Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

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Ever feel like getting your kids to cooperate is like negotiating with dictators who happen to share your DNA? 🤣

Last episode (on a similar topic) was so popular that this week I made a mini masterclass on cooperation!

I'm sharing 20 emotionally intelligent tips to get your kids working with you not against you. No yelling, no bribing, no punishments. Just practical strategies that actually work and help your child feel seen, safe and capable.

This isn’t about being permissive or le...

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What if parenting didn’t have to rely on punishment, guilt, or constant power struggles? Yep. Really.

Today I'm actually the one being interviewed! My friend Amy Nesbitt had me on her podcast, Whole Wellness Mamas, and we unpacked what emotional intelligence parenting really means, and why it’s so different from the old-school approaches many of us were raised with. This is the conversation you get to hear today!

Amy and I talk about:

Talking about feelings can be hard, for kids AND parents.

Some kids talk freely, others shut down, and many sit somewhere in between.

If you’ve ever felt unsure how to help your child open up, or worried about what’s going on beneath the surface, this episode is for you.

Silence isn’t defiance — it’s a signal. Kids can shut down when they don’t feel emotionally safe, even when the environment is calm, loving, and well-intentioned.

Today I unpack how emotional intelligence, nervous system awareness, a...

This one’s an eye-opener. An 11-year-old boy is suspended from school for bullying. His parent is devastated, confused, and in shock.

They turned to my parenting community online for help and ask a question so many parents would ask in that moment: “Besides taking away electronics, what else can I do?” What followed was a flood of responses.

Some were deeply supportive, insightful, and grounded in emotional intelligence. Others were confronting, punitive, and honestly… alarming.

So today in this episode I unpack that post from my Facebook community, Let’s Raise Em...

You promise yourself you won’t yell… and then suddenly, you have. Maybe your child’s tantrum isn’t even that big, but something in YOU snaps.

If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do, even when you know better, this episode is for you.

Today I’m not talking about how to “fix” your child, stop tantrums, or get quick compliance. I’m talking about the missing piece most parents were never taught: emotional intelligence, and how it completely changes the way you experience triggers, yelling, and discipline.

I unpack...

FREE MINI EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MASTERCLASS!!

Even though emotional intelligence gets talked about a lot, I think it's actually understood very little.

So I decided to record a free, mini masterclass for you all and publish it on the podcast. I have stripped it back for you all and rebuilt it properly. Not as a buzzword. Not as “being nice”!! And definitely not as something only parents or teachers need to worry about.

This is my mini masterclass on what emotional intelligence actually is, how it shapes EVERY interaction you have, and...

Parenting in 2026 isn’t harder because you’re doing it wrong. Trust me! It’s harder because the old tools don’t work anymore.

Today it's the first episode of the year!! So I’m reintroducing the foundation of emotionally intelligent parenting and sharing why emotional intelligence is no longer optional, it’s essential.

So I decided to talk about what emotional intelligence actually looks like in everyday family life, why behaviour is NEVER the full story, and how raising emotionally intelligent kids doesn’t require more charts, consequences, or parenting hacks.

Instead...

Ever had your child tell you something worrying, only for them to suddenly deny it?  Or stress endlessly about tests and friendships but won’t let you help? 🥴

In this special 2 year anniversary episode, I’m diving into one of the most emotionally complex listener questions I’ve received so far. A mum reached out about her sensitive, bright 8-year-old who’s struggling with intense test stress, perfectionism, big mood swings at home, and confusing stories about bullying that seem to shift.

This episode is one of my deepest, most layered breakdowns yet. I unpack wha...

What if… the way you’ve been trying to “stay calm!” “set boundaries!” or “teach emotional regulation!” is actually the wrong way around?

In this special 2-year anniversary episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast — I’m sharing the 10 big lessons that completely changed the way I parent… and the way I think about parenting.

These are the mindset-shifts that no one teaches us, but every emotionally intelligent parent needs to hear.

I talk about:

🩷 why you can’t teach calm from chaos

🩷 why repair matters more than how the moment went<...

What if the secret to raising confident, emotionally resilient toddlers isn’t about getting it right all the time — but what we do after things go wrong?

In this heartwarming and honest conversation, I sit down with Devon Kuntzman, founder of Transforming Toddlerhood and the original toddler parenting coach on Instagram, to talk about the power of repair over perfection.

Together we explore:

At the start of this year, I shared a post on Instagram about children and anger, and it went VIRAL.

Hundreds of thousands of parents liked, shared, and commented, because it hit home in such a powerful way.

Why? Because so many of us have been fed myths about what anger in kids means, and what we’re “supposed” to do about it.

So today I broke it all down.

👉 What an angry child doesn’t mean (hint: think entitlement, rudeness, or needing harsher punishments).

👉 What anger really i...

Raising kids and teens can be hard right... but you don’t have to do it alone. Self-care and prioritising our wellness is also hard... do you know why most of us actually don't do it? My guest does!

Drum roll please... because today I sat down with the one and only Amy Nesbitt, host of the Whole Wellness Mamas annual summit, to talk about how to overcome the challenges of motherhood, the importance of self-care, and finding a community that truly “gets it.”

We discuss:

If you’ve ever felt like traditional parenting advice, or even the school system, just doesn’t FIT your child, especially if they’re neurodivergent, this episode is going to shift your perspective.

I’m joined by the brilliant Christina Keeble—an AuDHD mother of two neurodivergent PDAers, and a Neurodiversity and Educational Consultant with over 23 years of experience. Christina has worked with schools, families, businesses, and government organisations to change the way we see and support neurodivergent kids.

Together we dive into:

✨ Why kids’ need for connection never fades (even if society act...

Ever wonder why, no matter how hard you try, you keep slipping back into the same old parenting reactions? The ones you swore you’d never repeat?

You're in the right place. Today I spoke with Lael Stone, educator, TEDx speaker, parenting counsellor, and now author of the brand-new book Own Your Story.

Lael told me how our childhood “imprints”, the beliefs, feelings, and patterns you absorbed when we were little, are quietly steering our parenting today.

She revealed:

✨ Why your biggest triggers hold the key to your growth<...

MIC DROP MOMENT!

So I have now come to question every situation I've been in because... what if every argument, every eye-roll, every “you’re so unfair!” moment… isn’t just something to survive, but an invitation to finally break old habits and RECREATE who you are in the face of stress and conflict? Stay with me...

Today I’m sharing a powerful coaching strategy, a monumental shift that will change how you see fights/upset/arguments/ with your kids, your partner, and even strangers at the checkout. Inspired by a real-life parenting moment that...

Most people believe that parenting is all about managing your child’s behaviour. But the truth is BOTH your child’s outbursts AND your own reactions are driven by your nervous systems. And no-one knows this stuff!

In this powerful and validating conversation, I sit down with Justin Sunseri (LMFT and host of the Stuck Not Broken podcast) to explore how the Polyvagal Theory completely shifts the way you understand both your children’s behaviour AND your own emotional patterns.

We unpack:

You’re trying to be supportive. They says you’re not listening. You open up emotionally. They try to fix it.

And bam, you’re both frustrated, annoyed and wondering what went wrong. Ugh (been there!).

Today I'm going deep into one of the MOST overlooked emotional patterns that quietly causes distance, conflict, and even breakups in relationships... and you probably don’t even realise you’re doing it. (I had no idea till I read it was a thing!)

🧠 Discover why your good intentions might still leave your partner feeling dismi...

🧠 Think emotional intelligence is just about journaling, naming emotions or deep breathing? Think again.

In this episode, I’m sharing 10 underrated, unknown and even unexpected, science-backed ways to develop your emotional intelligence.

Strategies most people NEVER talk about, but that genuinely rewire your brain, calm your nervous system, and transform how you show up in everyday life.

We’re talking about practical ways to build self-awareness, regulate emotions, quiet the amygdala, and strengthen your relationships (without needing to sit on a meditation pillow for hours 😉

You might be a paren...

Calling all unicorns who never get frustrated or angry! This episode isn't for you 😉

Ok, let's be real. The true statistic is 100% of parents have those moments where they snap, shout, or shut down... and then feel awful.

You want to stay calm. You want to be patient. But sometimes it just… takes over.

In this episode, we’re talking about anger from a completely new perspective - your nervous system's point of view.

Because underneath the yelling or frustration is something really important: a nervous system doing it...

Today we share a real-life moment when our child heard SUPER inappropriate language online. We talk about how we responded, how we used emotional intelligence to stay connected, and how to set boundaries without shame. If you're navigating tricky online influences with your kids, this is a must-listen.

Ever had one of those blindsiding parenting moments where your child’s world collides with the internet’s wilder side, right in your living room?

In this episode, my husband (yep, he’s back!) and I unpack last night’s heart-pounding scene: an innocent game, a friend...

Power struggles: we’ve all been there! Sometimes daily. This was us a few years back - but no more.

Your kid digs their heels in, you dig yours in deeper—and suddenly you're in a full-blown standoff over socks, screen time, or sandwiches. 🙃

In this juicy and very real episode, my husband Alex is finally back on the podcast! 🎉

And we’re getting into it:

🔥 How he handles power struggles as a dad

🔥 What he thinks of how I handle them (gulp!)

🔥 Where we clash, where we al...

Guys, this weekend I did the impossible: got the kids and my husband to do a giant tidy-up, without bribes, threats, nagging, or anyone fake-crying in the laundry.

And all I used? Half a sheet of paper and a pencil.

No yelling, no sticker charts, no power struggles, just emotional intelligence, a simple plan, and a calm, confident vibe.

In this episode, I’m sharing exactly how I pulled it off so you can too. Use my hack! If you’re over being the household manager, maid, and motivational speaker all...

It’s here — Episode 100! 🎉

In this special milestone episode, I take you behind the scenes of my journey from anxious, overwhelmed mum to founder of a global movement for emotionally intelligent parenting.

From starting with just 10 people in a Facebook group to writing a bestselling book and speaking on international stages, it’s been a wild ride!

I’m sharing the highs, the vulnerable moments, the lessons I’ve learned, and why emotional intelligence is NOT a soft skill — it’s essential for raising kind, confident, resilient kids.

PLUS: A special...

Talking to kids about emotions is only going to make them soft snowflakes. Letting kids show their emotions opens them up to bullying or means they're going to walk all over us when they're mad. Right?

Think again.

In this episode, I’m calling out one of the biggest parenting myths around emotional intelligence, and breaking down why raising emotionally intelligent kids is the OPPOSITE of raising weak ones.

I'm talking about:

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When a mum shared online that she blew up at her 10-year-old daughter, who then jumped out of the car in a crowded carpark, the comments went WILD.

Everyone flooded in with BAD ADVICE.

“Take her devices!” “Be stricter!” “Punish her for being disrespectful!”

Are we still in the 80's? Seems so.

In this video, I break down why that advice is not only unhelpful — but actually incredibly harmful for kids who are already struggling.

And it doesn't help the...

If people knew this... it would supercharge their patience!! 🤯 #triggers

You know that moment!! Your child slams a door, rolls their eyes, or talks back, and you SNAP.

And later you’re like: “Why did that hit me so hard??”

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You’re not crazy. You’re actually not even overreacting. (Trust me on this).

Your ✨ subconscious ✨ is triggered.

And often… it’s not about the door. Or the tone. Or the words.

If it WAS, we'd all be able to...

A parent called me out in front of everyone at a live parenting workshop in Sydney recently!! EEK.

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Basically they said: "Why bother with emotional intelligence? Isn’t it faster to just punish and move on?"

He’s right about one thing. This kind of parenting does take more time and effort. It’s inconvenient. It’s slower. It requires more of us.

But it also builds something punishment never can: connection, trust, and long-term emotional resilience.

So in this video...

Tired of yelling, bribing, or threatening your kids just to get them to clean up?

I was. And I was at my wits' end.

Until, I found this thing called Emotional Intelligence.

In this video, I share simple yet powerful emotional intelligence strategies to help you get both younger and older kids to tidy up—without the drama.

Discover how to use connection, calm leadership, and clever communication to get your kids cooperating quickly and smoothly (yes, it’s possible!).

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Kids talking back, being stubborn or seemingly rude can flip a switch in us, FAST!

You’re doing your best, then BAM, you're hit with a “You’re not the boss of me!” or “Ugh, I don’t care!” and suddenly, your calm goes out the window.

If you’ve ever found yourself yelling, threatening, or feeling totally triggered when your child talks back… this video is for you.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

✔️ Why backtalk feels so triggering—and what’s really going on under the surface

✔️ How emo...

😩 "WHY is bedtime so hard?!"

If you’ve ever ended the night totally frazzled, snapping at your kids, and crashing on the couch in defeat—you are NOT alone.

Our bedtime routine used to feel like a battlefield too. I was controlling, exhausted, and low-key blaming my husband (sorry babe!).

But the truth? I was adding fuel to the fire without even realising it.

In this video, I'm breaking down why bedtime is really so stressful, and it’s not just about your kids stalling or refusing to brush...

What if I told you there’s a powerful parenting tool that almost no one is using... BUT it could completely change how you handle stress, overwhelm, and chaos with your kids?

Today, we’re diving into a lesser-known but incredibly powerful emotional intelligence strategy called heart coherence.

Most people have no idea that your heart’s energy directly impacts your brain, your stress hormones, and even how you show up when your kids are melting down.

Joining me is Jackie Black, certified Results Coach and HeartMath Mentor, who’s here to...

Ever been trapped in the car with kids screaming, fighting, and pushing every single one of your buttons... while you’re just trying to drive safely and not lose your mind?!

Yep, same.

In this video, I share how I handled a real-life backseat meltdown using emotional intelligence (instead of threats, yelling, or bribes).

You’ll hear the exact mindset shifts that kept me calm, what I said (and didn’t say), and why moments like this are actually golden opportunities to teach your kids emotional skills that last a lifeti...

Are you constantly jumping in to rescue your child from big feelings, tantrums, or tough moments?

You’re not alone!! So many of us were raised to believe that love means fixing, rescuing, or distracting.

But what if there’s a better way? (Spoiler alert. There is.)

Today I explore how emotional intelligence helps you shift from “make it stop” to “help them understand it.”

You’ll learn how to hold space without rushing in, why discomfort isn’t dangerous, and how your calm presence actually builds your child’s res...

Emotional intelligence isn’t about being calm, Zen, or turning into some emotionless monk who never gets triggered.

It’s about knowing exactly what’s going on inside you before things blow up—and using that intel to stop fights before they even start.

You know those moments when someone says that thing, and you instantly feel yourself getting defensive, angry, or ready to snap back with a killer comeback?

Yeah. Been there. A lot.

But here’s what I’ve learned: when you’ve got emotional intelligence o...

Ever caught yourself saying, “They’re just being manipulative” or “They only act out for attention”? (I have!!)

I'm gonna pause you right there. Because what if that so-called “bad” behaviour… isn’t bad at all?

I know, sounds ridiculous... hear me out.

👇 In this video, I’m flipping the parenting script 👇

You’ll learn why your child’s challenging behaviour isn’t a power play—it’s communication. And when we stop labeling kids as naughty or difficult and start getting curious, everything changes!!

🎯 Here’s what I'm talking about:<...

Have you ever been around someone who’s like, “Emotional intelligence is being all soft, sweet, and floating around in a cloud of feelings all day…” and you’re like, “Aww, that’s cute. NO.”

Emotional intelligence is not about being calm all the time.

It’s not about never getting angry, or letting your kids walk all over you.

And it’s definitely not about sitting in a circle holding hands and talking about your feelings 24/7.

It is about knowing yourself, managing your reactions, showing up with empathy, and staying motivate...

I’m coming in hot with a truth bomb that might just flip your parenting, your self-awareness, and your whole emotional vibe on its head.

Who's heard that we must learn to “control our emotions”? ME. A million times...

Newsflash: This is TERRIBLE advice.

Yep, I said it. So if you've ever gritted your teeth, stuffed your feelings down, or told your kid to “just calm down”, you’re not alone.

We’ve all been fed this myth that emotional intelligence means being cool, calm, and collected 24/7. Like some sort...

Ever been told that "kids just need some good ol' fashioned discipline" to learn their lesson?

Yeah... let’s talk about why that advice needs to go straight to the recycling bin.

I'm pulling back the curtain on the real difference between discipline and punishment — and why confusing the two can seriously mess with your child's emotional growth (and your relationship with them).

Spoiler: Discipline isn’t about being "soft." It’s about being SMART.

You’ll learn:

✨ Why discipline teaches and punishment backfires

✨...

What if the secret to raising calm, confident, and connected kids has been quietly thriving in Denmark this whole time?? (It's been ranked in the top 5 happiest countries for over 40 years!)

Not in a high-tech lab. Not in a parenting trend. But in a culture that consistently tops the charts as the happiest in the world.

This week on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, we’re diving into The Danish Way with bestselling author and cultural researcher Jessica Joelle Alexander.

If you’ve ever wished parenting could feel more peaceful, less...

Have you ever found yourself snapping at your kids and then sinking into a wave of guilt, thinking, “I swore I’d be different!!!” 😭

In this powerful and heart-opening episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I’m joined by Shelly Robinson, conscious parenting coach and founder of Raising Yourself.

We’re diving deep into the life-changing work of reparenting—what it really means, why it’s so essential, and how it helps you respond to your kids with calm and compassion instead of reacting from old wounds.

You’ll hear the raw story...