The Intuitive Divorce: A Better Divorce for Moms

Be honest: have you asked AI about your divorce yet? How to tell the kids, how to word a text to your ex, whether you're making the right call?

I get it. It's fast, it's there at 2 a.m., and it feels like you're getting somewhere. But there's a trap in that little box, and it can cost you in legal fees, in time, and in your peace.

In this episode:

- What AI is actually good for during your divorce, and where it stops being useful

- The trap that...

It might be one of the most heartbreaking, painful things that can happen in divorce — and it's also one of the most avoidable. I'm talking about parental alienation.

In this episode, I'm interviewed by Jackie Pilossoph of Divorced Girl Smiling to get real about what parental alienation actually looks like, the signs to watch for at every age, and exactly what to do if you think it's happening to you.

We cover:

- The "Divorce Vows" I created for the moms in my program — a simple template that can soften even the most cont...

If your kids are pulling away — going quiet, keeping score, repeating things that clearly didn't come from them — you're not imagining it.

Parental alienation is the one piece of divorce damage that doesn't end when the paperwork does. It follows your kids into adulthood, into how they handle conflict, into every relationship they build after this. And the hard truth is that the courts aren't coming to fix it.

But there's more in your hands than you think.

In this episode:

- The signs I see in my clients' kids constantly — the me...

I have been waiting to celebrate this woman practically since the day I met her.

When Edwina first called us, she could barely get the words out. Her husband had just revealed — in their third couples counseling session — that he was in a relationship with another woman. He was still living in the house. Their nine-year-old daughter didn't know yet. And on top of it all: a dear friend dying, a break-in, and squatters downstairs who would eventually drag her to court.

She was cracked open, raw, and completely dysregulated. And she leaned in anyway.

Divorce stirs the anger pot — and if you fight your anger, your anger fights you back. Your anger isn't the enemy. It's a messenger, and in this episode I'm showing you how to stop wrestling it and start listening to it.

You'll hear:

- The 10 most common anger triggers I hear from the mamas in the Inner Circle — and what they all have in common

- A mic-drop moment from a recent film about staying "for the kids" that will flip that reasoning on its head

- The dashboard-warning-light question to ask...

Have you ever heard a song a hundred times — and then one day the lyrics hit you like a ton of bricks? That's what happened when a 20-year-old John Mayer song came on during a family car ride...and suddenly it was all about divorce. Because staying in a marriage you know is over? That's slow dancing in a burning room.

In this episode:

- The stop/go dance of dysfunction — why we delay leaving long after we know it's time

- How denial sets a false narrative on repeat (and why it beco...

Is divorce a spiritual experience? I got asked that question in a recent interview, and my answer might surprise you. Because here's the thing — that voice you've been ignoring, the one that was jumping up and down before you ever said "I do"? It never left you. You left it. And getting it back might be the single greatest gift you give yourself, your divorce, and your children.

In this episode:

- The real reason you stopped trusting your gut — and why the coping mechanisms you learned long before your marriage are keeping you disconnected from...

Can you feel it? The tides of change are here. Back-to-school energy is in the air — and for you, that might mean back to routine, back to your divorce... and, if you'll let it, back to YOU.

In this episode, I share:

- Why the elephant in the room isn't going anywhere — and how one small step through what you've been avoiding can move you closer to freedom

- How to harness back-to-school energy — using this season of routine to get clear, follow up on divorce details, and set intentions for what's ahead

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Do you actually know what you need right now? If that question makes you squirm, this episode is for you.

As I pack for my annual camping trip to Maine (yes, a real tent, for a real week), I'm sharing what decades of camp prep taught me about preparing for divorce — and why the best-laid plans aren't about controlling what's coming, but about what you build around yourself.

In this episode:

- The one question most divorcing women can't answer — and why that's not your fault

- What your lawyer and fina...

Are you doing it again? Stuffing down what you feel, pretending you don't see what you see? I'm here to tell you the biggest mistake in divorce isn't hiring the wrong attorney or fumbling the asset split — it's trying to outrun your feelings. You can run, but you can't hide. In this episode, I'm getting real about why feelings aren't weakness — they're strategy — and why bypassing them puts you at the biggest disadvantage of all.

In this episode:

- Why the feelings you stuff down don't fade — they fester (and what happens when they finally find a w...

If you've caught yourself saying "I'll be okay when my kids are okay... when the divorce is over... when my finances settle down..." — this conversation is for you.

Inspired by a raw post from my friend Sarah Tacy, I'm talking about what to do when you're NOT okay — and why your wellbeing can't be contingent on external forces you don't control.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- The "default settings" that hijack you when you're triggered — and why they're actually valuable intel in your divorce

- The one-line mic drop from a nerv...

Divorce can feel like a spin cycle — fast, chaotic, decision after decision, landmine after landmine. You think you have to match its pace until you cross the finish line.

But here's what I've learned: the quickest way to calm the chaos isn't another lawyer or strategy session. It's getting still in the eye of the storm and asking yourself one deceptively simple question.

In this episode, I'm inviting you to step off the dancefloor of people-pleasing and self-abandonment, and back into your own life.

- Why awareness is the portal to everything that ch...

What if buying a gift for your ex from your kids is about your kids not your ex? It’s about making them feel safe to love both parents…

In this episode, I discuss the challenges of approaching Father's Day during divorce. I encourage you to consider your children's needs by buying a small gift for your ex from them. Why? This child-focused approach helps foster a positive environment where they can love both parents. I know it may not be easy…but it’s worth it.

00:00 Introduction: Preparing for Father's Day

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I find divorce metaphors everywhere, and this one came straight from the NBA playoffs. But stay with me, because if you're navigating a divorce, this one might just shift you into a more empowered mindset.

In this episode, I'll walk you through:

- Why divorce can feel like your fate is in the hands of the others — and how to stop telling that story

- The tools you need to stay calm, clear, and aligned with your goal when the twists and turns hit (and they will)

- The one thing yo...

There isn't a mother I've coached who isn't terrified of getting her kids through the divorce. I walked those same shoes, and I want to share the one piece of advice that's changed everything for the women I work with: get in, get out, get it over with. In this episode, I'll show you why ending the dysfunction quickly — not fighting to be "right" — is the real divorce strategy.

- Why the "yeah buts" keep you stuck for years (and what each one is really costing you, your kids, and your future)

- What fighting actu...

I want to sit with you for just a couple of minutes, mama. Because what I'm about to share with you stopped me in my tracks when I rediscovered it — and I knew I had to bring it straight to you.

It's a poem I first found as a young woman, with no idea how many chapters of my life it would speak to. Divorce or no divorce, it has something to say to every one of us.

In this episode, I'm sharing Autobiography in Five Chapters by Portia Nelson — and unpacking why it matters so m...

School's out — and if you're navigating divorce, the sound of that ice cream truck might feel a little distant right now. This one's your reminder to listen for it anyway.

In this episode, I'm handing you a permission slip, mama: to breathe, to laugh, and to be fully present with your kids this summer — even while you're still in the thick of it.

- Your kids are feeling everything, even what isn't spoken — and there are specific cues you'll want to know how to read.

- The thing most mamas get wrong about overwh...

Divorce doesn't come at you in a straight line — it comes in waves, curveballs, and moments that stop you cold. I call it "the weeds." The overwhelm, the triggers, the opinions of people who have no idea what you're actually living. It all has a way of tangling around your ankles just when you need to make a move.

This one is for every mother who's felt swept up by the challenges of divorce.

In this episode, we're talking about how to stop letting the weeds run the show:

- Why where you pu...

If you're divorcing a narcissist, this one is close to my heart — and I won't sugarcoat it.

Parental alienation is one of the most painful, devastating outcomes a mother can face in divorce. And the heartbreaking truth? It's also one of the most avoidable — yet far too many of us are forced to navigate it anyway.

In this episode, I'm getting real about what parental alienation actually looks like, why the courts offer less protection than you'd hope, and what you can do to protect your kids and yourself.

- Why divorcing a narc...

When life gets hard, it's so easy to hide — to suffer in silence, to feel like you're the only one who's ever made a decision you regret. But what if your story, your courage, your healing was medicine to someone else?

In this episode, I'm talking about the power of having a divorce tribe around you — and why going it alone is one of the biggest mistakes you can make during this tender time.

- Why isolation keeps you stuck, and what shifts when you let yourself be supported

- How your divorce unfo...

Holidays can feel anything but festive when life is upside down and you're walking on eggshells. But hold on — we're talking Mother's Day here. Your day.

Whether you're contemplating divorce, deep in negotiations, or spending your first Mother's Day alone, it's tempting to take a pass and pretend it doesn't matter. I'm here to tell you it does — and so do you.

In this episode, I'm talking about what it really means to celebrate yourself right now, in the middle of all of it. Because being a mama transcends biology, circumstances, and Hallmark cards. It's abou...

By the time you've mustered the courage to file for divorce, you've already been through a whole hell of a lot. And now you're standing on wobbly legs, trying to get clear, find your footing, and trust yourself — all while keeping your kids out of the chaos and holding your life together.

What if two small words could change everything?

In this episode, I'm sharing why "not yet" might be the most powerful reframe you can make right now — and how it can shift not just your divorce, but your entire nervous system.

- Yo...

Let's be honest…when you're in pain, you just want it to stop. And divorce? It's a buffet of discomfort. I get it. I've been there. I know what it feels like to be awake at 3am, drowning in anxious thoughts, wondering if there's any end in sight.

There's no magic wand. No quick fix. But there is a better way through — and that's what we're talking about today.

In this episode, I share my own story of hitting rock bottom during my divorce and the unexpected moment that cracked everything open. I also share stor...

I'll be honest — my birthday this year didn't go the way I planned. I was exhausted, dealing with a lot, and the feelings that showed up weren't exactly festive. Sound familiar?

Whether it's a birthday, a holiday, or just a random Tuesday, divorce has a way of making ordinary moments feel unexpectedly heavy. In this episode, I'm sharing what I learned when I stopped pushing through and started listening — and the simple but powerful practice I used to honor exactly where I am right now.

In this episode:

- Why it's okay when cele...

Stop being nice — at least the way you've been doing it.

If you've been making concessions, ignoring red flags, and keeping the peace at your own expense, this episode is for you. I'm redefining what "nice" really means in divorce, and why clarity, boundaries, and self-advocacy aren't selfish — they're the most loving thing you can do for yourself and your children.

In this episode:

- Why playing nice for the wrong reasons always backfires

- How old "good girl" patterns are quietly driving your biggest decisions

- Why clarity is y...

What if you've been measuring your divorce wins all wrong?

In this special episode, I had the mic flipped on me — joining Jackie Pilossoph, founder of Divorced Girl Smiling, as her guest to talk about an article I wrote on redefining what it truly means to win in divorce. It's a conversation that's close to my heart, and I knew I had to bring it home to you here.

We talk so much about the obvious markers of divorce success — custody arrangements, financial settlements, division of assets. But true winning? It runs so much deeper than...

If you've been hiding under the laundry, the to-do lists, the carpool runs, and the constant giving — I see you. And I want you to know: running out of places to hide isn't a crisis. It's your turning point.

In this episode, I'm talking directly to the moms who are crawling out of their skin and don't know where to start. Because that feeling? It means you're ready.

In this conversation, you’ll discover why…

- Your breaking point is actually a beginning. When you've truly run out of options, that's when the real h...

There's a track playing on repeat in the background of so many women's lives during divorce — one that says you have to explain yourself, justify your choices, and keep everyone else comfortable, even at your own expense.

In this episode, I'm pulling that pattern into the light, because the moment you see it is the moment you can change it.

- Your divorce is not a zero-sum game. Two truths can co-exist: I want out AND I care about how I do it.

- Boundaries aren't cold or dismissive — they're one of the most...

I don't know if it's the Fire Horse energy swirling around — but I am so done watching mothers get swallowed up by a system that was never designed to help them heal. And I have a feeling you might be ready for something different too.

Whether you're divorce-curious, tiptoeing toward the door, or deep in the messy middle — this episode is for you. Because the steps you take today directly shape the ones you'll have to take tomorrow. Waiting to see how it all works out is NOT a strategy.

In this episode:

- Th...

This is not a feel-good episode. It’s a truth episode.

In today’s conversation, I’m speaking directly to the part of you that knows something has to change—but feels frozen by fear, overwhelm, or excuses that keep you stuck.

I know how terrifying divorce can feel. I’ve been there. And I also know this: nothing changes until you do.

In this episode, we talk about:

- Why staying stuck feels safer—but costs you everything

- The most common excuses women make in divorce (and how to talk...

Divorce doesn’t come with a roadmap. I know how badly you want one—clear direction, fewer missteps, and a way through this without losing yourself or your kids along the way.

In this episode, I invite you to look at one simple but powerful distinction: are you moving through your divorce with insight, or are you unintentionally inciting more chaos?

I share why so many well-intended mothers get pulled into the spin cycle of overwhelm, reactivity, and conflict—and how learning to slow down, get calm, and listen inward can change everything.

In thi...

Going to court during divorce can drain your bank account, your energy, and your spirit.

In this episode, I share why I’m committed to helping my clients avoid court whenever possible—and how you can take back control of your divorce, even when things feel overwhelming.

You’ll learn why family court is often a gamble, what really happens once you enter the system, and how staying actively involved in your negotiations can save you time, money, and heartache.

We talk about:

- Why court should be a last resort—and what...

In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of the day my entire life imploded — and why, 23 years later, I mark it with gratitude.

What began as public collapse became the starting point of my healing journey and the life I ultimately rebuilt. I talk about losing my marriage, financial security, and sense of identity — and how I found my way forward while raising a young son.

If you’re in the middle of divorce or standing at the edge of it, I want you to hear this: your divorce doesn’t define you — what you d...

Two clients. Two very different divorces. Two powerful lessons.

In this episode, I share real-world client stories that reveal why divorce outcomes aren’t determined by money, complexity, or “luck”—but by clarity, emotional grounding, and strategy.

You’ll hear why hiding behind your attorney can cost you more than money, how staying regulated changes negotiations, and why getting clear on what truly matters can dramatically shorten the process and protect your kids.

If you’re a mother navigating divorce and wondering what’s actually worth fighting for, this episode will reframe everything.

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What if, in the middle of divorce, you didn’t just get through it — but slowly began to feel stronger and more like yourself again?

In this episode, I sit down with Shari, a brave mother who shares her honest divorce journey, from early fear and uncertainty to rebuilding trust in herself and creating stability for her children. With humor and heart, she opens up about the messy middle — the doubts, the pressure of others’ opinions, and the quiet moments of finding clarity again.

Shari reflects on learning to set boundaries, listen to her intuition, and take...

Divorce has a way of waking up the ego, old wounds, and power struggles that quietly drain your time, money, and emotional energy. In this episode, I share a real-life mediation story that nearly fell apart and ultimately became a meaningful resolution.

You’ll hear why the most expensive part of divorce isn’t the lawyers, but unchecked emotions and the need to be right.

In this episode, we explore:

- Why ego, revenge, and unhealed wounds derail divorce negotiations

- What a successful divorce actually looks like (hint: no one “wins”...

Most mamas walk into their first meeting with a divorce lawyer nervous, overwhelmed… and assuming the attorney will somehow know what to do next.

But what if that assumption is quietly costing women time, money, and unnecessary suffering?

In this episode, I share a conversation that gave me real hope—one that affirmed something I see every day in my work with mothers navigating divorce: the condition you’re in while divorcing matters more than most people realize.

We explore:

- A common misunderstanding about what lawyers are (and aren’t) there to...

Divorce is expensive… but not always in the way you think.

There’s a cost most women aren’t prepared for when they begin this process—and it’s rarely discussed in those first meetings, when decisions are being made fast and emotions are running high.

In this episode, I share a perspective that often surprises mamas navigating divorce—and quietly changes the way they move through it.

We touch on:

- A hidden factor that drives divorce costs up (and how to interrupt it)

- Why legal support alone isn’t...

If you’re a mother navigating divorce and already feeling exhausted by the holidays, this episode is your permission slip to pause.

In this short reflection, I invite you to ditch the pressure of New Year’s resolutions and consider a kinder, more intuitive way forward.

In this episode, we explore:

- Why resolutions often feel like a setup when you’re emotionally depleted

- The difference between honoring your capacity and over-committing

- Why January 1st doesn’t get to define your year

- How small, intuitiv...

Many mothers navigating divorce struggle to name what they need—because for years, they’ve been conditioned not to. In this episode, we unpack a real-life coaching moment that reveals how self-care can be shamed, minimized, or weaponized in unhealthy dynamics.

You’ll hear reflections on:

- Why mothers often feel disconnected from their own needs

- How busyness and self-sacrifice masquerade as virtue

- Recognizing gaslighting when self-care is criticized

- The messages we model for our children about worth and boundaries

- Owning “me time” without gu...