Heart Of A Husband
Welcome to "Heart Of A Husband", the podcast dedicated to exploring the journey of becoming a husband who loves his wife with the selflessness and devotion exemplified by Christ's love for the church. Join us as we delve into meaningful discussions about fostering communication, nurturing emotional intimacy, and embracing sacrificial love within marriage.Our podcast combines biblical wisdom with real-life stories and practical advice. Each episode features insights from experts in relationships, marriage counseling, and theology, as well as heartfelt conversations with couples who have embraced this transformative love in their own lives.Whether you're newly married or celebrating years...
What Do I Do When I Fail?
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What do you do when you fail—especially when your choices hurt the people you love?
In Season 4, Episode 3 of Heart of a Husband, Paul Harris talks about responding to failure with honesty, humility, and faith. Failure can leave us wanting to hide, make excuses, or believe we’ll never change. Jesus invites us to bring our failures into the light, take responsibility, and receive the grace that helps us move forward.
For husbands, saying “I’m sorry” matters. So does listening, making things right where we can, and rebui...
Abide & Bear Fruit: How Staying Close to Jesus Changes Your Marriage
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You can be productive all day and still come home with little left to give. So how do we become husbands whose faith produces fruit our families actually experience?
In Season 4, Episode 2 of Heart of a Husband, Paul Harris explores John 15 and Jesus’ invitation to abide in Him. Lasting fruit grows from our connection with Jesus—and that fruit should shape how we listen, respond, serve, and love at home.
We’ll explore the difference between productivity and fruitfulness, why trying harder isn’t enough, and how remaining cl...
What Do You Have?
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What if the answer to your prayer begins with something God has already placed in your hands?
In 2 Kings 4, a widow facing an impossible situation tells Elisha she has nothing—except a small jar of oil. What appeared insignificant became the starting point for God’s miraculous provision.
In the first episode of Season 4, Paul Harris challenges us to stop focusing only on what we lack and surrender what we already have to God. Your experience, gift, testimony, opportunity, or act of obedience may seem sma...
I Don't Know How To Regain My Wife's Trust
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What do you do when you've broken trust... and you don't know how to get it back?
In this episode of the Heart of a Husband Podcast, Paul Harris has an honest conversation about one of the hardest questions a man can ask:
"I don't know how to regain my wife's trust."
Whether trust was damaged by dishonesty, pornography, anger, emotional distance, or years of small compromises, healing rarely happens overnight.
Trust isn't rebuilt through bigger promises.
It's...
I'm Failing And I Don't Know How To Fix It.
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A lot of men are carrying pressure they never talk about.
Pressure to provide.
Pressure to lead.
Pressure to hold everything together.
And when things aren’t going well at home, spiritually, financially, or emotionally… many men quietly start believing the lie:
“I’m failing.”
In this episode of the Heart of a Husband Podcast, Paul talks honestly about shame, discouragement, identity, and the difference between trying harder versus surrendering deeper.
This conversation is for the man who feels stuck, tired, fr...
I'm Here But I'm Not Present
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Most men think being present means being home.
But you can sit on the same couch, sleep in the same bed, and still leave your wife feeling completely alone.
In this episode of the Heart of a Husband Podcast, Paul talks about one of the quietest dangers in marriage: emotional distance. From distraction and stress to drifting spiritually, this conversation challenges men to move beyond simply being around and start becoming intentionally present.
You’ll hear practical ways to reconnect with your wife, why attention matter...
Leading From the Inside Out – Part 3: A Clear Vision for Your Home
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Most homes don’t drift because of disaster.
They drift because of distraction.
In this final part of the Leading From the Inside Out series, Paul talks about the importance of vision in the home. Spiritual leadership isn’t about control or perfection — it’s about clarity.
When a husband learns to abide in Christ and walk in humility, he is then able to lead with direction and purpose. Without vision, homes tend to default to busyness, distraction, and survival. But with vision, a family can begin to...
Leading From the Inside Out – Part 2: Humility Makes a Home Safe
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Leading From the Inside Out – Part 2: Humility Makes a Home Safe
Most husbands don’t struggle with knowing what’s right.
They struggle with pride.
In this episode of Heart of a Husband, Paul talks about the role humility plays in spiritual leadership at home. Real leadership isn’t built on always being right — it’s built on creating a safe, honest, grace-filled environment where your wife and kids can thrive.
Through Scripture and real-life reflection, this conversation challenges men to look inwa...
Leading From the Inside Out – Part 1: Becoming a Follower Before You Lead
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Many Christian husbands feel the pressure to be the spiritual leader of their home — but very few were ever shown how to become a consistent follower of Jesus first.
In this episode, Paul talks honestly about the foundation of spiritual leadership: abiding in Christ. Before a man can lead his wife and family well, he must learn to walk closely with the Lord himself.
If you’ve ever felt distracted, inconsistent in your time with God, or unsure where to start, this conversation will encourage you to slow dow...
Showing Up When You’re Running on Empty
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What do you do when you’re still responsible… but running low?
In this episode, we talk about the quiet place many men find themselves — still showing up for work, still leading at home, still loving their family — but feeling empty on the inside.
We’ve been taught that good leaders operate from overflow.
But what if faithfulness sometimes looks like showing up when your tank isn’t full?
Looking at 2 Corinthians 12:9 (ESV) — “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in we...
You’re Tired, Not Weak
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Many men assume that if they were stronger, more disciplined, or more faithful, they wouldn’t feel so exhausted.
But what if your fatigue isn’t a sign of failure?
What if it’s evidence that you’ve been carrying real weight for a long time?
In this episode, we confront a lie many husbands believe quietly: “Being tired means I’m doing something wrong.” We talk honestly about leadership fatigue, overcommitment, and the pressure men feel to stay strong without slowing down.
More importantly, we lis...
You’re Becoming—and Your Marriage Feels It
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Last week, we talked about this powerful truth: you’re not broken—you’re becoming.
But here’s the next question every husband needs to ask:
What is my becoming doing to my marriage?
In this episode, Paul explores how spiritual formation doesn’t stay personal—it always becomes relational. The work God is doing in you as a son is meant to shape how you show up as a husband. When a man lives from secure sonship instead of striving, his marriage feels the difference.<...
You're Not Broken, You're Becoming
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Have you ever wondered if you’ve messed up too much to become the man, husband, or father God created you to be?
In this opening episode of Season 3, we confront one of the most common—and quiet—lies men carry: “I’m too far gone.” Many husbands feel tired, discouraged, and weighed down by past mistakes, unmet expectations, and the pressure to fix what feels broken.
But what if your struggle isn’t a sign of failure?
What if it’s evidence that God is still forming you?
Surviving The Holiday Season
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The holidays are supposed to be joyful—but for many men, they feel heavy.
In this Season 2 finale of the Heart of a Husband Podcast, Paul speaks directly to the pressure men carry during the holidays: financial strain, emotional expectations, family dynamics, exhaustion, and the quiet weight of trying to hold everything together.
This episode isn’t about escaping the pressure—it’s about standing strong in the middle of it.
You’ll be encouraged and equipped to:
Lead your home with p...Gratitude Saved My Marriage
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When life gets heavy, gratitude often feels like the last thing a man wants to practice. But what if it’s actually the key to emotional strength, spiritual clarity, and a healthier marriage?
In this episode, Paul unpacks how gratitude reframes your reality, softens the rough edges of your spirit, and reconnects you to your wife in ways stress and pressure have tried to shut down. Backed by Scripture and research, you’ll discover why gratitude isn’t a seasonal idea—it’s a strategic discipline that can transform the way you le...
The Power Of Community - Part 2
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You don’t confess to be punished — you confess to be free.
In this second part of The Power of Community series, Paul Harris shares how real strength is found when men stop hiding and start helping each other carry the weight.
Using James 5:16 and Galatians 6:2, Paul unpacks how confession opens the door to healing and why true brotherhood means bearing burdens, not judging hearts.
You’ll also hear this week’s Husbands Want to Know segment — tackling what to do when trust has been...
The Power of Community — Why Every Husband Needs Brothers in Christ
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Every husband faces moments of pressure, temptation, and isolation — but no man was meant to walk alone.
In this episode of Heart of a Husband, Paul Harris unpacks why every man needs brothers in Christ — men who lift you up when you fall, speak truth when you drift, and remind you who you are when life gets heavy.
Drawing from Ecclesiastes 4 and Hebrews 10, and inspired by a story from John Eldredge’s Wild at Heart, Paul shares how real brotherhood brings strength, healing, and spiritual protection...
The Hug Test: Why Small Touches Build Big Connection
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Did you know that something as simple as a hug can change the atmosphere of your marriage? In this episode of Heart of a Husband, we explore the power of intentional touch and why physical connection outside the bedroom matters more than most husbands realize.
We’ll unpack why hugs lower stress, build safety, and create intimacy, and I’ll give you a simple framework to start practicing “The Hug Test” in your own marriage this week. You’ll discover how three intentional hugs a day can bring you and your wife...
The Marriage Superpower You Didn’t Know You Had
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What if I told you that you already have a superpower in your marriage—and you may not even know it? In this episode of Heart of a Husband, we’ll uncover the hidden strengths God has already placed in you to make your wife feel loved, safe, and pursued. It’s not about grand gestures or expensive gifts—it’s the small, consistent things that often mean the most.
We’ll talk about how to discover your unique “marriage superpower,” how to use it with purpose, and why it has the power to...
Leading Like Jesus, Part 2: The Lamb
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In Leading Like Jesus: The Lamb, explore how humility, gentleness, and sacrificial love transform your marriage. Discover why serving without keeping score, listening with compassion, and laying down pride are essential for loving your wife like Christ. A must-listen for Christian husbands who want biblical wisdom for a stronger, more intimate relationship.
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Leading Like Jesus, Part 1: The Lion
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Jesus is both the Lion and the Lamb—and husbands are called to reflect both. In Part 1 of this powerful two-part series, we explore what it means to lead like the Lion of Judah: strong, courageous, and fiercely committed to protecting and guiding your home.
You'll learn how to lead with conviction without controlling, how to be strong without being harsh, and how real strength starts with spiritual surrender. If you've ever wondered what godly leadership looks like in marriage—this episode is for you.
Plus, do...
What To Do When You've Drifted
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Drift happens in every marriage—it’s not always dramatic, it’s just real. Life gets busy, routines take over, and before you know it, you and your wife feel more like roommates than partners.
In this episode of Heart of a Husband, Paul shares a story from a recent trip to Florida that perfectly illustrates what happens when we stop staying intentionally connected. You’ll learn:
Why drifting apart is normal—but staying apart is optionalWhat Revelation 2 teaches us about remembering our first love3 practical ways to reconnect emot...Leading When You Don’t Feel Like a Leader
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Have you ever felt like your mistakes disqualified you from leading your home? You're not alone.
In this episode of Heart of a Husband, Paul shares a raw and personal story about losing confidence as a leader—especially after a season of failure. From the Garden of Eden to his own marriage, Paul unpacks how shame has always been the enemy's weapon… and how God’s grace is the answer.
This episode will encourage any husband who’s hiding behind guilt, unsure how to lead spiritually, or feeling like...
What Did I Promise? (Part 2 – For Better Or Worse)
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It’s easy to love when everything’s good.
But the vow you made wasn’t just for better—it was also for worse.
In this episode, we dive into what it means to stay, serve, and love when life gets hard. Whether you're facing emotional distance, financial stress, conflict, or crisis, this episode will remind you that your commitment wasn't conditional—it was covenant.
Jesus loved us at our worst. We’re called to do the same.
Scripture: Romans 5:8 | 1 Corinthians 13:7
Husband’s Love Challenge: As...
What Did I Promise? (Part 1 – Covenant, Not Contract)
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When you stood at the altar, you didn’t just say a few nice words—you made a covenant.
In this episode, we dive into what marriage really is: not a contract built on performance, but a sacred covenant built on commitment. Paul breaks down the biblical foundation for marriage, unpacks the generational shift in how we view vows, and challenges you to live out what you promised with intention and integrity.
Whether you’ve been married for 3 years or 30, this episode will remind you of the weight—and...
Marriage Through the Generations: Wisdom for the Long Road (with Dan Kuert)
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In this final installment of Marriage Through the Generations, we’re joined by Dan Kuert, a husband of over 50 years, whose life and marriage testify to what it means to love faithfully over the long haul.
From raising a family to walking through hardships, Dan shares raw, timeless wisdom on building a marriage that lasts—not just for years, but for generations. This episode is packed with practical advice, godly perspective, and encouragement for every man who wants to grow in how he loves, leads, and live...
Marriage Through the Generations: The Middle Years
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In this second episode of our Marriage Through the Generations series, we dive into the middle years of marriage—the space where love matures, life gets full, and leadership as a husband is tested and refined.
This week, we're joined by Jon Cron, founder of Solace Coffee, a man on mission to create rest and connection in a world that never stops. Married for over a decade, Jon brings real, raw, and refreshing insight into what it means to pursue your wife in the middle of the...
Marriage Through the Generations: The Newlywed Years
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In the first episode of our brand-new series Marriage Through the Generations, we sit down with Josh Hinzman, a local pastor from Nixa, Missouri, who has been married for nearly three years.
Josh opens up about the expectations he brought into marriage, the growth he’s experienced, and the lessons he’s learning as a young husband learning to lead with love. From communication struggles to spiritual unity, Josh shares what it’s really like in the early years of marriage—and how his...
Walking in the Spirit in Marriage: Part 3
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In the final episode of our Walking in the Spirit in Your Marriage series, we focus on three essential fruits that can transform your relationship: faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. These qualities are not just ideals but daily choices that strengthen your commitment, deepen your connection, and bring peace to your home.
In this episode, we’ll explore:
Faithfulness – Staying steadfast in your love and commitment, even when marriage feels hard.Gentleness – Responding with kindness and patience, even in moments of frustration.Self-Contr...Walking in the Spirit in Marriage: Part 2
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In this episode of Heart of a Husband, we’re continuing our multi-episode series on Living Out the Fruit of the Spirit in Marriage. This week, we’re diving into Patience, Kindness, and Goodness—three powerful qualities that can transform how you lead, love, and serve your wife.
✅ Patience – How to stay calm and present, even in frustrating moments.
✅ Kindness – The small, everyday actions that build intimacy and trust.
✅ Goodness – Living with integrity and leading your marriage with character.
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Walking in the Spirit in Marriage
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In this episode of Heart of a Husband, we’re kicking off a multi-episode series on Living Out the Fruit of the Spirit in Your Home. Today, we’re diving into Love, Joy, and Peace—three foundational qualities that can transform your marriage. How do you truly love your wife like Christ loves the church? What does it look like to cultivate joy and contentment in your home, even when life is challenging? And how can you become a peacemaker in your marriage<...
Seeing Yourself as God Sees You: Living as Sons of God
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Welcome to Season 2 of Heart of a Husband! In this first episode of the new year, we dive deep into how the way we see ourselves shapes how we show up as husbands, fathers, and leaders. Many of us struggle with shame and self-doubt, allowing our mistakes to define us—but the truth is, our identity is rooted in something far greater.
As sons of God, our worth is not determined by our failures but by His unfailing love for us. Drawing on powerful scriptures like Psalm 103:13-14, we’ll explo...
The Christmas Call: Peace on Earth, Good Will to Men
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In this special Christmas episode of Heart of a Husband, we explore the powerful message of "peace on earth and good will to men" proclaimed at the birth of Jesus. Join host Paul as he unpacks what it means to be a peacemaker in your home and beyond during this sacred season. Learn practical ways to create an atmosphere of calm, speak words of life, and reflect Christ's love to your family and community. With inspiring biblical truths and a heartfelt Husband's Love Challenge, this episode will encourage you to lead your...
From the Inside Out: A Conversation with Jeremy Williamson
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In this week's episode of Heart of a Husband, I had the privilege of sitting down with Jeremy Williamson, our guest speaker for the upcoming Heart of a Husband men’s retreat. Jeremy shares his insights on personal growth, faith, and the transformative power of addressing internal issues to strengthen relationships. This candid conversation offers a preview of the impactful wisdom Jeremy will bring to the retreat and is a must-listen for any man seeking to lead his home with purpose and intentionality.
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Grateful Husbands: The Power of Thanksgiving in Marriage
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In this special Thanksgiving episode of Heart of a Husband, we dive into the transformative power of gratitude in marriage. Discover how cultivating a thankful heart can strengthen your relationship with your wife, reflect Christ’s love, and bring joy to your home. Paul shares practical tips for expressing daily gratitude, the biblical foundation for thankfulness, and how a spirit of thanksgiving can lead to a more fulfilling and connected marriage.
Plus, in our Husband’s Want to Know segment, we answer the question: “How do I handle feeling unapprecia...
Unpacking Baggage in Marriage: Finding Freedom from Past Wounds
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In this week’s episode of Heart Of A Husband, Paul dives into how unresolved issues from childhood, past relationships, and personal struggles can create hidden barriers in marriage. Discover how to recognize and release the emotional baggage that may be affecting your relationship. With 1 Peter 5:7 as our foundation—"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you"—we’ll explore practical steps to find freedom and build a stronger, Christ-centered marriage. Join us as we unpack the past to nurture a marriage that reflects God’s healing and love.
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Keeping the Covenant: Living Out Your Marriage Vows Daily
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n this episode of Heart of a Husband, we dive deep into what it means to keep the marriage vows we made at the altar. Marriage isn’t just a contract—it’s a covenant before God and our spouse. Join us as we reflect on the promises we made to love, honor, and cherish, and explore how to live these commitments out every day. Are you keeping the heart of your vows, or have you drifted from those words over time? Discover practical ways to renew your commitment, strengthen your marriage...
The Disconnect Dilemma: Rebuilding Intimacy in Marriage
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In this episode of Heart of a Husband, we dive into one of the most challenging yet important areas of marriage: intimacy. When Adam and Eve were first created, they were naked and unashamed, but after sin entered, shame followed. Many husbands and wives today experience a similar disconnect, feeling distant emotionally and physically in their relationship. But there's hope.
Join us as we explore the deep connection between emotional and physical intimacy, the struggles that both husbands and wives face in this area, and how we can begin to r...
Lead Like Jesus: The Power of Serving Your Family as a Husband
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In this episode of Heart Of A Husband, we explore one of the most powerful truths about leadership in marriage: true leadership begins with service. Inspired by the ultimate example of Christ, who came not to be served but to serve, we’ll dive into what it means for Christian husbands to lead their families by putting their needs first.
Discover practical ways to serve your wife and children while still leading with authority and love. We’ll break down how biblical leadership is rooted in humility, and how husbands...
Husbands, Find Rest in Jesus – The Secret of the Yoke
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In this episode of the Heart Of A Husband podcast, we dive into Matthew 11:28-30 and explore how yoking ourselves to Jesus can lighten the burdens we carry as husbands. So often, we try to handle the pressures of life on our own, but Jesus offers us an invitation to find true rest. We’ll discuss the importance of surrender, partnership with Jesus, and practical steps to experience His peace in our daily lives. Plus, we'll tackle the question, "What does it mean to yoke ourselves to Jesus practically?" and share this w...
