Own Your Pleasure
Own Your Pleasure is a podcast hosted by sex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller, also known as BDE Moves. Airing on the 1st and 15th of each month, the show centers around pleasure for vulva owners and their lovers, delving into topics ranging from the science behind pleasure to practical tips and safety considerations. Each episode features candid conversations that explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy. Whitni engages with guests to discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in contexts like aging, healthcare, and diverse relationship dynamics. Listeners can expect a blend of expert insi...
Unlocking Curiosity in Secure Relationships Part I
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni engages with queer couples experts Ash and Dawn Noble to explore the intricate relationship between emotional safety and sexual intimacy in queer relationships. They discuss the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and communication in fostering deeper connections, as well as the challenges posed by societal norms and assumptions. The conversation highlights the significance of daily rituals, aftercare, and the messiness of relationships, ultimately emphasizing that security in a relationship can lead to greater exploration and fulfillment in the bedroom.
Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a...
Finding Kindness in Love: Enita's Story Part IV
In this engaging conversation, Whitni Miller and her guest Enita explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy in healthcare. They discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in the context of sexual satisfaction as one ages. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of self-worth and the journey of discovering pleasure throughout life, highlighting that intimacy and eroticism can evolve and deepen over time. The speakers encourage listeners to embrace their desires and advocate for their pleasure, regardless of age or past experiences.
Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early...
Finding Kindness in Love: Enita's Story Part III
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita discuss the complexities of pleasure and intimacy as one ages. They explore the physical and psychological changes that come with aging, including menopause, body image issues, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships, setting boundaries, and finding creative solutions to enhance sexual enjoyment. They also touch on the significance of using lubrication, sex toys, and embracing vulnerability to maintain a fulfilling sex life. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to break societal taboos surrounding aging and sexuality, promoting a...
Finding Kindness in Love: Enita's Story Part II
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita Torres explore the multifaceted aspects of menopause, sexual wellness, and the importance of body positivity. They discuss the societal norms surrounding aging and sexuality, the connection between overall health and sexual pleasure, and the journey of self-discovery that comes with embracing one's desires. The dialogue emphasizes the need for open conversations about sex, the impact of performance pressure, and the liberation found in choosing pleasure as a path to selflessness.
Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has...
Finding Kindness in Love: Enita's Story Part I
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages in a heartfelt conversation with Enita Torres, a 66-year-old queer woman who shares her journey of self-discovery, love, and the challenges of navigating her queer identity in a challenging environment. The discussion covers Enita's experiences with custody battles, societal norms surrounding queerness, the importance of intimacy and trust in relationships, and the impact of menopause on sexuality. The episode emphasizes the significance of owning one's pleasure and celebrating personal transitions.
Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt...
Q & A Part II
00:00 Introduction to Owning Your Pleasure
01:59 Navigating Kinks and Open-Mindedness in Relationships
04:28 Understanding Anxiety and Performance in Sexual Dynamics
12:07 Exploring Submission and Dominance in Kink
15:38 Desiring More Intensity in BDSM Relationships
22:30 Normalizing Sexual Thoughts and Desires
25:04 Overcoming Orgasm Challenges in Partnered Sex
30:44 Navigating Intimacy and Communication in Relationships
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller addresses various questions related to sexual pleasure, kinks, and intimacy. The conversation covers topics such as the importance of open communication in relationships, navigating anxiety and performance issues in sexual dynamics, exploring submission a...
Q & A Part I
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitney Miller addresses various questions related to intimacy, sexual desires, and relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality time in relationships, navigating differences in libido, and the significance of open communication about sexual needs. Additionally, the discussion explores the introduction of kink and BDSM dynamics, as well as strategies for initiating intimacy in a way that respects both partners' comfort levels.
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Cultivating Freedom & Accessing Pleasure
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Uchenna Ossai about the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-discovery, particularly within marginalized communities. They explore the concept of freedom in relation to pleasure, the importance of understanding one's own body, and the journey of navigating pain and joy. Dr. Ossai emphasizes the significance of awareness, self-advocacy, and the need to create space for joy in our lives. The discussion also touches on the challenges of receiving pleasure and the impact of societal pressures on personal experiences of joy and intimacy.<...
Non-Binary & Trans Experience Navigating Pleasure
In this conversation, Whitni Miller and Tuesday Feral discuss the challenges and strategies for non-binary and trans individuals in navigating pleasure and intimacy. They explore the impact of dysphoria on sexual experiences and the importance of finding ways to feel comfortable in one's body. They also discuss the use of accessories and clothing to affirm one's gender identity during sexual encounters. Communication and consent are emphasized as crucial in creating positive experiences, and the importance of individual preferences and authenticity in defining pleasure is highlighted. They also discuss the concept of gender dysphoria and how it can impact sexual...
Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy, & Decolonizing Love
00:00:00 Welcome & Introduction to Adelina Adler
00:04:16 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)
00:05:12 Hard Truths before starting in an ENM relationship
00:09:26 Self-Reflection and Considerations in ENM
00:12:54 Debunking Misconceptions & Defining Poly & ENM Styles
00:23:05 Polyamory: Emotional Attachment and Multiple Loves
00:26:07 Is Polyamory an Orientation? & Navigating Jealousy and Envy in Poly Relationships
00:43:10 Maintaining the Ethical Aspect of Polyamory
00:46:35 Unicorn Hunting: Approaching Ethically and Avoiding Power Dynamics
00:49:16 Challenging Hierarchical Polyamory
00:51:10 Recovering from Heartbreak
00:55:38 Managing Time in Multiple Relationships
00:59:30 Questioning Societal Norms
In this episode, Whitni Miller and Adelina Adler discuss ethical non-monogamy...
