Wanzology

I wanted to share my experience of having lunch with someone I haven't seen in a very long while. When's the last time you've done that? Who was it? Once you sit with that person and start talking about life currently, what things used to be like and what you hope they'll be, you may rediscover a part of you that had been neglected or overlooked.  

All of us get the 'lonelys' every once in a while, here's another possible solution to changing that feeling.

Everybody has a story. Most folks won't share it thinking their story is worth less than someone else's. How do you know? How do you know that someone hearing how you grew up, what you went through in your life, wouldn't help someone? Always tell your story!

How you 'do' things have changed from when you were younger.  There are things that used to confuse you about how other people talked and acted, now, it's second nature to just ignore those things.  There's a difference between how we handled thing then, versus, how we handle things now.  But, do we have the wisdom to know the difference?

'But what if?' is something all humans do, but don't realize they do.  Re-evaluating a decision to determine if there were a better way or choice. Navigation, food, relationships...there are tons of places we do this! Not sure you do? Let's find out!!

We know that everyone has opinions. What do you think about when someone shares their opinion OF you, WITH you? Do you get defensive? Maybe you ignore them, those 'opinions'.  Let's dig in and find out.

When it seems life isn't 'moving' and you feel as if you're not progressing, maybe you've reached a plateau. A plateau vs peakin' is 'need to know' info!  Why? Check out this episode!

Like America, you probably want to become fully independent. You want to make the decisions for you that you believe will be best.  Emotional independence is the goal.  Do you know the process of achieving it??

How was your day? Good?  Bad?  Mediocre?  Do you think you deserve a reward for such a day? A reward, like ice cream? Ask yourself, "Did I do enough to earn ice cream as a reward?"

How you are 'seen' isn't as important as how you 'see' your-self (two words).  Is your subconscious your friend, or your enemy? What do you think of yourself (one word)?

Sometimes, does it feel like life is going around in a big huge circle? The you're taking 'looks' straight, but you seem to always end up in a similar situation or result.  I think of this as "The Clover Leaf Pattern".  I mimics the old highway system's solution to changing direction when you're traveling an interstate. Does this resonate with you?

Just wanted to share my experience attending Brandi Carlise's "Echoes Through The Canyons" 3-Day festival.  One can learn a lot about humanity by watching folks outside of your comfort zone.

Have you ever noticed that you've had similar experiences with some things in your life that others have had?  Do you ever share your experiences with others? If not, why not? Every human being has a story.  Here's why we all should share them more often.

Have you ever hurt someone or been hurt by what was said and wished you could take it back, but you can't, given it's been said and heard.  So what next?  Maybe, you can make amends, because really, you can't take it back.

How did you develop your individual sense of 'self'?  What kind of shirt do you like to wear? What style of shoes? Pants? Coats?? Did you have the same journey to 'self' that I did when it comes to style???

Mindfulness is a meditation practice I've gotten interested in because of my fearful/avoidant attachment style.  The technique starts with focusing one's attention on the breath and how it interacts with the body.  This engages the frontal cortex and gets a person out of their 'lizard brain'. Wanna know the difference between a reaction and a response?  Check this episode out.

Remember, you have been through a lot to make it to where you are, that's your 'evidence'!!

...and you may ask yourself, "How did I get here? And you may ask yourself, "Where does that highway lead to?".  Everyone has a story, why don't more people share their story???

"...and the wisdom to know the difference.". This last line of the serenity prayer is what I call 'the catch'.  Everything in life has a 'catch'.  In this episode, I question is 'we' can always tell the difference between what going to 'happen', what is 'happening' and what has 'happened'.

Do you  know what you 'spiritual condition' is or how to maintain it?  You'd be surprised how simple yet, how difficult, it can be to keep your spirit 'upright'.

I learned something interesting from those who supported the No Kings Protests and those who didn't. I was taken by a single question, is there a difference between a person and a human?  What do you think?

My favorite line from my favorite movie "Shawshank Redemption" is, "Hope.  Hope is a good thing.  Maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies." Where would we be without hope?  Let's consider a few things...

A different take on the concept of wasting time.  Even if it feels like you're not doing anything or you're lamenting in your head what you COULD have been doing, do you feel you've wasted time?  I think not.

I came across a video on YouTube outlining steps to recondition the body to feel positively about what used to be a negative experience. Feelings are connected to our body which is primarily run by our subconscious.  If you had a bad experience with a parent around learning how to drive, you may be tentative to teach your child how to drive because you feel 'some sorta way' about it.

All of us have an inner critic.  That voice that causes us to doubt, to not take chances, even when we know we can be successful. Here's a personal story of how I overcame my inner critic.

Knowing where you are in a given process is important information to have.  Why? When one knows where they are in any given process, one knows how far they've come, as well as how far they have to go. Stopping to evaluate where you are is always good.

"Trust the process" people say...well, what does that mean?  Which process?  Who's process?  Let's find out.

I have found that I am today triggered by people, places, things and situations that frustrate me.  That frustration is perceived as anger. Mindfulness and Self Awareness are, hopefully, my pathway back to self regulation, better communication of my needs and less crappy behavior in relationships.

Like a caterpillar that creates a cocoon around itself and after a while emerges as a beautiful butterfly, we humans are also in some state of 'becoming' whatever we decide is next for us. 

Healing takes time.  Time takes time.  I found a two-step process that helps me heal...as long as I'm paying attention.

How do you know you're being your authentic self and not being misperceived by you or someone else? Let's explore.

What is 'right sized' you ask?  Let's find out...

Making it through the holidays is not easy sometimes, especially when two people have differing perspectives on what they mean to each other as well as how they treat each other.  Check out the story of a friend of mine who made a disappointing discovery.

Where is the 'real' spirit of Christmas?  You think you already know?  Let's compare and see!

"Tis the season to be jolly!" or is it?? Here are a few suggestions to keep from goin nuts during the holiday season!!

"Tomorrow! Tomorrow! I love ya, tomorrow! You're always a day away!"  That kind of optimism isn't for everyone, but it could be, if one knows how to change one's perception of present circumstances.  Do you know how?

Have you ever gotten tired of trying to accomplish a task and just want to give up?  Failure Fatigue is a real thing!!!

Sometimes, its easy to forget what's really important, so don't.  No matter how bad or good things get, be thankful. Some folks don't make it as far as you have, and if they have, they may or may not have what you have.  Simply being 'here' is the blessing, so give thanks that you're here.

Control is a test. It's a test of how you manage ‘your-self’. (two words), in a circumstance you don't control in order to regain control over the one thing you have control over and that is, you!!

Folks sometimes talk about 'goin through it'. That 'it' is usually adversity.  When life becomes more challenging that it seems it should be?  I work a three-step process to get through adversity.  Let's see how close your process is to mine!!