Happy, Healthy & Healing

Most women don’t stay stuck because they don’t know something needs to change.

They stay stuck because changing direction brings up guilt, fear, shame and the question so many women are quietly carrying.. “What will people think?”

In this episode, Stacey Allison explores the power in the pivot and why changing direction isn’t always failure. 

Sometimes it’s growth. Sometimes it’s honesty. Sometimes it’s the moment you stop trying to force a life, career, business, relationship or identity that no longer fits the woman you’re becoming.

She talks about t...

After every retreat, I like to sit down and reflect on what actually happened in the room.

Because no two retreats are ever the same.

Different women.
Different ages.
Different stories.

And yet there are always a few themes that keep showing up.

This retreat had women ranging from their 30s through to their 70s, many of whom had never done anything like this before.

What surprised them most wasn't some big breakthrough moment.

It was how simple it was.

Within 24 hours, many...

This is my 100th episode… and when I sat down to record it, I didn’t want to just celebrate it.

I wanted to say something that actually matters.

Because after 100 conversations about mindset, patterns, confidence and emotional intelligence, there are certain things I see over and over again in women.

Not the ones who are falling apart.

The ones who look like they’ve got it together.

The ones who are capable, self-aware, doing all the right things… but still feel stuck in their own head.

Still ov...

You’ve done a lot of inner work… so why does it still feel like this?

Same overthinking.
Same reactions.
Same situations playing out in slightly different ways.

At some point, you start to wonder, is it me… or is this just how life is?

Here’s what most people don’t realise:

You’re not stuck. You’re running a loop.

And until you see it while it’s happening… you’ll keep ending up in the same place, no matter how much you “understand” yourself.

In this episode, I...

After my latest retreat, I sat down and wrote out what actually came up for the women in the room…

Different ages.
Different lives.
Different stories.

But the same themes kept showing up.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the 3 most common threads I see at every retreat — the patterns that sit underneath the overthinking, the exhaustion of holding it all, and that feeling of “I don’t quite feel like myself anymore.”

We talk about:

I’m not anti-school… but something about it didn’t sit right with me.

In this episode, I share why I’ve chosen to homeschool my kids (for now) and why this conversation goes far beyond school vs homeschool.

Because this isn’t just about education.

It’s about what kids are actually being taught… and what’s being missed.

I started noticing how early kids begin to:
- look for the “right” answer
- second guess themselves
- feel pressure to get things right

And it made me que...

Most women think something is wrong with them when they start questioning their life.

On paper, everything looks fine.
You’ve built the life you thought you wanted.
You’re doing all the “right” things.

And yet… something feels off.

You feel restless. Disconnected.
Like the version of you who created this life… isn’t the version of you anymore.

And that’s the part no one really talks about.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s actually happening when you feel like this, because it’s not a b...

Most women don’t realise how disconnected they’ve become… because on the outside, everything still looks like it’s working.

They’re getting things done. Holding it all together. Showing up for everyone else.

But internally?
They’re in their head. Overthinking. Running on pressure. And completely disconnected from their body and intuition.

In this episode, I sit down with past client and friend Erin Norris, who shares her journey from burnout, near-death experience, and emotional overwhelm… to learning how to actually slow down, reconnect, and trust herself and her gifts again.

W...

This episode is a little different from the normal.

I’ve just landed from a three-day immersion with Jessika Anne and honestly… my brain is still processing it.

It wasn’t a fluffy “feel good” personal development weekend.
It was confronting, eye-opening and at times uncomfortable in the best possible way.

And it reminded me of something I think a lot of women misunderstand about growth.

Most people think you do the work once…
you have the breakthrough…
and then everything in life magically changes.

But the truth is...

Many women believe they’re confident.

But if you look closely, that confidence is often built on something external -  achievement, approval, and external validation.

The promotion.
The praise.
The gold star.

And the moment those things disappear, so does the feeling of being “enough.”

In this episode, Stacey explores the subtle way many women unknowingly tie their self-worth to performance. 

You’ll hear why so many successful women feel restless when they slow down, why sitting still can feel uncomfortable, and how constantly achieving becomes a way of mai...

You don’t stay stuck because you’re scared of change.

You stay stuck because change asks you to let go of something that once kept you safe.

In this episode, I unpack a truth most women never consider:

Fear isn’t about the future.
It’s about loyalty to the past.

Loyalty to the identity that earned you approval.
Loyalty to the role that kept the peace.
Loyalty to the version of you that made everyone else comfortable.

Inside this conversation, we break down:

– Why...

You get up.
You show up.
You handle things.
You hold it together.

From the outside, your life looks stable.
Successful. Fine.

But inside?
It feels… flat.

Not dramatic.
Not chaotic.
Just a quiet sense that you’re moving through your life instead of actually being in it.

This episode isn’t for women whose lives are in crisis.

It’s for the capable, intelligent, self-aware woman who’s starting to realise she hasn’t felt truly alive in a long time.

Inside...

In this heartfelt and expansive conversation, Kobi Pollock is joined by her dear friend and fellow women’s mindset coach, Stacey Allison, to dive deep into the magic and meaning behind their Reset & Rise Retreats.

Together, they explore why Reset & Rise is so much more than a girls’ weekend away and why so many women feel the quiet (and sometimes loud) pull towards retreat when life starts to feel heavy, disconnected, or misaligned.

This episode speaks into:

If you’ve done the programs…
read the books…
followed the coaches…
and still find yourself ending up back in the same emotional patterns — this episode is for you.

In this conversation, I’m calling out one of the biggest lies in the personal development industry.. that doing “the work” once should’ve fixed you by now.

We talk about why personal development isn’t a quick fix — it’s a practice — and why so many women feel like they should be further ahead, even after years of self-work.

This isn’t a shame-based episod...

Everyone’s talking about “getting your pink back.”
Your spark.
Your energy.
The version of you that feels alive again.

But what if you didn’t lose anything at all?

In this episode, I break down why so many women feel flat, disconnected, or mentally overloaded — even when life looks good on paper.

This isn’t burnout.
It’s not a motivation issue.
And it’s not because something is wrong with you.

It’s what happens when you’ve spent years suppressing parts of yourself to cope, succeed, an...

Have you already caught yourself thinking…
 “I’m behind.”
 “I should have figured this out by now.”
 “Everyone else seems clearer than me.”

If so, this episode is for you.

Every January, so many women feel an invisible pressure to have their life mapped out perfectly — goals set, vision clear, momentum underway. 

And when that doesn’t happen instantly, the self-judgment creeps in.

In this episode, I’m unpacking why “New Year, New Me” culture actually pushes women further away from clarity, confidence, and momentum — and how the rush to start strong oft...

If you’ve ever reached the end of a year thinking,
 “I should be further ahead… I thought I’d feel different by now,”
this episode is going to hit home in the best possible way.

In this powerful end-of-year conversation, Stacey breaks down the 5 things every high-achieving woman must leave behind in 2025 if she wants to create real, lasting change in 2026 — not just another round of “new year, new me” pressure.

We’re talking about the patterns you keep private.
The thoughts you’re a little ashamed of.
The habits that look...

Christmas brings out the best in us… and also the parts of us we avoid all year.

If you're a  woman who holds it all together — the planner, the organiser, the emotional anchor — this season can feel less like “joy” and more like pressure, overwhelm, and perfectionism on steroids.

In this episode, Stacey breaks down:

If you’ve ever achieved something amazing…
 and then immediately thought,
 “I just got lucky.”
“Anyone could have done that.”
“Who am I to be here?”
This episode is going to hit home for you.

Because here’s the truth most women never hear:
You don’t have imposter syndrome.
You have years of conditioning, perfectionism, and nervous-system programming disguised as “self-doubt.”

In this powerful and slightly controversial episode, Stacey breaks down:
- Why high-achieving women experience imposter syndrome the MOST
 - The real psychology behind self-doub...

After an incredible weekend on the Sunshine Coast for my Reset & Rise Retreat, I wanted to bring you inside the experience — the breakthroughs, the softness, and the moments that reminded me why these spaces are so needed for women right now.

In this episode, I share what actually happens inside a women’s retreat, why it feels so safe and healing, and how stepping away from your everyday life can help you reconnect to who you truly are beneath the masks, the roles, and the expectations.

You’ll hear stories from the weekend, the science behind...

If you’ve ever caught yourself saying, “I know why I do it — but I can’t seem to stop,” this episode is going to hit home.

High-achieving women are masters at analysing, planning, and problem-solving — but when it comes to healing, the very strategy that’s made you successful is often the one that keeps you stuck.

In this short, potent episode, Stacey unpacks why you can’t logic your way out of emotional pain, how overthinking is actually a nervous-system protection strategy, and what it really means to drop from your head into your body.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for saying no…
If you’ve ever over explained, overextended, or overcommitted because it felt easier than disappointing someone…
This episode will hit you right in the heart.

The truth is — most women don’t struggle with boundaries because they’re weak or bad at communication.

They struggle because their nervous system equates saying no with losing love.
You were conditioned to believe that being “the good girl” kept you safe — but that’s exactly what’s keeping you burnt out, resentful, and disconnected from yourself.

In...

If you keep attracting the same types of people… if your relationships feel one-sided… or if you’re constantly the “strong one” who holds it all together — this episode will hit home.

Because it’s not bad luck.
It’s programming.

In this deep-dive episode, Stacey unpacks how your childhood conditioning and unhealed patterns are quietly shaping your relationships — in love, friendships, and even business.

You’ll learn how your nervous system wires safety through familiarity (not happiness), why you keep re-creating old dynamics, and how to finally start breaking those loops.

Inside, Stacey...

This episode is for the women who hold it all together.. even when they’re falling apart on the inside.

The mums. The business owners. The high-achievers who never stop thinking.

Stacey opens up about the shadow side of the mental load — the invisible expectations, the generational conditioning, and the stories that keep us carrying way more than we need to.

This episode will help you see that you were never meant to do it all and that putting the load down isn’t failure. It’s freedom.

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Everyone’s chasing “balance” but let’s be real, balance is a lie.

If you’ve ever caught yourself saying, “I just need more balance between work, business, kids, health, life…”  this episode is going to hit you hard (in the best way).

Here’s the truth: balance isn’t the goal. 

Balance is just a symptom of something deeper un-fulfillment, perfectionism, fear of judgment, or not trusting yourself. 

In this episode, I’m breaking down:

In this episode, I share a raw life update and a candid rant about the coaching industry. 

I open up about some of the red flags I’ve been noticing lately, the patterns that don’t sit right with me, and why I think it’s time for more honesty in this space. 

If you’ve ever felt skeptical about what’s going on behind the scenes in coaching, this one will get you thinking.

Want to connect? 

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Ever hit that wall where you’re exhausted, questioning everything, and wondering… “Am I burnt out, or am I just evolving into a new version of me?”

For a lot of women it’s easy to confuse burnout with breakthrough. 

Both feel uncomfortable. Both shake your identity. But one means you need rest, and the other means you’re being stretched into growth.

In this episode, I break down:

Whether you’re depleted...

So many women in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s are quietly thinking: “I feel lost. Something must be wrong with me. Maybe it’s my hormones, Mayve i have ADHD… maybe it’s just life at this stage.”

But here’s the truth: it’s not your hormones. And it’s not that you’re broken.

The real issue? You’ve been living in roles — the good girl, the overachiever, the one who holds it all together — and those roles have kept you in victim energy without you even realising it.

"This is just the way it is…"

If you’ve ever told yourself that — about your stress, your exhaustion, your disconnected relationship, or that nagging feeling of something missing — this episode is your wake-up call.

Because what if you’ve been sold a lie?
What if you don’t have to settle for a life that’s just “fine”?

In this powerful, no-fluff episode, I call out the silent epidemic of high-functioning women tolerating lives, identities, and habits that are good enough — but not aligned.

You’ll uncover:
 🔹 The invisible r...

You’re self-aware.
You’ve read the books, done the courses, journaled your heart out…
So why do the same patterns keep showing up?

In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on shadow work — not the fluffy, spiritual version — but the raw, grounded truth about what’s running your reactions, your relationships, and your results behind the scenes.

You’ll learn:

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not the woman you once were… but you’re not yet the woman you want to be — this episode is for you.

You’re in the messy middle — the deeply disorienting but sacred space where identity unravels, and something new begins to take shape.
It’s where ambition meets exhaustion.
Where old patterns no longer fit, and the future version of you still feels just out of reach.

In this episode, I walk with you through that space —
 👉 Why it happens (hello nervous system + condi...

This one’s for the women who are always “on.” 

The ones holding it all together — the business, the kids, the career, the chaos — while quietly wondering why they still feel anxious, exhausted, and never quite good enough.

In this episode, we go deep into the addiction to achievement, the nervous system patterns that make rest feel unsafe, and the early conditioning that taught you to measure your worth by how much you do.

If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you’re anything but — this is for you.

I’ll walk you through w...

What if the “wrong” decision… was actually the right one for your growth?
What if the thing you keep calling a failure… was just redirection?

In this episode, we’re flipping the entire idea of failure on its head.

I’m sharing one of my own sliding door moments,  a time where life didn’t go to plan, and it felt like everything was falling apart. 

Looking back? It was leading me exactly where I was meant to be.

We’ll explore:

You’re doing the courses. Reading the books. Saying the affirmations.
But deep down? You still feel like something’s missing.

In this episode, I’m peeling back the curtain on the parts of the personal development world that frustrate me — and what actually works if you want real change.

Plus, I’m reflecting on the wild journey of growth, motherhood, and our baby turning three.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why am I still stuck when I’ve done all the work?” — this episode is for you.

Ready to go deeper...

On paper, everything looks great.
 You’ve got the job, the house, the family, the milestones…
 So why do you feel so stuck? So numb? So off?

This episode will hit you right in the heart if you’ve ever thought:
 “I should be happier than this…”

We’re unpacking the hidden reasons high-achieving women feel unfulfilled even after "doing everything right"  and how to break free from the invisible cage of expectation and finally start living a life that feels like yours.

If you’re craving clarity, depth, and true alignment — thi...

In this raw and powerful episode, I’m opening up a conversation we need to have: what happens when women hurt women — and the invisible wounds we carry because of it.

Whether it’s betrayal, judgment, exclusion, or competition… so many of us have been burnt by female friendships. And without even realising it, we build walls. We stay guarded. We stop trusting. We tell ourselves, “I’m better off doing this alone.”

What if healing those wounds is the key to finally feeling safe, seen, and supported?

I’m also sharing a behind-the-scene...

I’ve taken this week off the mic to fully pour into the women attending my Reset & Rise Retreat AND I didn’t want to leave you empty-handed.

If confidence is something you struggle with—this one’s for you.

Pop this gentle hypnosis track in before bed. Let it guide your mind to a place of calm, self-belief, and inner power.

Come back to it anytime you need a reset.
And when you're done—tell me how it felt. I’d love to hear from you over on Instagram @the_stacey_allison_ or...

What happens when the noise stops?

In this episode, I’m sharing what really happened when we went completely off-grid — no reception, no scrolling, no distractions — and how turning the Starlink back on flipped a switch in my nervous system.

Suddenly, I was caught in the scroll again. Caught in comparison.
 And that little voice showed up:
 “You’re not doing enough.”
 “You’re falling behind.”
 “Look at how much better she’s doing…”

Sound familiar?

We’re diving deep into why so many women feel like they’re not enough — and how muc...

Just got back from a station stay in WA… and let me tell you—between the heat, the dust, and the flies, I had a few unexpected revelations about life, leadership, and confidence.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what those buzzing little distractions can teach you about:

If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking, holding back, or wondering why no matter what you achieve it still doesn’t feel like enough—this episode is for you.

We’re diving deep into how the way you were parented, even in a “good” home, shaped your beliefs, habits, and self-worth—and how that younger version of you is still running the show today.

This isn’t about blaming your parents.
 It’s about breaking patterns—so you can finally feel safe to be fully you.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn: