Own Your Pleasure

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle continue to delve into the intricacies of their Dominant-Submissive (DS) dynamic, addressing more questions from YOU, their community. They explore the importance of setting boundaries, the nuances of establishing a DS relationship, and the significance of communication and presence in kink. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness, confidence, and the playful aspects of maintaining a healthy dynamic. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips for navigating the complexities of pleasure and intimacy within queer relationships.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle delve into their dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic, discussing how it enhances their relationship. While answering YOUR questions they explore the importance of consent, communication, and vulnerability in navigating their unique connection. The conversation highlights the empowering aspects of their dynamic, the significance of aftercare, and how their relationship fosters intimacy and trust.

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The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss building satisfaction in relationships through psychological interventions, focusing on mindset crafting, understanding different couple archetypes, and practical strategies for enhancing intimacy and desire.

Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss the complexities of desire, intimacy, and vulnerability in relationships. Topics include managing differing libidos, building safety and trust, and redefining what pleasure means in modern relationships.

Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller connects with Christabel Mintah-Galloway. Christabel is a writer, nurse and a relational skills teacher. In this episode they explore the importance of embracing diverse relationships, the power of vulnerability and accountability, and the significance of authenticity in both personal and professional spaces. They discuss how healing can be a political act and the necessity of creating safe spaces for healing and growth. The dialogue emphasizes the need for radical honesty and the value of prioritizing pleasure and personal growth in life.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller connects with Christabel Mintah-Galloway. Christabel is a writer, nurse and a relational skills teacher. In this episode Christabel shares her journey of navigating relational skills, community building, and the importance of being in touch with one's body. She discusses the impact of trauma on intuition and the significance of authenticity in relationships. The dialogue emphasizes the need for interdependence and reciprocity within communities, as well as the importance of self-discovery and patience in personal growth. Christabel encourages listeners to embrace their pleasure and connect with their bodies as a...

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Vicki and Nicole, a couple who recently married after completing Whitni's signature BDE coaching program. They discuss their journey of discovering intimacy, communication, and the tools that helped them navigate their relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of prioritizing oneself, the evolution of their understanding of intimacy, and the joy of making significant life decisions together. The couple shares their experiences with emotional tools that have enhanced their connection and how they are preparing for a new chapter in their lives.

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In this heartfelt episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guests Vicky and Nicole explore the journey of intimacy and connection in relationships, particularly within the queer community. They discuss the challenges faced in their relationship, the importance of seeking help through therapy and coaching, and the significance of communication and understanding intimacy. They share their experiences of navigating pressures around intimacy, the turning points in their relationship, and the ongoing practices that help them maintain a strong connection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and personal growth in fostering healthy relationships. Vicky...

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guest, Dr. Michelle Gordon, discuss the complexities of hormonal changes in women, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. Dr. Gordon emphasizes the importance of understanding how weight impacts hormonal health and the misconceptions surrounding weight loss. The discussion also covers sexual health, the role of various hormones, and the significance of finding a supportive healthcare provider who listens to women's concerns.

Dr. Michelle Gordon is Board Certified in Obesity Medicine, Lifestyle Medicine, and General Surgery and is a Telehealth Innovator. After building and running...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Dr. Lex Brown James continue their conversation and explore the intricate dynamics of relationships, trauma, and pleasure. They discuss the importance of understanding personal values in relationships, navigating trauma, and expanding the concept of sexual pleasure. The conversation emphasizes the need for community, curiosity, and joy in the face of societal challenges, while also addressing the significance of self-care and training one's social media algorithms to foster positive connections. 

Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame f...

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guest, Dr. Michelle Gordon, discuss the complexities of menopause, hormonal changes, and the healthcare system's treatment of women's health issues. Dr. Gordon emphasizes the importance of finding a doctor who listens, the impact of the Women's Health Initiative on hormone therapy, and the cultural dismissal of women's health concerns. Dr. Gordon advocates for a holistic approach to treatment, recognizing obesity as a disease and the need for hormone optimization to improve quality of life. The discussion also touches on the importance of self-advocacy and the...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Dr. Lex Brown James discuss the importance of self-care, navigating the current political climate, and how societal issues impact personal relationships. They explore the significance of intimacy, values, and community in fostering healthy connections, while also emphasizing the need to protect joy and vitality amidst challenging times. The discussion highlights the complexities of relationships in the context of differing political beliefs and the importance of understanding and supporting one another.

Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for...

In this episode Whitni discusses the complexities of libido differences in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding intimacy, communication, and connection. She outlines her remaining key things not to do when navigating these differences as well as their counterparts. She also shares how she can help.

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In this episode Whitni discusses the complexities of libido differences in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding intimacy, communication, and connection. She outlines the first few of her key things not to do when navigating these differences.

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In this episode Whitni continues her conversation with Erin Brown. They continue to explore various themes surrounding kink, pleasure, and sexual identity, particularly within the lesbian community. They discuss the misconceptions of 'lesbian bed death,” the importance of emotional intimacy, and the creative ways in which queer relationships navigate sexual satisfaction. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of energetic connections and vulnerability in intimate relationships, while also challenging societal norms around sex and attraction.

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This month Whitni talks with Erin Brown, a public sociologist and host of the Lesbian Peep Show podcast. They explore the complexities of lesbian identity, the stigma surrounding lesbian sex, and the cultural narratives that shape perceptions of pleasure. They discuss the importance of representation in media, the role of kink and consent in sexual exploration, and the empowerment that comes from self-discovery. The dialogue emphasizes the need for authentic representation of queer experiences and the liberation that comes from embracing one's desires.

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In this month’s second episode, the conversation continues between Whitni Miller and Aleece Fosnight as they delve into the complexities of libido, hormones, and sexual health, emphasizing the importance of understanding the biopsychosocial model. They discuss the role of mental health in sexual desire, the impact of medical trauma on patient care, and the necessity for inclusive and trauma-informed healthcare environments. The conversation also highlights the need for comprehensive sex education and the challenges faced by queer individuals in accessing appropriate care. Finally, they explore future innovations in hormonal treatments and the importance of patient ad...

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In this month’s first episode, Whitni Miller, founder of BDE Moves, sits down with the founder of The Fosnight Center, Aleece Fosnight. They explore the multifaceted aspects of health, particularly focusing on sexual health, perimenopause, and the biopsychosocial model of care. They discuss the importance of recognizing women's worth beyond reproductive capabilities, the complexities of hormonal changes during perimenopause, and the need for inclusivity in healthcare for non-binary and trans individuals. They emphasize the significance of listening to patients and the necessity for more research in these areas. 

Aleece Fosnight obtained a Master of...

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In this month’s second episode, the conversation continues between licensed sex therapist Claire Perelman and Whitni Miller. They explore the themes of pleasure, self-acceptance, and the importance of aftercare in sexual relationships. The speakers discuss how embracing pleasure can serve as a form of resistance against societal norms, the significance of aftercare in ensuring emotional safety, and the role of self-acceptance in enhancing sexual enjoyment. They emphasize the need for open communication and negotiation in intimate relationships, the power of playfulness in rekindling desire, and the importance of building a shared language around sexual preferences. Ul...

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In this month’s first episode, licensed sex therapist Claire Perelman and Whitni Miller discuss the principles of kink and how they can enhance any sexual relationship. The discussion covers the importance of negotiation, checking in during intimacy, and the playful aspects of sex. They emphasize that kink is not just about BDSM but can be a tool for self-acceptance and deeper connection in all types of relationships. They also highlight the need for intentionality in creating a sexual context that fosters desire and pleasure.

Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish, Certified Se...

In this continuation of the enlightening conversation Dr. Kelly Casperson and host Whitni Miller are having, the discussion addresses the significant impact of hormones on women's health, particularly during menopause. They emphasize the importance of understanding and utilizing hormones like DHEA and estrogen for maintaining sexual health and overall well-being. The discussion also continues to address more common misconceptions about hormone replacement therapy and the societal stigma surrounding it, advocating for a more informed and empowered approach to women's health.

Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon,CEO and founder of The Casperson Clinic, a modern...

In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Kelly Casperson and host Whitni Miller delve into the often misunderstood topics of perimenopause and menopause. They explore the definitions, symptoms, and societal stigmas surrounding these life stages, emphasizing the importance of hormone health and the potential benefits of hormone replacement therapy. The discussion highlights the need for better education and awareness regarding women's health, intimacy, and the impact of aging on overall well-being.

Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon,CEO and founder of The Casperson Clinic, a modern practice dedicated to hormones and sex medicine, renowned public speaker, sex...

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In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, Dr. Emily Jamea and Whitni explore the complexities of sexual relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, vulnerability, and playfulness. They discuss how to navigate awkwardness in conversations about sex, the significance of transition rituals, and the difference between attunement and enmeshment. The discussion also touches on the paradox of control and surrender, the role of mirror neurons in connection, and the need for courage in overcoming self-consciousness. Ultimately, they highlight that sex can be a nourishing part of life at any stage and encourage listeners to embrace their desires...

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In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, your host Whitni Miller and this month’s esteemed guest, Dr. Emily Jamea discuss the concept of flow state sex, exploring how individuals can enhance their sexual experiences by fostering mindfulness, presence, and connection with their partners. The discussion delves into the differences between 'good enough' sex and flow state sex, emphasizing the importance of trust, security, and communication in relationships. Dr. Jamea shares insights on how to cultivate a fulfilling sexual experience by balancing challenge and skill, setting goals, and reconnecting with one's sensuality and curiosity.

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In this continued conversation, Whitni, Ash, and Dawn explore the intricate dynamics of pleasure, intimacy, and emotional safety within queer relationships. They delve into the concept of flow state, emphasizing its importance in enhancing connection and intimacy. The discussion highlights the significance of understanding desire, whether responsive or spontaneous, and the necessity of communication and consent in fostering a satisfying sexual experience. The conversation culminates in the idea that pleasure is not only a personal journey but also a form of liberation, encouraging couples to embrace their desires and build secure, fulfilling relationships.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni engages with queer couples experts Ash and Dawn Noble to explore the intricate relationship between emotional safety and sexual intimacy in queer relationships. They discuss the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and communication in fostering deeper connections, as well as the challenges posed by societal norms and assumptions. The conversation highlights the significance of daily rituals, aftercare, and the messiness of relationships, ultimately emphasizing that security in a relationship can lead to greater exploration and fulfillment in the bedroom.

Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a...

In this engaging conversation, Whitni Miller and her guest Enita explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy in healthcare. They discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in the context of sexual satisfaction as one ages. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of self-worth and the journey of discovering pleasure throughout life, highlighting that intimacy and eroticism can evolve and deepen over time. The speakers encourage listeners to embrace their desires and advocate for their pleasure, regardless of age or past experiences.

Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita discuss the complexities of pleasure and intimacy as one ages. They explore the physical and psychological changes that come with aging, including menopause, body image issues, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships, setting boundaries, and finding creative solutions to enhance sexual enjoyment. They also touch on the significance of using lubrication, sex toys, and embracing vulnerability to maintain a fulfilling sex life. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to break societal taboos surrounding aging and sexuality, promoting a...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita Torres explore the multifaceted aspects of menopause, sexual wellness, and the importance of body positivity. They discuss the societal norms surrounding aging and sexuality, the connection between overall health and sexual pleasure, and the journey of self-discovery that comes with embracing one's desires. The dialogue emphasizes the need for open conversations about sex, the impact of performance pressure, and the liberation found in choosing pleasure as a path to selflessness.

Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages in a heartfelt conversation with Enita Torres, a 66-year-old queer woman who shares her journey of self-discovery, love, and the challenges of navigating her queer identity in a challenging environment. The discussion covers Enita's experiences with custody battles, societal norms surrounding queerness, the importance of intimacy and trust in relationships, and the impact of menopause on sexuality. The episode emphasizes the significance of owning one's pleasure and celebrating personal transitions.

Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt...

00:00 Introduction to Owning Your Pleasure
01:59 Navigating Kinks and Open-Mindedness in Relationships
04:28 Understanding Anxiety and Performance in Sexual Dynamics
12:07 Exploring Submission and Dominance in Kink
15:38 Desiring More Intensity in BDSM Relationships
22:30 Normalizing Sexual Thoughts and Desires
25:04 Overcoming Orgasm Challenges in Partnered Sex
30:44 Navigating Intimacy and Communication in Relationships

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller addresses various questions related to sexual pleasure, kinks, and intimacy. The conversation covers topics such as the importance of open communication in relationships, navigating anxiety and performance issues in sexual dynamics, exploring submission a...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitney Miller addresses various questions related to intimacy, sexual desires, and relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality time in relationships, navigating differences in libido, and the significance of open communication about sexual needs. Additionally, the discussion explores the introduction of kink and BDSM dynamics, as well as strategies for initiating intimacy in a way that respects both partners' comfort levels.

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In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Uchenna Ossai about the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-discovery, particularly within marginalized communities. They explore the concept of freedom in relation to pleasure, the importance of understanding one's own body, and the journey of navigating pain and joy. Dr. Ossai emphasizes the significance of awareness, self-advocacy, and the need to create space for joy in our lives. The discussion also touches on the challenges of receiving pleasure and the impact of societal pressures on personal experiences of joy and intimacy.<...

In this conversation, Whitni Miller and Tuesday Feral discuss the challenges and strategies for non-binary and trans individuals in navigating pleasure and intimacy. They explore the impact of dysphoria on sexual experiences and the importance of finding ways to feel comfortable in one's body. They also discuss the use of accessories and clothing to affirm one's gender identity during sexual encounters. Communication and consent are emphasized as crucial in creating positive experiences, and the importance of individual preferences and authenticity in defining pleasure is highlighted. They also discuss the concept of gender dysphoria and how it can impact sexual...

00:00:00 Welcome & Introduction to Adelina Adler
00:04:16 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)
00:05:12 Hard Truths before starting in an ENM relationship
00:09:26 Self-Reflection and Considerations in ENM
00:12:54 Debunking Misconceptions & Defining Poly & ENM Styles
00:23:05 Polyamory: Emotional Attachment and Multiple Loves
00:26:07 Is Polyamory an Orientation? & Navigating Jealousy and Envy in Poly Relationships
00:43:10 Maintaining the Ethical Aspect of Polyamory
00:46:35 Unicorn Hunting: Approaching Ethically and Avoiding Power Dynamics
00:49:16 Challenging Hierarchical Polyamory
00:51:10 Recovering from Heartbreak
00:55:38 Managing Time in Multiple Relationships
00:59:30 Questioning Societal Norms

In this episode, Whitni Miller and Adelina Adler discuss ethical non-monogamy...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Ash and Dawn Noble, founders of Queer Couples Academy, to explore the intricacies of queer intimacy and relationship dynamics. They discuss the PACT model of therapy, the importance of understanding attachment styles, and how vulnerability plays a crucial role in building secure connections. The conversation delves into the impact of technology on relationships, the difference between interdependence and codependency, and the significance of aftercare and open communication in maintaining healthy partnerships. Through their insights, Ash and Dawna emphasize the importance of co-regulation and navigating power dynamics to...

00:00:00 Introduction: Celebrating Queer Pleasure
00:01:28 Breaking Stereotypes: Queer Women and Pleasure
00:05:36 Challenging Internalized Misogyny in the Queer Community
00:19:50 Embracing Pleasure-Centered Sex
00:27:53 The Need for Authentic Representation in Porn
00:33:46 Debunking the Myth of 'Lesbian Bed Death'
00:37:27 The Lack of Open Conversations Among Women
00:41:53 Consent and Abuse
00:43:51 Pleasure as Medicine
00:47:51 Being Your Own Lover
00:50:35 The Harmful Effects of People-Pleasing
00:52:11 Embracing Self-Love for Personal and Collective Growth
00:54:03 Join Us for the Empowerment Retreat in Costa Rica

In this episode, Whitni and Coach Khanyi challenge the stereotypes and assumptions about...

00:00:00:00 Welcome & Introductions 
00:01:23:01 Heather's Journey into Pelvic Floor Therapy & Sex Counseling
00:05:19:15 The Intersection of Pelvic Floor Therapy and Sex Counseling
00:08:24:12 Addressing the Bio Psychosocial Aspects of Sexual Health 
00:10:23:07 What is Pelvic Floor Therapy and Who is it for?
00:16:30:20 Passive Tightness vs Having Control of the Pelvic Floor Muscles
00:19:27:21 Pelvic Floor to Sex Counseling
00:28:09:27 Creating Realistic & Emotionally Honest Representations of Sexuality in Fiction
00:36:07:26 The Importance of Vulnerability and Communication
00:41:02:22 Expanding the Definition of Sex & The Power of Consent
00:49:22:27 Writing and Reading Authentically Realistic Erotica
00:54:18:20 Affirming Masculinity & Gender Identity
00:58:19:22 Queering Sex...

00:00:00 Welcome & Introductions 
02:06:21 What is Kink? 
03:49:17 Conscious Kink 
06:39:04 Communication 
07:59:11 Exploring Power Dynamics in Kink Relationships 
12:18:25 Creating a Safe and Expansive Kink Experience 
26:20:23 Attunement & the Importance of Slowing Down & Being Present 
37:24:26 The Healing Power of Kink 
45:06:01 The Psychedelic Experience of Kink 
53:46:19 Creating a Soft Landing: Aftercare & Debriefing 
01:31:02 Mastery: Being a Master of Yourself

In this conversation, Whitni Miller interviews Kimi Inch, a renowned expert in intimacy and conscious kink. They discuss the meaning of kink and conscious kink, the importance of intention and negotiation in kink play, and the power dyna...

In this conversation, Whitni Miller interviews Cooper Stone, a queer non-binary somatic sex educator and certified sexological body worker. Cooper specializes in working with individuals exploring their sexual orientation, gender identity, and recovering from religious shame around physical intimacy. They discuss the concept of pleasure and how it can be found in various ways, not just through sexual experiences. Cooper explains the role of a somatic sex educator and the importance of savoring and integrating pleasurable experiences. They also delve into the work of deprogramming shame and the process of surrogate partner therapy, which involves building relational skills in...