Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

A while back, I posted a reel of my son spilling soda on the couch and me NOT punishing him. It got over 1 million views, and the comments were INSANE.

The question I heard most was “Don’t kids need consequences??” Yeees BUT they’re almost never what most of us think. And they do not have to hurt to "work" (in fact they really must NOT!).

In this episode I break down discipline vs punishment, what the research really says, and the 5-question check that tells you whether your consequence is a real con...

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When your child struggles, every instinct says to find the problem and fix it. But 99% of the time, that actually making things harder (sorry!)

Most of the world around us, from the medical model to many therapy rooms, takes a deficit approach: what’s wrong, what are the risks, how do we fix it. The Resilience Donut is the opposite. It’s a strengths-based approach that flips the usual advice on its head. Instead of pouring your energy into yo...

What if your child's most baffling behaviour isn't defiance or attitude at all?

Consequences, reward charts, and bribes haven't stopped the meltdowns, refusals, or shutdowns. That's because it's not about discipline. It's about the sensory system (that no-one teaches us by the way!)

I'm joined by occupational therapist Laura Petix, author of the new book The Sensory Code, and founder of Instagram's @theotbutterfly, to talk about a topic that doesn't get enough airtime. Laura shares how looking at behaviour from a different angle, kind of like coming in through a side window, can...

Ever caught yourself doing "all the right things" emotionally with your kid only to watch it somehow make things worse?

In this episode, I'm breaking down something most parenting content won't tell you: the research on why constant emotional narration can backfire, and where the real line is between validating your child and accidentally teaching them to get stuck in a feeling instead of moving through it.

Drawing on neuroscience and child development research most parents have never heard translated into plain English, this episode will change the way you respond the next...

Imagine standing in the middle of a zoo (or a supermarket, or a school pickup line) watching your child completely fall apart and feeling completely frozen... This is what I'm talking about today!

This episode right here is your turning point. I'm walking you through my six-step de-escalation framework that goes way beyond the usual "get down to their level" advice you've heard a hundred times — into the neuroscience of WHY your child literally cannot hear you mid-meltdown, the one thing most parents do first that makes it last twice as long, and the small but po...

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Ever stood in the school car park while your child clings to you, pleading they can’t go in, and thought… is this ever going to get easier?

Or your teen is shutting themselves away in their room, refusing to go to social gatherings or other activities (that you know they’d probably LOVE)?

I’ve been there. My youngest has, too. And yes, even as someone who teaches emotional intelligence and anxiety strategies, I still questioned myself in those moments (a lot).

Ever had a moment where your child’s reaction felt way bigger than the situation? 🌋

A small thing turns into a huge meltdown. Logic doesn’t land. Consequences do NOT work. And you’re thinking "what am I supposed to do right now?" This is for you!

Today I’m joined by Elizabeth Sautter, a speech-language pathologist and author who has spent nearly 30 years supporting neurodivergent kids, families and educators. She’s also a mum of two neurodivergent (grown up) kids, so everything she shares comes from both professional experience and real life.

Eliz...

Everyone talks about rules, consequences, and behaviour, but emotional intelligence? That’s the piece almost no one talks about!!

And yet it’s the thing that actually shapes how kids handle life, relationships, and themselves.

Today I’m sharing 10 of the most underrated ways to raise emotionally intelligent kids. The strategies most parents never hear about (and the ones I always share with private clients).

These are simple. Practical. Surprisingly powerful shifts that can change your family’s emotional energy almost immediately.

I talk about why emotions aren’t t...

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Ever feel like getting your kids to cooperate is like negotiating with dictators who happen to share your DNA? 🤣

Last episode (on a similar topic) was so popular that this week I made a mini masterclass on cooperation!

I'm sharing 20 emotionally intelligent tips to get your kids working with you not against you. No yelling, no bribing, no punishments. Just practical strategies that actually work and help your child feel seen, safe and capable.

This isn’t about being permissive or le...

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What if parenting didn’t have to rely on punishment, guilt, or constant power struggles? Yep. Really.

Today I'm actually the one being interviewed! My friend Amy Nesbitt had me on her podcast, Whole Wellness Mamas, and we unpacked what emotional intelligence parenting really means, and why it’s so different from the old-school approaches many of us were raised with. This is the conversation you get to hear today!

Amy and I talk about:

Talking about feelings can be hard, for kids AND parents.

Some kids talk freely, others shut down, and many sit somewhere in between.

If you’ve ever felt unsure how to help your child open up, or worried about what’s going on beneath the surface, this episode is for you.

Silence isn’t defiance — it’s a signal. Kids can shut down when they don’t feel emotionally safe, even when the environment is calm, loving, and well-intentioned.

Today I unpack how emotional intelligence, nervous system awareness, a...

This one’s an eye-opener. An 11-year-old boy is suspended from school for bullying. His parent is devastated, confused, and in shock.

They turned to my parenting community online for help and ask a question so many parents would ask in that moment: “Besides taking away electronics, what else can I do?” What followed was a flood of responses.

Some were deeply supportive, insightful, and grounded in emotional intelligence. Others were confronting, punitive, and honestly… alarming.

So today in this episode I unpack that post from my Facebook community, Let’s Raise Em...

You promise yourself you won’t yell… and then suddenly, you have. Maybe your child’s tantrum isn’t even that big, but something in YOU snaps.

If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do, even when you know better, this episode is for you.

Today I’m not talking about how to “fix” your child, stop tantrums, or get quick compliance. I’m talking about the missing piece most parents were never taught: emotional intelligence, and how it completely changes the way you experience triggers, yelling, and discipline.

I unpack...

FREE MINI EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MASTERCLASS!!

Even though emotional intelligence gets talked about a lot, I think it's actually understood very little.

So I decided to record a free, mini masterclass for you all and publish it on the podcast. I have stripped it back for you all and rebuilt it properly. Not as a buzzword. Not as “being nice”!! And definitely not as something only parents or teachers need to worry about.

This is my mini masterclass on what emotional intelligence actually is, how it shapes EVERY interaction you have, and...

Parenting in 2026 isn’t harder because you’re doing it wrong. Trust me! It’s harder because the old tools don’t work anymore.

Today it's the first episode of the year!! So I’m reintroducing the foundation of emotionally intelligent parenting and sharing why emotional intelligence is no longer optional, it’s essential.

So I decided to talk about what emotional intelligence actually looks like in everyday family life, why behaviour is NEVER the full story, and how raising emotionally intelligent kids doesn’t require more charts, consequences, or parenting hacks.

Instead...

Ever had your child tell you something worrying, only for them to suddenly deny it?  Or stress endlessly about tests and friendships but won’t let you help? 🥴

In this special 2 year anniversary episode, I’m diving into one of the most emotionally complex listener questions I’ve received so far. A mum reached out about her sensitive, bright 8-year-old who’s struggling with intense test stress, perfectionism, big mood swings at home, and confusing stories about bullying that seem to shift.

This episode is one of my deepest, most layered breakdowns yet. I unpack wha...

What if… the way you’ve been trying to “stay calm!” “set boundaries!” or “teach emotional regulation!” is actually the wrong way around?

In this special 2-year anniversary episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast — I’m sharing the 10 big lessons that completely changed the way I parent… and the way I think about parenting.

These are the mindset-shifts that no one teaches us, but every emotionally intelligent parent needs to hear.

I talk about:

🩷 why you can’t teach calm from chaos

🩷 why repair matters more than how the moment went<...

What if the secret to raising confident, emotionally resilient toddlers isn’t about getting it right all the time — but what we do after things go wrong?

In this heartwarming and honest conversation, I sit down with Devon Kuntzman, founder of Transforming Toddlerhood and the original toddler parenting coach on Instagram, to talk about the power of repair over perfection.

Together we explore:

At the start of this year, I shared a post on Instagram about children and anger, and it went VIRAL.

Hundreds of thousands of parents liked, shared, and commented, because it hit home in such a powerful way.

Why? Because so many of us have been fed myths about what anger in kids means, and what we’re “supposed” to do about it.

So today I broke it all down.

👉 What an angry child doesn’t mean (hint: think entitlement, rudeness, or needing harsher punishments).

👉 What anger really i...

Raising kids and teens can be hard right... but you don’t have to do it alone. Self-care and prioritising our wellness is also hard... do you know why most of us actually don't do it? My guest does!

Drum roll please... because today I sat down with the one and only Amy Nesbitt, host of the Whole Wellness Mamas annual summit, to talk about how to overcome the challenges of motherhood, the importance of self-care, and finding a community that truly “gets it.”

We discuss:

If you’ve ever felt like traditional parenting advice, or even the school system, just doesn’t FIT your child, especially if they’re neurodivergent, this episode is going to shift your perspective.

I’m joined by the brilliant Christina Keeble—an AuDHD mother of two neurodivergent PDAers, and a Neurodiversity and Educational Consultant with over 23 years of experience. Christina has worked with schools, families, businesses, and government organisations to change the way we see and support neurodivergent kids.

Together we dive into:

✨ Why kids’ need for connection never fades (even if society act...

Ever wonder why, no matter how hard you try, you keep slipping back into the same old parenting reactions? The ones you swore you’d never repeat?

You're in the right place. Today I spoke with Lael Stone, educator, TEDx speaker, parenting counsellor, and now author of the brand-new book Own Your Story.

Lael told me how our childhood “imprints”, the beliefs, feelings, and patterns you absorbed when we were little, are quietly steering our parenting today.

She revealed:

✨ Why your biggest triggers hold the key to your growth<...

MIC DROP MOMENT!

So I have now come to question every situation I've been in because... what if every argument, every eye-roll, every “you’re so unfair!” moment… isn’t just something to survive, but an invitation to finally break old habits and RECREATE who you are in the face of stress and conflict? Stay with me...

Today I’m sharing a powerful coaching strategy, a monumental shift that will change how you see fights/upset/arguments/ with your kids, your partner, and even strangers at the checkout. Inspired by a real-life parenting moment that...

Most people believe that parenting is all about managing your child’s behaviour. But the truth is BOTH your child’s outbursts AND your own reactions are driven by your nervous systems. And no-one knows this stuff!

In this powerful and validating conversation, I sit down with Justin Sunseri (LMFT and host of the Stuck Not Broken podcast) to explore how the Polyvagal Theory completely shifts the way you understand both your children’s behaviour AND your own emotional patterns.

We unpack:

You’re trying to be supportive. They says you’re not listening. You open up emotionally. They try to fix it.

And bam, you’re both frustrated, annoyed and wondering what went wrong. Ugh (been there!).

Today I'm going deep into one of the MOST overlooked emotional patterns that quietly causes distance, conflict, and even breakups in relationships... and you probably don’t even realise you’re doing it. (I had no idea till I read it was a thing!)

🧠 Discover why your good intentions might still leave your partner feeling dismi...

🧠 Think emotional intelligence is just about journaling, naming emotions or deep breathing? Think again.

In this episode, I’m sharing 10 underrated, unknown and even unexpected, science-backed ways to develop your emotional intelligence.

Strategies most people NEVER talk about, but that genuinely rewire your brain, calm your nervous system, and transform how you show up in everyday life.

We’re talking about practical ways to build self-awareness, regulate emotions, quiet the amygdala, and strengthen your relationships (without needing to sit on a meditation pillow for hours 😉

You might be a paren...

Calling all unicorns who never get frustrated or angry! This episode isn't for you 😉

Ok, let's be real. The true statistic is 100% of parents have those moments where they snap, shout, or shut down... and then feel awful.

You want to stay calm. You want to be patient. But sometimes it just… takes over.

In this episode, we’re talking about anger from a completely new perspective - your nervous system's point of view.

Because underneath the yelling or frustration is something really important: a nervous system doing it...

Today we share a real-life moment when our child heard SUPER inappropriate language online. We talk about how we responded, how we used emotional intelligence to stay connected, and how to set boundaries without shame. If you're navigating tricky online influences with your kids, this is a must-listen.

Ever had one of those blindsiding parenting moments where your child’s world collides with the internet’s wilder side, right in your living room?

In this episode, my husband (yep, he’s back!) and I unpack last night’s heart-pounding scene: an innocent game, a friend...

Power struggles: we’ve all been there! Sometimes daily. This was us a few years back - but no more.

Your kid digs their heels in, you dig yours in deeper—and suddenly you're in a full-blown standoff over socks, screen time, or sandwiches. 🙃

In this juicy and very real episode, my husband Alex is finally back on the podcast! 🎉

And we’re getting into it:

🔥 How he handles power struggles as a dad

🔥 What he thinks of how I handle them (gulp!)

🔥 Where we clash, where we al...

Guys, this weekend I did the impossible: got the kids and my husband to do a giant tidy-up, without bribes, threats, nagging, or anyone fake-crying in the laundry.

And all I used? Half a sheet of paper and a pencil.

No yelling, no sticker charts, no power struggles, just emotional intelligence, a simple plan, and a calm, confident vibe.

In this episode, I’m sharing exactly how I pulled it off so you can too. Use my hack! If you’re over being the household manager, maid, and motivational speaker all...

It’s here — Episode 100! 🎉

In this special milestone episode, I take you behind the scenes of my journey from anxious, overwhelmed mum to founder of a global movement for emotionally intelligent parenting.

From starting with just 10 people in a Facebook group to writing a bestselling book and speaking on international stages, it’s been a wild ride!

I’m sharing the highs, the vulnerable moments, the lessons I’ve learned, and why emotional intelligence is NOT a soft skill — it’s essential for raising kind, confident, resilient kids.

PLUS: A special...

Talking to kids about emotions is only going to make them soft snowflakes. Letting kids show their emotions opens them up to bullying or means they're going to walk all over us when they're mad. Right?

Think again.

In this episode, I’m calling out one of the biggest parenting myths around emotional intelligence, and breaking down why raising emotionally intelligent kids is the OPPOSITE of raising weak ones.

I'm talking about:

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When a mum shared online that she blew up at her 10-year-old daughter, who then jumped out of the car in a crowded carpark, the comments went WILD.

Everyone flooded in with BAD ADVICE.

“Take her devices!” “Be stricter!” “Punish her for being disrespectful!”

Are we still in the 80's? Seems so.

In this video, I break down why that advice is not only unhelpful — but actually incredibly harmful for kids who are already struggling.

And it doesn't help the...

If people knew this... it would supercharge their patience!! 🤯 #triggers

You know that moment!! Your child slams a door, rolls their eyes, or talks back, and you SNAP.

And later you’re like: “Why did that hit me so hard??”

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You’re not crazy. You’re actually not even overreacting. (Trust me on this).

Your ✨ subconscious ✨ is triggered.

And often… it’s not about the door. Or the tone. Or the words.

If it WAS, we'd all be able to...

A parent called me out in front of everyone at a live parenting workshop in Sydney recently!! EEK.

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Basically they said: "Why bother with emotional intelligence? Isn’t it faster to just punish and move on?"

He’s right about one thing. This kind of parenting does take more time and effort. It’s inconvenient. It’s slower. It requires more of us.

But it also builds something punishment never can: connection, trust, and long-term emotional resilience.

So in this video...

Tired of yelling, bribing, or threatening your kids just to get them to clean up?

I was. And I was at my wits' end.

Until, I found this thing called Emotional Intelligence.

In this video, I share simple yet powerful emotional intelligence strategies to help you get both younger and older kids to tidy up—without the drama.

Discover how to use connection, calm leadership, and clever communication to get your kids cooperating quickly and smoothly (yes, it’s possible!).

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Kids talking back, being stubborn or seemingly rude can flip a switch in us, FAST!

You’re doing your best, then BAM, you're hit with a “You’re not the boss of me!” or “Ugh, I don’t care!” and suddenly, your calm goes out the window.

If you’ve ever found yourself yelling, threatening, or feeling totally triggered when your child talks back… this video is for you.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

✔️ Why backtalk feels so triggering—and what’s really going on under the surface

✔️ How emo...

😩 "WHY is bedtime so hard?!"

If you’ve ever ended the night totally frazzled, snapping at your kids, and crashing on the couch in defeat—you are NOT alone.

Our bedtime routine used to feel like a battlefield too. I was controlling, exhausted, and low-key blaming my husband (sorry babe!).

But the truth? I was adding fuel to the fire without even realising it.

In this video, I'm breaking down why bedtime is really so stressful, and it’s not just about your kids stalling or refusing to brush...

What if I told you there’s a powerful parenting tool that almost no one is using... BUT it could completely change how you handle stress, overwhelm, and chaos with your kids?

Today, we’re diving into a lesser-known but incredibly powerful emotional intelligence strategy called heart coherence.

Most people have no idea that your heart’s energy directly impacts your brain, your stress hormones, and even how you show up when your kids are melting down.

Joining me is Jackie Black, certified Results Coach and HeartMath Mentor, who’s here to...

Ever been trapped in the car with kids screaming, fighting, and pushing every single one of your buttons... while you’re just trying to drive safely and not lose your mind?!

Yep, same.

In this video, I share how I handled a real-life backseat meltdown using emotional intelligence (instead of threats, yelling, or bribes).

You’ll hear the exact mindset shifts that kept me calm, what I said (and didn’t say), and why moments like this are actually golden opportunities to teach your kids emotional skills that last a lifeti...