss the recent ar...

Judson meets a possible long-lost relative during his very own Hookup of the Week. Brian gushes over Morgan Bassichis’ one-man show, ”Can I Be Frank?” and finally scores his seventh review on The Blowers. The two learn that elementary age kids have caught onto the fact that ‘Daddy’ has sexual connotations. Both are turned on by the voice that delivers this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the Week. They are then joined by adult entertainment mogul turned DJ, Boomer Banks. Boomer shares his love for his second home of Provincetown, MA, and talks about what it means to be sober in a q...

Judson shares a significant life update with both pain and optimism while Brian goes on a perfect date. A listener submits a Hookup of the Week in which he experiences Judson’s definition of Daddyness. They are then joined by actor, writer, comedian and star of his own off-Broadway solo show, ‘Ta-Da!,’ Josh Sharp. Josh talks about how fun it can and should be to live outside the norm as queer people, recounts some of his formative sexual experiences, reminisces fondly about the days of finding sex on Craigslist, shares the secret to the longevity of his 11+-year relationship with h...

Judson and Brian celebrate the return of their husband and daughter (respectively) after three weeks apart. Judson feels his age taking in the fashions at a Bushwick dance party, while Brian feels his age due to the constant medical upkeep his body suddenly requires. The two are touched by a Hookup of the Week, submitted by a listener who credits the podcast for its inspiration. They are then joined by José Rolón, known as @nycgaydad across social media, where he has garnered more than 750K followers of his adventures as a single gay father to three kids, and ha...

Brian gleefully becomes a Provincetown convert and extols the virtues of Family Week. Judson shares two recent learnings about language. Together they follow a listener’s incredible adventures while traveling on the ”Hookup of the Week.” The two are then joined by Rabbi Jason Klein, senior rabbi at the largest LGBTQ synagogue in the world, Congregation Beit Simchat Torah in New York City (not to mention Brian’s first serious boyfriend over 25 years ago). Rabbi Klein talks about his path to becoming a rabbi, how queer people can reclaim their right to religion, how he experiences dating and the apps, se...

Judson and Brian beat the heat by hunkering down in the basement to answer another set of Go Ask Your Dad questions from our listeners! But first, Brian and Judson each negotiate rules with their husbands for running “sexy errands” during their respective trips to Provincetown. One listener educates Brian and Judson on gay car enthusiast culture, while another educates them on the proper terminology for a sex act discussed on a previous episode. Judson suffers through a tense week at work. Brian suffers through withdrawal from his daughter while she is at sleepaway camp. The “Hookup of the Week”...

Judson and Brian reunite after three weeks apart. Judson takes a page from our Gay Vacation Anxiety episode to put himself in the best mental and emotional place for two weeks in Provincetown. Brian is forced to admit that he may, in fact, be a Disney Gay. The listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” inspires a conversation about gay community and joy. After the break, Brian shares a series of new ways he and his husband have found to enjoy their open marriage over the previous few weeks. Judson proposes the ideal “house rules” for hookups when sharing a vacation rental w...