That Husband Podcast

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[S3] EPISODE 30: WHO ARE YOU OUTSIDE OF THE LIMELIGHT?

After a 3 week break That Husband Podcast is BACK! 🎙️

In this episode, Blaque sits down with Pastor Koketso Molaolwe to talk about his new book, The Unlikely Candidate, and the lessons behind his journey from an unlikely beginning to church planting, leadership and influence.

They get real about stewarding success, staying grounded when your profile grows, protecting your marriage and family, overcoming limiting beliefs, authenticity in the age of AI, a...

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[S3] EPISODE 29: WORK OVER YOUR FAMILY?

This episode started as a quick update to let you know why That Husband Podcast is taking a short break, but it became a much deeper conversation about the kind of husband I hope to be. As my wife and I navigate life with newborn twins, prepare to launch a church, and carry the weight of family, ministry, and business, I was reminded that no public platform is worth sacrificing the people waiting for you at...

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[S3] EPISODE 28: THE HARD WORK OF MARRIAGE

What begins as a light-hearted discussion about what we jokingly call "female crazy" quickly becomes something far deeper. Together, we unpack the moments in marriage when emotions seem to outrun logic, when miscommunication leaves both husband and wife feeling misunderstood, and when the person you love most somehow becomes the person who absorbs your deepest frustrations. This is not a conversation about men versus women. It is about learning to understand one another before we...

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[S3] EPISODE 27: HAS LOVE STOPPED FEELING EASY?

This episode was born out of the questions we could not finish answering at one of our live Beans and Bonds gatherings, but what unfolded became something much bigger than marriage advice. We wrestle with the hidden parts of ourselves that quietly follow us into our relationships, the survival strategies we developed as boys, the insecurities we keep buried, the secret expectations we never communicate and the longing for peace that we struggle to define...

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[S3] EPISODE 26: WHAT HE WISHES HIS WIFE UNDERSTOOD

What does it actually look like for a husband to feel celebrated? So much of marriage rightly teaches men to love sacrificially, to provide, to protect, and to give. But somewhere along the way, many husbands quietly begin to believe that being seen, appreciated, and emotionally known is something they should never ask for. In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack the silent loneliness many men carry, why affirmation matters more than most husbands...

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[S3] EPISODE 25: WHEN HIS SILENCE BECOMES A LOUD WOUND

In recognition of Men's Mental Health Month, we sit down and wrestle with a simple but haunting question: What were the things we could not say as boys? Long before we became husbands, fathers, leaders, and providers, we were boys trying to make sense of rejection, loneliness, fear, disappointment, insecurity, and pain. Many of us learned early that vulnerability was weakness, that tears were unacceptable, and that silence was safer than h...

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[S3] EPISODE 23: FATHERS WE NEED TO BE HONEST

This Father's Day, we talk about responsibility, legacy, preparation, and what happens to the people we love when life doesn't go according to plan. We unpack the financial, emotional, and practical realities of fatherhood, marriage, and leadership. From raising children and building family culture to preparing for the unexpected, this conversation challenges husbands to think beyond today and consider the future they are creating for the people who depend on them.

What...

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[S3] EPISODE 22: THE WOUNDS WE CARRY INTO MARRIAGE

Joined by Jabu Zwana, we explore marriage, healing, hypervigilance, childhood wounds, emotional maturity, and the often invisible ways our past shapes our present relationships. Jabu unpacks how our earliest experiences of love, safety, discipline, and belonging quietly become the blueprint through which we interpret marriage. What follows is not merely a conversation about relationships. It is a conversation about fear, identity, trauma, trust, and the difficult process of learning how to receive healthy love...

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[S3] EPISODE 21: YOU CANNOT HEAL WHAT YOU CANNOT ADMIT

Joined by Ian Henderson, we explore pornography, shame, father wounds, masculinity, accountability, and the lifelong journey of becoming whole. Ian shares the heartbreaking story of his father's secret addiction, the devastating consequences it had on his family, and how God used one of the darkest chapters of his life to birth a ministry that is now helping thousands of people find freedom. What follows is not merely a conversation about pornography. It is...

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[S3] EPISODE 20: BLEEDING ON THOSE YOU LOVE

Mlungisi opens up about growing up in a fractured home, wrestling with unforgiveness toward his father, navigating anger inside his marriage, and discovering that healing is not automatic just because you love God. Together, we unpack the quiet ways pain travels through generations and how unhealed parts of a man can slowly become collateral damage for the people he loves most.

This conversation is not built on perfection or polished answers. It is...

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[S3] EPISODE 19: NOT ALL MARRIAGES ARE BUILT THE SAME

This episode is about staying, choosing joy when life is heavy, when grief sits in the room with you, when money is tight, when dreams feel delayed, and when love demands more than feelings. King D Music opens up about dating his wife for six years before marriage, losing his father during one of the most defining seasons of his life, struggling through uncertainty, and learning that joy is not the same thing...

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[S3] EPISODE 18: A WEDDING & A FUNERAL

Marriage often begins with dreams, excitement, and hope, but what happens when joy and grief collide at the exact same moment? From navigating the loneliness of singleness and unrealistic expectations of love, to stepping into marriage while mourning the devastating loss of a father, this episode explores the hidden tensions many husbands silently carry but rarely speak about.

Together, we unpack the weight of trying to “show up” as a husband while internally falling apar...

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[S3] EPISODE 17: THE LIE OF THINKING THINGS ARE NOT THAT BAD

What happens when the pressure to provide, to lead, and to “have it all together” quietly exposes the cracks beneath the surface? In this episode, you step into a deeply honest conversation about the hidden battles men carry, the fear of failure, the weight of expectation, and the quiet ways past wounds shape how we show up in marriage. From unresolved disappointment to the instinct to fix instead of feel, this story invi...

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[S3] EPISODE 16: FROM A MESSY START TO A STRONG MARRIAGE

Becoming who you're meant to be before life demands it of you, before the responsibility, before the title, before the moment arrives? Or do you only discover who you are when everything is already on the line? In this episode, you step into a story that doesn’t begin at marriage, but in the unseen spaces where habits are formed, convictions are tested, and decisions quietly shape the man you are becoming. Yo...

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[S3] EPISODE 15: THE KIND OF FOCUS THAT MAKES YOU A MAN

Can a man become who he’s meant to be before life demands it of him? Before the responsibility, before the title, before the moment arrives? In this episode, we sit with a story that begins long before marriage, long before love, and long before the world sees the outcome.

From saving for a wife he hadn’t met yet, to being shaped by a present and intentional father, this...

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[S3] EPISODE 14: WHAT HAPPENED TO DATE NIGHTS?

Can a marriage hold when everything changes at once? When life accelerates, pressure builds, and the rhythms that once sustained you begin to slip? In this episode, we step into a deeply personal season as Blaque Nubon and his wife Lilly Million open up about the reality of their marriage right now where they quietly realise how easy it is to drift when life gets full.

What unfolds is not crisis, but clarity...

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[S3] EPISODE 13: YOU'RE NOT LIVING IN A MOVIE

Can you step into the tension between who you are, who you have been, and who you are becoming, and all this, in the presence of one woman who sees it all? 

Today, we explore the disorienting, yet sacred, moment when marriage asks us to consolidate every version of ourselves and offer it honestly. What begins to emerge is not performance, but process: the slow, sometimes clumsy journey of learning how to l...

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[S3] EPISODE 12: DOES MARRIAGE REALLY CHANGE US?

In this episode, the conversation moves into the sacred, often unspoken spaces that shape a man. What begins as a chance connection unfolds into a deeply human story of love, loss, and becoming. Through the weight of grief, losing a mother in the uncertainty of a pandemic, and the quiet strength of a woman who chose to step into that pain without hesitation, we are reminded that marriage is not built in perfect moments, but...

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[S3] EPISODE 11: BROKEN BUT NOT FINISHED

In this episode, we sit down with DJ Xtreme, a husband, father, and radio personality, for a conversation about failure, redemption, and the difficult road back to the life you once imagined. What begins as a story about relationships quickly becomes something deeper: an honest reflection on what it means to carry disappointment, confront your own choices, and still choose to build again

DJ Xtreme opens up about a season that reshaped his entire...

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[S3] EPISODE 10: WHAT'S YOUR LEGACY?

In this episode, we sit down with Rhangani Mbhalati, a husband, father, and chartered accountant, for a conversation that traces a journey from deep adversity to intentional legacy. What begins as a story of survival in a rural village quickly unfolds into something far more profound: a picture of discipline, responsibility, and the quiet determination required to change...

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[S3] EPISODE 9: A WARNING FOR YOUR EGO

In this episode, we sit down with Gift Maseko, a husband, father of two, and pastor of Jesus Every Church, for a conversation about integrity, accountability, and the quiet work of becoming the kind of man your family can trust. What begins as a story about ministry quickly becomes something deeper: an honest reflection on how easily a man can start living for the approval of people rather than the approval of God.

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[S3] EPISODE 8: PRESENT ON PURPOSE

In this episode, we sit down with DJ Sabby for a conversation that moves far beyond the spotlight and into the soul of a husband and father. Known to many as a confident voice on air and a vibrant public personality, Sabby opens up about the man behind the mic - the young boy who was deeply loved, the son shaped by legacy, and the husband anchored by intention.

We explore what it means to...

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S3] EPISODE 7: A WAKE UP CALL

This month, we intentionally create space for wives' voices, not to replace ours, but to enrich them. Because sometimes the greatest insight a husband can receive is hearing how he is seen, supported, and celebrated from across the table.

In this episode, we sit with Tebello Motshwane for a conversation that is thoughtful, layered, and deeply human. She challenges husbands to consider the unseen emotional baggage they carry into marriage, while offering practical insight i...

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[S3] EPISODE 6: I'M SECURE ENOUGH TO SUBMIT

This month, we intentionally create space for wives' voices, not to replace ours, but to enrich them. Because sometimes the greatest insight a husband can receive is hearing how he is seen, supported, and celebrated from across the table.

In this episode, we sit with  @MpoomyLedwaba  who leads boldly in the world yet chooses softness, reverence, and intentionality at home. She speaks about submission not as silence, but as strength. About celebration not as...

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[S3] EPISODE 5: WHAT I LEARNED TOO LATE

This Valentine’s season, That Husband Podcast flips the script. Instead of centering romance as something men must perform, we pause to ask a quieter, braver question: how are husbands celebrated, seen, and honoured? In this special episode, Blaque sit across the table not with another husband, but with an ex-wife, opening space for an honest, reflective conversation that many men rarely get access to.

Drawing from lived experience, healing, and hard-earned clarity, th...

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[S3] EPISODE 4: MARRIAGE ON AUTOPILOT

This Valentine’s season, That Husband Podcast flips the script. Instead of centering romance around wives alone, this episode creates space to ask a powerful and often overlooked question: how do wives intentionally celebrate and honour their husbands? In this conversation, we’re joined by Buli Makhubo who brings honesty, depth, and practical wisdom as she shares what it looks like to show up for her husband in ways that go beyond clichés.

Together, we ex...

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[S3] EPISODE 3: TRUST GOD OR STAY STUCK

Sitting across the table is a husband who understands that love is not about perfection, but about choosing to show up again and again, especially when you fall short. Together, we reflect on what it means to love sacrificially, to race to the back of the line, and to embrace servant leadership in a world that often teaches men to take rather than give.

We go deep into the realities that shape men...

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[S3] EPISODE 2: HAVE WE DEMONISED A GOOD THING?

In this episode, we slow the noise down and step into a conversation many husbands carry quietly but rarely articulate. What does connection really mean, not just physically, but spiritually, emotionally, and relationally? Through honest reflection and lived experience, we explore how true intimacy is far deeper than proximity or performance. It’s about being known, recognised, and met at a soul level, long before bodies come into play. This episode invites husbands to re...

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[S3] EPISODE 2: HAVE WE DEMONISED A GOOD THING?

In this episode, we slow the noise down and step into a conversation many husbands carry quietly but rarely articulate. What does connection really mean, not just physically, but spiritually, emotionally, and relationally? Through honest reflection and lived experience, we explore how true intimacy is far deeper than proximity or performance. It’s about being known, recognised, and met at a soul level, long before bodies come into play. This episode invites husbands to re...

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[S3] EPISODE 1: BEING THE HEAD IS COSTLY

This episode is a conversation between husbands who are still learning what it truly means to be married. We reflect on how many of us entered marriage well-intentioned but underprepared, carrying single-life rhythms, unchecked assumptions, and a shallow understanding of leadership, submission, and accountability. What we once labelled as “control,” we now begin to recognize as covenant responsibility. This episode names the quiet shock many men experience when marriage asks more of us than we expe...

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[S2] EPISODE 47: THE GROOTMAN'S TABLE

In this episode, we sit down for a real and honest conversation about masculinity, what it means today, how society defines it, and how men actually experience it. Instead of reacting to loud cultural narratives, we slow things down and look at masculinity through the lens of everyday life: responsibility, identity, pressure, leadership, and the quiet questions men rarely get space to ask.

We break the conversation into three parts, starting with the mind, how...

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[S2] EPISODE 46: YOU CAN LEVEL UP

This episode is about the real journey of becoming men who refuse to settle for comfort when growth is calling. We dive into the moments that break us open, the decisions that reshape our identity, and the brave, often painful process of letting go of the boy so that the man can emerge. If you’ve ever felt stuck, unsure, or overwhelmed by the weight of who you’re trying to become, this conversation will find you...

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[S2] EPISODE 45: HEARING A MAN

In this episode, we journey into the inner world of husbands who are trying to grow, heal, and show up better than the men who raised them. Danny joins Blaque for a deeply transparent conversation about the complexities of manhood, the weight of provision, and the quiet battles men fight long before anyone sees the cracks. From confronting generational cycles to redefining what it means to be healthy as a husband, this episode invites men to finally...

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[S2] EPISODE 44: REDEFINING PRESENCE

In this episode, we sit down for one of our most honest and soul-stirring conversations yet. TK opens up about his journey as a husband and father in a way that feels both familiar and deeply challenging as he reflects on what it means to grow into the kind of man who protects his home not only with provision but also with presence, tenderness, and intention. His story reminds us that marriage matures us, shapes us, a...

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[S2] EPISODE 43: THE SHUT DOWN

There are moments when a nation’s wounds demand more than words, they demand repentance and resolve. In this episode, I step into one of South Africa’s most urgent conversations, gender-based violence and the purple wave spreading across our country. What may look like a trend on social media is, in truth, a cry for justice, a cry that echoes through every home, every marriage, and every man’s heart. This isn’t about pointing fingers, it’s abo...

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[S2] EPISODE 43: THE WEIGHT OF ROLE MODELS

In this deeply reflective conversation, Blaque Nubon sits down with Tumelo, a husband molded by faith, shaped by his father, and stretched by love, to talk about what it really means to become the man your family can lean on. From the illusion of potential to the reality of presence, Tumelo shares the inner wrestle of a husband who grew up with a godly example and now faces the sacred pressure of raising the bar...

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[S2] EPISODE 42: WHEN FAITH IS TESTED

Marriage will test every part of a man, not to break him, but to reveal what’s real. In this episode of That Husband Podcast, Blaque sits down with Gregory Cassim for a raw, redemptive, and deeply personal conversation about fatherhood, faith, and the long road from brokenness to covenant.

From infertility and loss to the miracle of fatherhood, from growing up in the hood to leading a family and a church, Greg opens up...

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[S2] EPISODE 41: INTENTIONAL BUILDING BLOCKS

Marriage isn’t for the fainthearted, it’s for men who are willing to die to self so that love can live. In this episode of That Husband Podcast, Blaque sits down with Luxolo Kentane for a brutally honest and beautifully redemptive conversation about what it truly means to lead, love, and live faithfully in marriage. From the quiet sacrifices to the loud laughter, from words that heal to wounds that teach, this one goes deep into the...

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[S2] EPISODE 40: COMMITMENT

In this week's episode, we sit down with Tebogo Maribe, a husband, father, and man who has walked through seasons of loss, rebuilding, and redemption. From the sting of unemployment to the tension of wanting to provide but being unable to, Tebza opens up about the realities many husbands face but rarely voice. His story isn’t just about surviving hard times, it’s about choosing faith, humility, and responsibility even when life humbles you.

As we dive...

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[S2] EPISODE 39: MARRIAGE REALITIES

In this episode of That Husband Podcast, Blaque Nubon sits down with husband, father, and community builder Papi Luu, a man whose story is as real as it is inspiring. From humble beginnings on a sleeper couch to leading an organization that’s transforming lives, Papi’s journey is a reminder that manhood is not about perfection but about progress, purpose, and perseverance. He opens up about love, leadership, and legacy, and what it really means to carry the...