Not As We Planned

We discuss whether it’s a good idea to date multiple men at once, swapping stories with the other woman, planning another baby with your ex and how to meet the love of your life and a lovely email to give is all hope!

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Carly gives us a big life update, we have a little scroll on ‘are we dating the same guy’, realising you’ve outgrown your partner and don’t know if you should end it, and should you give your cheating partner one more chance?

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Welcome to a brand-new era of Not As We Planned - and our very first episode in the NEW studio! 💖 It’s a total pinch-me moment, and we’re so excited to share it with you. Same raw honesty and bestie vibes, but with a fresh new space and energy.

In this opener, we dive deep into the realities of love, heartbreak, and fresh starts. You’ll hear the jaw-dropping story of a woman who stayed in a toxic relationship for 30 years before finally breaking free, an empowering reminder that it’s never too late to put yoursel...

We discuss the difficulties of splitting your time with the kids over the holidays, someone who needs some serious tough love from us, a clear comparison with how your life could look when leaving or staying and the man who was sleeping with 9 women!!!

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We have an honest conversation about the financial pressures of being a single mum, when you catfish your partner by pretending to be the other woman, and a hard story of emotional abuse whilst managing to break the trauma bond

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Mr British airways by who took so many women for a ride, when the man you’ve been dating lied about EVERYTHING… even his name! And when you compare notes with the other woman to find that he shat on both your beds!!

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You guys share your most embarrassing date scenarios, when your partner informs you that he wants to watch you sleep with other men, when his memory of you is taken away and a thanks for the podcast making you not feel alone through your divorce.

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We hear from an absolute queen showing just how to handle being cheated on, when you think you’re over your husband but don’t want to leave because of the kids and an unexpected turn of events when we get told off by a listener….

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When you hear from the other woman who tells you all about the affair, a man who needs our help, and yet another affair with you guessed it… ANOTHER ONE

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When your boyfriend has an issue with your baby daddy, an update from a man whose wife cheated, the massive orange dildo, and proof that no consequences means no changes

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When a short situationship does a lot of damage, your partner tells you it’s you or the dog, and when your ex has moved on but you weren’t ready for this change

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We share the hilarious comparisons of brands that remind you of your ex, if it’s too early to date an old flame straight after a separation, and watching your partner VANISH out of nowhere!!!

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We hear from a woman who’s tried everything to make her marriage work, a man who’s wife cheated on him with her best female friend and an update from the woman who was comparing herself to the girl her partner cheated on her with.

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It’s time for an overdue dating episode and you’ve delivered the goods!!

The 15 minute date with a drunk, when your situationship prioritises spiders over you, having sex in his single bed and we share some weird prompts on the dating apps

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We share a story from a girl who tash met, when you realise you are with a serial cheater and the confessions of a micro penis

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We speak about being married to an addict and how that can impact your life, when blaming the other woman won’t make your problems go away and realising he’s not going to change!!

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We both share our realisations from our previous relationships, we give some rare advice and suggest a reconciliation, and the dangers of comparing yourself to the other woman

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We discuss how Staying for the kids and for financial stability doesn’t need to be a thing, finally getting that lightbulb moment and filling for divorce, and how a cheeky bit of milk can go a long way!

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Finally getting confirmation that your cheating suspicions were correct, being the new partner and having to deal with an uncomfortable coparenting relationship, and being torn whether to leave my partner although there’s been no pinnacle event!

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We discuss how it’s sometimes better raising a child on your own than allowing a toxic parent to be a part of their life, realising you’re not yet ready to date yet and never settling for someone who isn’t willing to put in the work!

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We talk about how you shouldn’t blame yourself for him cheating, finding out he had a whole other family, we see the definition of bread crumbing and for the first time we feel uncomfortable to give advice…..

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We discuss the danger of staying in a relationship just because there’s no infidelity, when you catch your husband cheating on you, and wanting some reassurance from us about making that decision to leave!

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We talk about the difference between mums and dads and how men get praised for doing the bare minimum, getting told your marriage is over with a letter left in the kitchen and we give advice about that first break up after divorce

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We discuss the clues of trying to spot a swinger, finding out your friend was having an affair with your husband and realising it’s time to call it a day with your cheating partner!

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We both deeply reflect on our previous relationships after divorce and how we came to accept they weren’t right for us, and we also discuss why it’s important to know as single mums what we offer to the table, knowing our kids are not bagge but a privilege!

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Finding out your husband is having a fling with his accountant! Having to come clean to your ex about your secret new partner and learning to finally DO THE WORK!

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Carly opens up about her break up, we explain how to move forward and let go of feeling attached to your ex, and managing someone with an addiction.

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Carly shares an emotional update, we hear from the woman who cheated, we get a lovely update from a listener and the dreading question of are we dating the same guy?

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Would you go back to a relationship where there’s no trust? Learning to set boundaries when coparenting, how to help your children handle big emotions about your divorce and finding pills for herpes.

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We talk about managing your kids emotions and feelings after a break up, having to watch an affair unfold in front of your eyes and catching your partner on ONLY FANS!

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Trigger Warning: Rape

When a man gets caught with 6 girlfriends, hitting rock bottom after finding out about your husbands infidelity and trying to work out if you’re the toxic one!

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We dive into the daily mundane life with young kids and how that can impact your relationship with your partner negatively, but how it can be improved. When you take him back time and time again, and you want our advice if he deserves one more chance?? And finding out your partner cheated on you with your midwife!

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Tash shares a big update in her relationship, we are hit with a dilemma when you find out your partner cheated on you 2 years ago at the beginning of your relationship, a thank you from a grateful follower for repairing her marriage and realising you chose the wrong man to have a baby with!

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Happy new year you to all our amazing listeners! We kick off our first episode of 2025 seeing cracks beginning to show in a new relationship and if someone can really put on a front for a year? Going through a breakup after divorce and wondering how to trust again and it’s time to write down that one goal for 2025!!

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Our last episode of 2024, we discuss our 2025 goals, we get a final update from the fuck buddy situationship, knowing you should run a mile but can’t seem to stop and finding out your husband is gay.

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When you find a new partner but you’re missing the bad boy, a segment of women in male fields, struggling to let go of your abusive ex and we finish with a gorgeous happy ending after a narcissistic relationship.

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When your partner just ups and leaves for no reason, talking about how divorce doesn’t fuck up the kids, when he leaves you for his ex and hearing from a man who wants our advice on coparenting

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Tash makes an announcement about her relationship, Carly has an emotional birthday, we share some epic hacks you’re going to want to know and a fiancé gets up to no good on his stag!

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An email that has us disagreeing with the outcome, having someone leave you and blaming it on your weight, how to find hope on dating apps and a confession about a proposal!!! 

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We get a response from the woman who got cheated on by the man who wrote in to us a few weeks ago!!! We get such a warm felt update from an OG, we hear about a swinging holiday and someone’s feedback on taking our advice.

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