A Little Birdie Told You

sometimes you just have to give something a genuine chance. this episode is about taking the risk, showing up honestly, and knowing when genuine effort becomes overgiving. Because even if it doesn’t work out, you’ll never have to wonder what could’ve happened if you had tried. 

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This episode is a reminder to stop obsessing over what's next and take a moment to appreciate how far you've already come. Sometimes we're so focused on the next step that we forget we're already living in a place our past self once dreamed of. It's time to give yourself credit for the heartbreak you healed from, the battles nobody saw, the boundaries you learned to keep, and the ways you've grown. You don't have to have everything figured out to be proud of yourself. Look around. You made it here. 

It’s easy to find yourself overthinking everything, questioning why certain things happened, or even attempting to control the outcome. But the truth is, you can’t control everything in life. Sometimes you just have to let things be, trust the process, and remember that if it’s meant to be, it will be. 

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Maybe you’re wondering, “what if no one ever fully chooses me?” Wondering why you’re always the backup plan, the almost, the second choice, but never truly someone’s first choice. But maybe it was never about being someone else’s first choice, maybe it’s about finally choosing yourself. 

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Maybe you’re not overreacting. Maybe you're not being too dramatic or sensitive. Maybe if it hurts, it hurts. Because the truth is, everyone feels differently at a different intensity. In this episode, Kristen dives into how to trust your own feelings, allowing yourself to heal, and understanding that your feelings are valid. 

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We can’t control everything. We can’t control how certain situations, relationships, or circumstances end. And maybe we aren’t supposed to. Everything in life is temporary, and not everything is meant to stay. In this episode, Kristen dives into the topic of detachment, letting go, and learning how to see endings differently. The people we meet, the things we go through, and the moments we experience all have something to teach us, even when they don’t go the way we desired. Because maybe the goal isn’t to hold onto everything, but to experience it. 

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Maybe letting go isn’t about forgetting someone or completely erasing the memories. Maybe it’s accepting that some people are only meant to be a chapter, not the entire story. In this episode, Kristen shares the mindset behind letting someone go, finally recognizing when you’re forcing someone that’s not meant for you, and creating space for people and experiences that genuinely value you. Because sometimes letting go isn’t losing yourself, but finally allowing yourself to come back to yourself. 

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Sometimes saying nothing truly says everything. Because the truth is, not everything deserves your energy, and not everything deserves a response. In this episode, Kristen dives into the power of letting silence be your answer, choosing peace over proving a point, trusting people's actions over their words, and learning to simply take mental notes and move on.

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There comes a point when choosing yourself means deciding to walk away from people who have repeatedly shown you they don’t value you. Maybe you’re holding on because you believe they’ll change, choose you, or love you the way you deserve. But the truth is, you can’t force someone to become the person you need. In this episode, Kristen shares how to accept their actions, let go of someone who can’t see your worth, and prioritize yourself.

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This is an episode for the people who care more than maybe they let on. The ones who notice the little things no one else does, carry emotions long after everyone else has moved on, and quietly wonder if they’re too sensitive, too emotional, or simply too much. But the truth is, your emotional depth isn’t a weakness, it just needs boundaries. That said, this episode gives you the perspective of understanding how to protect your heart without hardening it, knowing you’ll never be “too much” for the right people. 

If you've been replaying old memories, overthinking every little detail, and convincing yourself that maybe one more conversation would finally let you move on, this episode is for you. I share what it means to be left without an apology, without a final goodbye, and without the closure you thought you needed. But maybe real closure isn't something someone else gives you, maybe it's finally accepting their behavior was the explanation. Maybe it's realizing their silence was the answer. Because maybe the closure you've been searching for has been right in front of you all along. 

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If someone had the privilege of having you in their life and still chose to hurt you, disrespect you, or take you for granted, do they really deserve a second chance? In this episode, I explain why I don't believe everyone deserves one. We explore the difference between a genuine mistake and a repeated pattern of behavior, how broken trust changes a relationship, and why you should never settle for being someone's backup plan. Because the truth is, not everyone deserves access to you twice. 

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this episode serves as a reminder to stop convincing people to choose you. Instead, let them lose you. Because the truth is, if someone has to be convinced to stay, they’ve already shown you their choice. Whether it’s understanding your worth, letting people experience your absence, choosing yourself, or learning to let go, I cover why you should finally just leave them alone and let them miss out on you. 

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Don’t wait for them. Don’t. I know it’s difficult to hear, but you’re waiting for someone who clearly isn’t choosing you. I get it, it may have felt deep, different, like a connection you never felt before. But the truth is simple, if they wanted to be here, they would. In this episode, I talk about how to sit with the reality, being honest with yourself, asking yourself why you would wait for someone who could let you go so easily? Because at some point, you have to realize they are making a conscious decision t...

Missing them doesn’t mean you’re not healing. In fact, missing someone is a normal part of the healing process when you genuinely cared about them. But those feelings don’t mean you’re going backwards. They simply mean that something mattered to you in that moment. In this episode, Kristen talks about understanding the difference between missing someone, grieving potential, feeling emotions without allowing them to consume you, and learning to miss someone without letting their absence consume you from moving forward. Because the truth is, healing is learning to carry emotions without letting them carry you. 

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Many of us have heard of the red string theory, meaning the people we’re meant to meet are tied to us, and no matter the distance or detours, we find our way to one another. Is this true? Are we meant to meet certain people in our lifetimes? Whether it’s platonic or romantic relationships, the intense, quick-ending relationships, or the long-lasting connections, Kristen expresses her perspective on how the people you meet are important for your growth as a person, and deciding if the people you meet are for a reason. 

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Never regret the amount of love you gave to others. Maybe you’re reflecting on a connection, regretting the amount of times you put effort into them, showed up when you probably shouldn’t have, and gave love to someone who didn’t deserve it. But the thing is, you truly felt something in that moment, you cared, you were genuine. And maybe that’s the closure, that you genuinely cared. In this episode, Kristen comforts you with the peace in knowing that the love you give defines you, not them. The way others handled your heart says more about th...

Sometimes the pain of constantly chasing, waiting, and seeking love triggers a protective mechanism that leads an anxious attachment into an avoidant state. Whether it’s always being the one waiting for that reply, making excuses, giving until there’s nothing left, maybe the anxious finally gave up and became protective of their heart. Because at one point, the person who craved closeness is now afraid of it. In this episode, Kristen expresses the shift that sometimes occurs in an anxious attachment into the avoidant, learning to heal, and navigating relationships in a healthy way. 

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There’s a theory that claims when you’ve learned the lesson a connection was meant to teach you, you and that person will never cross paths again. No matter the distance, shared friends, or mutual places, you never bump into them again. Well, in this episode, Kristen shares the truth about this theory. Discussing her perspective, explaining the overall meaning, the purpose of never seeing this person again, and how you can be tested by encountering this person before entering a new chapter. 

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Sometimes our emotions can make us impulsively make decisions, but the truth is, emotions are temporary, they are constantly changing. The thing is, self-respect is different. Self-respect sets the standard for what type of treatment you accept. In this episode, Kristen discusses the commitment of choosing yourself, refusing to settle, developing a sense of self-respect, recognizing the importance of your boundaries, and learning to allow your self-respect to be louder than your emotions. 

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Many of us are afraid to let go of someone, so we cling to them, attempting to convince them why they should stay, leaving behind our standards and settling for treatment we don’t deserve. But, we don’t realize while we’re so focused on fixing the relationship, we’re slowly losing ourselves in the process. In this episode, Kristen emphasizes the importance of maintaining a relationship with yourself, refusing to betray your standards or abandon who you are, whether it's understanding the red flags, learning to let go, becoming grounded within yourself, or being aligned with your worth. I...

Maybe you’re finding yourself thinking about that specific person, reminiscing on old memories, pondering on what could’ve been, or checking their social media. But, for every moment you think about them, is every moment you give them energy they may not deserve. In this episode, Kristen discusses how to actually prevent yourself from repeating the loop of constantly thinking about someone, especially those who didn’t value your presence when they had access to it. Whether it’s learning to redirect your energy back to yourself, breaking the pattern, or shifting your mindset, this episode teaches you how to f...

Perhaps you’ve entered your single season, whether you’re fresh out of heartbreak, struggling with loneliness, or attempting to become content with this period of romantic solitude, the key question remains: What do you do now that you’re single? In this episode, Kristen dives into the gift of being single, highlighting the importance of taking advantage of your singleness, as this is the time to find who you truly are, grow a relationship with yourself, and understand what you truly desire in yourself and partners. 

You've most likely heard the familiar phrases of the art of detachment, letting go, and allowing yourself to release all tendencies to attach to outcomes. But, where does detachment begin? How can you actually become detached? Well, in this episode, Kristen guides you through the internal steps to build detachment within yourself to become unbothered and controlled when it comes to your emotions. Whether it’s learning to view situations as a simple experience, understanding what you can control, gaining a sense of independence, or figuring out what’s aligned with your path through detachment, this episode guides you to m...

This episode is the reality check you've needed. In this episode, Kristen gives you the hard truth: nobody is coming to save you. Many of us, whether you choose to admit it or not, are waiting for a perfect moment, person, or circumstance before we move forward or allow ourselves to be content. We wait, we hope, but it's time to become, to become the version of yourself that chooses yourself, gives yourself the love you desire, and understands that you can finally save yourself. Because the truth is, nobody is coming to save you, it's time to save...

Many of us see the potential in the patterns of reality when it comes to a person. We create this idealized version of them in our minds, hoping that maybe if we stay a little longer, give a little more, or explain with more detail, that maybe they will change. Yet, the truth is, you cannot force change on someone who is unwilling to grow. In this episode, Kristen and Kelli discuss why it’s important to focus on the reality over the potential of a person, as their potential isn’t a promise. Whether it's learning how to let...

An avoidant usually always makes a return, but should you let them? You may be asking yourself, why are they coming back? Why would the person who couldn’t commit come back? Is it curiosity, closure, or control? Well, in this episode, Kristen discusses what to do when the very person who left you decides to return, how to avoid repeating the cycle, the psychology behind the pattern, energetically detaching from the dynamic, and why rejecting an avoidant may be the best case scenario.

Mistakes are a necessary part of growth. Many of us believe mistakes are proof of failure, as if we’re falling behind. but the truth is, every mistake carries information that allows you to become equipped with knowledge to stop repeating the pattern. Every failed relationship, every wrong door opened, every setback, every disappointment, allows you to learn what you will refuse to tolerate ever again. Making mistakes gives you access to refine the person you’re becoming, to choose differently, to keep moving forward with clarity.

It seems we often attract the same type of partnerships. It almost seems as if it’s the same person in a different body, resulting in the same ending, betrayal, pain, and heartache. Realistically, are we attracting the same type of dynamics, or are we accepting? In this episode, Kristen discusses how to recognize the relationships you’re accepting. We learn how to break the pattern, decipher between safety and chaos in a relationship, set standards, and implement boundaries to prevent the cycle from repeating. Overall, you’re not attracting the same dynamics, you’re accepting them. 

Learn to love your own company, not solely in a romanticizing sense, but actually loving the process of being alone. When you spend time with yourself, you uncover who you are without the outside noise, without external projections, you sit with your own emotions and triggers, revealing your true identity. In this episode, Kristen discusses how establishing your relationship with yourself not only sets the standards for everything that follows but also aligns with who you desire to become and understanding who you are at the core. 

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When a door shuts, we initially ask ourselves, “What went wrong?”We question ourselves and wonder what could have been done differently to keep the door open. However, you should be grateful that the door closed. If that door hadn't closed, you may have settled for less than you deserve and tolerated behavior that doesn’t align with who you’re meant to become. What seemed like punishment was actually protection in disguise. It didn't close to punish you, it closed to prevent you from staying in a space that didn't understand your value.  

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Sometimes those who disrespected, betrayed, or hurt us finally decide to resurface after a duration of time and provide us with an apology for their actions. But the real question is, is their apology sincere? In this episode, we dissect the psychology behind apologies, revealing the three key reasons people feel the need to apologize, whether it’s due to guilt, ego conflict, or an attempt to see if they still have access to your energy. Why do they feel the need to apologize now? Does their apology deserve access to your energy? Well, in this episode, we give yo...

When we are attempting to find our true identity, we first have to unlearn who we were taught to become. Many people in our environments will project limitations onto us, creating the need to feel validated and achieve certain expectations ingrained in our minds. But what’s life if you’re not truly living for yourself? In this episode, Kristen discusses why it’s crucial to unlearn the patterns and projections you were taught. Whether it’s recognizing these habits, choosing yourself, embracing authenticity, giving yourself permission, and practicing boundaries, let’s learn how to unlearn who we were taught to...

Letting go of someone, something, or a situation can be a difficult process. Truthfully, letting go happens in layers. In this episode, Kristen and Kelli express why you should let go, breaking the cycle of attachment and choosing detachment, refusing to repeat patterns, understanding your emotions through the process of letting go, finding closure internally,  and why clinging onto what’s not meant for you is preventing you from creating space for what is.

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In this episode, we dive into the dating realm, giving you our honest truths when it comes to pursuing romantic relationships. Whether it's learning to choose yourself, deciphering between love and loneliness, consistency over intensity, pursuing love through discernment over desperation, establishing a relationship with yourself, understanding the value you carry into relationships, refusing to see potential over reality, listening to your intuition, setting standards, finding the love you deserve, or no longer waiting to be chosen, we discuss it all. 

Choosing to trust your intuitive nudge can be crucial in navigating your life. Whether it’s distancing yourself from certain situations, a calling to pursue something, understanding the distinction between intuition and anxiety, navigating what’s meant for you, shifting from the perspective of what you desire to see to reality, and clarity versus confusion in this episode, we cover why you should heavily develop confidence in your intuition. 

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When something is abruptly removed from our lives, we tend to feel the void of abandonment. However, we refuse to recognize the abundance that has the potential to enter our lives. When something is removed from your life, this creates space for something of additional value. In this episode, Kristen and Kelli discuss the experience of sudden loss, the importance of alignment over attachment, valuing yourself enough to choose growth over familiarity, and how to trust that removal creates space for alignment replacement.

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To become the best version of yourself, to reach the destination you desire, and to accomplish your goals, you have to begin moving with intention. In this episode, Kristen discusses the importance of living an intentional life to carry out the path of your vision. Whether it’s gaining the clarity to protect your energy, recognizing misalignment, maintaining promises to yourself, freeing yourself from mental and societal restrictions, or elevating your standards, start moving with purpose and intention. 

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Value yourself to the extent you remove yourself from situations where you aren’t valued. In this episode, Kristen and Kelli explain the importance of distancing yourself from situations that undervalued you. Whether it's the topic of remaining in situations that diminish your growth, limit your understanding of your own worth, becoming self-aware, learning not to tolerate someone being uncertain about you, or loving yourself to your full capacity, you need to stop remaining in spaces that don’t see you value. 

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Have you ever found yourself dimming your authenticity, because you feel you're “too much,” your standards are “too high,” or perhaps even you’ve been told “you’re not thinking realistically?” Well, in this episode, Kristen covers why you’re not “too much”, and why you should refrain from dimming your natural ability to shine, as other people fear your potential. Whether it’s learning to embrace your true authenticity, understanding the power of alignment over familiarity, or the importance of unapologetically expressing your confidence and light, this episode encourages you to stop dimming your full potential to shine, just to make others feel...