This episode is Part 1 of a two part series on the single biggest factor I've found underneath what makes a relationship work or fail, and it has almost nothing to do with what you think.

Most people hear "abundance" and think money. I want to blow that idea open. Abundance and scarcity aren't financial categories, they're the lens your whole nervous system looks through before you make a single decision, and that lens is either quietly running your relationship, your body, your time, and your sense of what you deserve, or it's setting you free t...

Last week I went live to walk through Receiving To Give, the essay for the women. This week I'm going live again for its twin, Giving To Receive, the men's essay I published Friday. It's the most personal thing I've written, about a pattern I lived inside my own marriage for years without being able to name it: a man who gives everything and still comes up empty, because underneath the giving was neediness.

This one's for the men. If you're a woman listening, there's a section near the end written just for you, and it may...

A couple weeks ago I wrote a blog post called Receiving to Give which you can read here: https://infinitedevotion.com/blog/receiving-to-give

and the response to it caught me off guard. My inbox was flooded for days. So many women told me they felt seen in a way they hadn't from anything else I've written, and it was clear I needed to bring my voice to it directly, which is what this episode is. I delivered this episode live, which gave it a special sort of energy.

I've been using th...

This week it's just me, and I want to walk you through a paradox that has tripped up almost every man I've ever worked with. 

I'm going to tell you that you need to lead. Lead your relationship, lead your life, take a position, hold the ground. And in the same breath I'm going to tell you that you control almost nothing. You don't control her, you don't control the outcome, you don't even control yourself. Both are true at the same time, and learning to hold both is what lets you actually lead instead of...

Dawn is back for the second week in a row, and this one goes somewhere raw and real.

This episode is about shame. Specifically, what it costs you to carry it, what it does to your relationship, and what becomes possible when you finally set it down.

Andrew and Dawn have spent the last year living about as openly as two people can live. The podcast, the coaching, the blog, the Instagram, and yes, the OnlyFans. All of it is them, all of it is real, and none of it is an accident. This episode...

It Was Always About More Than Dom/Sub 

This week marks a turning point for this podcast and for the Infinite Devotion brand.

After several years as Dom Sub Devotion, the podcast is returning to its original name: Infinite Devotion. Not as a retreat from what we've built, but as a homecoming to what this was always actually about.

Andrew and Dawn sit down together to talk through why this change is happening now, what Dom/sub dynamics actually taught them about themselves and each other, and why the lessons from that world h...

Welcome to Infinite Devotion. To learn more about us visit https://infinitedevotion.com

Why the Love and Desire Died in Your Relationship (And How to Get Them Back)

The love and desire don't die because something went wrong between you. They die because something shifted inside each of you. The relationship is just the light bulb. If it's not turning on, that's a signal, not the problem itself.

This is the most conceptually dense episode I've put out, and I mean that in the best way. I take everything Dawn and I have lived through, from one of the most sexually charged connections I'd ev...

Last week I talked about killing the nice guy. This week I'm speaking to the other side of the same wound.

When masculine presence is absent from a relationship, a woman fills the space the only way she knows how. She takes control. Of everything.

This episode is about why she does that, where it comes from, and what it actually takes to create the conditions where she can start to let go.

I'm drawing directly from Dawn's and my 17 years together, including the patterns that nearly killed our relationship and the slow...

There was a version of me that did everything right. Generous, patient, never complained. Worked hard, provided, put her needs first. And Dawn hadn't truly desired me in years. This episode is about why.

In this episode, I go completely off-script to share a stretch of my marriage to Dawn where, by my own account, I didn't exist. Not in the way that matters. 

I was there physically, going through the motions, doing all the things, but there was no actual person inside of it. Just a performance. A shape-shifting, approval-seeking, end...

Why She Shuts Down Around You (And What You're Doing to Cause It)

She used to bring you everything. Now she barely brings you anything. And you can feel it, even if you can't name what changed.

In this episode, Andrew makes a case that most men aren't going to want to hear: the way she's showing up emotionally right now is largely a response to how safe you've made it for her to feel around you.

Not because you're a bad person. Because you were never tau...

Most of us think we're in love with our partners. This episode challenges that assumption directly.

In this episode, Andrew introduces the concept of compersion, a word from non-monogamous communities that describes a wholehearted, sympathetic joy for your partner's joy.

It's a feeling most of us can access for our children, our pets, our closest friends. But somewhere in long-term relationships, it disappears. And where it goes is exactly where the real conversation begins.

Because compersion isn't just a feeling. It's a litmus test. And what it reveals is wh...

In this episode, Andrew dives into questions brought by founding members of the newly launched Infinite Devotion Community, giving listeners a taste of the kinds of conversations happening inside that space.

In this episode: 

Join the Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community 

For years, people have been asking us the same question. Where do we go? Where can we find others like us? Where can we have real conversations about this dynamic without being hit on, talked down to, or surrounded by people who aren't taking any of this seriously?

The Infinite Devotion Community is the answer to that question.

In this episode, Andrew walks you through everything you need to know about this new private, paid community built specifically for c...

How do you actually know who's in charge in a D/s dynamic? Not who's wearing the collar, not who's claimed the title, not even who's doing what to whom. The one who's deciding is the one who's dominant, and those two things are often not the same person.

This episode was recorded live on Instagram, and the conversation that unfolded covers one of the most common and quietly damaging patterns in power exchange relationships: the submissive who sincerely wants to let go, but whose fear is actually the dominant force running the dynamic.

Is monogamy outdated? Should we all just embrace polyamory or ethical non-monogamy? Everyone seems to have a position on this right now, and everyone has their heels dug in hard. But here's what almost nobody is willing to say: most people's position on monogamy or non-monogamy isn't a philosophy. It's a defense mechanism.

In this episode, Andrew gets into the real conversation underneath all of the debate about relationship structures. We aren't naturally monogamous creatures, but that doesn't mean bouncing between casual connections gets us home either. Both sides of this debate are usually avoiding t...

Bringing up dominance and submission to a partner who doesn't know it's coming is one of the most common questions we get. This episode walks through exactly how to approach it — whether you're the one wanting to lead or the one wanting to follow.

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Resources & Next Steps 

If you’re ready to go deeper, explore our courses and offerings:

 • Rapture — a journey into devotional D/s and erotic embod...

Episode 127: You Can't Submit and Stay in Charge at the Same Time

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One of the most common questions Andrew hears from women: how do I feel submissive when my life requires me to be in control?

This episode is the honest answer. Submission and control are opposites. You cannot grip ev...

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Most episodes of Dom Sub Devotion lean into what's possible. This one goes somewhere different.

After years of coaching and deep observation, Andrew has watched D/s dynamics fail in ways that were painful, patterns, and in many cases, preventable. In this episode, he shares nine of the most important lessons he's learned from dynamics and relationships that didn't make it, including some that Dawn and he have had to work through personally.

This isn...

Episode 125: What It's Really Like Inside a 24/7 Dom/Sub Marriage - Q&A with a Dom

Seven years inside a 24/7 Dom/sub dynamic. Fifteen years of marriage. And for the first time, Andrew opens up about the actual texture of his and Dawn's life together, not the teaching, not the framework, just the reality.

This is a listener Q&A episode unlike the ones that came before it. No advice-giving. No problem-solving. Just a look inside the life.

The podcast shows you what these dynamics can look lik...

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Most people enter Dominant submissive dynamics carrying codependent patterns they don't even know they have. And the hard truth is that D/s doesn't dissolve those patterns. It amplifies them, because the structure of power exchange gives those patterns a very convincing disguise.

In this first ever listener interview on Dom Sub Devotion, Andrew sits down with Robert, a longtime follower and friend who has spent decades building genuine masculine strength across martial arts, competitive racing, and breath work. And still found himself completely disarmed the moment a woman got emotional.

Episode 122: Sovereign Desire: How Men Build Magnetic Power

Most men are terrified of desire because unfulfilled wanting feels like weakness. So they either suppress what they want or chase after everything they can get, becoming slaves to their appetite in the process.

This episode reveals why a Dominant man's power comes from his ability to hold desire without being controlled by it. Why wanting without needing is the foundation of masculine magnetism. And why the space between desire and fulfillment is where your strength actually lives.

You'll lea...

Most women kill their own desire by trying to fulfill it too quickly. They move from wanting to getting, from emptiness to fullness, and wonder why they feel numb, exhausted, and burned out.

This episode explores why feminine desire is meant to be held, not fulfilled. Why wanting itself is the point. And how the space between desire and having is where your aliveness, magnetism, and capacity to receive actually lives.

You'll learn:

Most people think the death of desire in long-term relationships is inevitable. But what if that's just resignation dressed up as wisdom?

In this live episode, Andrew breaks down why Infinite Devotion isn't really about dominance and submission. It's about something much deeper: learning to integrate love and power so you can have both intimacy and intensity in the same relationship.

What You'll Learn:

Episode 119: Still Learning: How My Teachings Have Evolved Through Lived Experience

After seven years of living in a 24/7 DOM/sub dynamic and several years of teaching, Andrew shares how his understanding of the concepts he teaches has deepened and evolved. Growth means being willing to reconsider what you thought you knew, and in this episode, Andrew opens up about the nuances he's discovered through lived experience.

In this episode, Andrew explores:

Masculine Emotion: Why letting her see you in your emotional process builds intimacy, not polarity loss. The...

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SHOW NOTES:

Dr. Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is one of the most important books in men's development, but most men completely miss how Nice Guy patterns poison their ability to lead in a D/s dyna...

Most couples try to build a 24/7 D/s dynamic by devoting a few hours per week to scenes and protocols. Then they wonder why the dynamic keeps falling apart when "real life" takes over.

The problem? You're running two different operating systems. One for D/s time, and one for everything else. And thats why it feels like life is working against your D/s. Because you’re trying to live two completely different lives. 

In this episode, I break down:

Let me ask you directly: are you strong enough to be a dominant?

Not strong enough to tell her what to do. Strong enough to actually lead her.

Because real strength isn't about being unmoved by emotion. It's about being able to handle emotion without shutting down, without running away, without needing it to stop.

And if you can't do that, you're not strong enough. Not yet.

In this episode, I challenge the lie that dominance requires emotional armor. I break down why that version of...

You're bringing D/s into your relationship, and you have no idea where to start. Or maybe you've been trying to make this work and something just isn't clicking.

This episode covers the ten most important things I've learned in seven years of living a 24/7 D/s dynamic and five years of coaching thousands of people through this transition.

These aren't theories. This is what actually works when you're building dominance and submission into a real relationship with real responsibilities and real challenges.

The 10 Tips: 

Dawn is back to kick off 2026! In this Q&A episode, we answer your questions about building trust in D/s dynamics, navigating vanilla decisions as a submissive, becoming more sexually open, and what to do when your dominant loses his edge.

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Episode Summary

Episode 113: The Final Dom Sub Devotion (of 2025)

In this special year-end episode, Andrew and Dawn reflect on a transformative 2025. 

After 113 consecutive weeks of podcasting, Andrew announces a December break to recharge before returning in January, stronger than ever.

This isn't a typical recap episode. It's an honest look at what building a business from lived experience actually requires, the curriculum life puts you through before you're ready to teach, and what happens when you stop performing and start living.

Episode Summary

In this raw, unscripted episode, Andrew tackles the toughest questions from Instagram followers—covering everything from spirituality and authenticity to jealousy, commitment, and what real dominance actually looks like.

Topics Covered: 

Episode Summary

In this powerful episode, Andrew tackles the aspects of polarized relationships that most people don't expect—and aren't prepared for. While many are drawn to dominant-submissive dynamics for the intensity and passion they create, few understand that these relationships are designed for transformation, not comfort.

Andrew explores why truly polarized relationships feel threatening to the ego, how they amplify both light and shadow, and why the version of yourself you are now will resist everything these dynamics require. This isn't about making your partner conform to your desires—it's about your own evolution.

In this deeply personal episode, Andrew pulls back the curtain on the daily practices and intentional habits that create the foundation for his dominance. This isn't about what he does TO Dawn—it's about what he does WITH himself that makes their dynamic work.

Key Topics Covered: 

In this episode, Andrew speaks directly to one of the deepest sources of pain in the BDSM and power-exchange community: the instinct to hide.

He explores how secrecy masquerades as safety, how it keeps shame alive, and how the simple act of being seen becomes an act of leadership.

Drawing from five and a half years of living and teaching dominance and submission in real life and online, Andrew unpacks:

 • The childhood roots of hiding. How we learn early that approval is safer than authenticity—and how that same nervous-system conditioning later f...

Episode 108: Why Won't She Just Let Go?

Episode Summary

In this companion episode to "Why Won't He Just Lead?", Andrew explores the genuine challenges women face when trying to surrender and submit—even when they desperately want to. This isn't about a woman's willingness; it's about her nervous system's ability to feel safe enough to let go of the protective control patterns that have kept her safe.

Key Takeaways

Understanding Her Resistance as Feedback Her resistance isn't defiance or rejection—it's real-time feedback about where your own avoidance and unce...

This episode aims to help women have some compassion for the challenges that men face stepping forward in their lives and relationships. 

And, I show why his leadership is not missing because he’s lazy or because he doesn’t care…it’s missing because he’s conflicted and afraid. 

You’ll get: 

 • The mirrored fears behind his hesitation and her exhaustion

 • Why performance leadership falls flat and what embodied leadership feels like

 • How to invite direction without pressure and stay soft without collapsing

Core insight: His...

In this episode, Andrew shares ten ways he’s learned to create a sense of calm, safety, and freedom in his submissive. Not through control or tactics, but through who he is.

Early in his journey, Andrew thought being a Dom meant he could finally get what he wanted: peace, obedience, and ease. What he discovered instead was that no woman relaxes because she’s told to. She relaxes because the man she’s with is safe in himself.

This episode explores how to stop managing your partner’s emotions and start embo...

In this special livestream edition of Dom Sub Devotion, Andrew and Dawn go live with the audience for an “Ask Dawn Anything” session. For the first time in quite a while on the podcast, listeners get to hear Dawn answer your most personal questions about life inside their 24/7 D/s marriage, from sex and submission to everyday “normal” moments and how she’s grown into her sexuality.

This episode is part intimate conversation, part coaching, and part behind-the-scenes look at how their dynamic actually works in real life.

What We Cove...