Single (not spiraling)

If you've been holding back from fully doing this work, this episode is for you. Today Lauren is getting into why a capable, secure man is not going to be threatened by you being a self-proclaimed man hater, where male insecurity actually comes from and why it has nothing to do with you, and why the version of you that keeps shrinking herself is not landing the relationship you actually want. Because the goal was never really a relationship. The goal is you, fully yourself, living a life that feels whole whether or not anyone shows up to share it...

Something Lauren keeps noticing: when women go through a breakup, they find themselves again. They go back to the things they'd stopped doing — the hobby, the book, the version of themselves that got a little buried somewhere in the relationship. This episode is a guide for anyone who's newly out of something, mid-way back to themselves, or reflecting on how they've come back before and wondering if there's a little more work to do. Four steps, in order. What to come back to, what to build, what to protect, and what to remember so you don't lose it the same wa...

In this episode Lauren gets real about what the work actually looks like — not the highlight reel version, not the "I healed and now everything is great" version, but the real thing. She walks you through the specific areas she works on with her clients every single day: breaking the fantasy of who you want someone to be, building self worth through values work, inner child work and what it actually means to reparent yourself, pleasure as a form of self knowledge, and releasing the shame that lives in your sxuality and your body. She also shares something that happened re...

You've been asking Lauren questions about decentering men — how to talk about it, what actually changed first, whether your relationships survive it — and today she's answering them. If you're on the fence about decentering men or you're already doing the work and want to go deeper, this is a must-listen. These are the questions women are actually sitting with, and Lauren's not holding back on the answers.

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You've been doing the work. Decentering men, healing, growing, showing up for yourself. But when's the last time your life actually felt magical? In this episode we're talking about whimsy — what it actually is, why your space matters more than you think, and how to stop living inside your Pinterest board and start building the life that's already on it. Lauren gets into why being away from her own space cracked something open, why choosing delight right now is not frivolous, and how romancing yourself is what decentering men actually looks like in practice. Plus how to whimsy out your li...

What does it actually look like to date a woman who is decentering men? My boyfriend Joey joins me to answer that — from his side. He's confident, he's not threatened, and he has some honest opinions about what being a good partner actually means (spoiler: it's not doing the dishes). If you've ever wondered whether decentering men and being in a relationship can coexist, this one's for you.

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Does your life actually suck or are you just on social media too much? Because I think for a lot of women it's the second one and we don't even realize it's happening. In this episode I get into what comparing yourself to everyone online is actually costing you, why it keeps getting mistaken for self improvement, and how to figure out which parts of your life are actually yours versus things you absorbed from a screen.

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This week's episode is Single (not spiraling), I'm answering a question a listener wrote in with — she'd seen a lot of manosphere content come across her feed, found it useful at first, and then realized she was just scared of men and didn't know how to navigate dating anymore. We get into why that fear is valid and not something to fix or push past, what's shifting in the world right now, and how to actually build discernment when you're dating.

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If you've been feeling flat, uninspired, and like everything — even the things you used to love — has started to feel like a chore, this episode is for you. Lauren recorded this one burnt out, seven clients deep into her week, because sometimes the most honest thing you can do is talk about the thing you're actually in. This episode is a real conversation about what burnout is, what it feels like in your body, and why it hits differently when you spend your days holding space for other people. Lauren pulls from the introduction of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the...

This week Lauren is just talking. No theme, no structure — she's sharing what's been on her mind lately: being tired of centering men in the conversation, and why increasing your pleasure as a single woman actually matters.

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You have started decentering men but something feels off. Weird. Like you are going against everything you were taught and even your own body is like — what are we doing. In this episode Lauren Samantha gets into exactly why decentering men feels so unnatural — and it has nothing to do with you being broken. We are talking patriarchy, misogyny, shame, capitalism, and what it actually looks like to start building a life that does not center men. If you are a single woman in your 30s and doing this work and wondering why it feels so hard — this one is for yo...

You understood everything we talked about in part one. And then you opened the apps and lost yourself in whether he texted back. That is exactly what this episode is about.We are getting into what decentering romance actually looks like when you are actively dating. The patterns you keep repeating even when you know better. The difference between wanting love from wholeness and wanting love to feel whole. And the question nobody told you to ask — not does he like me, but do you actually like him.Part two of a two part series. Go back and listen to pa...

If you've been doing the work of decentering men but feel like something isn't clicking, this is the episode you need. Because the first step to decentering men is decentering romance — and most of us have never even questioned the story we were sold about what our lives are supposed to look like.In this episode we're getting into where the conditioning actually started, how fairy tales, rom-coms, and even our mothers shaped us into women who were taught to wait to be found instead of building a life. We're talking about the male gaze we internalized without knowing it, wh...

What if your burnout isn't a personal failure — it's a system doing exactly what it was designed to do? In this episode, Lauren unpacks how patriarchy and capitalism condition women to over-function, under-rest, and tie their worth to productivity. She explores what a matriarchal value system would actually look like — not female domination, but a world where care, community, and emotional intelligence are treated as foundations, not afterthoughts.

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In your 30s, something shifts. You’ve done the therapy. You’ve built the self-worth. You’ve stopped settling for emotionally unavailable men. And now you find yourself in a strange in-between — loving your independence but still craving real partnership. In this episode, I’m talking about the tension of wanting love without losing yourself. The nervous system ease of being single. The fear of slipping back into old patterns. The grief that can come when something good disrupts the identity you built around doing life alone. And the cultural shift that’s made dating feel smaller, not because love isn’t real...

In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, we’re talking about self-trust, standards, and what it actually means to stop settling for mediocre love. Decentering men isn’t about rejecting partnership — it’s about building enough internal safety that you’re no longer making decisions from anxiety, desperation, or fear of being alone. Self-trust is confidence, intuition, and believing your own thoughts, needs, and wants without immediately outsourcing them. It’s the steady feeling that even if a decision changes your life, you’ll be okay. We unpack how self-trust sharpens discernment in dating, how anxiety gets confused with intuition, and why raisin...

We talk a lot about “self-validation,” but no one really explains what that means in real life. This episode breaks down internal vs external validation, why relying on other people to confirm your feelings is so tempting, and how to start trusting your own reactions without over-explaining or second-guessing yourself. If you constantly ask, “Am I overreacting?” or need someone else to agree before you feel okay, this one’s for you.

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You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You understand the concepts.
So why does it still feel hard to move? In this episode, we talk about the space between knowing and living — why consuming self-help can quietly turn into avoidance, how burnout and world chaos make action feel impossible, and what it actually looks like to start implementing the work in real life. This is about grounding, hope, community, and choosing to live with intention instead of staying stuck in insight mode.

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In this episode of Single (Not Spiraling), we talk about the moment you realize the things you once accepted in dating no longer feel okay. From inconsistency and emotional unavailability to over-explaining, self-abandonment, and confusing anxiety for chemistry, this episode explores what it actually looks like to stop normalizing behavior that keeps you disconnected from yourself. If you’re navigating dating, healing from codependency, decentering men, or learning to trust your body and boundaries again, this conversation is an invitation to notice what you’ve outgrown — and to honor the self-trust it took to get here.

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Can you date and still decenter men — or does one cancel out the other?
In this episode, I share what it’s actually looked like for me to date without losing myself, spiraling, or making romance the center of my life. We talk about how to stay grounded, how to notice when old patterns creep in, and how to date from a place of self-trust instead of urgency. This one’s for the women who haven’t sworn off love — they just don’t want to abandon themselves to get it.

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Are you single because your standards are too high — or because you finally have some?
In this short episode, we talk about why so many grounded women are told to lower the bar, how dating culture creates self-doubt, and how to tell the difference between having standards and self-abandoning just to be chosen. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself in dating, this episode is for you.

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If you’re a single woman heading into the new year and feeling burned out by goals, pressure, and “fix yourself” energy — this episode is for you. In this episode, I talk about how to want more without turning your life into a constant self-improvement project. We unpack why joyless goals lead to burnout, how to choose direction without pressure, and what it looks like to build a life that actually feels good while you’re living it. I also share the yearly card spread I use to guide my year — a grounding tool I’ve used for years with myself and cli...

If you’re a single woman feeling pressure to have everything figured out at the start of the year, this episode is for you. In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, Lauren de-influences New Year and January pressure, unpacks hustle culture and wellness overload, and explores how single women can slow down, think critically, and lead their lives with intention. This conversation is about decentering urgency, trusting your own timing, and choosing growth without burnout.

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In this episode, we’re getting real about the kind of holiday hurt no one talks about — the moment you’re surrounded by family and still feel invisible. When traditions change without you, everyone else is coupling up or having kids, and you’re left navigating a season that doesn’t feel like yours anymore. And in the middle of all that tenderness, the urge to text your ex creeps in… not because you want him, but because you want to feel seen. We talk about why these emotions hit so hard, how to tell the difference between loneliness and longing, and...

Listen… if you’ve been feeling off this holiday season and can’t really explain why? You’re not alone. This episode is for my single girls navigating weird family dynamics, annoying party invites, pressure to buy gifts no one wants, and the ache that shows up when you’re not anyone’s plus one. We're talking about the bullshit of couple culture, capitalist nonsense, and how to make it through this season without losing your mind (or your money). You’ll get real talk on:
– Why holiday traditions can feel like soul-sucking performances
– What to do when everyone around yo...

So apparently, “decentering men” is tired now. A trend. A phase. Except… we’re still watching women shape-shift to be chosen by men who can’t name their emotions or wash their legs. This episode is for the woman who's done orbiting her life around being picked. We’re talking about what decentering men actually means, why it’s not about bitterness, and how this shift might be the exact thing your healing has been missing. If you’re single, spiraling, or somewhere in between—this is your reminder: your life is already happening. Let’s make it yours.

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If you’ve ever wondered, “Did I heal too much? Is that why dating feels so hard now?”—this episode is for you. We’re getting into what it really means to outgrow chaos, stop chasing the high of anxious attachment, and hold out for the kind of love that actually feels safe. It’s not that you’re too much—it’s that you’ve raised your standards and learned how to trust yourself. This episode is your reminder: you didn’t heal too much. You just stopped settling.

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What if the sadness you’re feeling isn’t just about being single... but about grieving the life you thought you’d have by now? In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, we’re talking about disenfranchised grief—the kind that doesn’t get talked about because there’s no funeral, no breakup, no obvious loss. Just you, quietly mourning the version of adulthood you imagined: the partner, the house, the milestones. We unpack the cultural timelines that were never built for single women, the system that still ties a woman’s worth to being “chosen,” and why giving yourself permission to feel i...

This one’s personal. It’s a love letter, a pep talk, and a little bit of a call-out. After being single for a long time (hi, 7 years), I’ve learned that confidence doesn’t come from someone choosing you—it comes from building a life that turns you on without waiting for them to show up. In this episode, I’m walking you through 10 things every single woman needs—not to get the guy, but to feel alive, grounded, and fucking proud of the life she’s creating. From vibrators to rituals, girlfriends to guilty pleasures, we’re going there. This isn’t...

Money isn’t just math — it’s emotional, messy, and wrapped in way more shame than most of us want to admit. In this episode of Single, Not Spiraling, I’m getting brutally honest about what it means to navigate debt, guilt, and survival-mode spending as a single woman.

We’re talking about why being financially “behind” doesn’t make you broken, why the system actually is rigged, and what it looks like to build intimacy with your money instead of ghosting it every time things get tight.

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Still waiting for someone to pick you? This episode is your wake-up call. Lauren Samantha is calling out the toxic dating patterns that keep women performing, shrinking, and settling—just to be liked. In this raw, no-BS episode, we unpack how to stop dating from fear, define your real non-negotiables, and finally build love from power—not panic. You’ll learn:
The difference between preferences and true non-negotiablesHow to stop shapeshifting just to be chosenWhat dating from self-worth actually looks like (even if you're scared)How to challenge the relationship timelines you never asked forWhat it means to choose yourse...

You're out here saying you want a partner who’s emotionally available, who prioritizes your needs, who makes you feel sexy, seen, and safe… but are you doing any of that for yourself? In this episode, Lauren Samantha rips the bow off self-love and gets real about what it actually means to be devoted to you. No bubble baths. No beige journals. Just daily rituals, deep needs, and the bold-ass act of choosing yourself—without apology, without performance, and without waiting for permission. We're talking:
What it really looks like to love yourself without needing to earn itHow to stop g...

You say you want someone emotionally available… but are you emotionally available to yourself? In this raw and reflective first episode of the Would You Date You? series, Lauren Samantha cracks open what it really means to become the kind of partner you’re out here looking for. No fluff. No Pinterest-perfect self-care tips. Just honest talk about how we ghost our own needs, abandon our boundaries, and call it “doing the work.” You’ll hear stories, questions, and gut-checks to help you get clear on:

– Where you’re still outsourcing your worth
– What it actually means to hold emotiona...

Ever cried in the Trader Joe’s parking lot because your ex moved on and you’re still wondering if love is even in the cards for you? Same. In this first episode of Single Not Spiraling, Lauren Samantha kicks things off with a brutally honest conversation about what it really means to be single right now—and why this podcast exists in the first place. If you've ever felt like your life is “on hold” because you’re not in a relationship, this one’s for you. We’re talking:The quiet grief of a life that doesn’t look like “the pla...

After 82 episodes, today marks the end of an era—and the beginning of something I didn’t see coming. In this final episode of Pleasure Pathways, I’m looking back at how it all started (yes, mushrooms were involved), what this show cracked open in me, and why I know it’s time to pivot. But don’t panic—this isn’t the end of me in your ears. Something new is coming. Something more aligned with where I am now. I’ll tell you everything. Stick around 'til the end.

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In this episode, we trace the history of pleasure—from Ancient Greece and goddess worship, to the Puritans, patriarchy, and purity culture. You’ll hear how joy became shame, how desire got pathologized, and how women’s sensuality was stripped down to silence. We talk about how women have fought to stay connected to their bodies, their joy, and their truth. And what it really takes to heal that relationship today. If you’ve ever felt like pleasure had to be earned, hidden, or explained—this conversation is for you.

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Ever had someone say something about your body that stuck with you for way too long? Same. This week on Pleasure Pathways, I’m sharing two real moments:
→ When my parents made comments about my swimsuit
→ And the surprising comments I got from women at girls’ boat day This episode is about how body shame gets passed around—and how to stop carrying it. If you’ve ever been told to shrink, cover up, or felt not enough in your own skin, this one's for you. You’ll get real talk, storytime, and a few ways to start rewriting the...

Why are so many women screaming through IUD insertions... and being told it’s normal? In this episode of Pleasure Pathways, I’m sharing my own experience navigating the medical system to get an IUD—and asking the bigger question: If this pain is so common, why isn’t anyone doing more about it? We’ll dig into the lack of pain management, the privilege gap in reproductive healthcare, and why men are offered Valium for vasectomies while women are handed ibuprofen and told to “just breathe.” We’ll talk about how systemic misogyny, outdated research standards, and class bias all shape the ca...

In a world that feels like it’s falling apart where every headline is heavy and everyone seems to be struggling it can feel wrong to enjoy anything. In this episode, we unpack the guilt that comes with feeling good during hard times and explore why your pleasure isn’t selfish. We’ll talk about the systems (hi, patriarchy and capitalism) that taught us to equate suffering with worth, why healing isn’t meant to be done in isolation, and how joy can be a radical act of resilience. I’ll also share a few personal stories, some tough truths, and the on...

You’ve journaled. You’ve therapied. You’ve healed your inner child and raised your damn vibration. So why does love still feel like it’s MIA? In this episode, I’m burning down the illusion that effort always equals outcome — especially in dating. We’re talking about why the “just do the work” advice can actually make you feel worse, how patriarchal bullshit is still running the dating world, and what it really means to want love in a world that’s burning. 

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